When it comes to lasting longer in bed, many men prefer to rely on the proverbial “quick fixes” that the male enhancement market has to offer. Pills, creams and desensitizing sprays may give you those extra minutes during sex, but the problem does NOT lie with your penis.

It Is Your Brain That Controls How Long You Last, Not Your Genitals!

Think about this analogy for a moment.

When you learn to park a car, your arm muscles provide the energy to turn the steering wheel. But it is your brain that TELLS your hands where and how to turn!

By the same measure, your mind controls the outcome of the kind of sex you are going to have. This is fundamental, but most men never quite get it.

The simple truth is this…

If you think you are going to climax early, you will achieve that exact outcome. If you think those pills, creams and sprays are going to help you last longer, you will never be able to wean yourself off them. Instead you will need to continually rely on those costly products whenever you want to make love to your woman.

Most cases of premature ejaculation arise from a lack of understanding of one’s bodily reactions to sexual stimulation. As a result, most men do not know how to control their ejaculatory reflexes until it is too late. Just like how you can improve various aspects of your body through training and conditioning, beating early ejaculation is a “learned trait.” It is a skill that some men hone and perfect after consistent PRACTICE. But sadly, most men never get down to it, thinking there is nothing they can do about it.

Training For Endurance

Certain targeted techniques such as synchronized breathing, mental manipulation, and ejaculatory muscle exercises are great ways to improve your stamina in the sack (and some of these can be performed with your partner).

While some sexual therapists charge exorbitant fees to teach you these methods, you can easily learn them on your own from home.

These methods basically condition both your mind and body to improve your ability to withstand intense stimulation without blowing early.

Sexual Confidence Is The KEY To Lasting Longer And Triggering Female Orgasms

Even if you feel that your stamina is lacking, tell her confidently that you will gain better control over your stamina and completely master it. Most women love guys who have the courage to face up to their own sexual inadequacies, and do something about it.

Learn to master her body completely. Know which of the hot buttons on her body are sensitive to your touch and give them your due attention (hint: the back of her neck, her tummy, lower back and inner thighs are great places to start). Make sure you fully satisfy her and give her plenty of orgasms – orally and with your fingers.

Be honest and open with her about your problem. Let her know you are a REAL man who is NOT anxious about your sexual performance… because you know how to please her, even without using your most prized manhood!

Continue to improve your sexual skills and techniques, all with the aim to give her sensational orgasms each time you make out with her.

Remember… competence breeds confidence!

This will eventually bestow on you the confidence you need to permanently and naturally last longer every time. And the kind of orgasms she will get from the prolonged ecstasy will be nothing short of earth-shaking!

They say it takes the average girl around ten to twenty minutes to climax. To guys who can ejaculate in as little as two minutes, this is way too long. Whoever invented the romantic idea of getting off together during sex must have been out of his mind. I’m not saying it can’t happen, but with an average, healthy male, this is easier said than done.

Is there a way to climax only when the girl is ready to get off? The inability to control orgasm is a huge dilemma for most guys. If girls can’t hurry up with reaching climax, then the guys should hold out.

Unfortunately for most guys, premature ejaculation is one of the main reasons why some girls think that sex is overrated. Every girl knows that if a guy can’t hold it in until she’s ready, the girl will have to wait for the guy to recover from his first climax before she gets her pleasure.

Is there a way to solve this problem with premature ejaculation without using the “magic pills” that claim to do the trick?

Wear A Condom

A man’s sex organ is ultra-sensitive; and it becomes even more sensitive when the man is mentally and physically aroused. Using a condom during sex is more than just for staying safe; it will also help you last longer.

Beware of the many types of condoms in the market, though. There are condoms that kill sensation (and your libido) more, and there are those that are too thin to make any difference. Chances are you already have a favorite brand that does the job of not breaking; but remember, if one layer of condom still can’t help you control your orgasm, wear two layers.

Masturbation

Masturbating regularly will allow a certain level of control when it’s time for the real deal. You already know about the cliches of thinking about baseball, or counting backwards, to control your orgasm, but doing these things won’t work if you’re filled to the brim and ready to explode at any time.

Don’t worry about feeling like you’re in high school again. No one’s going to know that you still do it. In fact, most of your grown-up buddies will definitely agree that this is a great way to become a better lover.

Keep A Cool Head

Climax control is related to a person’s mindset. If you’re over-excited about making love that night, there’s a chance that you won’t last longer than a few seconds. Let go of the anxiety of being with a new girl or being too eager to have sex. Also, be familiar with the way your body reacts to stimulus. This means you have to change sex positions, or slow down a bit, when you feel that you’re going to blow.

It helps if you don’t drink alcohol before you make love. Scrap the misconception about alcohol being an aphrodisiac. It only contributes to your lack of control as far as reaching orgasm is concerned.

Premature ejaculation: it’s every guy’s fear to ejaculate prematurely, especially before the fun even starts! Unfortunately, it happens more often than we’d like to think about and most of the time, it’s not handled well. Society breeds men to think that premature ejaculation is embarassing and shameful but nobody bothers to tell anyone else what to do about it or how to fix it. Here’s what you can do when premature ejaculation happens to you.

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The First Time

When you’re with a new woman and things are heating up, you may orgasm too soon, especially if you haven’t had any sexual stimulation for awhile. If this happens to you, be honest with your partner. Don’t freak out, don’t panic and definitely don’t be embarrassed. You can actually turn this situation into a compliment for her. Let her know that she is so hot and she turns you on so much that you couldn’t help yourself. Although the situation may not have turned out the way either of you expected, if you handle the situation with class and confidence, she will be flattered that you are so turned on by her.

The Second Time…And Third Time…And So On

What do you do if you ejaculate prematurely a lot when you have sex or worse, every time you have sex? Is there anything you can do to help improve your stamina or to stop premature ejaculation before it happens?

• See your doctor. Don’t be afraid to talk to your doctor about premature ejaculation – you’re not the first person to ejaculate prematurely and you certainly won’t be the last. Your doctor can rule out any medical or physical problems that would cause frequent premature ejaculation.
• Eat nutritious food and exercise. If you’re fueling your body with empty carbs or greasy food and living a sedentary lifestyle, your body isn’t going to respond to things the way you want it to. Treat your body well and your body will treat you well.
• Masturbate. Practice lasting longer with yourself. You don’t have to worry about embarassement or rejection when you masturbate. You can practice improving your sexual stamina and find out which things make you ejaculate quickly and which things can make you hold out longer.
• Wear a condom. Condoms are safe and a great way to protect yourself, but they can also decrease sensitivity enough that you can last longer in bed. It won’t take away all sensation, but you will find that you have to go a little longer to achieve an orgasm. This may not be a bad thing if you find yourself ejaculating prematurely often.
• Try less stimulating sex positions. If you find a position that really turns you on and makes you orgasm quickly, avoid that position. Try new ones to help yourself last longer.
• Slow down. Sex doesn’t have to be fast. In fact, slower sex can be more pleasurable for both partners. If you find yourself going too fast, slow it down a little to avoid a premature orgasm.
• Try Tantra. Tantra teaches you how to control your body and how to control your pleasure during sex.
• Practice with your partner. When you have open and honest communication with your partner, you can work on improving your stamina together.

Believe it or not, a lot of men have problems with sexual stamina – most of them just don’t last long enough in bed before a girl can get warmed up enough to start to have an orgasm. This can lead to very unsatisfied women! What can you do to improve your sexual stamina so you can spend the kind of time in bed you want – pleasuring your partner and enjoying yourself at the same time?

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Rushing Into Penetration

Penetration feels so great to guys that that’s what they’re angling for every time – and often, they rush into it! They’re so ready to get their groove on that they often forget that for a woman to have an orgasm, she needs to be warmed up properly. Most of the time, rushing into vaginal penetration is a huge turn off to women. They often don’t have enough lubrication down there if they’re not turned on, and this can even make for uncomfortable or painful sex. If a guy wants to try to last longer in bed, one popular method to try is using your brain to think of something else – for example, dead puppies or your grandmother naked. This is not the way to go guys! You know that joke about how a man only has enough blood to run either his brain or his penis, but not both at the same time? There’s some truth to that – if you’re thinking about your grandmother naked to try to get yourself to last longer in bed, you’re going to become turned off enough that your penis grows soft. Even if it doesn’t, your partner WILL notice that you’re not paying attention to her and she’ll get even more turned off. So what do you do?

Control Your Breathing

A man’s natural instinct is to start breathing hard and panting when he becomes turned on and engages in sexual activity. To help yourself to last longer, try breathing in and out normally, focusing on taking deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth. Kind of like when you exercise – there’s a reason they have you breathe that way, you know. To help you last through your workout! You can apply the same concept to sex and help yourself to last longer before you have an orgasm.

Focus On Relaxation

Some men don’t give credit to mental relaxation or meditation, but it can help delay your climax during sex. When you’re penetrating your partner, focus on how it feels instead of focusing on the end result. Center yourself, and be aware of everything around you. Focus on control of the situation and the acceptance of what you’re feeling, but don’t get too deeply involved in any thought you’re having or you’ll end up in situation #1.

Relaxing Your Muscles

Our natural instincts are to tense up our muscles when we’re close to having an orgasm – it’s one of the things that actually helps us to have an orgasm. However, if you’re trying to last longer in bed, tensing up your muscles can actually be counterproductive. If you want to really relax while having sex, try using a different position, such as your woman on top, so you can lay back and enjoy the sex, rather than thrust and be in control of it.