Erectile Dysfunction / Last Longer In Bed

Natural Penis Enlargement: How To Strengthen Your Erection And Gain Control Over Your Orgasm

As you no doubt already know, millions of men and women alike obsess over the subject of penis size.

You see jokes on TV referencing the issue, overhear people in the street discussing the topic, and read, on a daily basis, of the displeasure and embarrassment of men with small penises in the columns of dozens of magazines.

So it pretty much goes without saying that penis size is an internationally popular subject of debate.

Does Penis Size REALLY Matter?

So, what can us men do about what we have down south? And what do women really want from us and our members? Is it sheer size they want? Length? Girth? Both? Neither?

The whole thing’s a quagmire of uncertainty and guesswork at least, on the surface. You see, when you actually ask women (under the right circumstances!) what matters to them regarding their sexual partner’s penis size, you get some interesting and pretty encouraging answers.

Penis Size is NOT Most Important

First off, a large portion of women do love BIG penises, simply because of the pleasure that they can so often bring. The majority of women aren’t size queens, however, but DO universally look and hope for two definite attributes in the penis of their potential partners, neither of which relates to size.

The first can be classified as ‘power’ & ‘strength’, the second is lasting power. Power and strength in a penis is shown through it’s hardness when erect and the angle at which it points. A weak erection is quite soft and droopy, a powerful erection, full of strength, is the opposite: rock hard, meaty and robust, and it’s what women crave, and savor when they encounter it.

Lasting power, as you can probably guess, is quite simply an ability to use that rock hard erection for a long enough time period, without ejaculating too soon. So, how can a guy improve his penis strength and give it more weight and power and an improved angle of erection?

The answer lies in a simple exercise, performed every other day of the week for a couple of months. Its effectiveness is noticeable in just a couple of weeks, but its true capability can produce amazing results that last a lifetime.

Towel Hanging

Step 1: Massage yourself to a full erection.

Step 2: Place a LIGHT flannel or wash-cloth onto your penis near the base.

Step 3: ‘Tense’ your penis so it bobs gently, lifting the towel a little. Tensing and releasing once constitutes one repetition.

Step 4: Do up to 25 reps, but stop if you feel you can’t do that many. Do 25 reps every other day of the week for a few weeks.

The Results

Once you’ve been performing towel hanging for a while, you’ll notice 2 main results: First, your penis will be rock hard when you have an erection, veins will be more noticeable and it will look and feel weightier. Many men even report an added half inch in length and girth due to the increased blood flow to the penis.

Second, your ability to hold back from ejaculating while masturbating and having sex will be massively increased. The reason for this is because you’re exercising your PC muscle when you do towel hanging, which is central to the functioning of your penis and is also what triggers ejaculation prematurely when it’s unfit and un-toned.

Why Can’t You Last Long Enough In Bed?

By edwardwhite

If you can’t last as long during sex as you’d like, then you aren’t alone. As much as 75% of the male population has trouble with premature ejaculation, so it’s by no means rare.

What is rare, however, is seeing a guy solve his problem with rapid ejaculation using the right techniques and tactics. Perhaps this is because most men don’t know exactly what it takes to reverse their run of bad bedroom luck and turn their sex life around by increasing their sexual stamina.

What Causes Premature Ejaculation

The best place to start when solving your own case of ‘coming too quickly’ is identifying the real reasons you struggle to last long enough during sex. Read the following options.

1. You have a hard time controlling when you climax when you’re masturbating and when you have sex with your partner.

2. You only struggle to control when you ejaculate when you have sex. You have no problem doing it when you masturbate. When you have sex, you can’t last more than about 2 minutes before coming.

3. You have no problem with premature ejaculation when you masturbate, only when you have sex. When you have sex, you can usually last longer than 2 minutes, but less than 8 minutes.

No Climax Control?

If option one sounds the closest to your situation, then your premature ejaculation is probably being caused by an underlying case of hypersensitivity and sensational unawareness.

This means that your penis is extremely prone to become over-stimulated as soon as sex begins and that you have a hard time really noticing when you’re close to and about to pass the ‘point of no return’, which, once passed, means that you’re going to climax no matter what you do.

Struggling To Control Ejaculation

If you chose option two, then you probably have less hypersensitivity and more sensation unawareness. This means that your penis does become very stimulated when you have sex, which can make it hard to refrain from coming early, but that your main problem is that you aren’t fully aware of the different stages of arousal you go through before you come.

This means you need to train your body and your mind to recognize when you need to take action during sex to prevent yourself from coming too early.

Controlling Ejaculation During Masturbation But Not During Intercourse

If you chose option 3, then your case of premature ejaculation isn’t too severe, but it is nevertheless something you probably want to get rid of. You’d like to double or even triple the amount of time you’re able to have sex for.

To do this, you need to learn techniques that involve strengthening your PC muscle, heightening your arousal awareness and improving your sexual technique.

Whatever the cause of your personal problem with premature ejaculation is, it can almost always be improved or even fixed when you have the right knowledge and the correct attitude.

A Great Way To Last Longer In Bed – That 99% Of Men Have Never Even Tried!

By edwardwhite

Ever heard of arousal step-down techniques?

How about the PC muscle and Kegels?

If you’re like most guys, you probably haven’t. And as such, most men, unaware of the numerous ways they can boost their sexual skill and ‘lasting’ power, regularly produce mediocre performances in bed, leaving themselves disappointed and the women they’re with disillusioned and usually orgasmless. It’s a real shame.

In a poll, 93% of men asked, said they’d like to last longer in bed before ejaculating, but 100% of those men were unaware of how they could achieve such a seemingly impossible feat.

You Can Last Longer In Bed

The truth is, it’s not impossible (or even difficult) to maximize your sexual performance and attain complete control over how long you boogie for and generally get on down with the ladies.

So, let’s take a look at one sexual method that’ll allow you massive control over your arousal levels and always give you the choice of when to cum or when to continue.

During sex, most men begin to lose control of themselves (in terms of ejaculation!) at around the 2 or 3 minute mark which is usually midway through the first sexual position. And what a letdown ejaculating at this point would be! So, that’s usually the first point at which you’ll use this technique.

It involves two steps. The first takes place in your mind which is the root of many a male’s sexual performance troubles.

First, Don’t Panic!

1. When you first feel those telltale sensations in your penis (the heightened sensitivity and energy that let you know that if you carry on doing what you’re doing you’ll soon explode) don’t panic! Too many men are pushed over the edge, right to ejaculation, because they mentally begin to panic when they feel they’re close to orgasm.

Panic phrases rush through their heads, like: “Uh oh, I’m gonna blow!” and “Not again, this is going to be embarrassing.” Instead of letting these counter-productive thoughts fill your mind and quicken the onset of orgasm, instead calmly say in your head: “Okay, I’m close to ejaculating. Time to use an arousal step-down technique.” Then move onto step number two.

Next, Use The Arousal Step-Down Technique

2. The most sensitive part of your penis is the top of the shaft and especially the head. To decrease its stimulation (without stopping the ‘action’) slowly and deeply thrust into your partner, as far as you can go and she can pleasurably take.

Then, gently grind your hips, wiggling your pubic bone (the hard area above your penis, about 8 inches down from your belly button) on her vagina. To her, this seems and feels like a wonderful stroke variation, which gives her external clitoral stimulation (the number one way to make any woman orgasm).

However, behind the scenes, it’s momentarily decreasing your stimulation, enabling you to last longer. This happens because when you plunge deep into her, your penis enters a wider area of her vagina, which lessens its contact and stimulation.

Then, to cap it off, you grind and wiggle, instead of thrusting in and out, which further decreases the intense sensations of sex. After 30 seconds or so, your arousal levels will have dropped enough for you to restart your thrusting.

By using this technique, you’re able to control your urge to pop without stopping sex and while giving your partner extra sexual stimulation. Now how much better a technique is that for tackling premature ejaculation when compared to what most people consider to be effective techniques? Things like: “Count backward from 100” and “Think of dead puppies!”

Sex, as you well know, is all about fun. Using the 2-step technique above, you can fully enjoy the experience without the worry of it all being over too soon!

Did You Know That Tantra Can Help Sexual Dysfunction?

By carlatara

There is a certain embarrassment or even shame that is connected with sexual dysfunctions. No one would be ashamed to have, for example, a liver or heart dysfunction.

One would be sad but not embarrassed and one would immediately ask a professional for help.

Common Sexual Dysfunction

The most common sexual dysfunctions that men experience are: loss of desire, erectile dysfunctions, premature ejaculation and impotence. Some women experience: inhibited sexual desire, lack of orgasm, insufficient lubrification and painful intercourse.

According to the Journal of the American Medical Association, in 2005 more than 105 million Americans have reported struggling with chronic sexual dysfunctions and many of them were not aware that there is help available. Diabetes can be one of the causes of sexual dysfunctions.

Also some prescription medications for depression can have a negative effect on sexual desire.

What Causes Sexual Dysfunction

There are many causes: some of them are related to hormone production, to blocks to the flow of energy, to shallow anxious breathing and unhealthy diet, just to mention a few.

The hormonal production tends to diminish with age, and you could consult a good endocrinologist to check your hormonal production status. There is a lot of information available on the internet. It’s worth learning about it.

There are also products available that are natural, organic, that very safely stimulate the body to increase production of the body’s natural growth hormones.

You Are What You Eat

What you eat and drink is also important. There are certain simple recommendations you might want to observe most of the time: eat your biggest meal between 12 and 2 PM; eat fish vegetables often; keep your stomach light at night; drink lots of water during the day. Drinking a little alcohol can help lower inhibitions, while drinking too much can inhibit sexuality.

Breathing Matters

Breathing shallowly and high in the chest is probably the most important single cause of lack of energy and anxiety during lovemaking. Through the years, we became habituated to breathe shallow breaths, often filling only the higher part of our chest where the lungs are narrow and smaller.

The body brings the venous blood to the lungs to be purified and the largest veins are located on the bottom of the lungs. Venous blood contains carbon dioxide and other poisonous gases that need to be exchanged with oxygen and thus transformed into vital arterial blood that nourished and strengthens the body.

To be fully present and energetic lovers, we need to learn to breathe to facilitate this exchange as fully as possible. Tantra teaches different breaths for different purposes. Some of the most used techniques are to increase energy and to retain energy without going over the top.

Sometimes It’s Emotional

However, many of the sexual dysfunctions are due to emotional issues, entrenchment into set habits, undelivered communications and resentments that could build a cold wall between couples and unconscious issues coming to the surface.

A good Tantric Healer can help you look at those issues with increased energy and guide you to use this powerful Tantric tools to open up blocks and take care of unfinished issues that limit the joy of our lovemaking.

Lots of issues have been repressed and feeling rationalized instead of felt. When emotions are not expressed, blocks to the flow of energy form along the pathway where erotic energy would otherwise flow to the whole body.

When blocks are present your vitality is lower and sex becomes more a “squeeze and burst” event, at best a letting go of tension instead of an exchange to deepen your love for each other.

The Connection Between Emotions and Lovemaking

Some men have trained themselves with techniques to “making her come” the fastest way possible so that they can “come” thus missing the opportunity for emotional connection and really fulfilling lovemaking.

This way of having sex gives leaves you with a sense of immediate relief but robs you of the opportunity to use this powerful energy for deep heart connection and nurturing. Thus lovers are depriving themselves of deeper and longer pleasure that could enliven all the cells of the body.

Making love could be the greatest way to “make love” grow and to live a longer, happier life.

Deep breathing helps bring emotions to the surface. “E-motion” means energy in motion. When emotions are felt sexual energy can reach higher levels riding higher and wider waives sending into ecstatic lovemaking that is really fulfilling. Sex without emotions leaves people tired, empty and sometimes sad. We instinctively know there is more to it.

Deep breathing is also a key to avoiding anxiety about performance. When your whole body tingles with aliveness and when you hear our lover breathe equally deeply, perhaps even making a sound on each exhalation, you are less prone to thinking about performance and more about riding the waves of pleasure a little longer.

Tantra offers the view that we are spiritual beings having a physical experience and as such we have infinite potential for expressing love. By adding the spiritual dimension into the lovemaking it elevates it to ecstasy and adds opens doors for infinite creativity.

As spiritual beings we have infinite potential available and therefore boredom is no longer a danger.

Medications and Orgasm – Help! My Wife Thinks She’s the Reason I Can’t Orgasm

By loveandsex

It’s a fact of life – some medications inhibit orgasm. If you’re prescribed a medication that may do this, make sure you’re taking it for the right reasons and that you’re prepared to deal with the side effects.

Not being able to have an orgasm during sex because of a medication can be depressing, especially if there’s nothing you can do about it, but there are things you can do to lessen the blow.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I am on medication that doesn’t allow me to always have an orgasm. It does not interfere with my ability to maintain an erection. Sometimes way too long.

The fact I do not always have an orgasm upsets my wife. I have told her it is the medication and not her. She thinks that she is doing something wrong.

– Michael, Florida

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How do I explain to my partner why I can’t orgasm?

While it is certainly no fun for you, being on a medication that inhibits your ability to orgasm will affect your partner as well. It may be difficult to communicate to a partner that your lack of orgasm is not because of them – and it may be difficult for a partner to truly accept that even if you do let them know.

This can be the cause of many arguments when in reality, it’s nobody’s fault.

What can you do?

Make sure it’s really the medication.

Your doctor is the only person who can answer that question. It’s important that you see your doctor if you feel like something isn’t working properly. Let your doctor know all of your symptoms – for example, if you’re having an orgasm some of the time or not at all and if you’re experiencing other suspicious symptoms such as a prolonged erection or anything else you think might need to be brought to their attention.

Your doctor can tell you for sure if what you’re experiencing is normal and if it’s a side effect of the medication or not.

Be prepared to answer questions – your doctor will most likely need to ask quite a few to really pinpoint the cause of the lack of orgasms and other symptoms. If it really is your medication, talk to your doctor about how it’s affecting your day to day activities. It’s possible that your doctor can suggest an alternative medication or treatment.

Bring your partner with you to the doctor.

If you’re having a difficult time communicating to your partner that your lack of orgasm is due to the medication you’re taking, hearing it from a medical professional might help it sink in. Your partner can then begin to understand what you’re going through and offer their support.

You might be emotionally taken aback from not being able to have an orgasm and your partner’s love and support will make all the difference in the world.

Now what?

Depending on what your doctor says, you might end up staying on the medication and forgetting about the orgasms. It’s a hard situation to face, but it’s not the end of the world. Sex isn’t all about the orgasm. Relax and enjoy the ride. You don’t have to have an orgasm during each sexual experience for it to be pleasurable and fun!

You and your partner can take turns pleasing each other and explore new ways that you can enjoy each other sexually without orgasm. Just because you’re not having an orgasm because of medication you’re taking doesn’t mean it’s the end of the road for you sexually.

Take to heart that this might not be forever – discuss with your doctor how long you need to be on the medication (if there are no alternatives) and when you can expect to gain back your ability to orgasm once you stop taking it. You, your doctor and your partner should be able to work together to reach a compromise between a healthy sex life and your medication.