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Drive Him Wild With Just A Kiss – 4 Must Try Moves

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Kissing is of course a prelude to great sex, but sometimes a kiss can be all you need to drive your man wild. There are many different kissing techniques you can use, but sometimes techniques aren’t what really turn him on – it’s often the type of kiss that will send him to the moon. Here’s how to master four different types of kisses that you can use throughout the day to tease him and make him wonder what’s next after the day is over and the bedroom doors are closed!

The Greeting Kiss

You may not think that the quick “hello” kiss after you both arrive home from work is worth much, but you can definitely turn it into something that will make your man’s brain switch from regular mode to “I-Want-Sex-Now” mode almost instantaneously. When you first see your guy, before you say a single word to him, take a few seconds to look him up and down and bite or lick your lips playfully. When you have his interest piqued, plant a big kiss on him when he’s least expecting it. Make this kiss last at least several seconds, almost as though it were foreplay, and don’t be afraid to kiss him deeply with your lips and tongue. You are letting him know, “this is what I’ve been thinking about all day.” Pull back slowly and look him in the eyes meaningfully. Then say, “hello!”

The Full On Make Out

Remember when you and your guy were first together and hadn’t had sex yet? Remember when making out was so great because you weren’t sure whether it was just going to be kissing or maybe it would be something more this time? If your sex life has been suffering from the “Stuck On Home Base” syndrome and you’re just heading straight for sex with your guy because that’s what you always do, you can definitely use this kissing technique to your advantage. When you’re in the mood, set the stage by giving your guy a full on French kiss. Then keep kissing him, and then after that, kiss him some more. Make no move to go any further than just making out and if he makes a move, gently deflect it for a few minutes. He’ll be going crazy wondering if – and when – you’re going to turn it into something more! Your guy will likely be erect during the make out session, and a great deal of blood will be pumping to his penis the entire time. This will work to your advantage when you finally do give him a blowjob or a handjob, because it will make the sensations ten times more powerful!

The Just Because You Can Kiss

One of the benefits of being in a long term relationship is getting to kiss your partner whenever you want. That’s the deal, right? Take advantage of the fact that you can kiss your partner whenever you feel like it and give him surprise kisses out of the blue. They can be short or long, as long as none of them are a “quickie peck.” Make sure you mean each and every one of them. Each kiss is meant to say, “You’re mine and I can do this whenever I want and I’m going to.” He may even catch on to the idea and start giving you random, out of the blue kisses too! It also lets him know that you’re thinking of him in that moment and makes him think you just can’t help yourself!

The Goodbye Kiss

The Goodbye kiss is equally as powerful as the Greeting kiss, but it can also be way too understated if you let it. Instead of giving your partner a short hug and kiss goodbye, wrap your arms around your partner and hold them there for a few seconds or minutes. Kiss them deeply and wrap your fingers in their hair, tugging lightly. Heck, why not wrap your leg around him too? The point of this kiss is to say, “I don’t care if you’re going, right now in this moment, it’s just you and me.” Kissing him tenderly and sensually with a hint of urgency and confidence will make him forget anything exists at all except for you and him, right then and there. One of the best benefits of a great Goodbye kiss is that it guarantees that he will pretty much be thinking of you (and what he wants to do to you) the entire time he is gone. Pair this with a sensually powerful Greeting kiss and you have a recipe for absolutely explosive passionate sex!

Q&A: Kissing Tips

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Kissing is one of the most intimate things you can do with someone and sometimes it can be even more titillating and amazing than sex! Kissing doesn’t always come naturally though, and you definitely don’t want to be a bad kisser. Here’s how you can learn to be a great kisser, no matter who you’re kissing or how good or bad you are at it to begin with!

Question: Do you have any good kissing tips?

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Relax And Start Slow

There’s no need to rush into kissing! Kissing is sensual and passionate, so it’s important to relax and let yourself be in the moment. If you’re too tense and nervous, you’re not going to be kissing very well and your partner will definitely notice your stiffness. Take a few minutes to breathe before you begin kissing and allow yourself to become loose and relaxed. Start slow, and work your way up to more heavy “making out.” You can, of course, continue kissing slow if you want! That’s one of the best things about kissing – it can be whatever you want it to be, whether you want to make out passionately with your partner or kiss them in a slow, delicious, sensual way.

It’s Not A Means To An End

Many couples who have already had sex treat kissing like it is a means to an end and that kissing is simply a short prelude to the actual act of intercourse. These couples need to start treating kissing like couples who haven’t had sex do, and kiss or make out with each other just for the sake of kissing or making out! For most couples that have not yet had sex don’t have anywhere to “go” at the end of the kiss, so they make the kiss last as long as possible! To become a great kisser, don’t think of kissing as first base and your goal as home base. Instead, treat kissing like it’s the only place you have to be or want to go. Let the kissing overcome you and don’t be worried about what is going to happen next.

Practice Good Oral Hygiene

Many great kissers become bad kissers not because of their technique, but simply because of their poor oral hygiene. Practice great hygiene and your partner may not notice your actual kissing ability. Instead, they’ll be thinking about how great your mouth tastes and smells! Instead of just chewing gum and using breathmints, which only serve to cover up unsavory smells and tastes, actually get your mouth clean. Visit your dentist regularly for cleanings and have any infections or cavities treated and taken care of. Brush your teeth daily or twice a day, and floss daily as well. Common dental problems like cavities, plaque and gum disease can make your breath smell and taste bad, making your partner not want to kiss you no matter how good you are. If you put your oral hygiene first, you’ll become a great kisser by proxy and then you can spend time working on your actual techniques to take being a good kisser to the next level and become a great kisser!

Q&A: How Can I Make My Girlfriend Want To Kiss Me?

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Your first kiss in a new relationship is an important milestone, whether you’ve had dozens of kisses before or have never kissed anyone at all. If you’re going for your first kiss in a new relationship, rushing your partner into it before she wants to can actually backfire on you. Here’s what to do if you’re ready – and she’s not.

Question: Dear Dan and Jenn, I recently got a girlfriend and I really want to kiss her, but she says she doesn’t want to kiss because  this is her first relationship and she doesn’t want to kiss until we are older. But I REALLY like her and I was wondering what I can do to make her want to kiss?

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Respect Her Boundaries

Whenever someone says “no” to something, you absolutely have to respect that. Regardless of whether they’re a guy or a girl or what stage your relationship is in, you simply can’t ignore someone if they’re telling you they’re uncomfortable doing something that you want them to do. This applies to kissing, as well as sex. If your partner isn’t ready to kiss you yet, you can’t try to push her past her boundaries. Instead, learn to respect these boundaries because if you were the one who wasn’t comfortable with something, you wouldn’t want her to pressure you about it.

Practice Patience

In any situation where your partner lets you know that they’re not ready to do something or aren’t comfortable with something, it’s important that you learn to practice patience. Having patience when your partner says “no” isn’t always easy, especially if she says “no” to something you want very badly, but it’s the right thing to do. Even if you’re convinced that kissing her will take your relationship to a new and exciting level and she’ll really like it once she tries it, if she’s not ready that’s it. It’s over. Try to fill your time with your partner with other fun things, like playing baseball together or hanging out with friends. If you find yourself tempted to kiss your partner often, plan things to do with her that don’t create quiet, awkward moments alone together. Avoid going to the movies where other people are making out and try to stay busy doing fun activities together so you don’t think so much about kissing her and instead you’re focusing on just being with her and having fun with her.

Could It Harm Your Relationship?

Pressuring your partner to kiss you before she is ready can actually do harm to your relationship. At first she will be annoyed, and then she will become frustrated with you and come to resent you for not respecting her wants and needs. Trying to talk her into doing something she’s made clear she’s uncomfortable with doesn’t win you any brownie points. Even if she gives in and gives you what you want in the end, chances are she’ll remember the hurt for a long time. This definitely has the potential to damage your relationship, so if you value what you have with your partner at all, you won’t pressure her to do something she’s just not ready for.

The Right Way and The Wrong Way to Kiss a Woman

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I got this email today from a good friend of mine and just had to share…

One of the things, unless we’re REALLY lucky in life, is that we are never taught exactly ‘how to kiss’.  Some get it and some don’t, but mostly we learn by trial and error.

Knowing how to kiss a woman the right way will get you, well, anywhere.

Take just a minute right now and learn how to kiss a woman the right way so that she will be begging for more!   

She came up to me close and opened her mouth wide like a full-blown YAWN and tried to kiss (EAT!!) me! hahaha.  I physically closed her mouth down and said, "Lemme show you something" and then held her face in both hands and began VERY slowly suckling her top lip…then her bottom lip…then top lip…and an occasional tongue zing across both lips and back to the slow motion kiss while my fingers crept into her lovely hair and was gently massaging her head.

She was melting in my arms! (I have to say that NO ONE ever taught her how to KISS! She had tried to kiss like the peeps on TV or on some stupid movies—wide open mouth and no respect for the lips! Like two lamphreys trying to kiss!) hahaha.

She grabbed me and drug me onto the sofa inside her apt and we continued. At one point she came up for air and said, "Damn! I’ve NEVER been kissed like THIS before!" I said, "Well, hun, you’re hangin with da wrong people!" 

At this point, I gave her a little tongue and her back arched!…

OK, it was at this point in the email that my cheeks flushed, so I’ll leave the rest for your imagination…

Who’s knows if the story is true, but it makes the point…

Here are some great articles to help you on the path. Good Luck and Happy Kissing!