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Can I Get STDs From Masturbation?

By loveandsex

Masturbation is a great pleasure for both men and women. It can relieve stress and satisfy sexual desires without having intercourse with someone else.

You might be curious, however, if masturbation falls in the same category as sex, oral sex and erotic massage when it comes to sexually transmitted diseases.

While you can’t transmit or contract STD’s from masturbation or toys, unless you share your toys with someone else, does that mean you’re safe from everything?

If I masturbate without toys (just with my hands) can I get and STDs or other sicknesses?

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The Skinny On STD’s

Sexually transmitted diseases are spread when an infected person shares bodily secretions or blood with another person. This usually happens during sex, but it can be transmitted in other ways as well, as long as secretions are shared. While you can contract a sexually transmitted disease from another person if they’re infected, it’s very difficult to contract a sexually transmitted disease if you’re simply masturbating.

This would only happen if your hands happened to come into contact with an infected person’s bodily secretions and these secretions made their way into your genitals by being passed on from your hands. This can actually be prevented with simple hand washing. In light of this, however, masturbation is the second safest sex next to no sex at all. If you’ve never had any sexual partners, you can’t transmit STD’s to yourself through masturbation, as well as if you’ve recently been tested for STD’s and haven’t had a sexual partner since.

Simply put, if your hands come into contact with any bodily fluids of another person, such as blood, semen or vaginal secretions, and then you masturbate, there is a very small possibility that you can contract STD’s through masturbation. How can you make absolutely sure you’re safe?

Simply Safe

Being a safe masturbator is actually fairly simple. Always keep your hands clean and make sure they’re washed before masturbation. Even if you don’t have any sexual partners, bacteria on hands that haven’t been washed can cause an infection.

Easy As Soap and Water

If you use toys during masturbation, make sure your toys are clean before each and every use as well. Soap and warm water will do the trick, although there are special cleaners for sex toys available at many stores and online.

It’s safer not to share your sex toys with other people, but if you do, make sure they’re washed in between each use and in between each partner. By washing your hands and your sex toys regularly and keeping them clean, you can keep any bacteria or other infectious organisms at bay.

While there is a very small, almost non-existent chance of contracting an STD from masturbation if you’ve been sexually active with other partners and have gotten blood or bodily fluids on your hands, regular hand washing and hand washing before masturbation will pretty much eliminate any risk involved.

Unless you’re abstaining from any sexual contact with yourself and others, masturbation is the safest form of sex around. Make sure you’re masturbation habits include good hygiene and you can enjoy relieving stress and satisfying your sexual desires without worry.

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: masturbation, safe sex, Sex Toys, STDs

Self Pleasure – Enjoying Erotica on Your Own…

By alicianightorchid

Janie, a bachelorette, travels constantly on business. After a long day of intense sales calls, she retires to her room where she eats alone, checks e-mail, and prepares for the next day’s work.

By the end of the evening, she’s too edgy to sleep and a little lonely. She could saunter down to the lobby bar, but the thought of picking up a stranger has little appeal in today’s world of dangerous STDs.

She could call one of the men she dates from time to time, but doesn’t want to come across as needy. She could watch a pay-for-view movie ADULT movie, but doesn’t want to explain that charge to her employer.

Faced with those alternatives, she often ends the day snuggled up in bed with her laptop. She reads an erotic e-book by a favorite author. With one hand on the keyboard and the other under the covers, she gives herself some well-deserved “personal time.”

Afterwards, she sleeps like a baby.

Nathan and Bri have a great sex life, and Nathan’s as crazy in love with his wife as the day they married three years ago. Even so, he has fantasies of a threesome involving Bri, him, and another woman. In his favorite fantasy, Bri and the other woman begin kissing while he watches.

One thing leads to another and soon the women are naked on the floor, making love. After they’ve driven each other over the edge, the two women turn their attention to him.

So far, Nathan has refrained from sharing his fantasy with Bri, because he knows she’s strictly a one-man woman.

But once a week, when she’s out with her friends, he indulges himself with a box of Kleenex, a favorite lubricant, and a visit to a website featuring erotic stories about threesomes. He prefers the slow build-up and exotic settings offered by the stories to video porn’s bright lights, close-up shots, and predictability.

In the back of his mind, he harbors the hope that Bri will some day turn his fantasy into reality.

Katie and Patrick have been together for four years. They’re in a committed relationship, but Katie has come to realize that she needs more sex than Patrick.

He’s pre-occupied with starting a new business and happy with their twice a week routine. For her part, she’d prefer a trip down the “O” highway every day.

She’s not opposed to a furtive moment alone in the shower or a solitary fling on the day bed before Patrick returns home from work. But what works best for Katie is curling up in front of the fire or in the chaise lounge with a steamy period romance and a favorite vibrator.

She secretly hopes Patrick will find her books and want to see what she does with that vibrator while she reads.

Doing it by the Book

Masturbation, wanking, play time.

Call it what you like, it’s something we all do. In fact, Kinsey Institute research shows that 90 percent of all men over the age of 18 “toss one off” on a regular basis, while 65 percent of all women “rub one out” now and then.

The percentages are lower for married couples, but a Playboy survey found that 72 percent of married men masturbate, while a Redbook survey revealed that 68 percent of married women join in the fun.

Yet, when confronted with these percentages, many people are embarrassed to admit that they aren’t much different from everyone else when it comes to self pleasure.

Furthermore, even if we confess to an occasional personal dalliance, we’re likely to characterize it as a “moment of weakness.” In the words of the old “Seinfeld” episode, we take pride in being “masters of our own domain.”

But the truth is that “humming to our own music” is a more purposeful activity than we may like to own up to. Drawings of men and women engaged in sex are among the earliest and most prevalent art to adorn the walls of caves.

The first writings on sex can be traced to ancient Chinese and Indian cultures, and the public areas of Greek and Roman cities often contained art work depicting copulation, oral sex, and self pleasure.

It’s a good bet that our ancestors were using that art work and those writings to enhance not only their sex lives with partners, but also their solo sex. And based on the current market demand for erotica and porn, it’s likely that many of us today rely on sexy stories, photos, and videos to make our private time more enjoyable.

In fact, if the e-mail and blog comments I receive are any indication, I’m pretty sure that most readers of my stories and books are of the one-handed variety.

Bottom line

Most researchers and therapists view masturbation as a common and natural activity. If we’re going to do it, why not enjoy it to the fullest? If a hot story or a sexy book produces warm and fuzzies down below or indulges a particular fantasy, why not go with it?

Masturbation doesn’t need to be shameful or guilt-ridden, it can be a celebration of our singular sexuality, purposefully undertaken and augmented with erotica we love.

Doing it Without My Partner

A question that often arises is whether it’s harmful to a relationship when one or both partners masturbate in isolation to “dirty stories.” The concern is that solo masturbation, with or without the aid of erotica, is a form of “cheating,” and we all know how damaging that can be to a relationship.

But most researchers agree that couples should not be troubled by masturbation in a relationship so long as (1) it doesn’t take the place of sex between partners; and (2) neither partner’s self esteem is lowered by the other partner’s self enjoyment.

Remember Janie, Nathan, and Katie from the beginning of this article? Janie played with herself to the accompaniment of the bookmarked sections of her favorite e-book, when she was on the road and away from boyfriends.

Nathan indulged a fantasy his wife had little interest in, but it didn’t lessen his attraction to his wife. And Katie used erotica and masturbation to supplement her sex life with her husband.

It’s hard to see how anyone’s relationship was damaged.

Bottom Line: Open communication with your spouse or partner is always the best route. Talk about your sexual desires and fantasies. Come to an understanding about what both of you need, keeping in mind that sex is a mystery and that each person’s desires are valid and unique.

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: adult movies, erotica, how to masturbate, masturbation, porn

Why Is Masturbation So Taboo?

By paulcarlson

There are many rumors and taboos associated with masturbation.

Does it cause blindness? Does it cause hairy palms? Is it wrong? Is it unhealthy? Does it cause premature ejaculation?

Exploring the origin of the taboo behind masturbation and the scientific studies associated with it can lead to a clearer understanding of what masturbation is and what it definitely isn’t.

Why is masturbation so taboo? Could this be one of the reasons that so many men suffer from premature ejaculation?

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Where did it go wrong?

Masturbation has been around since really, the dawn of time. Masturbation for women is relatively newer, but since man learned he had a penis, he learned what he could do with it. As humankind evolved, we evolved into a society with religion, morals and beliefs.

Some religions suggested that masturbation was wrong and that spilling one’s “seed” outside of procreation was a sin. This was generally because at that time in the world, cultures were looking to expand and bring about more and more people.

That ideation, however, didn’t stop when the world had enough (and more than enough) people in it. It’s a view that continues to be held today in certain cultures.

That in and of itself doesn’t mean that masturbation is wrong though. It’s up to you to decide whether morally, you believe that masturbation is something that makes you comfortable.

Scientifically, where does masturbation stand?

Studies done on masturbation show that 98% of men masturbate. It’s simply a fact of life.

Some of these men do it in secret and are shamed by it because of the culture that they grew up in while others accept it as a necessary but pleasurable activity. To others, it’s just no big deal and it happens.

Masturbation doesn’t cause hairy palms or blindness and is considered by many in the medical community to be a healthy way to reduce the testosterone levels in the body and release some of the day’s frustrations and aggravations.

Some studies have even shown that people who have three orgasms a week are known to have a life expectancy that is seven or eight years longer than someone who doesn’t have orgasms that often.

Does masturbation cause premature ejaculation?

Premature ejaculation is mainly caused by the physiological response to too much testosterone in the body. Ejaculation is one way to release it and when the time comes for an orgasm, it may end up happening too soon. This can happen during masturbation or during sexual intercourse, but masturbation isn’t to blame.

Someone who doesn’t masturbate at all may even have problems with premature ejaculation. If you find that you’re ejaculating too soon, whether you’re masturbating or having sexual intercourse, seek help from your doctor. He or she will have some questions to ask you and based on your answers, they’ll come up with a treatment plan for you.

While masturbation is becoming more widely accepted, some cultures and some individuals still hold outdated views on the subject. Science proves that masturbation is healthy and can even add spice to your sex life, release frustration and increase life expectancy.

If masturbation is something you enjoy, find the appropriate time and place for it and go for it! If it’s something that you’re comfortable with and that brings you pleasure, don’t let anyone else’s beliefs or morals get in your way. It only matters what you think!

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: how to masturbate, masturbation, sex tips

Does Masturbation Really Cause Blindness?

By paulcarlson

There are a great number of taboos on masturbation and there have been since almost the beginning of time. You might have heard that masturbation causes blindness or that masturbation makes your palms hairy.

While you might already know that these are old wives tales, it still might leave you with the question, “is masturbation right?” Whether it’s ‘right’ or not is something you need to decide for yourself, but masturbation isn’t unhealthy by any means.

Does masturbation really cause blindness? Are there any medical concerns with masturbation?

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Where did the taboo come from?

In many cultures, the taboo on masturbation stems from religion. When some religions came about, they considered that “wasting the seed” was a sin and therefore men shouldn’t masturbate.

The only approved sexual stimulation was sexual intercourse in order to procreate. At that point in the world, there were very few people and more people were needed to make tribes and different religious sects stronger and more profitable.

Masturbation was considered ‘wrong’ because instead of making a new person for the religion or tribe, you were . . . well, ‘wasting’ the seed.

Unfortunately, this taboo has been carried across decades and while there is no longer the issue of not having enough people around, in those religions and cultures masturbation is still looked down upon and considered a sin.

How do I know if it’s wrong for me?

While statistics show that the majority of men (and many women) masturbate, some people still feel that it’s wrong. Really think about your morals and your beliefs and whether masturbation makes you feel bad or not. If you find yourself feeling guilty afterwards, then by all means feel free to curtail your masturbation until it suits you.

Chances are though, you’re in the majority of people who enjoy masturbation and feel that there’s nothing wrong with it. Don’t let anyone try to impose their belief system on you. If you enjoy masturbation and feel that there’s nothing wrong with it, enjoy!

Will it hurt me?

Masturbation isn’t going to cause you anything but soreness and that’s only if you end up masturbating too much. You might get a little raw and if you do, you can stop masturbating for awhile and it will go away.  Masturbating using lotions or lubricants can keep you from experiencing any rawness or dryness of the skin in that area.

Masturbation won’t cause headaches, blindness or even hairy palms and you won’t run out of sperm either. Your body will simply produce more. Masturbation can even be considered healthy, as it can add stimulation to both men’s and women’s sex lives.

When can I masturbate?

There’s the key – finding the appropriate time for masturbation. If your partner dislikes your masturbation habits, make sure to do it away from them or when they’re not home. Don’t masturbate out in public and certainly don’t do it with someone who is not a consenting adult. Masturbation is mostly done alone in the privacy of your own home.

While some cultures and religions still feel that masturbation is wrong, many more are beginning to accept it as health studies show that it’s a completely safe and even healthy activity. Whatever you choose to do, make sure it’s what makes you comfortable.

If you enjoy masturbation like most people, just find an appropriate time and place to enjoy yourself. You can even masturbate with your partner to enhance your sex life!

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: ejaculation, how to masturbate, masturbation, sex myths, sex tips

Think Masturbation is Wrong? Here’s The REAL Truth…

By christproerotic

This is how messed up my understanding of faith and sexuality was as a believer in Jesus. In order to show myself worthy and approved, in order to make sure I can present myself pure before God, self-love was not an option for a believer because it was seen as a sin against God.

Masturbation means I see something (or someone) to cause my loins to stir and thus touch myself; this means I violated the “fornication” code of having sex outside of marriage and violating God’s plan for me.

The message against masturbation

I can’t remember if I became a believer first, masturbated first, or both, but I think after reading some Christian books and hearing teachers from the pulpit come heavy against sexual issues I got the message very clear. If you are to a believer of honor, then you are to keep yourself sexually pure till marriage.

I tried not to touch myself down there. Not to masturbate or think of pleasing myself because it’s evil, of course. My will power (unfortunately) was like one Cosmo Kramer who was the first to loose “the Contest” against Jerry, Elaine, and George on the Seinfield series.

Then again, that could be a good thing.

But is It really wrong?

You see after many tears, many times mentally and spiritually beating myself up, I soon realized maybe masturbation is not a bad thing after all. My human sexuality teacher recommended Betty Dodson’s book “Sex for One.”

Man! Talk about an eye opening theory about the practice; she even had pictures and the whole nine yards.

But the thing that won me over to the “Touch Myself” club was a letter from a Pentecostal woman from Cincinnati, Ohio. She wrote how she felt guilty for years due to the church world she lives in, but because of the book it opened her eyes and mind. Now she knows God won’t shoot her down for touching herself.

“Well if she can do it and find inner peace, why not me?” I thought.

The truth about loving yourself

I realized a few things along the way to enjoy masturbation and keep things in perspective:

Many believers look at Onan as the reason why masturbation shouldn’t be part of a believer or non-believers life. If the passage in Genesis is looked at closely you can see it wasn’t masturbation in the sense of giving pleasure to ones self. God struck down Er because of his wickedness. After that happened, God asked Onan to fulfill the duty of his brother and continue the gene line by lying with his widow Tamar.

In what could be dubbed “the costliest money shot of all time” Onan “spilled his seed” so Er’s family line wouldn’t have an offspring. So Onan lost his life over the betrayal.

Tradition and retribution

Somehow tradition–or the fear of God’s retribution–latched on to this story as a way to keep many men (or women) from masturbation. So please, for the love of truth, stop blaming Onan as the one who messed up masturbation. Blame it all on tradition and for a wrong-headed approach to understanding to what self-love is all about.

The real truth

All the myths about masturbation–blindness, hairy palms, madness, neurotic disorder, etc.—are not true. Next!

We all masturbate throughout our lives. From the time we are babies till we are old and gray, masturbation is one of those things that makes us human. To deny it is both comical and tragic at the same time.

Frequency of self-love ranges from several times a day to every other day to a few weeks to none at all (unless one suffers from obsessive-compulsive disorder). But normally, you are fine if that’s all you do with yourself.

God will not condemn you for having a sexual thought let alone if you are touching yourself over a sexual thought. You might have problems if you are thinking about possessing someone you know doesn’t belong to you.

But if a person turns you on, or an image, or a sexual thought and you just have to express your normal desires you are feeling then enjoy the time with yourself.

Masturbation is good for you!

The health benefits are huge! You can find out what turns you on and causes orgasm to releasing some sexual tension by masturbation. Also, it helps with sexual dysfunction due to the inability to orgasm, prostate health for men, relieves menstrual cramps, eases headaches, causes one to sleep, and promotes well being with the chemicals released during orgasm. Hmm, the benefits outweigh the myths. Did I mention it’s the safest sexual practice of them all?

The last thing about masturbation we need to touch on as Christians is the guilt factor. Again, if you feel you have the freedom to enjoy this practice without any guilt whatsoever weighing on your mind then enjoy.

Too many times believe everything our preachers and teachers say instead of studying for ourselves–with scientific fact and research–whether a practice is beneficial or not.

The information we have today is very accurate as opposed to the myths we discussed earlier. I have come to realize I have more issues about dealing with the things coming from my heart than self-love. Let all the ravers and ranters from the pulpit scream all they want. Masturbation is as good of a time as one person can with themselves.

Not that there’s anything wrong with it.

(Note: Thanks to Betty Dodson for their info and pick up a copy of her landmark book Sex for One: the Joy of Self-Loving)

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: abstinence, masturbation, premarital sex

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