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Can Giving Oral Sex Cause Cancer?

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Oral sex can transmit STD’s if you’re not careful to protect yourself and reduce your risk. Infections like chlamydia and gonorrhea can be transmitted from the genitals to the mouth and throat, but most of the time, mild to moderate infections can be treated with a course of antibiotics.

This alone may make people feel that they don’t need to use protection during oral sex, but think again – because giving your partner cunnilingus or fellatio may do more harm than you originally thought. Can giving oral sex cause cancer later in life?

HPV The Leading Cause Of Throat Cancers In The U.S.

Until recently, the scientific community believed that tobacco use, both cigarettes and smokeless tobacco, was the leading cause of throat and mouth cancer in the United States. However, this status has changed as more research and statistics become available and tobacco is no longer the front runner for causing abnormalities in the throat and mouth.

A sexually transmitted disease called HPV – better known as human papilloma virus – has now taken the lead in causing these types of cancers. Ohio State University alum Dr. Maura Gillson reports that HPV is responsible for 64% of throat and mouth cancers in the U.S., while the remainder of the world still touts tobacco as the leading cause of this type of cancer.

Other cancers that can be caused by the human papilloma virus are cervical cancer, cancer of the genitals including the vagina and the penis and some cancers within the anus or colon.

What Is HPV?

The CDC reports that HPV is the most common sexually transmitted disease. You may have heard of “genital warts” – this is because HPV causes small, cauliflower-like bumps to appear on the affected area. However, the warts may not appear in all cases of HPV. Many men and women who carry the infection do not show any outward symptoms at all and may not even be aware that they are infected.

There are over forty strains of HPV, most of which do not affect the body at all. The CDC reports that in almost 90% of HPV cases, the virus is naturally cleared from the body by its own immune system in two years or less. Because some strains of the disease cause genital warts and other strains cause cancer, it is unknown within the medical community which strains will cause what problems.

How Can You Get HPV From Oral Sex?

Being exposed to the human papilloma virus in any way will increase your risk for cancer significantly. The virus is usually spread through genital to genital contact, such as during sex, but can also spread from mouth to genital contact such as with oral sex.

The disease knows no boundaries – it doesn’t matter if you’re gay or straight, bi-sexual or even if it’s been years since you had sexual contact with someone who was infected with the virus. It is also possible to contract and carry more than one strain of HPV at a time, therefore increasing your risk for cancer even more.

If you perform oral sex on someone that is infected with HPV, you’re not going to get cancer right away. It usually takes many years for the cancer to develop, because it takes time for the cells in the affected area of your body to mutate into cancer cells. You’re not going to tell that your cells are mutating and becoming abnormal either – that is, until you actually develop cancer and begin to show symptoms of it such as noticing a lump or tumor in the neck or blood tests for cancer markers come up positive.

Why Teens Are More At Risk

Teens have the highest risk of developing cancer later in life from an HPV infection contracted during their high school years. Why is this? Most teens don’t consider cunnilingus or fellatio as actual sex – to them, it doesn’t count. Teens may know that they need to use a condom during regular sex, however, if they’re trying to maintain their virginity or don’t want to risk getting an STD or getting pregnant, they may forgo intercourse all together in lieu of oral sex.

While oral sex generally can be safer than traditional vaginal intercourse, these days it’s not. This is because while abstinence and safe sex programs go over STD’s that can be transmitted through sexual intercourse, oral sex is rarely, if ever, mentioned as a probable source of contracting and spreading these diseases. Parents also drop the ball here, because many parents may cover the basics when it comes to choosing abstinence or having safer sex but they fail to talk about all forms of sex – including oral and anal sex – and how they can all contribute to the spread of STD’s.

Many teens feel that because their school didn’t discuss the dangers of oral or anal sex and their parents didn’t either – plus, it allows them to technically maintain their virginity, so they really aren’t having “sex” anyways – that it’s completely safe. Sex education programs in the United States should start recognizing oral sex and anal sex as common among teens and include information about how these types of activities can contribute to the spread of STD’s. They should also provide information on how men and women can protect themselves during these activities.

Parents, however, are where the buck truly stops when it comes to educating their teens on how to have safer sex. Most parents aren’t well versed in how STD’s are spread and how to protect against transmission, simply because their parents never told them, their schools surely didn’t and many of them have been in monogamous relationships for several years. Many parents, due to lack of sexual education for themselves, may very well be practicing unsafe sex and oral sex themselves – so how are they supposed to teach their children how to stay safe?

How To Protect Yourself

Learn as much as you can about sexually transmitted diseases, including HPV, and how they are spread. Realize that any sexual contact – including oral sex, fingering, anal sex and other types of sexual contact – has at least some risk associated with it and many activities post a higher risk than others. Do yourself a favor and visit the CDC website for up to date information on STD’s.

Always wear a condom during sex, oral and anal sex. For cunnilingus, dental dams can be used to protect the giving partner. Learn how to use these properly to decrease your risk and if whoever your partner is doesn’t want to use them, find a new lover. There is no pleasure that is worth carrying around an STD for the rest of your life or getting cancer when you’re fifty because that one time you decided you couldn’t be bothered with a dental dam or a condom.

Remember to get tested for sexually transmitted diseases often – almost all public health clinics offer this testing for free. There’s no reason not to and you should also insist that your partner be tested as well. This is especially true if you’re both considering a monogamous relationship in which you plan to have unprotected sex, anal sex and oral sex.

Knowledge is power – educate yourself and stay safe!

Oral Sex – Do You Need A Condom And Can You Get An STD?

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Oral sex isn’t something that makes you think of STD’s automatically –  you’ve probably heard that the greatest risk for transmitting sexual infections such as HIV, AIDS, chlamydia and syphilis come from anal sex and vaginal intercourse. But can STD’s be transmitted through mouth to genital sex? What do you need to do to protect yourself?

Question: Dear Dan and Jenn, I am still young and recently had the “talk” and my parents told me to navigate to this channel. Do you have any tips for a person new to the sex world? Also, I was still confused about oral sex and didn’t want to ask my parents. Do you still need a condom and can you get a STD?

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Remember That You Can Only Eliminate Risk Through Abstinence

No matter what kind of sex you’re talking about – whether it’s oral sex, vaginal sex, anal sex or even giving your partner a handjob or fingering them – you’re never 100% safe from sexually transmitted diseases. Even if you use spermicide, condoms or the withdrawal method, there is nothing you can do short of abstinence to completely eliminate your risk. If you’re engaging in any kind of sexual activity whatsoever with another person, you are putting yourself at risk of getting STD’s.

That said, there are lots of ways you can safely and easily reduce your risk – and be fairly confident that you’re not going to contract an STD. First of all, being in a monogamous relationship with someone who has been tested for and is free from STD’s is a start. If you have multiple sexual partners, condoms are your best asset as far as safety during sex is concerned.

Yes, Oral Sex Can Transmit STD’s

Generally speaking, the risk for spreading sexually transmitted diseases through mouth to genital sex is much less than the risk of spreading them through anal sex or vaginal intercourse. However, there is still a risk there, because STD’s like AIDS and HIV are found in vaginal fluid, pre-cum and semen. Don’t assume that just because your partner doesn’t “ejaculate” in your mouth that you are safe from STD’s.

If you have a sore or cut on your mouth before giving someone cunnilingus or fellatio, your risk of getting an STD multiplies by quite a bit. Hepatitis C, HIV and AIDS are spread easily through blood contact, even semen or precum to blood – which is the case if you have a cut or sore on or around your mouth.

You may not even know you have a cut or sore in your mouth – many times, people have small lacerations on their gums from brushing their teeth and if your gums bleed when you brush your teeth, you can be pretty certain that you have an “open wound” in your mouth all the time, at least when it comes to talking about the transmission of STD’s.

Your Risk Of Contracting An STD During Oral Sex Varies

There’s no sure way of determining how high your risk of getting a sexually transmitted disease through fellatio or cunnilingus is, because it varies. For example, pre-cum has a lower concentration of virus than semen or blood does, and if a woman infected with the HIV, Hepatitis C or AIDS virus and is on her period, she is much more likely to transmit the disease to her partner during sex.

Because how high the risk is depends on so many different factors, there’s no way to accurately say that you’re going to be safe from getting an STD during fellatio or cunnilingus without a condom.

It’s Not Just AIDS Or HIV That Can Be Spread

While HIV and AIDS are probably the most worrisome of viruses that you can contract from mouth to genital sex, they’re not the only ones. There are lots of different sexually transmitted diseases and infections:

  • Chlamydia
  • Hepatitis C
  • Gonorrhea
  • Syphilis
  • Herpes
  • Pubic Lice
  • Genital Warts
  • HPV
  • Hepatitis B

That’s a pretty long list – and while some of these diseases can be treated with antibiotics, others can’t and some can even contribute to throat and mouth cancers later on in life. Furthermore, be aware of the fact that you may not know someone has an STD – in fact, they may not even know it. They may not be displaying any symptoms at all, so it’s best to be safe and assume that you have a risk of contracting any of these diseases through oral sex at any time.

Using A Condom Or A Dental Dam During Oral Sex Will Greatly Reduce Your Risk

If you want to reduce your risk of getting an STD during fellatio or cunnilingus, using a condom or a dental dam will make it much less likely that you would take anything home that you didn’t want to. Here are some tips on how to make yourself safer when giving (or receiving):

  • Wear a condom. Try flavored condoms or a flavored lube to make things taste better (and they smell great) and definitely avoid condoms that have spermicide on them.
  • For cunnilingus, make sure that you use a dental dam. If you place a dab of lube underneath the dental dam on the clitoris and vulva, it will create real feeling sensations that are just as good – if not better – than unprotected fellatio or cunnilingus.
  • Don’t use oil based lubricant at all. Oil based lubes will break down the latex and make the condom pretty much pointless.
  • Get a fresh condom after anal sex or vaginal sex if you’re going to have mouth to genital sex. You don’t want to be using the same condom for fellatio as you did for vaginal or anal sex. Not only does that make the condom less effective, it’s a great way to spread lots of harmful bacteria.
  • If you don’t have a dental dam on hand for cunnilingus, you can do one of two things. You can use a nice, large square of plastic food wrap, or you can cut a condom lengthwise and spread it out over the vulva. Either way is better and safer than using nothing at all.

Blow His Mind Tonight Review

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If you want to learn oral sex, Blow His Mind Tonight will teach any woman the skills she needs to give her man the most amazing oral sex he’s ever had! This manual is written for all women who want to explore oral and manual sexual stimulation – from those who are just trying it for the first time to those who have been giving head for a while, but feel they are missing out on the real benefits and nuances. It will give you clear, simple instructions on improving your techniques in both oral sex and manual sex.

The Good

Blow His Mind Tonight is chock full of excellent tips and techniques you can use to please your partner tonight, as well as techniques that you can learn to make you better at oral and manual sex overall. Whether you want to learn mouth exercises that will prime your tongue and lips to give the ultimate pleasure, or you’re an oral sex pro who wants to take it a step further, Blow His Mind Tonight will give you the information you need and much, much more.

The Bad

Women who want to get straight to the point may find the introduction to correct tongue placement and mouth exercises a little bland, but the book is easy enough to navigate through and find what you want to know when you want to know it. Blow His Mind Tonight is a very technique specific book, so if you’re looking for more of a basic manual, you’re not going to find it here.

The Bottom Line

If you want to not only learn how to give a man oral sex and manual sex but also how to get better and better at it, the Blow His Mind Tonight is a great resource full of information you can actually use.

The Full Blow His Mind Tonight Review

Oral sex for a man can be difficult if you’re not sure what to do. The first several – several – pages are devoted specifically to tongue and mouth exercises, but Jessica Perez, the author of Blow His Mind Tonight, gives plenty of detailed instructions so you’ll know you’re doing the exercises right. Although you’ll be very tempted to jump the gun and get to the actual oral sex techniques, try to resist the urge to do so. Just like Kegels, tongue and mouth exercises will do wonders to improve your muscle tone and your ability to give pleasure through contracting and relaxing your mouth and tongue muscles. Even if you’re a seasoned pro at oral sex, regularly exercising your mouth will make you just that much better at it!

Next is a detailed section on oral, vaginal, penile and overall hygiene. Let’s face it – one of the biggest complaints women have about oral sex is that he doesn’t smell or taste very good down there. Jessica teaches you how to clean up before having sex, so everything smells and tastes just dandy.

The real meat of Blow His Mind Tonight is right smack in the middle, where Jessica goes into great detail to teach women how to get started, how to keep going and how to finish him up. She recognizes what makes men tick, and relays that information in an easy to understand way. She touches on many different aspects on how men receive pleasure, and teaches women how to use that to their advantage when giving their partners blowjobs for the first or five hundredth time.

Blow His Mind Tonight then moves into the handjob foray, giving women step by step instructions on the techniques that will drive their men wild. Who knew that there were so many different ways of giving a handjob? After you start employing the techniques found here, your man may never want to masturbate with his own hand again.

Of course, this book wouldn’t be complete without some step by step techniques on oral sex, and if you were looking for an arsenal of different moves, Jessica won’t leave you empty handed. She includes ways to keep yourself comfortable so you can see oral sex through to the end, and even discusses how to discreetly handle his finish. You’ll find that both the beginner and advanced techniques are easy enough to do, and you’ll be surprised at just how simple giving great oral sex can be when you’ve got an armload full of techniques to use.

For premature ejaculators, there is a section for him to read that gives him information on how to build up stamina and last longer in the bedroom. Jessica also gives you tricks you can use with different foods, including frozen blueberries, peppermints and hot tea to make giving oral sex even better for both you and him.

Along with the incredible Blow His Mind Tonight book, you’ll also get some special extras, which really add to the book’s value.

Top 25 Female Orgasm Tips, Tricks & Techniques

This bonus book is an excellent companion to Blow His Mind Tonight. Let your man read this and soon he’ll learn how to find the g-spot (known as the “female orgasm button,” as well as awesome g-spot sex positions, advanced fingering tips and more. If you’re going to give HIM great orgasms, he should do the same for you!

Top 10 Secrets To Enhance Your Love, Intimacy & Happiness In Your Relationship

No relationship will survive on just great sex alone, although it is certainly icing on the cake. Jessica realizes that intimacy and happiness is just as important as awesome oral sex, and includes a companion book for secrets on how to really get close to your partner. The real gem here in this book is the secret tip on how to get a passive man to take the lead and become the alpha male!

Top 10 Secrets To Attract, Catch & Keep A Man… Have The Relationship That YOU Want

If you’re not in a relationship, you’ll find this book extremely useful! Jessica gives you 10 simple yet powerful secrets on how to attract AND keep a man! You can use these tips on all men, and they’re especially effective for men who are distant emotionally or very withdrawn. Get them out of their shell and into a great relationship – with YOU!

Love Signs: Astrology & Love Advice For Women

No, this is not your typical love astrology book. Most couples who are together haven’t even paid attention to their love signs, let alone whether they were a “match” before they got together. However, these signs play an important part in your relationship and this book will explain to you why. It also includes some secrets on how to be happy with your partner, even if your signs are incompatible!

The Blowjob Move You’ve NEVER Heard Of

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Oral sex for men is something they really, really like – but it can also get boring . Think about it – you suck on his penis for awhile and he gets off. That’s it. You can change up your technique, but even after that, it’s pretty much the same each time. You really have to be on top of your game to keep him surprised each time you go down on him.

However, you can use this simple but never before heard of maneuver to send your guy to cloud nine. Next time you give your man head, think about doing something totally off the wall that he’ll never expect – but he’ll LOVE. Surprise your man by changing it up with this maneuver you NEVER knew about.

Start By Giving Normal Head

You’re going to start this oral sex technique by just going down on your guy like you normally would to get him warmed up. He’ll think you’re just giving him head like normal and won’t expect anything different than what you usually do. Besides, you want him to be kind of into it before you really surprise him, but honestly, what man isn’t into it from the get go?

Suck and lick his penis until he’s completely erect and is just starting to really enjoy what you’re doing. While any sex position will work for this super sultry technique, the better ones are with your partner either standing or sitting to receive his blowjob. This will give you more access and make it easier for you to effectively do the special technique.

Switch To Giving Him A Handjob

Once he’s in full enjoyment of the foreplay, switch to giving him a handjob. His penis should be plenty wet from your saliva, but you can also use flavored lube if you really want to get wet and wild. Please him with your hand for a few seconds while he wonders just what exactly you’re planning on doing next! Once you’re fairly sure he’s about to ask you what in the heck you’re doing, you can go on to the next phase of this titillating maneuver.

Then Lick His Balls

When you switched to giving your man a handjob, you probably wondered what the heck you were going to do with your mouth since this an oral sex technique and all. Take your mouth and snuggle right up to his scrotum. Lick the seam of his testicles with your tongue, and use your mouth to suck each of his balls in and out. This is a no holds barred maneuver, so don’t be afraid to get really chummy with his sack and make him think you’re French kissing it.

Do Both At The Same Time

The true trick here is to keep the handjob you’re giving to your man going as you lick and suck his scrotum and testicles. Most women handle their man’s testicles with their hands while giving them a blowjob, but you’re doing the exact opposite. He’s probably never had this done before, so it is sure to send your guy into absolute shock – he really won’t know what to do with himself!

If you’ve got a guy who also enjoys anal sex (and if you’ve got an extra hand), lube up your finger and massage his prostate too. The combination of different sensations are what will send him over the edge and into an earth shattering orgasm!

Things To Keep In Mind

Since you’re going to be up close and personal to your man’s scrotum, you’re definitely going to want to do this oral sex maneuver after he’s had a nice, long shower and has scrubbed his package very well. Make it extra special (and keep what you’re going to do a surprise) by hopping in the shower with him and scrubbing him up yourself! Why not start teasing him before you’re even ready to give him head? By the time you actually do get started giving him a blowjob, he’s going to be ready to bust!

Consider asking your man to shave his testicles if the idea of licking his balls when they’re hairy grosses you out. Let him know you have a sexual surprise for him, but you’d really like him to be soft and smooth first. Knowing that you’ve got something sexy up your sleeve will probably be enough to get any man to shave his nuts, even if he’s apprehensive about doing it. After you show him what you’ve got planned, he may just keep his testicles shaved!

10 Ways To Become An Oral Sex Master (For Women)

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Oral sex is something every guy craves, but a lot of girls aren’t good at it. They try to imitate what they see porn stars do in adult films, but that’s actually not the best way to give a guy a blowjob. It’s all for the cameras – but here’s the REAL way to be great at oral sex. If you follow these ten easy tips, you’ll have him begging you for more!

Go Slow At First

Yes, guys like a lot of sucking and they like it fast, but not always when you’re first starting to give him head. Instead of licking your partner’s penis like there’s no tomorrow to get his erection going, start slow and let his erection build in your mouth. Slowly suck him and roll his soft penis around in your mouth as he’s getting hard. He’ll love the feeling of having his entire penis in your mouth as he’s becoming aroused!

Learn To Deep Throat

Guys love a deep throat blowjob, but girls often don’t like to give them because taking a penis so deep into their throats make them gag or vomit. If you gag now while deep throating, you can learn to do it well with practice. Learn to breathe through your nose while you’re performing oral sex and relax your throat. Take a little bit more each time until you can deep throat your partner with ease.

Give Him A Handjob

If you can’t take him really deep into your throat, it’s not the end of the world. You can still give a great blowjob to your guy by giving him a handjob with it! Use your hand as an extension of your mouth and grasp the base of his penis while you suck on the head of it. Move your hand up and down as you move your mouth up and down, and don’t be afraid to let your saliva drip a little and function as a lube to make things go more smoothly. Gently tug on his scrotum or hold it gently to give your man even more pleasurable sensations.

Don’t Use Your Teeth

Teeth hurt during a blowjob and that’s all there is too it! Every once in awhile, a guy will enjoy teeth gently scraping against his penis, but odds are your man doesn’t want your chompers anywhere near his shaft. Keep your teeth out of his way by wrapping your lips over them while giving oral sex, so you don’t accidentally scrape or bite him during the blowjob.

Try Different Sex Positions

As opposed to letting him lie there and receive oral sex, try using some different sex positions to spice it up. Let him stand while you kneel on a pillow to give him head, or let him stand over you and lower his penis into your mouth as you’re lying down. Be creative and try all kinds of different sex positions – he’ll love how adventurous you are with just oral sex so much that he’ll be begging you for sex all the time!

Surprise Him With It

Give your man oral sex the next time he least expects it. Next time you are driving a long distance, surprise him with a blowjob in the car (which will probably lead to some amazing car sex!) or sneak off to the bathroom at a party to give him an impromptu blowjob. He will absolutely go wild over oral sex that happens anytime, anywhere!

Give Just A Blowjob

Instead of expecting sex after giving your man head, or expecting him to return the favor, give him a blowjob just for the sake of giving him a blowjob. Make sure he has an orgasm, and leave it at that! Let him know that you just wanted to go down on him – because you enjoy it so much. He’ll be thrilled that you like to give him head just because. Don’t be surprised if he asks for a blowjob next time “just because” he wants one!

Be Enthusiastic And Make Noise

No guy wants quiet oral sex, nor does he want to feel like giving him head is a chore for you and that you don’t enjoy it. Instead, show some enthusiasm while you’re giving him fellatio and let him know how much you enjoy it by giving him a moan or groan here and there. He’ll also love hearing the wet sucking noises, so make sure there are plenty of those too!

Give Him A Show

Men are essentially visual creatures and even though a blowjob will feel great if he can’t see what is going on, he’ll like it much better if he can. If you’re lying in the bed, prop his head up on a few pillows so he can look down and see what you’re doing. Better yet, have him sit on the couch or in a chair and kneel while you do it, giving him a full visual. Make sure to make eye contact with him every now and then while you’re sucking on him – it will drive him absolutely insane!

Let Him Grab Your Head

Most women don’t like it when a man grabs their head during oral sex, and for good reason. It can be uncomfortable, especially if he grabs your hair, and it can make you gag or vomit if he pushes your head too far down on his penis. However, men really enjoy this so if you have a partner you trust completely, try this the next time you give your partner head. He will love the way it feels to be in control like that, but make sure you both communicate about a sound or gesture that means “stop.” If this is going to work, he’s going to need to stop immediately if you give him the signal.