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The 5 Hottest Oral Sex Tips On The Planet – For Her

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When giving your girl oral sex, you’re bound to rock her world no matter which techniques you use because let’s face it – almost every girl out there loves oral sex. There are, however, some oral sex techniques that will blow the rest out of the water. Just about every girl responds with earth shattering orgasms with these top 5 oral sex tips, so read on to find out how you can make your lady’s thighs quiver with pleasure.

Flick Her Clitoris With Your Tongue

Stick the tip of your tongue out and form it into the shape of a firm point. Lick your partner’s clitoris firmly from side to side (or up and down, whichever she responds to best) with the tip of your tongue, flicking it as fast as you can. This will bring her to orgasm faster than just about any other oral sex technique out there, because you’re actually stimulating the entire clitoris when you do this. The clitoris that you see on the outside of her vagina is not all there is to it – the clitoris actually runs on either side of her vulva, underneath the skin. By flicking it quickly with a firm pointed tongue, not only are you stimulating it from the outside, but the vibrations you’re creating stimulates the part that you don’t see as well.

Say Your ABC’s

If you want to take your time when going down on your partner, slowly working her up to a toe curling, sheet grabbing orgasm, use this simple yet effective technique to drive her absolutely wild. Form your tongue into a firm point and trace the tip of it over your partner’s clitoris in an “ABC” pattern. You’ll start with the letter “A”, tracing either a capital or a lowercase “A” onto her clitoris with your tongue. Do this slowly and work your way through the alphabet, all the way to the letter “Z.” This is a technique that is best performed at a slow pace, but you can also speed up how fast you trace the letters depending on what she seems to like. You can also vary your speed to bring her closer to orgasm and back down again until she just can’t hold it in anymore.

Finger Her While Licking Her Clitoris

To give her a blended orgasm, finger her while you go down on her. As you’re licking her clitoris, slowly insert your finger into her vagina palm side up. Feel for her g-spot and once you find it, use the “come hither” motion to stimulate it. Switch back and forth between licking her and fingering her, until she’s close. Then you can begin doing both techniques at once. Your partner will love having you stimulate both of her hot spots at once and her orgasm will be wall shaking!

Pinch Her Nipples

The super sensitive nerves in your partner’s nipples are connected to the pleasure nerves in her clitoris and vagina, so pinching or rubbing her nipples as you go down on her will drive her absolutely wild. To tease her, start by stimulating her nipples with your mouth and stimulating her clitoris with your fingers. After you’ve gotten her good and aroused, switch to stimulating her nipples with your hands and using your mouth where your hands used to be. She’ll love the different sensations on each of her body parts. If you can keep your balance, try fingering her g-spot as you lick her clitoris and pinch her nipples. The multiple sensations will bring her to a climax like no other!

Don’t Spare An Inch

When going down on your partner, don’t leave an inch of her vulva or vagina unexplored. This is easier if she practices good genital hygiene habits, so if she’s not super fresh beforehand, start by taking a shower with her and soaping her up first (this will also help turn her on). As you begin to lick your partner’s clitoris, don’t stop there. Move your tongue in and out of her every fold. You can even penetrate her vaginal opening with your tongue or place your entire mouth over her vulva and suck. Just use your creativity here and make sure you don’t leave anything between her legs un-licked or sucked on. When performing oral sex on a girl, many guys stick to the clitoris only, which leaves many sensitive spots unexplored. You’ll treat her to dozens of new sensations as you “go where no other has gone before.”

5 Things You Didn’t Know About Cunnilingus

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Cunnilingus is the “fancy” term for giving a woman head. It may not always be your favourite sex chore (like some women don’t like blowjobs), but it’s a worthwhile skill to learn if you want to satisfy your partner. Women expect men to go down on them during sex. And, cunnilingus has often become the only way for some women to orgasm even before actual sex.

Are Women Able To Orgasm During Cunnilingus?

Yes. Although the chance of orgasm via cunnilingus is still dependent on the man’s skill, most women can climax when they’re being eaten out compared to penetration. This has a lot to do with the way their clitoris get more attention via cunnilingus.

Is It Necessary To Touch The Clitoris When I’m Giving Her Head?

Yes. The clitoris is one of the major factors that contribute to a woman’s pleasure. But how you touch it matters. Some women have a totally exposed clitoris, especially during full arousal. It may be painful for the woman if her clitoris is rubbed directly by a dry finger so what you need to do is to lubricate your hands before you touch her there. If you’re using your tongue, make sure you start licking around her clitoris until she’s used to the sensation before licking the pink tip directly.

I Like It When A Woman Nibbles Lightly On My Member During A Blowjob, Is It The Same For Women?

Unfortunately for the natural nibblers out there, the clitoris is more sensitive than the penis and any grazing of teeth will make it sore and then numb. The penis is often exposed to fabric and the air (when you go to the bathroom to urinate), which contributes to the slight desensitization that continues daily for men. A woman’s clitoris, however, is hidden from view and protected by plump skin for protection. Exposing it to too much sensation, like biting, will only result in pain.

Do All Women Smell Down There?

A woman’s scent down there takes some getting used to, and there are a lot of men who have been traumatized by their first oral sex experience because they are not ready for the smell. Don’t immediately assume that her hygiene is poor if she smells down there, as her diet and a lot of other factors affect her chemical make up.

Some women have a more pleasant smell down there especially if they washed well before jumping into bed with you. But there is still a certain musky odor that no soap or fragrance can mask, because most of the odor comes from the love juice that spews out of her as she gets progressively aroused.

How Do I Deal With The Smell?

You can lessen the exposure to the smell by letting your fingers take charge of her vaginal hole and keeping your mouth on her clitoris. But the best solution is to suggest that you shower together so you can eat her out under running water if the smell is too overwhelming for you.

Q&A: How To Give A Better Blowjob

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It’s no secret that guys love getting a blowjob. Getting head is probably one of your guy’s favorite ways to be pleasured sexually, so you should definitely learn how to give great head if you don’t already know how. And chances are, even if you’re a blowjob pro, you could use a few tips to spice up your routine. Giving a guy head sounds simple, but there are a lot of things that girls miss when they’re going down on their guy. Here are some simple tips to help you give a better blowjob.

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Be In A Comfortable Position

Being uncomfortable is one of the main complaints that women have about going down on their guy. Many women avoid giving their guy a blowjob at all just because they can’t find a comfortable position to do it in. If you’re not in a good position while going down on your guy, you’ll find that you tire more quickly and easily, your neck will start to cramp and your jaw and hands may get tired fast. You can give much better head if you find a position in which you can be comfortable during the blowjob. The best sex positions for pleasing your guy orally are usually if you are on your knees with him either sitting or lying down.

Start By Slowly Licking Him Up And Down

Most women don’t like it when their partners perform oral sex on them and just dive right in. They’d prefer if their guys started a little slower, kissing and licking lightly before starting the real show. Guys are the same. Your man doesn’t just want you to put his whole penis in your mouth and watch you start sucking like a madwoman. He’d love to see you lick slowly up and down his penis, getting him warmed up before you start going fast and using your hands as well as your mouth.

Tongue, Mouth, Hand And Fingers

Most girls’ mouths aren’t wide or long enough to completely take in all of their partner’s penis, especially if he has a big penis or a very long or wide one. So when giving your guy oral sex, use your hands and fingers in addition to your tongue and mouth to really make the blowjob great. Since you probably can’t take him completely into your mouth when he’s erect, keep your mouth on the head (which is one of the most sensitive parts of his penis) and use your hands and fingers to caress his lower shaft and testicles. Experiencing all the different sensations your hands and mouth create during a blowjob will make it truly amazing for him!

Show Him You’re Really Into It!

Guys don’t want to see a girl giving a blowjob like it’s a chore. So show your man that you’re really into it and you’re getting something out of it too. Make eye contact with him occasionally and don’t forget to make some noise. He doesn’t want to hear only himself! You can also touch yourself during the blowjob, but do so only as you’re getting him warmed up. When he gets close, all your focus needs to be on him. If you don’t mind his hands on your head, he’d love to put them there. If you do, just let him fondle your breasts during the blowjob instead. Afterwards, let him know how much you enjoyed giving him pleasure with your mouth!

Communicate With Your Partner

There are lots of things that men enjoy when getting head, and there are a few things that will make him cringe – such as using your teeth, for one. Don’t be afraid to communicate with your partner about what he likes and what he doesn’t like when you’re giving him a blowjob, because not all guys like the same thing when recieving oral sex. If you’re too shy to ask, pay attention to his non-verbal cues instead. If he really likes something, his eyes may roll back in his head or he may start breathing faster or moaning louder. He may grasp the sheets or the arms of the chair, or he may buck his hips towards you. When that happens, just keep doing whatever you’re doing! If you stop or change to doing something different, he’ll stop exhibiting these behaviors and he’ll come right back to the real world. When you find something he really likes, whether he told you or showed you that it was great, keep doing it! Chances are, it won’t be long before he reaches orgasm.

Do Tongue Piercings Improve Oral Sex?

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You’ve probably heard that tongue piercings make make oral sex better, but is it true? How much of a difference does a tongue piercing really make when it comes to giving a blowjob or going down on a girl? Here’s the downlow on oral sex and tongue piercings and whether you should get one to please your partner.

Tongue Piercings And A Blowjob

Depending on the style of tongue ring worn, a tongue ring can definitely improve the sensations a guy feels during a blowjob. One of the most sensitive parts of a man’s penis is on the underneath, just below the head where the head meets the rest of the penis. The position of a tongue ring, even just one with a small ball on the top of the barbell is perfect for titillating this most sensitive spot and can really drive a man wild. Of course, the tongue ring will also stimulate other parts of the penis as well, and can provide tons of new sensations than just the tongue alone can. Other styles of tongue rings can be worn to create different sensations, such as “doorknocker” style tongue rings. These consist of a ring attached to the top ball of the tongue ring and the ring can move freely in a variety of ways. However, with the right skill set, a woman with or without a tongue ring can blow her partner’s mind during a blowjob!

Tongue Piercings And Cunnilingus

Tongue rings also have the potential to improve cunnilingus when a guy has his tongue pierced. During oral sex, the tongue ring will move around with the tongue, stimulating different parts of the vulva such as the clitoris while the tip of the tongue is stimulating an entirely different place. A man can use a tongue ring to drive his partner wild and give her incredible orgasms, even if he’s not schooled on how best to give a woman an orgasm through cunnilingus. There are many styles of tongue rings that are great for going down on a girl, however, the most interesting and titillating is the vibrating tongue ring. There are many tongue rings available that have a small vibrator attached to the top ball of the tongue ring and will vibrate as you lick your partner’s clitoris! Many women have trouble reaching orgasm through oral sex alone, however, a vibrating tongue ring can definitely put an end to that!

Should You Get A Tongue Piercing?

While there are many benefits that a tongue ring can bring to the bedroom, there are also risks involved as with any body modification, such as with genital piercings. Tongue piercings can get infected and cause major problems, and can also chip the backside of your teeth and reduce your gum line. Fortunately, piercings are removable and non-permanent so getting a piercing for your partner isn’t quite the committment getting their name tattooed on you would be. However, make sure you’re willing to go through the pain, swelling and healing period that comes with a tongue piercing and that you’re willing to take proper care of your piercing and keep it clean and infection free. Find a reputable, sterile piercing studio that has experience with tongue piercings and never, ever try to pierce your tongue yourself.

Q&A: Oral Sex – How Do I Get Him To Go Down On Me?

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Girls love oral sex just as much as a guy loves blowjobs. But many guys don’t give their partners as much oral sex as they would like! If you’re really into receiving oral sex from him but only find yourself on the giving end, here’s how to get your partner to go down on YOU as much as you go down on him!

Question: I have a question that I can’t ever seem to find an answer to. I always hear advice like “how to get her to go down on you more.” But what I want to know is how do I get HIM to go down on ME more?

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Ask Him!

Your partner may not be aware that you really love getting oral sex. He may think you love giving head more! So tell him point blank that you really enjoy it and want him to do it. Some guys need straightforward information to get a clue that you’re really into something or really want to try something. If you’re a little shy about asking him, hint around at it. Tell him how much you love the idea of oral sex period, for both men and women. Watch a sexy movie together and when a guy goes down on a girl, tell him how hot it gets you.

Find Out Why He Doesn’t Like It

There are many reasons why some guys don’t like oral sex. Find out what his reason is! Does it hurt his neck? Would sitting on a pillow or using a different position help? Or is he more receptive to trying simultaneous oral sex, better known as the sixty nine position? Find out why he doesn’t like it or isn’t doing it – without being critical towards him – and try to remedy those issues. If you’re critical towards him when he’s being open with you about why he doesn’t like giving oral sex, he’ll shut down and any chance you have of getting him to do it will fly out the window.

Hygiene And Body Chemistry

Hygiene is one of the biggest reasons guys don’t like giving oral sex. He may have had a bad experience before where smell and taste is concerned, and he may think that all girls are like that. Make sure you are clean, up to the point of taking a shower right before having oral sex. Keep an eye out for things like yeast or bacterial infections that can upset the natural pH of the vagina and cause things like odor and discharge. If pubic hair is an issue for him, consider trimming or shaving completely. It also may be a body chemistry thing. His semen has a certain taste to it, and so do your vaginal secretions. Your particular taste may not be something that jives with his own chemistry and it may not taste good to him no matter how clean you are. Body chemistry mismatches happen more often than people think. Try eating some sweet fruit like pineapple or strawberries to make your secretions taste sweeter, and avoid things like cabbage, garlic, onions or other strong foods.