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Why Men Love Oral Sex

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Using your mouth to give pleasure is one of the most intimate aspects of sex. Some women are better at it than others. But one thing’s for sure: men love giving and receiving oral sex.

Why Men Love Giving Oral Sex

Cunnilingus is one of the best ways to make a woman climax. In fact, some men would argue that it is the only way to make a girl climax. This type of intimate kissing is sexy, arousing and extremely gratifying. Men enjoy the benefit of wielding power just by controlling the tide of a woman’s orgasm.

When a man goes down on you, he’s exploring the seat of your femininity. He’s amazed at how different you are from him, and honoured that you trust him enough to grant access to your secret lips. Although some men would rather receive than give oral sex, there’s no denying that oral sex on a woman is one of the things that all men should excel at.

Why Men Love Receiving Oral Sex

Men like receiving intimate kisses, especially from a woman who knows how. They like it when a woman uses her lips, tongue and hands down there. Even if the woman shows mediocre skills, any man will appreciate the fact that she is willing to explore his manhood and that she is eager to provide one-way pleasure by performing oral sex on him.

The role of a blowjob in sexual power play is ambiguous. On one hand, it is a man’s way of saying “you’re in charge.” A woman can thus proceed to use his tool to manipulate his reactions, all the while pleasuring herself with her fingers or a dildo.

On the other hand, it is also a way for a man to feel more powerful during sex. It’s no secret that men feel like kings when a girl performs this “service.” They can lie back and take all the pleasure they want.

I guess it depends on the man you’re with and his personality. You can ask a guy you’re thinking of going out with, “what does a blowjob mean to you?” and you will be able to discover at once what kind of lover he is.

Anal Play During A Blowjob

Some men enjoy being touched on the anal region while a woman is exploring his manhood. It’s just natural that a woman’s lips and fingers stray to that area since it’s so close by. However, there are men who dislike being touched there because of the connection between the anal region and homosexuality.

One thing I noticed is that the men who are completely comfortable with their masculinity tend to love anal play more than those who are not entirely convinced that a finger or two in their anal hole doesn’t have anything to do with being a homosexual.

How to Give Your Man Pleasure Via Oral Sex

The best advice I can give you is to simply observe his reactions while you’re giving him great head. Look for feedback and create your blowjob style according to what makes him happy.

Q&A: What Does Sperm Taste Like?

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When giving a blowjob, you know eventually the inevitable will happen. Your man will have an orgasm and you’ll have semen in your mouth. Many people are weirded out by the idea of sperm in their mouth, especially if they’ve heard horror stories from their girlfriends. So what does sperm really taste like, and is it harmful to swallow it?

Question: What does sperm taste like? Is it okay to swallow it? If so, can it do any harm?

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What Affects The Taste Of Sperm

Not all sperm is equal. Every man’s semen tastes different and it may even have a different texture or an aftertaste too. There are a great deal of things that affect the flavor of a man’s ejaculate, from what they eat to how healthy they are. Smoking, drinking and doing drugs or taking prescription medications are often said to give semen a bad, bitter taste, while the semen of healthy men is said to taste cleaner. Just think about it this way – whatever you put into your body is coming out, via sweat, urine and yes, semen. Eating fresh fruits and vegetables is a great way to improve the taste of your semen, and many people report that pineapples and pineapple juice can make ejaculate taste exceptionally sweet.

What Do You Like?

Not only does every man’s semen taste different from each other, each woman has her own flavor preferences as well. Some women can’t stand the texture of semen, regardless of the taste while other women love the taste of semen and can’t seem to get enough of it. You may have preferred the taste of an ex-boyfriend’s semen while your current beau’s just doesn’t do it for you or vice versa. One woman may report that one man’s semen tastes good, while another women can report that the same man’s semen is very bitter and has a bad taste to it. It’s difficult to give semen a solid thumbs up or thumbs down as far as taste is concerned, because there are so many different variables to consider. It’s perfectly normal to want him to finish in your mouth or to dislike it, or even to like one man’s semen but not another’s. You just like what you like!

It’s Ok To Swallow

Swallowing semen is not harmful in and of itself, provided something extraordinary doesn’t happen such as choking on it, etc. Some people even report that semen is good for you, as it contains a great deal of protein. The taste of semen and whether to spit or swallow is a personal choice, because neither will have any harmful side effects. Never do something that makes you uncomfortable, regardless of how much your partner wants it, and if you don’t want to swallow that’s all there is to it. Just don’t. If swallowing is something that turns you on and it’s something you enjoy doing, go for it! Just remember that semen can and will carry sexually transmitted diseases if a person is infected, which can easily spread to you if you swallow the ejaculate. If you really want to swallow, make sure you’re being safe and your partner has passed an STD test first.

Q&A: My Girlfriend Doesn’t Want Oral Sex

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Oral sex is one of the greatest sexual gifts that someone can give another person because you’re focusing only on their pleasure and theirs alone. Many people enjoy the feeling oral sex more than penetration and intercourse, but what do you do if your partner doesn’t want to give or receive oral sex?

Question: My girlfriend & I are extremely happy with each other, but she is extremely against oral sex, she refuses to give me blow jobs and “doesn’t need” me to give her oral pleasure. Is there a way to make this work, because I’ve never had oral sex given to me or vise-versa. She said she would maybe possibly consider it while she is drunk, but that is honestly worthless to me because I want it to mean something.

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Oral Sex And Hygiene

Many people who have issues with oral sex don’t necessarily have issues with performing oral sex itself, but rather, they have issues with hygiene. They may have had a bad experience before where they performed oral sex on someone and didn’t like the way it tasted or smelled. Fortunately, hygiene issues are fixable. Make sure that you are always clean and showered, use deodorant and cologne if she likes it. Keep your genital area clean and trimmed, and if you’re uncircumcised, make sure you clean underneath the foreskin. Encourage her to lick or kiss around your thighs and tummy. When she gets close enough, she’ll know that you’re clean and fresh and may feel more comfortable with oral sex.

Getting Comfortable With Oral Sex

For a woman, being on the receiving end of cunnilingus can be emotionally uncomfortable. Essentially, she has to open herself up physically and emotionally to you, allowing you to be face to face with her most intimate and sensitive parts. This is enough to make any woman uncomfortable and it may be the reason she wants to get drunk first. If you want to perform oral sex on your partner, the first thing you need to do is get her relaxed. Draw her a hot bath, give her a massage and kiss and lick in that general area to see how she responds. Go slow and don’t rush her.

Communicate With Your Partner

An aversion to oral sex isn’t always what it seems on the surface. She may have some deep rooted issues about oral sex that makes her feel the way she does about it, such as abuse. These emotional roots may go deeper than either you or her expect, and she may not even remember why she started not liking oral sex to begin with. Communicate with her and talk about why she doesn’t feel comfortable with getting or giving oral sex. Just listen to her, and find out where her boundaries are. Don’t criticise her, and allow her to open up and feel that you are there for her. This in and of itself may be what it takes to get her to feel like you are trustworthy enough to experience oral sex with! Just remember never to push her or make her do something she doesn’t want to do.

Q&A: How Can I Get Her To Let Me Finish In Her Mouth?

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It’s no secret that guys absolutely love blowjobs. In fact, many men would prefer getting a blowjob to having sex. Some women, however, don’t like giving men oral sex and especially don’t like the idea of swallowing semen when he has an orgasm. Is there any way to get a girl turned on by the idea of giving her man oral sex?

Question: Hello, I am 32 and been with my girlfriend for 9 years. In the past, we have had oral sex a lot and in the past 4 years it has went downhill at 65 mph. She would rather stroke it off or just have sex. She on the other hand loves receiving oral sex. How can I get her to give me oral and finish the job? She doesn’t like the taste, and the thought of it makes her sick. I crave it very badly!

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Improving The Taste Of Your Semen

The biggest complaint that women have about giving oral sex is that they don’t like the taste of semen. Some men’s semen is bitter, or too salty, and just doesn’t taste good going down. If your partner has no problem with the temperature or texture of semen – only the taste of it – there are some ways you can improve the taste of your ejaculate. Start by eliminating toxins such as alcohol and cigarettes if you smoke, and add lots of vegetables and fruits to your diet. Pineapple juice or fresh pineapple is a great way to quickly make your semen taste sweeter. You can try to compromise with your partner and let her know that you’re doing things to improve the taste of your ejaculate and ask her if she’ll try again.

Don’t Pressure Her

Many women don’t like the temperature or texture of semen, and no amount of fresh pineapple will change that. If your partner really doesn’t like the idea of you finishing in her mouth and swallowing your ejaculate, don’t pressure her. There are just some things that many women won’t do, and swallowing is one of them. Don’t make a big deal out of it, because you may end up getting cut off from getting a blowjob all together, if that hasn’t already happened. If your partner has made it clear that letting you finish in her mouth is just something she’s not willing to do, pressing the issue could do damage to your relationship both sexually and emotionally. It’s important that on this issue, you respect her wishes if you can’t reach a compromise with her.

Trying Different Things

There are many different things you and your partner can do in the bedroom to satisfy each other sexually. If you are uncomfortable doing something or your partner is, make an effort to find something else that you both like to do and can agree on. Try incorporating role play, light bondage or sex toys into the bedroom to heat things up, or take a break from sex all together for awhile – called “sex detox” – to help restart your engines. Don’t give up on finding new ways to please your partner and receive pleasure yourself , because there is always something new to try!

How To Improve The Taste Of Your Semen

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Many guys get really turned on by the idea of their partner swallowing their semen. Many women, however, don’t enjoy swallowing due to the taste of their partner’s semen. Is there a way to improve the taste and quality of your sperm? Here’s what you can do to make your semen taste better, and entice your partner to swallow.

What Is Semen Made Of?

Even though there are millions of sperm in a tablespoon of semen, sperm only comprises about 1% of ejaculate overall. Semen is mostly made up of proteins, water, salts, sugars and cholesterol. These are all things that allow sperm to travel and stay healthy. Since most of the sugars, proteins and salts in the rest of our bodies comes from what we eat, it makes sense that what you eat plays a big part in how your semen looks, tastes and feels. You can improve the taste, color and texture of your semen by changing your diet.

Avoiding Toxins

Toxins such as alcohol, caffeine and nicotine can all flavor your semen in negative ways. The body rids toxins in any way that it can, through urine, sweat and even ejaculation. Medications and other drugs, such as marijuana, can also flavor your semen and make it saltier or cause it to have a bitter aftertaste. Ridding your body of these toxins is the first step in sweeter, better tasting sperm.

Eating Right

Eating a good amount of fiber, protein and vegetables is a great way to start improving the taste of your semen. The best way to actually flavor your semen is with fresh fruits, especially pineapple. Any fruit will help your sperm become sweeter, including apples, cherries, pears, grapes and more. Even fresh fruit juices will help and can often be more convenient than eating whole fruits. Avoid eating vegetables that cause gas, such as cabbage, broccoli and cauliflower as this will cause your semen to taste more bitter. Vegetables such as celery and wheatgrass can improve the taste of your semen, as well as herbs such as cinnamon. Also, remember to drink plenty of water to keep your body flushed out and hydrated. Eat as healthy and natural as you can, because even the preservatives in products like chips, candy and frozen foods can make semen taste bitter.

Exercise

Exercise is an important part of sexual health, and your overall health and fitness also plays a part in how your sperm tastes. Make sure to get enough exercise in addition to a healthy diet. Frequent sex or masturbation can also help keep your semen in good condition, as new sperm and semen are being made on a regular basis. If you take one or more steps to help improve the taste and quality of your semen, your partner may be more willing to try swallowing after going down on you and may be more comfortable with the taste of your sperm. Try eating well and exercising for a week or two before asking your partner to swallow after a blowjob again – give your body enough time to flush out the toxins and absorb the nutrients you’re putting into it.