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Best Blowjob Tips Of 2009

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Men love getting a blowjob. It’s a fact – some men even enjoy blowjobs or getting head more than they enjoy sex! Many women know how to give great fellatio – but many still don’t! If you want to get your man wrapped around your little finger, the secret is giving him amazing head – but it’s not all about technique! In fact, many women make blowjob mistakes or fail to do the few crucial things that make getting head so great for a guy! If you want to give your guy the ultimate blowjob, check out our favorite blowjob articles of 2009 so you can get a “head” start on 2010!

Blowjob Tip #2 – She’s In Charge, Here’s Why…

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If you’re learning how to give a great blowjob, one of the best tips you can employ is being in charge and being confident of your abilities to give great head. Even if you’re new at it, being in charge can be pleasurable for both you and your partner. Here’s why!

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Why It’s Good For Him

Since most men take control during sex and even during a blowjob, logically, it doesn’t make sense that they would want to give up control, does it? But get this – most men take control during sex because they have no choice. Many women don’t know how to enjoy themselves during sex and end up lying there, making the man do all the work if he wants anything to happen. Guys are actually aching to give up control! What better way to get pleasure than to have a woman worship your penis and be completely devoted to giving you pleasure? It’s awesome! He loves it when you take control, let him lie back and enjoy the ride.

Why It’s Good For You

Taking charge when giving head is good for you because you get to do what you want to do. Don’t like a certain position? Try another one. Getting a jaw cramp? Switch to using your hand for a little while. Deep throating make you gag? Lick it like a lollipop instead. Of course you want to take his verbal and non-verbal feedback into account when using different techniques and do what he likes best, but you want to be comfortable and enjoy giving him head as much as he enjoys getting it.

Why You Need To Be Confident

It’s important to be confident – or at least appear that way – when you’re going down on your guy. Nothing ruins a great blowjob than a passive girl asking, “Am I doing this right?” or “Did I do something wrong?” Sure, you want to ask your man questions. But you want to use positive, confident phrases that assert your control, such as “Do you like this?” or “Does this feel good?” or even, “Tell me what feels good.” Your demeanor can actually make all the difference during fellatio. You want your man to relax and let go, feeling good about leaving you in the driver’s seat. Who wants to enjoy the ride with a driver who’s constantly worried they’ll wreck and asking you if they’re hitting the brakes right or accelerating properly?

A blowjob works much the same way – a guy just wants to know that you know what you’re doing (or at least perceive that you know what you’re doing) and get lost in the feeling of getting great head. So be confident and take charge! You’ll both like blowjobs a lot better if you do.

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Blowjob Tip #1 – Why It’s a Gift, Not an Obligation

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Men love to get blowjobs – in fact, many men prefer getting oral sex to vaginal intercourse and sometimes, it’s their favorite type of stimulation of all time. Naturally, women who want to please their partners want to find out the best blowjob tips and advice so they can be an oral sex master – here’s what you want to know on how to give the best blowjob!

Oral sex is one of the most intimate gifts we can give one another. When a woman gives a man oral or manual stimulation, you are giving him a very special gift. That means you’re in charge! Here are some tips to make the experience more pleasurable for both of you.

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The Greatest Sexual Gift

When a man gives a woman oral sex, he does what he thinks will make her feel good. When a woman gives a man oral sex, she let’s him take the reins and shows her how he likes it, even to the point of physically manipulating her to maximize his own pleasure. Not only can this be uncomfortable for a woman, it doesn’t allow her to give head as a “gift” to her partner. One of the great things about oral sex is that it’s one of the best sexual gifts you can give. Since oral sex provides the giving partner no physical stimulation whatsoever, the focus is totally on the receiving partner and their pleasure. So to give oral sex to someone means you’re focusing on their pleasure and their pleasure alone. When a man takes the reins when she’s giving him a blowjob, that takes away from the fact that she’s “giving” him a sexual gift, making her feel more used than treasured.

Women In The Driver’s Seat

If you’re going to go down on him, it’s time to sit in the driver’s seat. Let your partner know that you’re in control and that you’re giving him the gift of oral sex – so he just needs to sit back and enjoy it! Blindfold him and tie his hands behind his back if you have to (which can, of course, add to the fun) but it’s important that he doesn’t try to take control while you’re giving him oral sex. If he’s not the submissive type, it may be an adjustment, but in the long run, allowing you to enjoy giving him the gift of oral sex – instead of making it an obligation or making you feel used – will give him more pleasure. He’ll like watching you enjoy it and he’ll get blowjobs more often!

Listen To His Feedback

It’s essential that you listen to his verbal and non-verbal feedback when you’re giving your partner fellatio. While you get to pleasure him how you’d like, listening to what makes him feel good is important. For example, if he lets you know verbally what he likes, make sure you incorporate that into your blowjob routine. You can also listen to your partner’s non-verbal feedback. For example, if your partner is quiet or doesn’t seem to be getting into it, change what you’re doing. If your partner starts making noise and showing that he’s really enjoying what you’re doing, keep doing what you’re doing! Otherwise, your partner should lie back, relax and enjoy your oral sex gift!

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3 Oral Sex Tips That Will Drive Her Wild

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Every man wants to be able to give his partner orgasms that will simply drive her wild and have her begging for more. How can you make her toes curl in the bedroom and forget everything but what you’re doing to her and how close she is to having an orgasm?

These three tried and true tips from Daniel Rose’s Sex God Method will teach you the most simple and basic techniques that will have the biggest impact.

Every wish you could last longer in bed? Is it all over too fast? These proven tips are guaranteed to help you last longer in bed!

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Preheat The Oven

The biggest complaint that women have about oral sex is that their partners just dive right in, without any foreplay. Technically, oral sex is considered foreplay to the main event, but it’s important to have a little smaller foreplay before getting into oral sex with a woman. A woman isn’t like a blowtorch – she doesn’t fire up as soon as you hit the button. Women are more like ovens – it takes them time to preheat before they’re ready to bake. If you want to give your girlfriend the most amazing oral sex she’s ever had, take some time to kiss her body, nibble her thighs and really work up to going down on her before you start going for the gold.

Be A DJ

Another complaint that women have about oral sex is that their partners start out too fast, even if they’ve had a little pre-oral sex foreplay to warm them up. Once you’ve completed step one, you’re work isn’t done yet – you’re still not ready to dive right in. Pretend you’re a DJ at a night club – you want to play slower tempo music as the people are arriving, and then really get into the jams once the people are ready to party. Oral sex is the same way – play some softer “music” while beginning to go down on your partner, with slow licking and soft kissing. When she’s heated up, feel free to rock out with your cock out (no pun intended)!

Slow And Steady Wins The Race

Well, that doesn’t necessarily mean you have to actually be slow (although she may like that) but the idea is “steady.” As your partner gets more and more heated up and is ready to approach climax, stay steady. Don’t change what you’re doing – women hate that! It takes a great maneuver to be repeated over and over to bring a girl to orgasm through oral sex, so once you find that sweet technique, simply stick with it. You’ll hear how her responses turn from tickled gasps to breathtaking screams as she gets closer and closer to orgasm.

Part of giving your girl a great orgasm through oral sex is experimenting with different techniques and communicating with your partner about which techniques work better and which ones don’t. Don’t be afraid to let each other know what you like and don’t like – that’s truly the key to absolutely, positively mind blowing sex! The other trick to giving your girl a mind blowing orgasm through oral sex is to act like you want it – not that it’s a chore. If you really want to go down on her, let her know how much!

Blowjob Tip: How To Make Her Want To Give You More Oral Sex

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Men want blowjobs – it’s a fact of life. Some women enjoy giving blowjobs, but others don’t. What if you’re a guy with a gal who you wish would give you more oral sex? Does she not do it enough? Does she not do it at all? Either way, you wish she would go down on you more. How do you get her to want to give you head?

Most guys just wish there girl would give them more oral sex – call it a blow job, giving head, or going down on him – fact is there are a lot of women out there who just don’t do it. Here are some things that you can do to actually help her enjoy the process so that she’ll want to do it more. Come on… You’ve just got to give a little to get a lot!

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Getting Her To Want It

That’s the key statement right there – getting her to want to give you a blowjob. There’s nothing that turns a woman off more than a man who wants to “make” her give him oral sex. Have you pressured your woman into giving you a blowjob? Have you tried to make her do something she doesn’t want to do? We bet you didn’t get very far, did you? The trick is to help her to want to give you oral sex. Pressuring her to do it, or complaining or whining about how you don’t get enough oral sex…well, that’s just not going to get you very far.

Lead By Example

The best way to get your partner to give you good oral sex is to give her good oral sex first! There’s nothing more giving than a satisfied woman, and if you give her the orgasm of her life by going down on her, it’s only natural that she’ll want to return the favor. Read a few female orgasm tips to help you get in the mood to give her oral sex, and try some of the new, fun techniques that she’s never experienced before. She’ll be putty in your hands before too long! After you’ve given her excellent oral sex, relax and let her take the bull by the horns.

Make Blowjobs For You Fun For Her Too

A woman won’t give a blowjob twice if it’s not good for her too. That doesn’t necessarily mean pleasuring her while she’s pleasuring you (although that’s not a bad idea sometimes), but it does mean that you have to make giving you a blowjob less like a chore and more like something fun for her to do to pleasure you. Make sure you’re clean – a sweaty, smelly penis is no fun to go down on. Trim if you’re hairy, or shave if you want to give her a real surprise. The best way to make a blowjob fun for her is to let her know how crazy she’s making you! Give lots of good feedback. Before she gives you a blowjob, make sure to tell her how excited you are that she’s going to do it, and how much it turns you on to think of her giving you head.

While she’s going down on you, give her plenty of verbal and non-verbal feedback, such as groaning, shifting your hips, grabbing her head (if she likes that) and really getting into it. Don’t fake it – she’ll be able to tell. Just let yourself go in a way that you might normally do. After the blowjob, make sure to tell her how good it was for you, how much you love her and how happy she made you. She’ll definitely want to do it again!