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3 Things All Men Need To Know About The Female Orgasm

By loveandsex

Fortunately for women, gone are the days when it is commonplace for them to have sex and not reach an orgasm. As sex experts have started delving deeper into female sexuality, there has been more awareness about what female orgasm is all about.

Today, women reach orgasms as often as men ejaculate – and they’re even luckier in the sense that they are capable of achieving multiple orgasms.

A Quick Look At What Happens When A Woman Reaches Orgasm

First, let us take a look at exactly what happens when a woman reaches an orgasm. This, of course, is entirely for a man’s perspective. Just imagine what happens to your body as you ejaculate. There’s basically a tightening in your balls and an almost liquid feeling climbing up your spine when you’re close to coming. This sexual experience is very similar to what a woman goes through during a female orgasm.

For a woman, reaching orgasm involves a sensation like no other, wherein excitement slowly builds up until such a point that her vagina ‘surges’ and contracts almost every second. That throb of pleasure that you feel once you ejaculate is similar to the feeling of a woman reaching an orgasm – minus the production of fluid.

And you’ll be glad to know that some women are capable of reaching multiple orgasm if they so desire and if you’re that good of a lover. So it’s perfectly fine to ‘tune her up’ first by letting her reach an orgasm through oral sex first – and then joining in on the action as you penetrate her later on. At that point, she’ll be primed and ready again for her second, third or even fourth orgasm!

Myths About Female Orgasm

Despite being in sexually liberated times, there are still myths about female orgasm which persist until today.

First, there’s the myth that there is something wrong with a woman if she cannot have an earth-shattering orgasm. This is not true at all, because most women have orgasms without them being aware of it. In every sexual contact, they will reach a peak of arousal which is the same as having the feeling of reaching orgasm.

Another persistent myth is that ‘normal’ women can reach orgasm during intercourse. However, a large percentage of the female population cannot reach female orgasm this way. Instead, they can achieve it through a combination of intercourse and oral stimulation – or even by oral stimulation alone.

3 Things That Men Need To Know About Female Orgasm

Now, here are the three things that every man should know about female orgasm:

1. If it takes men two to five minutes of direct stimulation to have an orgasm, the average female needs about 20 minutes of direct stimulation.

So the moral of the story is that you should be patient, prime her up and try to hold off your own pleasure for as long as you can. This is especially true for women who have problems producing natural lubrication. If you want to reach the point of no return together, giver her at least a 20-minute head start.

2. Women also experience the equivalent of ‘blue balls’.

You already know what blue balls mean – but you probably didn’t know that women experience an equivalent of this, too. Once she gets extremely turned on, the clitoris becomes engorged with blood. If this is not released through an orgasm, she will experience the same level of discomfort that you feel in your penis once your sexual tension isn’t released.

So when you’re going down on her, for example, help build up the tension through stimulation so that she will reach that explosion of release – which is already the female orgasm.

3. Aside from the obvious perks of reaching a female orgasm, there are also health benefits which are in it for them.

Let’s say that women needed another reason for reaching an orgasm besides its being extremely pleasurable. Its health benefits include being less sensitive to pain, relief in menstrual cramps and it also alleviates stress.

There you have it – the top three female orgasm facts that men need to know about. So what are you waiting for? Sharpen your sexual techniques now so that you can give that special woman in your life a female orgasm that she’s not bound to forget!

Filed Under: Orgasm Tagged With: female orgasm, orgasm, sex tips

Women: How To Have More Orgasms

By loveandsex

It’s a fact; women tend to need more time to reach orgasm.

During the few times you’ve managed to reach a climax with your lover, it felt GREAT, right?

So why not apply a few tactics to guarantee the process to bliss? How? Easy. Just learn MORE regarding your own body. The more you know about what makes you tic sexually, the sooner your climax will be. I asked a few sexuality experts to help us out and following are their wonderful tips. Try them all and figure out which one works best for you. Who knows, they may ALL work for you.

Self-Pleasuring 101

Firstly, engage a little ALONE time naked. As you stimulate yourself, concentrate to the state of your mind and how your body reacts up until you reach your climax. Later, when you are with your man, try to re-create these moves.

It’s also imperative to develop an exciting mood. The idea is to establish a scenario that supports a very sexy mindset. For example, sure, you may know what ‘moves’ to apply to induce orgasm but if you open your eyes and see clutter all around, that will zap your sexual mood. Try soft pillows, scented candles, and soft, romantic music. Find out what ambiance works for you and go about ‘staging it’.

Create A Mental Sex Picture

When it comes to sex, men are visual creatures, whereas females are more mental ones. To put it in simple terms, we women like to be ‘sexed up’ up down there before he even makes a move. So to help you reach your orgasm sooner during sex, think of all the hot and sexy things he’s going to do to you (or that you want him to do) tonight. Paint a sexy mental picture and you’ll find that you will be twice more excited as he actually goes about doing the deed.

If visualization is not enough, don’t be afraid to engage in a little self-pleasuring. However, you should NOT reach a climax. Just make things hot – but not too hot – for yourself. When you make love with your partner, your body will instinctively start from where you left off earlier, making orgasm within easy reach.

Sure-Fire Orgasmic Sexual Positions

Females have two major sexual key points: the clitoris and the G-spot. The G-spot, or the Grafenberg spot, is located about 2-3 inches up the front of your vaginal wall. And one of the best ways to locate this spot is to insert your (or his!) index and middle fingers, palm up, inside you and search for a slight bump (like the clitoris, the G-Spot gets engorged when stimulated). So it makes sense that the straight road to orgasm is to stimulate both these sex zones simultaneously!

For instant stimulation of both these areas, woman-on-top seems to be the winning position. This is because in this position, you get to control the angle by which his penis hits your G-spot, the depth of penetration, and other factors.

Now, I did say double stimulation, right? So for your clitoris, give it the attention it deserves by grinding your front against his body. Be sure to try various speeds and movements. For instance, make your hips grind against him in a circular fashion rather than going up and down. This way, you get to stimulate the clitoris as you move up, and his penis gets to hit your g-spot as you move down.

Of course, there’s also the doggy-style position. In this position, his penis is angled almost dead on your G-spot!

If he’s gifted in the size department down there, he may even hit your A-spot, a place some scientists think is capable of producing mind-numbing orgasms too. At the very least, going on all fours enables you to NOT face your lover if you’re the shy type.

If you want to increase the pleasure you feel, you can also squeeze your pubococcygeus (PC) muscles (the ones you use when you try to stem the flow of your urine) during sex. By squeezing these muscles, you are pulling your clitoris and vagina inwards, increasing the level of friction against them as he thrusts.

How to Maximize Your Pleasure

A woman’s body has many sexual secrets. There are a lot of erotic nooks and crannies. The key is to be able to stimulate as many hot buttons as possible at any given time.

For instance, I just love it when my man goes all oral on me. But when he reaches upwards too to fondle my erect nipples as his tongue does his magic down there, I get to the Big O faster than I can blink!

You can also try the ‘reverse cow girl’ position, where you go on top of him but are facing his feet. This position enables you to have your G-spot stimulated by his penis… while your hands are busy stimulating your C-spot at the front. And of course, encourage to multi-task too! Whatever position, tell him to touch, caress, lick and rub anywhere!

Gadgets to Speed Up the Big O

Sometimes, a few sex toys increase the pace to a mind-blowing orgasm. For instance, too much thrusting can make your vagina a tad dry so why not use a bit of lubricant so that everything flows (pun intended) smoothly?

Also, why not experiment with some sex gadgets? For instance, whip out the vibrator and really give your clit a titillating time. If you think this will offend your lover then just slip on a ‘finger vibrator’ on him, which will help, rather than replace, his stimulating moves. For his pleasure, why not put on a penis ring? There’s also buzz toys that you can place between your bodies to give you both a tingly feeling each time you grind against each other.

Orgasmic timing is always a bone of contention between males and females. Bridge that climactic gap by finding ways to speed up yours. It’s a win-win situation so go for it!

Filed Under: Orgasm Tagged With: clitoris, female orgasm, g spot, orgasm, sex tips

How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms…

By loveandsex

To All Men Who Are Frustrated With Their Sex Lives…

I have a simple question for you…

Do you get enough sex to REALLY make you feel like a man? Are you satisfied with how often you get it?

I mean, you work all damn day taking care of the things you need to do and all you want is a little “R & R” to ease the frustration, if you know what I mean. I bet you’ve gone for weeks and maybe even months without having sex with your wife or girlfriend.

It’s harmful to your well-being and could put a serious strain on your relationship. Before you know it, you’ll be looking for someone else or she will.

You can prevent it from ever happening!

Look, if you simply want to learn how to give your girl an orgasm, there’s plenty of information out there. But if you want to learn how to get her to have sex more often, then this may be the most important thing you’ll ever read.

So Where Did You Say You Got Your Sex Education Again?

If you think sex is just insert, repeat and complete, you’re shamelessly wrong. Truth of the matter is, most guys don’t have a clue about having sex, because most men simply aren’t getting a quality sexual education.

If you wanted to be a plumber, you simply go to a trade school, graduate, and *POOF* – you’re a plumber! Why can’t it be that simple when it comes to becoming an excellent, satisfying lover?

Unfortunately, most of us learn about sex as we go and never really know the true ways of satisfying a woman.

So This Makes Me Wonder… Is Your Lady Getting What She Needs?

I know it sucks not to be able to give your woman an orgasm. But that’s only half the story!

I mean, it’s easy for guys to get sexual pleasure when we’re with a woman.  Whether it’s through oral sex, a hand job, or straight-up intercourse, it’s easy for women to give men orgasms.

But when it comes time for us to return the favor and try to give her an orgasm, that’s where most men fail…and you know what? It’s no surprise…

Check out these startling facts, and see if any of these apply to you:

  • 70% of women have NEVER had an orgasm with a man.
  • 60% of married women will cheat on their husbands.  Why? There are many reasons, but I bet one of them is because they’re looking for sexual satisfaction that you can’t provide.
  • 25% of men will get turned down by their own lovers over half the time.  These men have women who think sex is a chore.
  • Nearly 50% of men have partners that will NEVER ask for sex (would you ask for something that doesn’t give you any pleasure?)
  • 92% of women will FAKE ORGASMS just to “get it over with”.  It’s obvious that what most men are doing simply isn’t working.

And, over time, after many “failed attempts” at trying to give your woman an orgasm, you’ll probably even hear her saying things like:

  • “I’m too tired”
  • “Not right now”
  • “I’ve had a long day”
  • “Not tonight… I have a headache” or…
  • “I just don’t want to have sex”

Have you experienced any of the above in your lifetime? Have you been turned down by your girlfriend or wife, because you wanted to have sex and she didn’t? Has she ever told you any of the excuses, cheated on you, or even faked an orgasm just to get it over with?

There are a lot of men out there who are frustrated with their sex lives.  But it’s not like we’re special; women are frustrated with their sex lives too (you can probably remember that most women go through their entire life without experiencing one single orgasm).

And you know what?

It’s not right for women to go through life without experiencing an orgasm… And it’s up to us men to do something about it! So, for all the men and women in the world who are frustrated with their sex lives…

The Solution To Your Sex-Deprived Problem

An easy to read, step-by-step system on how to give an orgasm to any woman and bring her coming back for more and more!

The Female Orgasm Black Book

The Female Orgasm Black Book is for men and women, but it is especially valuable for caring boyfriends and husbands who want a no-nonsense, step-by-step plan for bringing explosive sexual pleasures to their partners so they can get more for themselves (what a sacrifice, right?).

The “Black Book” explains the female orgasm, A-to-Z, with sex tips, checklists and examples of “orgasm routines” you can use to bring your partner to an orgasm (or multiple orgasms).

In doing so, you are placing a bookmark into her mind to come back soon and continue with the never-ending novel of joy, passion and love.

That IS what you want, right?

This guide alone could save you hundreds of hours and thousands of dollars in untold frustrations that you (and your partner) could never measure, and that you could never forget.

You obviously care about your relationship, but think about how much it is worth to you to keep her from leaving you because you couldn’t keep her sexually satisfied and given her an orgasm? And if you’re reading this, none of those dates and gifts has gotten you to a point where… You can give her the gift of an orgasm!

She might think you’re a good “boyfriend” or “husband”, but is she having orgasms like you are, and thinking about having sex with you all the time? For less than the price of a decent movie and dinner date, you can have The Female Orgasm Black Book.

Download The Female Orgasm Black Book

Plus with the Black Book, you’ll also get some pretty cool bonuses…

Female Orgasm Black Book: Quick Start Guide – This guide is specifically designed to ensure that you avoid the “deer in the headlights” stage. Yes, the Female Orgasm Black Book is big and meaty. but this Quick Start Guide will give you the solid plan that will move you through the course quickly and efficiently.
Special Report #1: Oral Sex Secrets – This is a manual filled with oral sex techniques.  Licking, grinds, and other oral sex tricks!
Special Report #2: Advance Fingering Techniques – I describe some fingering techniques in the Female Orgasm Black Book, but once you get the hang of those, you can move onto the ADVANCE fingering techniques described in this report!
Sex Frenzy Bonus #1 – Covers the best sex positions that
can release a woman’s orgasms!
Sex Frenzy Bonus #2 – Tips for men and women on increasing the probability of female orgasms!
Sex Frenzy Bonus #3 – A complete “Blueprint” to Female Orgasms! This little-known “orgasm blueprint” (discovered by world renowned sex doctors)… that… when followed… can take a woman from not wanting to have sex with you, to having frequent orgasms and constantly craving the next time she can be with you again!

If you’re frustrated with your sex-deprived life right now, and you want to have more of it more often, then get this book before she decides to look for another man who can fulfill her sexual needs.

In fact, you’ve got nothing to lose except for a woman who wants to spend more time with YOU wanting to have more sex *if* you don’t get The Female Orgasm Black Book.

If you’re already in a relationship, you probably have (or will) spend tens of thousands ($10,000+) on YOUR relationship already (and, if you stick with her, you’ll probably spend a lot more). But at the end of the day, is she loving the relationship with you, having orgasms because of you and begging you for more sex?

You can go ahead and leave this page without making an investment in your relationship, or you can get this manual now and be able to give your partner an orgasm tonight.  The choice is yours.

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Filed Under: Orgasm Tagged With: female orgasm, orgasm, sex tips

10 Things You DIDN’T Know About The Clitoris!

By Kaylen Jackson

The clitoris does nothing but give sexual pleasure to a woman – it has no reproductive capabilities and women don’t use it to pass urine or for anything else really – just plain and simple sexual pleasure. Check out these other amazing things you didn’t know about this amazing sexual organ!

It Has Over 8,000 Nerve Endings

Yep, you read that right. The clitoris boasts over 8,000 nerve endings, which is double the nerve endings in the entire penis – and four times the nerve endings in the head of the penis alone!

It Is Made Of The Same Erectile Tissue As A Penis – And It Gets Hard Too!

The tissue that comprises both the clitoris and the penis are the same. During the fetal stage, before birth, the tissue forms either into sexual organ, depending on whether the fetus has XX (female) or (XY) chromosomes. Since a clitoris is made from erectile tissue just like a penis, it too gets hard when a woman is aroused!

It Exists Only To Provide Pleasure

The clitoris does not perform any reproductive function. It doesn’t urinate, it doesn’t give birth to babies (in humans) and it doesn’t do anything but sit there, waiting for the right kind of stimulation to produce an orgasm. So pay special attention to this little guy during sex!

Her Clitoral Orgasm Lasts Longer Than Yours

Even the best male orgasms can’t compare to the length – and quality – of a female orgasm. A really good male orgasm is lasts about 7-10 seconds, while a clitoral orgasm can last anywhere from 15-20 seconds for a woman. In a woman who is able to have multiple orgasms, she may have them so close together that it feels like one big, long orgasm – which can last for several minutes!

The Part You See Is Just The Tip Of The Iceberg

The small bud that peeks out of the clitoral hood isn’t all there is to it – it extends down into the body about four inches (the average size of a man’s penis when it is not erect). It consists of the clitoral bulbs, which rest against the vaginal walls, and the clitoral legs, which reach all the way down to the bottom of her vaginal opening and anus.

The “Hood” Is Just Like Your Foreskin

The clitoral hood is designed to protect the glans from undue friction. Since there are so many nerve endings in the glans, too much friction, a rough touch or even just rubbing up against a pair of jeans can cause extreme pain. The glans tucks itself away under the hood until a woman is aroused to prevent this. However, there are many cases of clitoridectomy and female circumcision (the surgical removal of the glans or the clitoral hood, also called female genital mutilation). It is estimated that up to two million of these procedures are performed yearly in countries outside the U.S.

It’s Not Subject To Age

While a woman’s breasts may sag and her skin may get wrinkles as she ages, her clitoris won’t be subject to the changes her body is going through. It may get a little larger over time, but it’s ability to give intense, orgasmic pleasure to a woman is the same whether she’s 18 or 88.

A Clitoral Piercing Rarely Goes Through The Actual Glans

You may think that a clitoris piercing would be pretty painful (and it is) but it’s rare that this type of piercing actually goes through the clitoral tissue. Most of the time, it will either go behind the glans or through the clitoral hood, which is much less painful than if the actual erectile tissue is pierced. This allows the jewelry to rub against the glans during sex, making the pleasure even more intense.

Some Experts Believe The G-Spot Is Actually The Legs Of The Glans

If you were to peel away the skin of the vaginal walls, you would see the bottom of the clitoris, or the “bulbs.” Some experts believe that the g-spot really is an extension of the glans – and pressing on it firmly during intercourse or fingering is actually stimulating the very bottom of the bulbs.

Female Hyenas Give Birth Through The Clitoris

Believe it or not, the birth canal in the female hyena is actually through the clitoris. During pregnancy, it will begin to hang below the body (about 7 inches) and when the hyena is ready to give birth, she will expel the cub through a 1 inch diameter hole. Imagine a man giving birth through his penis! This is very dangerous and many first time hyena mothers die during the birthing process.

Filed Under: Orgasm Tagged With: clitoris, female orgasm, orgasm, sex tips

How To Find The G-Spot

By loveandsex

Just about everyone has heard of the g-spot. It’s supposedly the “holy grail” of all female sexual stimulation – so why can’t anyone find it? If you do get lucky and find a woman’s g-spot, how to heck are you supposed to stimulate it? Here’s a quick and easy guide to simple, g-spot stimulation that works flawlessly each time and every time.

It’s amazing how many men and women don’t know how to find the g-spot! Read on to find out exactly what the g-spot is and how to find it!

What Is The G-Spot?

The g-spot is a ball of nerve endings inside a woman’s vagina. Similar to a clitoris, these nerve endings pick up sexual stimulation and allow women to have orgasms. The g-spot is important, because most of the inner vagina doesn’t have nerve endings – which is why most women can’t feel a tampon if it’s inserted properly. So to truly stimulate your partner’s vagina, it’s important to find the g-spot and learn how to stimulate it to give your partner a great internal orgasm. It also allows you to vary the types of orgasms you can give your partner, instead of relying only on clitoral orgasms.

How To Find The G-Spot

Contrary to popular belief, the g-spot isn’t terribly hard to find. It’s located just inside a woman’s vagina, on the top, right behind the pubic bone. To find the g-spot, all you have to do is insert one or two fingers inside your partner’s vagina, with your palm up. The g-spot is about finger length away from the opening of the vagina, so once your fingers are in, feel along the top of her vagina and behind the pubic bone for a spongy, bumpy spot. Most of the vagina is smooth, so you’ll probably be able to distinguish the g-spot from the rest of her vaginal tissue. If your partner is turned on, however, the g-spot will be swollen and a little easier to find. Many men who couldn’t find the g-spot probably tried to do so when their partner wasn’t turned on mentally or physically, so the g-spot was much smaller and more hidden. If you want success the first time, make sure you kiss your partner, fondle her, stimulate her nipples and turn her on before you start searching for her “holy grail.”

How To Stimulate The G-Spot

Stimulating the g-spot is actually quite easy too – after you’ve located it with your fingers along the top wall of her vagina, simply move your fingers towards you and back in a continuing “come here” motion. You can also tap the g-spot, or move your fingers from side to side for additional stimulation. If you really want to get your partner going, try giving her a blended orgasm by combining g-spot stimulation with clitoral stimulation. This is most successful if you can provide her with oral sex while you finger her g-spot, but you can use your other hand or even a toy if you want to give her unexpected sensations.

Think you understand Female Orgasms? Take the Orgasm Quiz and find out!

Filed Under: Orgasm Tagged With: female orgasm, g spot, g spot orgasm, orgasm, sex tips

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