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6 Sex Positions That Make You Look Good

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Sex positions come in all varieties, but not all of them will flatter your best body attributes. In fact, many women avoid certain sex positions because they’re afraid their lover will see the cellulite in their backside or the wrinkles in their tummies. Rest assured women, that guys aren’t usually picking apart the girl they’re scoring with. But if you really want to hide your least favorite body parts, here are six sex positions that you’ll want to try.

Doggy Style

If you have a flabby tummy, or your tummy just isn’t your favorite part of yourself, doggy style is one of the best sex positions to hide your flaws. You may only think that doggy style is good for anal sex, but it’s actually great for g-spot stimulation too. Your partner will only be able to see your butt, your thighs and your back. Your stomach isn’t in view in this position, so you can “let it all hang out.” Doggy style is also great to use if you’ve just had a big meal or feel a little bloated. You can also arch your back and push your buttocks out a little, giving you a feminine and enticing curve that is very attractive to a man!

Cowgirl

Cowgirl is also one of the sex positions you can use to flatten out your tummy, but it requires a little bit of strength in your thighs since your thigh muscles are what you will be using to move yourself up and down on your partner’s penis. Straddle your partner and face him, but sit up tall and stretch your midsection out. Square your shoulders and flex your abdominal muscles to flatten out your tummy and make you look like a sex goddess!

Missionary

You may not think of the missionary position as being one of the sex positions that will make you look fantastic, but it is actually very useful for camouflaging your upper and inner thighs, as well as your butt. If these are your “trouble areas,” you can wrap your legs around your partner’s waist during intercourse, keeping them out of his view completely. He will get a good glimpse of your breasts and tummy if he’s up on his knees a little bit, and even less if he’s stomach-to-stomach with you. Mostly he will be looking at your face to see how much you are enjoying it (especially when you have an orgasm), not paying attention to your body flaws!

Spooning

Spooning is among the best sex positions to hide your tummy, your breasts and the front of your body. Lay on your side facing away from your partner, and have your partner come up behind you, also laying on his side and facing your back. He will enter you from behind, and can reach his hand around to stimulate your clitoris. Since men are visual creatures though, you might want to have a porn flick playing to give him something to look at – or else he’ll probably be staring at the wall!

Sixty-Nine

If your partner is going to perform oral sex on you, you might be nervous about him checking out your thighs and upper body in all its glory. As far as oral sex positions go, there are a few you can use to put your partner’s attention elsewhere. Sixty-nining with him on top will keep him from staring at your least favorite parts of your body (namely because all he’s going to see is your legs if he lifts his head out from in between them) and he’ll also be blissed out from the blowjob that you’re giving him at the same time.

Standing

Not only are the standing sex positions awesome for the “I-need-you-right-now” quickies, but they’re also great for making you look your best when you’re in your skivvies – or your birthday suit. Standing up while having sex allows your body to stretch out, so nothing is bunched up or wrinkled where it shouldn’t be. If you have excess skin that creates “rolls” when you bend over or lift your legs up, you’ll definitely love the standing sex position.

Remember that sex is all about having fun – not worrying about what you look like. Your partner most likely isn’t looking at your every flaw – they’re enjoying having sex with you! If you do get a guy that picks apart your least favorite parts of your body, ask yourself if he’s really someone you want to spend time with. There are lots of guys out there that will enjoy having sex with you and think you look great, even if you have a little cellulite!

4 Things Every Girl Must Learn From Porn Stars

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There are lots of things that porn stars do that you definitely don’t want to take with you into the bedroom, but does that also mean that there’s nothing we can learn from porn stars? Not at all. There are lots of sex tips that you can and probably should learn from porn stars that can make you a sex goddess and make your sex life super hot. Surprisingly, these tips aren’t super secret special techniques that porn stars know and the regular world doesn’t – in fact, they’re more like philosophies that porn stars have that can actually make your sex life sizzle.

Act Like You Want It!

The single most important thing that porn stars do in adult movies is they act like they want it everywhere, any way and all the time. Of course, much of it is acting but this is definitely a philosophy you can use in the bedroom – without going overboard of course. When giving your man a blowjob, really get into it. Act like it is the only thing you want to be doing right then and pleasing your man is your priority. Act like you’re going to starve to death or the world is going to fall apart if you don’t give him head and that going down on him is something you need to do! The same goes for sex – when he’s penetrating you, that’s all that exists at that moment and that’s all you want too! You may be acting a lot at first, but as you get into it and show him you want it, you’ll actually start to realize how much you actually do want it.

Don’t Worry About Your Bod

One thing that porn stars don’t worry about is how they look. They know they look good and they’re comfortable with themselves – but is this because they look better than everyone else? Not hardly! They just know something that girls who aren’t porn stars haven’t figured out yet – that guys don’t really care about their cellulite or whatever other insecurities they have about their bodies. When they’re having sex, the last thing your guy is thinking about is your thighs, except for the fact that he’s blissed out because they’re wrapped around them! So make like a porn star and forget all about your bodily insecurities so you can try those crazy sex positions that you haven’t tried yet because you’re afraid they’ll make your ass look big.

Dress Sexy

Porn stars know that above all else, men are visual creatures. They process information best when they actually see it, and they get turned on most when they see things that are sexy. This is why you often see porn stars keeping their push up bras or stilettos on during sex, because they know it adds that extra bit of visual flair that will really make a man melt. So instead of turning out the lights and getting totally naked when you and your man have sex, leave the light on or light a few candles to help illuminate the room so he can see what’s going on. You can also wear some sexy lingerie or just keep your chic work outfit on and let him lift up the skirt for an extra naughty touch. Dressing sexy also applies to what you wear outside of the bedroom, around the house or to work. Instead of putting on what is comfortable for you, think more about how you can dress to please your man. Sure, the cotton nightie is way more comfortable than the camisole set, but with the latter, sex is going to be on your partner’s mind the whole time you’re wearing it.

Introduce Dirty Talk

Men like to hear what’s going on in the bedroom as much as they like to see it. Porn stars are very vocal about what they want, what they like and how something feels – and that’s not at all a bad thing! Try incorporating some dirty talk into your sex routine to make it a little more steamy. If you’re fairly quiet during sex, you can simply start by making a few vocal sounds when your partner really does something to you that you like. Or, if you’re too shy to tell him what you want him to do to you, describe what you’re doing to him instead. Sometimes, dirty talk is simply a verbal play by play of what is going on and how much you or your partner like it. Get your partner into the dirty talk too by asking him what he wants to do to you!

10 Things You DIDN’T Know About The Clitoris!

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The clitoris does nothing but give sexual pleasure to a woman – it has no reproductive capabilities and women don’t use it to pass urine or for anything else really – just plain and simple sexual pleasure. Check out these other amazing things you didn’t know about this amazing sexual organ!

It Has Over 8,000 Nerve Endings

Yep, you read that right. The clitoris boasts over 8,000 nerve endings, which is double the nerve endings in the entire penis – and four times the nerve endings in the head of the penis alone!

It Is Made Of The Same Erectile Tissue As A Penis – And It Gets Hard Too!

The tissue that comprises both the clitoris and the penis are the same. During the fetal stage, before birth, the tissue forms either into sexual organ, depending on whether the fetus has XX (female) or (XY) chromosomes. Since a clitoris is made from erectile tissue just like a penis, it too gets hard when a woman is aroused!

It Exists Only To Provide Pleasure

The clitoris does not perform any reproductive function. It doesn’t urinate, it doesn’t give birth to babies (in humans) and it doesn’t do anything but sit there, waiting for the right kind of stimulation to produce an orgasm. So pay special attention to this little guy during sex!

Her Clitoral Orgasm Lasts Longer Than Yours

Even the best male orgasms can’t compare to the length – and quality – of a female orgasm. A really good male orgasm is lasts about 7-10 seconds, while a clitoral orgasm can last anywhere from 15-20 seconds for a woman. In a woman who is able to have multiple orgasms, she may have them so close together that it feels like one big, long orgasm – which can last for several minutes!

The Part You See Is Just The Tip Of The Iceberg

The small bud that peeks out of the clitoral hood isn’t all there is to it – it extends down into the body about four inches (the average size of a man’s penis when it is not erect). It consists of the clitoral bulbs, which rest against the vaginal walls, and the clitoral legs, which reach all the way down to the bottom of her vaginal opening and anus.

The “Hood” Is Just Like Your Foreskin

The clitoral hood is designed to protect the glans from undue friction. Since there are so many nerve endings in the glans, too much friction, a rough touch or even just rubbing up against a pair of jeans can cause extreme pain. The glans tucks itself away under the hood until a woman is aroused to prevent this. However, there are many cases of clitoridectomy and female circumcision (the surgical removal of the glans or the clitoral hood, also called female genital mutilation). It is estimated that up to two million of these procedures are performed yearly in countries outside the U.S.

It’s Not Subject To Age

While a woman’s breasts may sag and her skin may get wrinkles as she ages, her clitoris won’t be subject to the changes her body is going through. It may get a little larger over time, but it’s ability to give intense, orgasmic pleasure to a woman is the same whether she’s 18 or 88.

A Clitoral Piercing Rarely Goes Through The Actual Glans

You may think that a clitoris piercing would be pretty painful (and it is) but it’s rare that this type of piercing actually goes through the clitoral tissue. Most of the time, it will either go behind the glans or through the clitoral hood, which is much less painful than if the actual erectile tissue is pierced. This allows the jewelry to rub against the glans during sex, making the pleasure even more intense.

Some Experts Believe The G-Spot Is Actually The Legs Of The Glans

If you were to peel away the skin of the vaginal walls, you would see the bottom of the clitoris, or the “bulbs.” Some experts believe that the g-spot really is an extension of the glans – and pressing on it firmly during intercourse or fingering is actually stimulating the very bottom of the bulbs.

Female Hyenas Give Birth Through The Clitoris

Believe it or not, the birth canal in the female hyena is actually through the clitoris. During pregnancy, it will begin to hang below the body (about 7 inches) and when the hyena is ready to give birth, she will expel the cub through a 1 inch diameter hole. Imagine a man giving birth through his penis! This is very dangerous and many first time hyena mothers die during the birthing process.

5 Things Guys Really DON’T Want In Bed

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Sex tips tell you what to DO in the sack, but how do you find out mistakes to avoid? While men want to do a lot of different things in the bedroom, there are some things that just don’t strike his fancy and may very well turn him completely OFF. You don’t want to do that! Here are the things that your guy would really rather you leave OUT.

He Doesn’t Want To Try “Butt Stuff”

This applies to “butt stuff” on HIM. Most guys enjoy anal sex with women, but the street doesn’t go both ways. Although you can give him a totally fierce orgasm via prostate massage, he’s not likely going to be very receptive to it unless he’s very adventurous. Suggesting that you put a finger up his anus while giving him a blowjob might get you a strange look, or it may get you thrown out of the bedroom depending on how much the “butt stuff” freaks him out.

Some guys will politely turn you down, while others will be convinced that you’re trying to turn them gay and run for the hills. Read your man – if he likes a lot of naughty stuff, he might be into it. If he’s more of a “vanilla” guy, don’t even bother bringing it up.

Lingerie That Has Too Many Clasps, Buttons, Zippers, etc.

Does he love seeing you wear sexy lingerie? Hell yeah, he does! But he also wants to take it OFF. And if taking off whatever you’re wearing is more like diffusing a bomb than getting you undressed sexily, your man is going to become frustrated well before he ever gets to see you naked. Keep this in mind when choosing lingerie.

Garter belts are totally hot, but they’re also a pain in the ass to get on and off. If you want to go that route, just leave them on during sex and make sure he has full access to your breasts and nether regions. If you want to wear something sexy to bed, go for it. Just make sure your guy can actually get it off of you in a short amount of time. Because honestly, if you do the lingerie right, he’s going to want to rip it off you ASAP anyways.

Watching Porn With You

Lots of sex tips suggest watching porn with your partner to help you and him get aroused before sex. Yes, your guy watches porn. He likes it, he masturbates to it, but he doesn’t want to watch it with YOU. There could be many reasons why, such as he had a past girlfriend totally freak out on him about it or he just really enjoys you so much that he doesn’t want his attention drawn to other women (we’re going to pretend it’s the latter – it could be true).

Unless your guy suggests it or brings it up, leave it alone. Let the porn stay on his computer or under his bed and let him enjoy his solo time with it just like that – solo. But don’t be afraid to get your own porn stash going – if porn turns you on, why don’t you watch it the way he does? Solo?

Drunk Sex

Lots of great sex has been born from having a few drinks beforehand. But great sex does not come from being so totally sloshed you can’t get your underwear off. Yeah, we’ve all had our crazy nights and have woke up wondering what the hell happened (and from what you can remember, it was pretty damn fun) but that’s not something your guy wants to do all the time. In fact, being completely shitfaced during sex is probably something you want to save for one night stands, mistakes you’ll regret later, etc. and so on.

Another thing to note here is that if he drinks too much, it’s likely he’ll have “liquor dick” and won’t be able to get or maintain a good erection. So yeah, he doesn’t want drunk sex. Feel free to engage in having a few drinks beforehand to take the edge off and lower your inhibitions a little bit, but know when to put the drink down and head to the bedroom.

Kinky Sex That Goes Too Far

Many sex tips resources assume that all men like kinky sex and the kinkier the better. This is actually far from the truth. While most guys will enjoy the occasional bondage scenario (such as being handcuffed to the bed for a blowjob) or spanking their girl during doggy style, kinky sex that goes too far is actually going to scare you partner away. Don’t be afraid to try new things, but breaking out the cock cage, leather whip and dog collar will ensure that you’ll never see hide nor hair of your man again.

This is, of course, unless your man is super into kinky sex (which you would have already known if he is). If he’s just your average Joe, learn how to give an excellent blowjob instead. That will impress him far more than whipping out all the sex toys and kinky stuff in your nightstand drawer.

7 Sex Secrets Men Don’t Want You To Know!

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Sex for a guy is something we all think we have figured out – but the truth is, fellas may surprise us. Here’s what guys think about sex that may shock you.

He DOES Like Cuddling After Sex!

While guys are pre-programmed to roll over and go to sleep after having sex, they don’t necessarily always want to do just that. In fact, he does like to cuddle every now and then, especially if he’s a married fella. He won’t admit it, but he likes falling asleep holding you in his arms – or at the very least, pressed up against you.

Your warmth, soft skin and scent lull him to sleep better than just about anything else. Keep in mind, however, that this doesn’t apply to one night stands. If he doesn’t know you very well, it’s more likely that he’ll want to get out of the bed afterwards as fast as possible.

If You’re Confident, He Won’t Notice Your Flaws

Self confidence is everything for a guy when it comes to selecting a woman to date. He’s not going to notice the girl who could be mistaken for a room decoration at a club, he’s going to notice the girl that is out there talking to everyone, even if the woman in the corner is “hotter.”

The same goes for sex – if you’re confident during sex and go in knowing what you want (bonus points if you know how to please him too with a great handjob or blowjob), he’s not going to notice the cellulite on your thighs. In fact, he’s probably not even going to notice the stretch marks on your stomach while you’re riding him – because you’re riding him! Be confident and don’t care about your flaws and he won’t either.

He Doesn’t Like Sex In The Shower OR On The Beach

Shower sex and sex on the beach are actually pretty overrated. While many girls think that guys like doing it in unconventional places – and while it IS true that guys like sex period – the shower and the beach are probably his least favorite places to get busy. Unless you have some serious equipment installed in the shower (we’re talking handlebars, foot rests, etc.) you’re not going to be able to line up well enough for penetration, especially if you’re all slippery from the soap.

And what guy wants sand in his pants? Sure you can bring a blanket and all, but let’s face it – he’s still going to get sand in his ass and so are you. Try doing it in the ocean or just in your bedroom with some lovely white noise ocean sounds playing in the background.

Dirty Talk Is Difficult For Him

While many people think that it’s the ladies that struggle with dirty talk, guys actually struggle with it too. He feels silly saying, “I want you to suck my…” or “I love it when you…” especially if he’s trying to be explicit. Also, he doesn’t know what to call your downstairs area – does he say the P word, or will that make you feel cheap? Does he call it a vagina, or will that make you feel like he’s being clinical? He’d rather avoid this grey area completely and just voice his pleasure with caveman sounds.

Sometimes He Doesn’t Feel Like It

Sure, girls are always the ones getting the bad rap for having “headaches” and foregoing sex for the evening. However, not all guys are horn dogs who want to get it on every single second of every single day. In fact, there are plenty of times that he doesn’t want to do it, and maybe his girl does! He may do it just to appease her or because he feels like he should, but that doesn’t mean he’s always super into it. Sometimes, he’d rather just take an aspirin and go to bed too.

Your Sex Toys Freak Him Out

Truth is, a guy can’t compete with a vibrator that offers 6,000 rpm and incredible clitoral stimulation. He just can’t. Does he know that you appreciate intimacy with him more than a killer orgasm, at least most of the time? Possibly. So keep your sex toys under wraps, especially if you two are new to each other. He doesn’t want you to ask if he can use your g-spot vibrator while he gives you oral sex. He also doesn’t want to see your Rabbit. Just settle for his finger this time.

He Doesn’t Always Want To Try For “Multiple Orgasms”

Multiple orgasms can happen for girls and guys, although it’s a little bit more difficult for guys to achieve this because of the whole ejaculation thing. Many women are under the impression that guys want to have more than one orgasm, or want to give their partners multiple orgasms. They may think that the more orgasms that are had all around, the better the sex is.

Sometimes, he just doesn’t want to shoot for marathon sex. He doesn’t want to try to give you more than one orgasm, and he certainly doesn’t want to try (and probably fail) to have more than one O himself. In fact, if the climaxes are good enough for the both of you, he feels like one should do it. Don’t try to have sex all night long if you sense that your lover would be plenty satisfied with one orgasm. Instead, focus on making that one climax as good as you possibly can.

If you rock his world enough with that one, he’ll be too sensitive and much too tired to continue on. Same goes for you!