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How Touching Can Affect Her Orgasm – Learn This For Better Sex NOW!

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A female orgasm is not just about how deep your strokes are or big your penis is. The human hand is an intricate masterpiece capable of great works of art or science; yet if asked to name your most “handy tool” in the bedroom, your fingers might be the last thing on your mind! Intimately linked with touching and capable of more dexterity than any other body part, your fingers hold the power to tease, tantalize and transform your everyday sexual experience into something truly satisfying.

Do Not Rush Foreplay

Despite all the amazing things your hands can do, you have probably not given them a good workout during sex in quite some time. Why the neglect? While women often look at foreplay as a great chance to spend some quality time playing with their partner, men tend to think of it as the work they need to get out of the way before the main event.

Talk On An Honest Level

Maybe you are so eager by the time she’s turned on that you can’t wait to be inside her. Perhaps you just don’t feel confident that you know what’s going on down there and need some clear, concise instructions on how to handle her intimate bits. TALK TO HER! Connect with her on an honest level to find out what she likes and how you can improve your sex life together.

Be Enthusiastic About Your Sex Life

Hot sex deserves your very best effort, and this is the kind of effort worth giving. Don’t spend another night wondering if you’ll be able to hold out long enough to make her come with you. If your wife has anything in common with the 43% of American women in the National Health and Social Life Survey who claimed to have sexual problems related primarily to lack of interest, difficulty reaching orgasm and the inability to experience sexual pleasure, then it’s time to find out what is going on.

Be enthusiastic about your sex life. If you are not positive then she could feel ashamed or embarrassed to the point that you stop having sex all together. Don’t let your sex life spin out of control because you’re not enthusiastic enough about getting it back on track.

Read Her Reactions When You Touch

Molly Triffin, a recent DuPauw University study revealed some interesting news about our responses to touch. “Touch allows you to tune in to feelings that lie below the surface,” psychology professor and lead author Matthew Hertenstein says. Many intimate details of your relationship can be understood in a mere five seconds. You may notice that your wife often tenses up, pulls away or avoids eye contact during sex. While Triffin suggests that the most common reasons for this reaction involve lies or secrets, it is in fact more likely a feeling of self-consciousness and body shame.

5 Female Orgasm Myths Men Believe That AREN’T True!

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Female orgasm myths are said time and time again. Some men think that there are women that simply can’t have one. Others believe that their penis size is the root cause. Here are 5 myths that simply aren’t true.

1. A Woman Can Reach Orgasm More Easily If Her Partner Has A Big Penis

If you think your penis size has something to do with a woman’s ability to climax, you need to think again. The truth is that size really doesn’t matter all that much. Look at it this way: just as large breasts may be fun to play with and look at, they really don’t have anything to do with whether or not you climax.

Just as they say “more than a mouthful is a waste,” the same holds true for penises, except our saying goes “more than a vagina full is a waste (and sometimes painful).” Since only the first two inches of a woman’s vagina are sensitive to stimulation, anything over that amount is kind of useless during intercourse, at least from a woman’s physical perspective.

2. A Woman Doesn’t Enjoy Sex Unless She Has An Orgasm

Listen up: NOTHING COULD BE MORE WRONG!!!! Although a majority of men believe that the only way a woman enjoys sex is if she orgasms, nothing could be farther from the truth.

For many couples, sex is generally a physical and emotional expression of love, intimacy, and trust. Because women thoroughly enjoy being close to their partners, many enjoy the physical aspect of feeling their partner’s naked body against theirs during sex, even when it is not accompanied by climax.

The physical touch of her partner helps satisfy a woman’s need for affection, so sex can be very satisfying both physically and emotionally even if she doesn’t climax. An orgasm is an intense pleasurable feeling but it is not the sole source of sexual pleasure for a woman.

3. There’s Nothing Wrong With Faking An Orgasm

A lot of women sincerely believe this myth, but the truth is that there’s A LOT wrong with a fake orgasm. Although faking an orgasm may benefit the woman in one way or another, it does absolutely nothing for her partner. Faking an orgasm is nothing more than a lie.

It doesn’t matter if her reason for doing so is to spare your feelings or to get the act of sex done and over with. Allowing you to believe something that isn’t true is lying. While faking an orgasm may help a man feel good about himself in terms of his ability to satisfy his partner, the truth of the matter is that he is not satisfying his partner.

4. Some Women Just Can’t Have An Orgasm

While there are a percentage of women who have never had one, there is no evidence to suggest that some women are physically incapable of climaxing. One of the reasons some women have never had the pleasure of experiencing an orgasm is because they just don’t know how.

While men have a lot of practice pleasing themselves through masturbation, many women lack the same experience. As a result, they don’t understand what the big deal is about sex and give up trying to learn how to reach climax. The main reason behind this failure to achieve an orgasm is improper genital stimulation.

Contrary to popular belief, a woman requires clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, not vaginal stimulation. Without proper stimulation of the clitoris, orgasm is unlikely for most women.

5. Women Take Longer To Orgasm Than Men

This is another common myth, which has not been supported by research. The reason many men and women believe this to be true is because of their lack of understanding sexual arousal.  A woman’s pattern of sexual arousal is much different than a man’s.

As a result, it takes women longer to “want” to have sex than it does men. Once a woman is fully aroused, she can have an orgasm just as fast, if not faster, than her male partner. But should she fail to reach that optimum level of sexual arousal, it can appear to take her longer to have an orgasm than a man.

The key is to learn how to get your partner hot and horny first. Because men often don’t know how to sexually arouse their partners, they often engage in sex sooner than their partner is ready for. As a result, achieving orgasm can be difficult for the woman, if not impossible. Not only will that help her to climax faster, it will also help her to climax more often.

What Is The Symphisis And How Do I Use It To Make Her Orgasm?

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A female orgasm is one of the hardest sexual concepts for men to understand. Gaining knowledge of the anatomy behind the female orgasm can give you a deeper understanding of how women respond to touch during sex. Here are some techniques and anatomical features to help you bring your girl to orgasm.

Understand The Female Anatomy

The clitoral head – the bud that you see poking out when a woman is aroused – is actually just the tip of a large, interconnected network of nerve endings.

As the clitoris moves from the outside of a woman’s body to the inner workings of her genitalia, it expands into a complex network of nerves and tissues. Starting just under the fatty layer that surrounds this entire area, the network starts off with the clitoral shaft – similar to a man’s penile shaft – and then separates into two shafts and does a U-turn. The turn, called the clitoral knee, wraps back around to extend to the G-Spot at one angle, and the labia minora and majora at another.

Basically the entire network hub meets up at the clitoral hood, almost like a flower in wait to bloom. When in its normal, non-aroused state, the clitoral head seems much like a budding flower waiting to bloom, and when a woman gets aroused, it opens up its petals internally, expanding in both directions down and out.

As the clitoral hood reacts and expands very much like the head of a penis, it is able to increases in size and becomes erect. When it fills with blood, the internal U-turn straightens out somewhat, and lies suspended even closer to the woman’s skin because of its engorgement.

The Key To Female Orgasm: Symphisis

For most women, the head of the clitoral network – the clitoral hood, head and shaft – sits underneath a padding of fat and skin around the bottom portion of the mons pubis. Doctors call this area the symphysis, and it’s identified in X-rays as a small, thin oval-shaped bone.

The symphysis sits under the clitoral knee and shaft internally, with another cushion of fat, muscle and skin over the top. When a woman is aroused, you can feel the shaft with a delicate touch, as it swells and presses up against the symphysis. Men also have a symphysis at the base of their penis, and it is also covered with a small layer of fat, muscle and skin.

Therefore, to enhance the chance of a woman’s sexual release, make sure that every time you have sex, your symphysese are pressed up against one another. As well, make sure that each thrust into your partner ends with a grinding of these areas together, thus stimulating the shaft of her clitoris and giving her the friction she needs to orgasm. Additionally, if she can tilt her pelvis up towards the root of your penis, she’ll further enhance the sensation.

The Symphisis Connection

Depending on your partner’s individual anatomy and how excited she is, you can effectively stroke her clitoral shaft up to two inches while performing this maneuver. She’ll instantly know that it’s working because she’ll feel the difference in stimulation, and will probably liken it to how she feels during her own masturbatory sessions.

In time, she’ll be able to maneuver her pelvis exactly so she can achieve the right angle of friction, and you’ll know when you’ve hit the right spot at the bottom of your thrusting because you’ll feel your symphysese press up against one another. For side or rear-entry positions, you may both have to alter your angle of thrusting and grinding, or use your hands, to achieve the same results.

Some women find that once they’ve mastered this technique, they orgasm quite quickly, and can control the speed of which they achieve climax as well. If she thinks she’s about to come and wants to prolong the pleasure, all she has to do is move her bum out and stop letting your symphysis rub up against hers. She’ll remain aroused, but won’t receive the stimulation that was pushing her too far too fast.

For men that find they orgasm too quickly for their partner to join them in the bliss of release, choose positions that don’t allow for a tremendous amount of thrusting, but instead focus on your partner’s grinding of her symphysis into yours. This way she’ll still get what she needs, and you won’t get the shaft rub that excites you too furiously. When she feels like she’s getting close to orgasm, you can change sex positions into one that offers you both the thrusting and grinding required.

The easiest way for both of you to learn how to perform this ‘symphysis press’ is to start practicing with woman on top positions. This way she can choose how deep you penetrate, how much grinding and pressing she receives, and can decide which angle works best for her physiology.

What All Guys Should Know About The Clitoris

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A girl’s clitoris is a complex yet fascinating sexual organ, one that provides many comparisons to your penis! While containing a similar shaft, with many differences in regards to how it looks and where it’s placed, but with comparable functionality. For instance, few men can orgasm without direct stimulation to their shaft.

Sure, it’s possible, but it isn’t the norm. The corresponding body part for a woman is her clitoris – the whole thing, not just the clitoral head. Therefore, trying to get a woman to orgasm without ‘stroking the shaft’ so to speak is possible, but not probable.

The Vagina Isn’t That Sensitive, Guys!

The vaginal opening holds the most of a woman’s nerve endings along the vaginal canal, other than that small disc-shaped space an inch or so up the shaft called the G-Spot. The vagina does feel pressure, but most of its sensitivity lies where the vaginal canal connects to the clitoral network: the G-Spot, the A-Spot further back which controls lubrication, and the exterior contact points in the vaginal opening and the clitoral head/hood.

Normally, men orgasm when they are aroused from direct penile stimulation. The comparable act for women then is when their clitoral head, or somewhere else along the clitoral network, receives direct stimulation. So let’s talk a bit more about this clitoral network, and the clitoral head.

Tip Of The Iceberg

The clitoral head is what most folks call the clitoris, love nub, skittle, button – you get the drift. Many feel that this little exposed piece of flesh is all there is when it comes to the clitoris, but scientists can now prove that the truth is a much bigger story. The clitoral head – the tip of the clitoral network – expands and fills with blood when a woman is aroused, just like a man’s penis does.

The clitoral head even has a foreskin, called the clitoral hood, which protects it from infection and too much stimulation, just like foreskin. When a women gets exited, this hood slides back for better stimulation, and hides the clitoral head again just before climax.

One of the more difficult aspects of a woman’s anatomy is that the clitoral head and network aren’t easily reach – you certainly don’t want to reach out and grab your girl’s clit in the heat of the moment! The clitoris is also connected on both ends. A good analogy: if the top of a man’s penis was attached to his stomach, how would he thrust? He couldn’t.

He’d be dependent on his partner to rub up against him or touch him to receive direct stimulation during intercourse. This is exactly what a woman needs during sex. The fact that hers is buried so deeply makes the challenge a bit more interesting, but by absolutely no means impossible.

Why The Clitoris’ Design Rocks

While it may be difficult, there are some serious benefits to the layout and design of the clitoral complex. For starters, any stimulation to the network affects the entire clitoris. This is why some women are able to orgasm during intercourse with only the movement of a man’s penis thrusting inside of her: because the vaginal opening does have a few nerve endings hiding out there, and the in-out motion pulls the labia down, thus rubbing the clitoral hood and in turn, indirectly the clitoral head.

Basically, even if your wife is able to orgasm during intercourse without direct clitoral stimulation, just thrusting in and out gives her a taste of the indirect stimulation she needs to make it all the way.

How To Identify REAL Female Orgasms

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A female orgasm gives off specific physical signs. Her pulse quickens, her breathing shortens, and her blood pressure increases. Her vaginal opening also gets smaller while the length can increase up to two inches to accommodate something larger than a finger. The entire length of her clitoris both internally and externally fills with blood and gets hard, in the very same way your penis gets hard when you are aroused.

The G-Spot also sticks out more so that it can be easily felt, and the clitoral head starts hiding again so that it doesn’t get too stimulated before reaching peak. You may even notice her labia majora and minora getting tighter and darker, as they stiffen because of the extra blood flow and sensitivity.

Stage 1 – Prior To The Orgasm

Just before orgasm, your partner’s body will increase the intensity all on its own, by ramping up her blood pressure, skin flushing, heart beat and blood flow to a frenzied pace, one that can’t continue for any length of time. Peaking occurs during orgasm, where all of the built-up tension explodes out through the muscles and fibres of her body.

Contractions overtake her sexual organs, and they pulse rhythmically until she has exhausted the energy and they slow to a stop. Some women will continue to feel these contractions for up to twenty minutes after orgasm, or continue the intense orgasm on throughout your intercourse!

Stage 2 – During The Orgasm

During a female orgasm, her vaginal walls vibrate strongly in tandem with her pelvic floor muscles at a rate of approximately once per second. As her pelvic area contracts, oxytocin flows through her system, especially her uterus, and increases her feelings of comfort and satiety. Some women will experience female ejaculation with some clear, milky fluid along with each contraction, either in a strong gush or a slow trickle, especially with G-Spot stimulation.

The length of time that she can continue to have a female orgasm can range from a couple of seconds to several minutes, with half a dozen contractions on average. Having said that, some women will orgasm very quickly and without many contractions at all, while others have reported orgasmic experiences of an hour or more!

Stage 3 – After The Orgasm

After the orgasmic contractions are finished, the last stage of the process is her body’s release of the frenetic tension from the events building up to the climax. She will get back to her normal state relatively quickly, or with the right kind of touch might be able to start the whole process over again, bypassing the foreplay stage if things get heated again right away. This is where men and women tend to differ the most when it comes to sexual release: gents usually require some downtime to recuperate after climax, and can’t nearly as often sustain an erection after ejaculation.

The only thing you can bank on when it comes to orgasm is this: if you want to get your partner from a non-aroused state to climax, you’ll have to give her consistent, rhythmic sexual stimulation and increase the tension throughout the experience, appropriate to the phase she’s in. This attentive devotion is what will get her all the way to the Promised Land.