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How To Tell If She’s Faking Orgasms

Many women fake orgasms for a variety of reasons. Regardless of why she’s faking it, if she is it can really make sex a lot less fun and satisfying as it could be for both you and her. Women who fake orgasm often are pretty good at it, but there are some telltale signs that will let you know she’s had a real one. Here’s how to tell when your girl has an orgasm.

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Bodily Reactions To Orgasm

A woman’s body responds in many different ways to having an orgasm. During a real, honest to goodness orgasm, your girlfriend might grab you tightly, scratch you or completely lose control in other ways. She probably won’t be able to control her facial expressions and her legs and thighs may quiver and become weak. After an orgasm – or two or three orgasms – a woman will become very tired and exhausted and will seem content and satisfied after sex. She may even have trouble walking right after having an orgasm and it may take her several minutes or more to recover. Also, the vaginal muscles contract sporadically during an orgasm, which is very difficult to replicate if you’re not really having one. These are all good signs that she’s had a true orgasm.

Preventing Her From Faking

Focusing too much on making your girlfriend climax can put a lot of stress on her to “finish” and she might not be able to have an orgasm at all. Women need to be very relaxed to actually reach the brink of orgasm. Don’t repeatedly ask her if she’s “done” or if she’s had an orgasm yet, because if she hasn’t, it will make her stress out and tense up making it near impossible to have one. If you do, she may fake it just to get you to quit asking her if she’s had an orgasm! Both you and your partner can enjoy sex and physical intimacy with each other without necessarily having an orgasm, so don’t put the pressure to climax on yourself either. The best way to prevent your partner from faking it is to relax and let her know that she doesn’t have to have an orgasm for you or her to have a good time in the bedroom. If she doesn’t feel pressure to climax, she won’t feel forced to fake it either.

Learn How To Please A Woman

Don’t assume that you have all the skills necessary to please a woman. Make the effort to research different ways to pleasure a woman, and try them out. Communicate with your partner about what she likes and what she doesn’t like. Encourage her to tell you what feels good and what doesn’t. Keep things fresh and interesting in the bedroom. Many guys simply assume that vaginal intercourse is enough to make a woman have an orgasm, but this is far from the truth. Women respond better to oral sex or even fingering. Research ways to give your partner a clitoral orgasm and a g-spot orgasm, and see which she really likes. Make it your job to give her great pleasure and it’s likely that she’ll have an orgasm all on her own.

Getting To The Climax Sooner

By jessicaperez

Is it unfair when a man has his orgasm and you don’t? Some women would say reaching orgasm does not matter, as long as emotional fulfilment is there. Some never admit that they have never had an orgasm during sex with their partner because they think faking is like lying. A woman’s reasons for faking orgasm is her own, but one thing’s for sure… not reaching orgasm during sex is an issue for most women, whether they admit it or not.

Experts from different scientific fields could probably cite several psychological and physiological reasons why women don’t reach orgasm during sex. Research works on female libido are many and extensive, but they almost always point to the fact that a woman who cannot climax is either psychologically disturbed or hormonally challenged.

Here’s what I think. It’s not that a woman cannot reach an orgasm during sex; it’s just that a woman cannot climax as fast as her man can. Moreover, a woman’s orgasm momentum might “reset” whenever a man changes the sex position while the woman is building her orgasm rhythm, or when she’s distracted by actual noise or psychological noise (discomfort, boredom etc).

If a woman can find a way to climax faster, she can enjoy sex more and eventually crave sex all the time.

Fondle Your Clitoris

Your man could be busy keeping his balance, fondling your breasts or lifting your legs. When he isn’t in the best position to fondle you down there where you’re most sensitive, you must do it yourself. In the end, your participation in the bedroom matters.

Your clitoris is the small nub at the lower part of your pubic mound. When you shower, you can try exploring that part of your anatomy just to try the sensations associated with clitoral touching. By doing this, you will become more familiar with the way your body works when fondled intimately.

Fantasize

Here’s a good way to block the psychological noise that we mentioned above. If your man’s technique is boring and you feel your libido crashing to nothingness, it’s time to fire up your imagination. Think of an erotic scene and act like you’re the girl in that scenario.

Acting like the heroine in your own porn video isn’t just for his benefit. You’re thinking of ways to feel sexy and that matters a lot when it comes to lovemaking.

Get Him Involved

A man thinks he’s doing quite well when you’re in the bedroom, even if you know he isn’t. While your goal is not to embarrass him by pointing out that “he’s doing it wrong”, it doesn’t hurt to suggest ways to make sex better. For instance, you can take his hand and place it on your nipples while your hand is busy with your clitoris, or vice versa.

Tell him what you want. Show him how you masturbate when you’re alone. Your man isn’t a mind reader and he can’t be expected to be extra-perceptive about your pleasure when his own orgasm is likely to occur at any moment.

How To Give A Woman Her First Orgasm

By loveandsex

Believe it or not, many women have never had an orgasm, even if they’ve been sexually active with one or more partners before you. If you’re dating a girl who hasn’t had an orgasm, naturally you want to be the one that will give her the first one! Here’s the 3 best tips on how to give your girl her first orgasm and rock her world!

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Don’t Put Pressure On Her

The more pressure you put on your girlfriend to have an orgasm, the more locked up and tense she’s going to get. This will actually prevent her from not only enjoying what you’re doing to her, but also cause her to not have an orgasm no matter how hard you try. Simply let your girlfriend know that tonight is all about her. Encourage her to tell you what she wants to do, and avoid asking her if she’s close or if she’s about to have an orgasm. Doing so will make her feel pressured to come, and she won’t be able to. Just let her focus on the pleasure you’re giving her and let whatever happens happen.

Make Sure She Is Relaxed

If a woman is thinking about her to-do list or stressing about work or the kids, she’s not going to be able to have an orgasm regardless of what you do to please her. She needs to both physically and mentally relax before having sex, so she can work out what happened during the day and start putting it to rest. Take some time before having sex to make sure she is relaxed and in the right mindset. A glass of wine, a massage or a hot bath are all ways to give your girlfriend a few minutes to melt away the stress from the day and get ready for a night of pleasure. Ask your partner how she likes to relax. She may want to have a conversation with you over a drink or a nice meal, or she may want to watch a movie first. Let her do what she likes to do to de-stress so she’ll be ready to receive pleasure when you start.

Use Oral Sex

Don’t assume that penetration is what is going to get your girlfriend off after years of never having had an orgasm. The likelihood of getting your girlfriend to have her first orgasm with oral sex or fingering is much higher than if you try to give her an orgasm through intercourse alone. When going down on your partner, start slow. Rushing and going to fast at first can actually be painful for a woman because her clitoris and vagina is so sensitive. Go slow and give her some time to warm up and start anticipating your next move. The same goes for fingering. Use lots of lube and start soft and slow, working your way into a rhythm based on your girlfriend’s body language. Don’t be afraid to use both fingering and oral sex, as well as caressing her nipples at the same time. Many times, all a woman needs is a little extra stimulation in another area to send her over the edge of orgasm and into bliss.

How To Make A Woman Climax

By leejenkins

Unfortunately for us, women take longer to climax than men. While it takes the average guy less than 5 minutes to finish, it could take a girl more than 30 minutes to get off during sex, if at all.

You might ask, it doesn’t matter how long it takes her to get there as long as she does, right? That’s a good point, but here’s the thing. A certain proportion of women in the world fake orgasm during sex because the men they’re with lack the skills to help them reach orgasm. In fact, you’d be surprised to learn just how many women around have never really experienced the big O.

When it comes to making a girl climax, you have several options. You can make her climax while you’re having sex (penetration), you can do oral sex with fingering, or you can help her masturbate. There’s a key technique involved in each of these options .

How To Make Her Orgasm During Sex

When you’re having sex, you should remember that you might be feeling more pleasure than your girl. Why? This is because your most sensitive organ is conveniently wrapped in all that warmth and comfort. However, a girl’s most sensitive area (namely, her clitoris) is left alone during sex.

Some guys think penetration (thrusting in and out) is enough to make a woman climax, without knowing that a simple shift in weight to press on a woman’s frontal vaginal region can make all the difference as far as her pleasure is concerned.

Here’s what you can do. Make sure you touch your girl’s clitoris during penetration, either by using your fingers or by pressing more on her mound when you thrust.

How To Make her Orgasm By Oral Sex

When you’re going down on a woman, remember that the center of sensation is the clitoris and the outer parts of her labia. Most guys simulate penile thrusting during oral sex, which could prolong her orgasm further. A stroking motion with your tongue over her clitoris and labia will push her over the brink and make her orgasm faster. If the girl insists on penetration during oral sex, use your fingers.

How To Make Her Orgasm By Fingering

Fingering a girl doesn’t always mean you have to do it alone. Invite her to join in. You can take charge of penetrating her with two fingers and she can stroke her clitoris, or vice versa. Another way of doing this is allowing her to masturbate while you caress her other erogenous zones. The additional stimulation from other sources will make her climax intensely and rapidly.

Don’t get caught up with the “right” techniques to make a woman climax. You can mix and match techniques and experiment with variations of these techniques until you find a combination that works for you every time you’re in bed with your girl.

Can A Guy Fake An Orgasm?

By jessicaperez

Everyone knows that women fake orgasms and get away with it because there’s no evidence that she did not climax. Women lubricate a lot during sex, and more often than not men rely on verbal assurance and female body language to know whether a girl reached orgasm or not. Most men have no idea that a girl is faking.

But what about men? Can men fake orgasm as well?

You would be surprised to know that a lot of men fake orgasm without getting caught. Blame it on the condom. A lubricated condom can make it seem like a man blew a suitable amount of semi-clear liquid, but the truth is that it’s mostly pre-ejaculate. Women often don’t notice that a man is faking because he consciously tries to simulate the facial expression of a man on the brink of climax; much like the way we do it.

If you’re wondering why men bother, here are some of the main reasons why men fake.

He Can’t Go For A Second Round

If a man has already reached climax during the first round of sex, there’s a chance that he can’t have multiple orgasms. However, his pride won’t let him quit so he tries to get it up. But what if during the second round, his exhaustion keeps him from performing? Should he wave the white flag and admit that he can’t perform or should he fake?

Premature ejaculation is a cop out when a man just can’t perform. He can apologize to the woman, and flatter her by saying that she’s really sexy so he couldn’t contain himself. And, she will digest all that without ever realizing that the orgasm wasn’t real.

He’s Too Drunk To Continue

Some men don’t have to climax to become as limp as soggy noodles. When drunk, some guys can only maintain an erection for about five minutes. To save face, he fakes an orgasm when he feels that he’s losing his erection so that he doesn’t have to admit that he just cannot maintain an erection.

He’s Distracted

The sad truth is that men fake orgasm for the same reason that women do. Men deal with the stress of being the aggressor in the bedroom, and some guys cannot handle that kind of pressure. He might be struggling with a problem, or he could be feeling distant.

He Wants To Avoid Drama

The thing is, men fake because they don’t want to deal with a sullen partner. A woman’s pride plummets when she feels unattractive; and there’s no faster way to make her feel that she’s ugly than not getting turned on when she’s naked and willing in front of a man. Men would rather be thought of as premature ejaculators than deal with all that drama.

If you suspect your man’s faking, you can discuss his problems. Maybe you don’t know about his drinking habit and he’s trying to hide it. Maybe you don’t know that he’s frequently off-peak because of work-related stress.

Whatever you do, don’t force him to admit that he has faked his orgasm more than a few times. Men’s reasons for faking are more profound than ours, so it’s better to focus on much more constructive things than trying to make him admit the truth.