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How To Achieve A Spectacular Orgasm

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Focusing on your partner’s pleasure and giving her a fabulous orgasm is a great way to make sure you’re having awesome sex, but what about making your own orgasm even better and even more spectacular? After she’s gotten hers, here are some excellent tips on how to make your orgasm the best you’ve ever had.

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Prolong Ejaculation As Long As You Can

Instead of letting your orgasm come when it comes (no pun intended), try prolonging ejaculation as long as you can. Many men who hold out do so to help give their partners time to have an orgasm, however, this technique will also work to give you a stronger, harder orgasm when you finally ejaculate. Go slow, and don’t rush to have an orgasm. Instead, simply focus on feeling each wave of pleasure pass through you rather than focusing on the end result. When you feel you’re getting close to orgasm, you can stop for awhile, or just go slower. Take this time to give your partner some more pleasure, such as giving her oral sex while you back down from the brink of orgasm for a few minutes. Repeat this process until you just can’t hold it in anymore!

Hold Your Orgasm In

When you feel yourself physically starting to orgasm, squeeze your PC muscles to try to hold it in as long as you can. Your PC muscles are the same muscles that you use to stop the flow of urine. When your orgasm bursts through all of your efforts to hold it at bay, your orgasm will be amazingly powerful and the final release will be mind blowing. If you find this difficult to do, however, you’re not alone. Some men aren’t able to effectively use their PC muscles right away because just like any muscle, they need to be exercised to become strong. Practice doing kegel exercises on your own by squeezing and holding your PC muscles several times a day. These exercises will help you to strengthen your PC muscles so when you use them to hold your orgasm back, you are able to do so effectively.

How An Awesome Orgasm Will Turn HER On Too!

When you have a great orgasm, your partner will feel amazing too. She’ll feel super sexy and awesome for having given you such a mind blowing and intense orgasm and she’ll want to do it again and again. Women truly love giving their partners pleasure and get a great emotional high from it, so when you have a spectacular orgasm, she’ll feel great too. After sex, be sure to tell her how much she turned you on and how amazing it felt to finally explode inside her. She will love hearing how much pleasure she gave you and how wonderful your orgasm was, and it’s a great way for both of you to bask in the afterglow of amazing sex!

Q&A: Frustrated Girl Unable To Orgasm

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Many women have trouble reaching orgasm during sex. While some women are able to give themselves multiple orgasms or different kinds of orgasms, other women struggle to reach climax. If you’re having a hard time having an orgasm – through sex or masturbation – you’re not alone. Here’s how to overcome it.

Question: I am a healthy female & I love sex. However, I cannot pleasure myself! How can I tell my boyfriend what to do when I don’t know for myself? I have a vibrator which feels good but I can’t seem to give myself an orgasm with that, or without. I get to a point where I am right there, but then I suddenly get too sensitive to the point where it uncomfortable and I get turned off.

I have had about 5 orgasms in my life, two being with my boyfriend because he can reach my G-spot where as I can’t. The other three were long ago. How can I get my body to stop being dumb and let me have an orgasm? Please help!

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Experiment With Pleasure

There are lots of different ways to stimulate yourself and lots of different ways for your partner to stimulate you. Experiment with different rhythms, pressures and positions to find what you like best. If your vibrator isn’t doing it for you, try looking for another one. Try a vibrator that allows for both clitoral, vaginal and g-spot stimulation or try one that you can use with your partner. Try different sex positions with your partner, including doggy style and woman on top. The important thing when you’re experimenting with pleasure is not to get obsessed with not being able to have an orgasm. Just relax and have fun. Enjoy yourself and let whatever happens happen.

Physical Simulation vs. Emotional Stimulation

For many women who can’t have an orgasm, it’s not purely about the type of physical stimulation that she’s receiving. For a great orgasm, a woman needs emotional stimulation as well. While this is not always the case – because many women are able to have great casual sex and reach orgasm that way successfully – a lot of women in relationships have a hard time reaching orgasm because they’re just not as emotionally connected to their partner as they need to be. Try talking to your partner. Have a good, open conversation about anything. Share opinions with each other and work towards being emotionally closer together. You’ll be surprised at how much better sex can be when you’re on the same mental and emotional page as your partner!

Don’t Give Up!

Women who struggle with reaching orgasm through sex or masturbation don’t have to suffer alone. Many women go through this and there’s help out there! Grab a few books or a DVD that teaches women the best tips for masturbation, or watch a few sex instruction videos with your partner to get a few new ideas. If you continue to have difficulty with sexual pleasure, visit your doctor. He or she can rule out any medical reasons why you aren’t able to reach orgasm during sex. You can also visit a sex therapist, who will dig a little deeper and try to discover the root of the problem to help you reach a solution. Just don’t give up! Every women is able to have an orgasm – her body was built for it.

Q&A: My Girlfriend Doesn’t Like When I Touch Her G-Spot

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Finding a woman’s g-spot and learning how to give her pleasure can make your sex life hotter, but what if your partner doesn’t like g-spot stimulation? Does it mean that you are doing something wrong, or that your partner just doesn’t like having her g-spot stimulated? Here’s what you can do if your partner doesn’t dig g-spot pleasure.

Question: My girlfriend says it’s uncomfortable when I touch her g-spot and she feels like she needs to pee. Any tips on making it more pleasurable for her?

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Feeling The Need To Pee

It is actually very common for women to feel like they have to pee during sex. Does this translate into the true need to urinate? Not usually – although it is possible. Many of the nerve endings near a woman’s vagina and clitoris are tied together, including the nerve endings to the bladder. It is not at all out of the ordinary for a woman to feel like she has to pee when she is being stimulated one way or another. Although it is common, it doesn’t mean that it is comfortable for your partner. It can distract her from feeling pleasure because she’s afraid she’ll urinate during sex. Sex will be more pleasurable for your partner if she’s not worried about being embarrassed in front of you.

What You Can Do

There are a few things you can do to help your partner alleviate the feeling of needing to urinate during sex. Have your partner go to the bathroom right before sex. This way, she knows she doesn’t have to actually urinate and can simply attribute these feelings to other nerve endings being stimulated. Your partner can actually stop taking liquids an hour or two before sex also, if this makes her feel better. Remember that iced tea and coffee are both diuretics, meaning that these may make her feel like she has to urinate more often than usual. If your partner is also on a medication that causes her to feel the need to pee often, talk to your doctor about a change in medication if possible.

Changing Your Techinques

You may be stimulating her g-spot too hard or too quickly if she’s still finding it uncomfortable to be stimulated there. Make sure you allow your partner plenty of warm up time before trying to stimulate her g-spot, and you can go one step further by ensuring she has an orgasm before you even head for the g-spot. Often, a woman will find vaginal stimulation uncomfortable or even painful if she hasn’t been allowed enough time for foreplay. Foreplay allows the vagina to moisten and relax and sends signals to the brain to get ready for sex. Make sure she is wet or use plenty of lube to avoid any discomfort caused by friction. Communicate with your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t and ask for her suggestions. Ladies, take this opportunity to purchase a great sex toy and try stimulating your g-spot on your own. When you find out what feels good, let your partner know and show him how to do what you like.

The Key To Giving Women Multiple Orgasms

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A lot of men wish they could give their women multiple orgasms, and many women wish their partners could too! Giving your woman more than one orgasm might seem impossible, but it’s not! There is 1 simple key to giving your partner multiple orgasms during sex, and most men are simply missing it! It’s so easy you’ll be able to do it every time you have sex. Here’s how:

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The Biggest Mistake Men Make During Sex

The biggest mistake that almost all men make during sex is not giving their partner an orgasm before intercourse. A lot of men simply jump the gun. He may give her a little bit of foreplay before penetration, but because pentration is the focus for him, he assumes it’s the focus for his partner too. This couldn’t be further from the truth! Many women can’t have an orgasm through intercourse alone, but they often will have an orgasm with intercourse if they’ve had an orgasm previously through manual or oral stimulation.

How A Woman Can Have Multiple Orgasms

Women are more easily able to have multiple orgasms during sex than men. The idea behind this is that while men come down quickly after an orgasm, women actually stay on the verge of climax after they’ve had an orgasm – they don’t come down right away. The first orgasm sends blood and hormones to her most sensitive spots, such as her G-spot and her clitoris. A man, however, is just the opposite. His body sends blood and hormones to his penis during stimulation and after orgasm, the blood returns to the rest of his body and his penis becomes slack. A woman’s body is primed for another orgasm after the first one, whereas after his orgasm, a man’s body is primed for rest and recovery. By giving her an orgasm by going down on her or via manual stimulation, you will allow her to be closer to climax during penetration.

Giving Her An Orgasm Before Intercourse

In order to give your partner multiple orgasms, you need to focus on her primarily during foreplay. Make foreplay all about her, and either give her manual or oral stimulation. Learn how to go down on her if you don’t already know how – oral sex is your most powerful ally if you want to give her multiple orgasms during intercourse. Combine oral and manual stimulation for a combination G-spot and clitoral orgasm. You can also use toys or vibrators – whatever your partner likes. The objective during this stage of sex is to give her a powerful orgasm through any means possible. Remember to listen to both her vocal feedback and her body language to find out how she likes to be touched and encourage her to communicate with you what she likes best. By giving her the first orgasm before you and her even get started with intercourse ensures she’s going to have a great time, no matter what.

Best Female Orgasm Tips Of 2009

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Giving a woman an orgasm is probably one of the greatest ways to connect with a woman physically and emotionally. Whether you want to give her an orgasm through intercourse, via oral sex, or by fingerging her g-spot, she’s going to be putty in your hands if you know the tips and tricks to use to give her the big O. Learning how to give her the ultimate orgasm will have her simply begging you for more! We’ve done a number of female orgasm tip articles this year, but here are the ones we really want you to read if you want to give your partner a mind blowing, toe curling orgasm tonight – or any other night!