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3 Ways To Give Her MORE Orgasms With A Smaller Penis

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If you are worried that your penis is too small to give your girl an adequate orgasm, you’re not alone. Most guys are worried about their penis size, particularly that it’s not big enough. Even if your penis size is completely normal, you may still be worried that it’s not big enough to give your woman the kind of orgasms she wants. Going with the assumption that you feel you have a small penis, here are three pretty much foolproof tips to give your girlfriend or wife better orgasms – regardless of your size.

Tip #1 – True Masculine Dominance

Even if you feel you have a small penis, having true masculine dominance will give you more clout in the bedroom. Women are inherently built to be submissive when it comes to sex (although playing with role reversal can be fun too) and when you play to that side of her nature, you can give her the impression that you are a true, dominant man. Believe it or not, this makes a huge difference in the bedroom! You can use this dominance to work around penis size to get your girl turned on mentally as well as physically. Having true masculine dominance, however, is not about being a jerk or being rude. It’s simply about taking your place as the alpha male and letting your partner get back to her instincts.

Tip #2 – Stimulate Her G-Spot

Before stimulating her G-Spot, go down on your partner a little, give her a bit of dirty talk and get her nice and wet. You want her to be very turned on before you penetrate her, so that her G-Spot will be easier to find and easier to stimulate. To compensate for what you feel may be a small penis size, you can thrust at an upward angle to access the G-Spot and give her powerful orgasms regardless of penis size. Use the angle to your advantage, and try stimulating her clitoris at the same time, for powerful blended orgasms. Practice makes perfect and if you get skilled at G-Spot sex, your girl really isn’t going to care much about the size of your penis at all.

Tip #3 – Have Bulletproof Sexual Confidence

Be comfortable with who you are, and be comfortable with yourself sexually. Even if you feel that your penis is on the smaller size of normal, if you are comfortable and confident with your sexual skills, it will show through in the bedroom. So how do you get bulletproof sexual confidence? Hone your skills. Research, study and watch videos. Take the time to learn how to truly please a woman, with more than just your penis. Your research will pay off, and you’ll know you have your sexual skills down pat. That will, in turn, make you more confident that you know what you’re doing in the bedroom, and you know how to please a woman. Nothing turns a woman off faster than a newbie who is fumbling around down there, not knowing which way is up, regardless of how huge and mighty his penis may be. Get confident with yourself, get comfortable with yourself. Be dominant, and use techniques that work with your penis size and not against it. You’ll be able to give your woman more orgasms than you ever thought possible.

Female Orgasm Tip #4 – Patience And Persistence

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When it comes to giving a woman a great orgasm, one of the greatest tips you can employ is actually not a “technique” at all  – it’s more of an overall attitude. During sex, it’s important to embody both patience and persistence to give your girl the orgasm the really wants – and it’s just as important for the girls to embody these qualities as well! Read on to find out why!

There’s nothing more giving than a satisfied woman.” While a bit cheesy, this quote really does say it all. Watch this video to find out why a little patience and persistence can go a really long way!

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Warming Up The Oven

You might have heard a woman’s sex drive compared to an oven before, but for a very important reason. Women are exactly like ovens in the bedroom – they definitely require to preheating, or being warmed up first. This is where you’ll be tested for the first time on patience and persistence! If you’re going down on your partner, or massaging her vagina and clitoris, she’s not going to get turned on within two secons of you putting your mouth or hands down there.

You need to be patient, and allow her time to get used to the feelings you’re creating for her and warm up to them. Women can practically smell impatience, and it will turn her off immediately, making your job just that much harder, if not impossible. So exercise patience! You’ll also want to exercise persistence – it may take a few minutes to either bring her to orgasm or even to just get her reasonably turned on, so it’s important to be persistent with the maneuvers you’re making. Of course, if something’s not working, find another technique to use, but once you hit the right spot with the right technique, keep going and keep going!

Ladies Need Practice Too

Of course, practice makes perfect. Guys, you can practice your patience and persistence in the bedroom with your partner anytime you’re feeling frisky to really get yourself under control so you can give your partner the best pleasure possible. But it’s not all up to you! It’s important that women also use patience and persistence when you’re “warming up their oven.”

First of all, a woman needs to be patient with herself. She is not expected to have an orgasm in thirty seconds! Be patient and quit focusing on trying to be turned on or trying to have an orgasm. Simply be patient and let the feelings come to you. Women also need to be persistent – if something doesn’t feel right or could feel better, don’t throw up your hands in frustration and suggest a quickie instead. Be persistent in communicating with your partner what you like and what you don’t like, so he can better satisfy you.

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Tension & Relaxation – The Secrets to Guaranteed Female Orgasms

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Orgasms are something around 10% of women never have, whether it is while masturbating or having sex with a loved one. This is the reason why women consult with me. A large number of them start off with confusions concerning how to become more susceptible to orgasms.

Developing equilibrium between tension and relaxation during sexual intercourse is a key issue. But is it really possible to be both tensed up and relaxed simultaneously?

Tension Makes Orgasms Possible

Muscle contraction is the kind of tautness that helps women orgasm (scientifically known as ‘myotonia’). Many females who don’t have orgasms are under the wrong perception that they just have to lay there and relax. They have heard about the importance of being relaxed during sex but what they fail to realize is that tension in the muscles is very often just as important when it comes to reaching a climax.

A lot of females have reported to having been able to reach and orgasm by tensing certain areas of their bodies. Some contract their abdominal, leg and buttock muscles. Some have even reported success while also contracting their feet muscles. Even upper body tensing has been noted to have helped women achieve an orgasm at one point or the other.

In fact, the number of women who reach an orgasm with no muscle tension at all is very small. Incidentally, muscle tautness that happen in the lower pelvis play a very important part in being able to reach a climax. You see, during an orgasm the muscles that contract automatically are the same that need to be squeezed to discontinue the stream of pee mid-flow.

The group of muscles involved here are the pubococcygeus muscle group (PC muscles) and their conscious contraction is known as a Kegel exercise. To build up arousal while engaging in sexual exploits, many women tense these PC muscles. Tensing or contracting the various muscle groups pushes blood in to the parts of the body active during sex. (The flow of blood to the groin needs to be increased to initiate arousal.)

All this talk about muscle tension surely makes one ask where the relaxation phase comes into the picture!

Relaxing Your Mind

The answer to this question is this: relaxation occurs in the mind. Relaxation during sexual activities means that you should stop worrying or thinking about anything else. Just try to be in the moment and FEEL each pleasure that washes over your body as your lover titillates you.

If you’re having problems emptying your mind and relaxing, apply the “silent radio technique”. This is the same technique that is used in post offices and public areas where long lines form. They help keep hostility low despite the long wait that people have to undergo. It can be visualized as the Times Square board sign where words stream across a screen from the left to the right and then fade away from the screen. The screens usually carry items like news highlights, horoscopes and sports.

While the above mentioned technique is being used during sex, you may find that the repetition of a mantra like “I can stay in this pleasurable state for hours,” or “this feels fantastic!” in your mental silent radio helps in keeping your mind occupied with thoughts that foster arousal instead of entertaining thoughts that decrease arousal.

A very important aspect to learning how to be more orgasmic involves these two factors that may look contradictory but make a large difference when used together in helping the sexual process reach its desired outcome.

How You Can Finally Spot The G-Spot

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Fresh research has confirmed this fact: every woman has a g-spot. This is the puzzling small part of you that has the ability to create pleasure that is out of this world. Read on and discover all you will ever have to know about experiencing its power.

If you’re yet to partake of this area’s magic, you must have heard the stories regarding the g-spot, a sensual area that is found in the interior part of your womanhood that can create mind-blowing orgasms when stimulated properly. On the other hand, this spot can be a source of frustration because many women are yet to find this elusive zone. While the g-spot concept is not a new phenomenon, considering that researchers have talked about it for a long time, the medical fraternity has always been hesitant to affirm its actual presence in women.

Well, I have some exciting news for you. The g-spot, or the Grafenberg spot, is a reality and you have acknowledged access to it, according to biopsies and MRI scans carried out by doctors.

Read on below for a ‘guided tour’ to your g-spot and trust us, you will discover it. After the discovery, I’ll proceed to explain to you how to handle it for maximum pleasure.

What is the G-spot, Anyway?

The actual size of the gspot is a contentious issue. The size can be anything from 1/4 of an inch to 2 inches and it is found on your vagina’s upper wall, approximately one inch or two away from the opening of your vagina. Beneath it is an extremely sensitive amount of tissue that responds sexually to the right kind of touch, as explained by Debby Herbenick, PhD from Indiana University Bloomington’s School of Health, Physical Education and Recreation. The sensation felt in the g-spot are sometimes described as deeper than those felt as a result of clitoral stimulation. The feeling is explained as a warm, glowing feeling that can be felt in the entire woman’s body.

Some experts who have always been aware of this spot’s existence were previously unsure regarding what the g-spot exactly is. They tried to establish whether the spot is a distinctive gland or a mere group of nerve endings that extend from the clitoral bottom part. Researches are clear about this: The g-spot is an independent unit, comparable to a male organ. It is referred to as our version of the prostate because its tissues are in an area whose chemicals are the same as those that are produced by male prostate glands that make sperm nourishing fluid, says Dr. Goldstein.

The g-spot and male prostate are also similar in terms of what women feel when the g-spot is stimulated. Some women report that they feel wetness that is beyond what they experience with other forms of stimulation. Some even say that they produce a clear fluid, which has no odor upon reaching climax.

Where to Find the G-Spot

Take a deep breath, lie down and relax. Your first attempt to find your g-spot will probably require patience. Begin by keeping your legs apart and bend your knees. This opens up your vagina and provides easy access to it. Face your palm upwards and place 2 fingers inside your vagina while pressing the tips of your fingers against the central part of the upper wall of the vagina. “You are looking for a springy, furrowed or slightly uneven area, similar to the upper part of your mouth,” Celeste Hirschman of the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, explains.

If you are unsuccessful after numerous attempts, fill your mind with sexual fantasies or thoughts. When you become turned on, the g-spot will be filled with fluid and this will cause it to swell and increase in size. “It will be easier for you to find it when you are aroused.”

A strange notification that you have located it is a strong urge to urinate. “The g-spot is located next to the urethra and when you touch it; you will feel the need to urinate”, clinical director Bat Sheva Marcus, PhD explains.

Carry out continuous experiments by yourself with the use of varying levels of speed and pressure. Do not be alarmed if you feel yourself getting closer to an orgasm. You don’t have to resist the feeling; just allow yourself to enjoy an extremely intense gspot orgasm by yourself before you get the chance to explain to your man what it will take to reach that point.

Show Your Lover Where Your G is!

Do you remember how your partner found the various pleasurable points of your body through a series of trials in the initial stages of your relationship? You should anticipate the same experience with your G. Granted he will be thrilled about helping you explore its blissful sensations; this is an unfamiliar area for many men.

To guide him easily, tell him to gently insert 1 or 2 fingers inside your vagina and then he should feel along the upper wall of your vagina. If it is difficult for him to locate the exact spot, let him kiss you, caress your nipples or feel the external area of your vagina. The more stimulated you feel, the more conspicuous your g-spot will become and it will be easier to find.

It is a good idea to place some pillows beneath your lower back and spread your legs wider, this will open up your vagina and provide him with more access inside you, says Dr. Danielle Harel. When he hits the spot, guide him to gently manipulate it in delicious, slow circles. Caresses can differ; they may be in the form of number 8’s or a speedy sequence of pulsating movements. The G withstands pressure; you may need to tell him to massage it more firmly.

A g-spot technique that he should try on you is the tapping method. “With the tip of his finger, have him repeatedly tap your g-spot firmly”, advises Harel. She explains that there is a natural reason as to why this creates a sensational feeling. “The most powerful moments of physical touch on any part of the body are typically during the initial seconds. When he taps you, it feels as if he is touching you there for the very first time repeatedly and this causes an accumulation of feelings that can lead to a memorable orgasm.

Sexual Positions that Heighten G-spot Pleasure

You on top of him is a guaranteed g-spot conqueror. When you face your partner while leaning backwards at an angle, this allows his penis to lie against the higher wall of your vagina. Even the most minor thrusts will mean that he will automatically rub against your g-spot. Another advantage of this position is that you can control how deep and how fast he will thrust, which will make it easier for you to regulate the way your partner’s penis strokes your g-spot.

The doggie style move also gives your lover easy contact with your sweet spot. If you lie on your belly and keep your legs slightly apart, the walls of the vagina will be compressed and this will make it virtually unavoidable for your lover’s penis to evade your g-spot.

Do not disregard the possibilities of the missionary position. Try out this different version by lying on your back. Bend your knees, with your feet flat on the floor or any other surface. Use a couple of pillows under your lower back to facilitate a raised pelvis. Your lover is required to sit up and penetrate with upward angle thrusts. This will bring his penis into contact with your vagina’s upper wall.

A Vital Trick to Guarantee G-Spot Ecstasy

The bedroom trick that involves the g-spot with legendary success is known as the blended climax. For a wall shattering climax, the g-spot is stimulated while either your lover or you fiddle around with the clitoris. This serves to give you a double dose of pleasure in the form of an orgasm. “The clitoral nerves are located very near your g-spot and when the two parts are touched simultaneously, the climax is intense,” explains Hirschman.

A Blended O can be experienced during a foreplay session when your partner rubs your clitoris using his fingers and he uses two other fingers to caress your g-spot. “As the feeling of excitement increases, your pelvis should rise in a motion that allows you to thrust against his entire hand”, says Hirschman. She also suggests an oral move that involves him gently yet firmly licking your clitoris while massaging your sweet spot.

To enjoy a combined orgasm during sexual intercourse, the woman-on-top position is the most effective. Harel explains that you should angle your body and let his penis rub against the gspot while you hold up your body with your hands, preferably on a hard surface. In the meantime, your lover should actively touch your clitoris.

Another blended orgasm variation is the doggie style position where you kneel low with the support of your forearms. Raise your pelvis off the floor, table or bed to allow either of you to have easy contact with your c-spot. Increase the sensation by asking your lover to thrust slightly before ordering him to let go so that either of you can take over your clitoral stimulation. Order him (politely of course!) to start again while you gently flick your clit with your fingers.

When you feel like you can’t endure much more, let him caress you both outside and inside until you are ready to climax. Harel says this is a good move because the two of you participate in helping you to reach a combi climax orgasm. Aside from the intense physical pleasure, the emotional connection is powerful.

How to Maximize the Force of Your G-Spot Orgasms

To reach g-spot bliss, you will need to practice and continually stimulate it as well as make it a part of your sexual activity.

Aside from increasing the amount of sexual activity, you can intensify the pleasure by carrying out Kegel exercises. These involve the contraction of your pelvic muscles, just like you would if you attempt to stop urine from flowing out. Hirschman says that Kegels strengthen vaginal muscles and provide a strengthened grip during sex and this increases the pressure on your G.

This is how you do the Kegel exercises: focus on the pelvic muscle that controls your urine flow. Squeeze as tightly as possible, hold the position for a few seconds and let go. Repeat this 10 times, several times during the day. These exercises are convenient and you can do them virtually anywhere. Do them when you’re caught up in traffic, during a shower or even as you sit behind your desk. Repeated Kegels on a daily basis will increase the sensitivity of your g-spot.

Female Orgasm Tip #3 – Why Communication Is Crucial

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Giving a woman an orgasm doesn’t have to be tricky – in fact, it doesn’t even require a circus full of performances, contrary to popular belief. You might think you have to stand on your head, recite the alphabet backwards and even juggle with your feet (at the same time, of course) to give your girl the big “O,” but the truth is that nothing is further from the truth. We’re going to go into one of the more basic (but no less intimidating) aspects of giving a girl a toe curling orgasm – communication.

When you hear communication, you normally think “talking” but words are not always the best way to communicate – especially when you’re having sex. In this video, you’ll find out why non-verbal communication is so important.

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Vanilla, Chocolate or Strawberry – What’s Your Flavor?

Just like everyone has different flavor preferences when it comes to ice cream, everyone has different preference when it comes to sex. It’s a rather basic comparison, but an easy one. If you take your girl to an ice cream parlor, how do you order her ice cream? Do you ask what flavor she wants, or do you pick one for her and hope she likes it, only to find out later that it was her least favorite and she only pretended to like it to be nice? Now take that scenario and apply it to giving your girl an orgasm – do you try to find out what she likes, or just wing it and risk doing something she doesn’t like in the bedroom?

Communication Is Key

Okay, so asking your woman what she likes in the sack isn’t as easy as asking her what her favorite ice cream flavor is. It’s much more difficult – in fact, some people are incredibly shy about talking about sexual topics in general and try to avoid it at all costs. Of course, communicating verbally about what she likes in the bedroom is the better way to go about it, but you can also use different forms of non-verbal communication to give you clues about what feels good and what doesn’t. Imagine going to the ice cream parlor and instead of asking her what she likes, watch her as she browses the flavors. Is she giving you any cues about what flavor she likes, such as looking at one more than the other, or even asking for a sample and exclaiming, “Mmmmm!” You can do the same thing during sex – when you’re using a sexual technique, see how she responds to it. Is she saying, “Mmmm!” or is she perhaps using body language to suggest another technique? You can even devise a system between you and your partner to let each other know what feels good and what doesn’t, such as a special word, or a type of moan or even a special touch.

Ladies Only – A Man’s Delicate Ego

Ladies, beware a man’s delicate ego. He doesn’t like to hear criticism about his performance – in fact, he’d rather not hear about what he was doing wrong at all. So how do you let him know if he’s doing something you don’t like? It’s easy – instead of mentioning what he shouldn’t be doing, make a big deal about what he does that you do like. Did he rub you the right way and really get you going last night? Make sure you are vocal about it during the act, mention how good it felt afterwards and for good measure, mention it next week. Chances are, he’ll repeat whatever it was that he did that pushed your hot buttons.

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Take just a minute to check out ‘The Female Orgasm Black Book’: “How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms”