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Do You Really Need To Know If She’s Faking An Orgasm?

I have had many people ask me if it really is possible to know when a woman is faking an orgasm. My answer to that question is yes, if you are extremely alert.

However, why spend so much time trying to find out if she’s faking an orgasm when you can rather spend that time learning different techniques in cunnilingus, fingering and intercourse.

More importantly, why not spend that time to learn what your woman’s sexual wants and needs are in the bedroom. By doing that, you won’t ever have to wonder if she is faking it or not.

Why Is She Faking Her Orgasm?

If your woman truly is faking an orgasm, it is because she does not want to hurt your feelings. So, the only way to make sure that she never does this again, is by allowing her to be open with you in the bedroom.

Take the initiative to be the first to open the communication channels between yourself and your partner. Make her feel totally relaxed and comfortable when she is with you. The way to do this is by showing her that you don’t take yourself too seriously.

For example, if you make a small yet embarrassing mistake during a lovemaking session, don’t just keep it quiet. Instead, acknowledge it in front of her, and then laugh it off.

By doing this, you will show your partner that if things don’t go the way they should when making love, you won’t get all upset and act like you have just lost your manhood.

Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously

By not taking yourself too seriously, you will show your woman that you are open to criticism, and that if all still fails in the end, it doesn’t matter, because you are both just having fun. Once she has opened up, take the opportunity to ask her what really gets her going.

Let her know that you are open and ready to do whatever it takes to please her, and that you lay no judgment on her for showing you. Do it in a fun way so that it does not look like a science project, and never feel frustrated or anxious if you do not get it right the first time.

By applying this type of mindset, you will make it easier for your woman to be open with you. This will then allow her to openly tell you what her deepest and darkest desires are.

Think About What Faking An Orgasm Really Means

Faking an orgasm spells "miscommunication between two lovers". Both are afraid to open up to each other, because both feel the other might get upset or judge them incorrectly.

So really, if you read between the lines, you will realize that each partner has a common goal, and that goal is to please the other, even if it means not hurting the other’s feelings. Unfortunately, the outcome is disastrous, because both shoot themselves in the foot. Someone needs to break the ice, so why not take the lead and let it be you?

By spending your valuable time on being open, and learning to accept your other half for who they are, you will be paving the way for a much healthier, passionate sex life between the two of you.

So ask yourself seriously, what sounds more productive; Finding out if she is faking an orgasm in the hopes that one day you can catch her out and embarrass her, which in the end will make your woman close up even more in the hopes that you never catch her out again, or rather spending the time to learn how to prevent your woman from faking an orgasm by learning how to communicate openly and not take yourself so seriously, so that both parties can actually learn to enjoy a night of passionate sex.

You decide.

How to Intensify Your Woman’s Orgasms

By paultony

Ask any woman what she would prefer; multiple orgasms, or one extremely powerful orgasm? Most likely she will choose the second option.

Okay, now take it one step further; ask her if she would prefer multiple orgasms, or powerful mind blowing multiple orgasms.

Now that you see the bigger picture, let me show you some powerful techniques to intensify your woman’s orgasms to new heights;

Tease your Woman and Create anticipation

Most “sexperts” will tell you to take your time during foreplay, and they are right. However, there is more to it than just taking your time. Every bit of time spent must count. Pointlessly taking your time will only bore your woman.

However, taking your time to tease your woman will drive her crazy and keep her on an “erotic high”. All she will care about is hoping that you will make her cum, because she has such an itch for it.

You can apply this technique even before you get under the covers with your woman. Begin by flirting with your partner during the day. This will give you a feel as to whether she is in the mood for a lovemaking session or not. Once you have confirmation that she is, move to the next step of teasing her.

At different intervals during the day, do something a little naughty to her. Start off lightly by whispering sexy words into her ears. Tell her what you are going to do to her later that day. Then walk away.

The next time you brush past your partner, kiss her lightly and seductively, and when you feel she is wanting to kiss you more, pull away, but do it with a mischievous smile. Once again, walk away. This will show her how much control you have over your desires.

At this point your woman will be feeling a little frustrated, and maybe even a little annoyed. However, she will most likely be hoping that you approach her again so that she can regain some control.

When you do walk past her again, grab her a little more passionately, and give up just a little more control, but just when your partner thinks she has regained control of the situation, pull away.

By doing this, you are teasing her and building anticipation into her mind. The anticipation in turn will put your woman in a higher state of arousal. She has an itch, and she is dying to get it scratched, and she wants you to scratch that itch real bad.

The Trick To Keeping Her On The Erotic High

The trick is to keep your woman on this “erotic high”.

Once you and your partner are finally under the covers, you can continue to tease her. If you are performing cunnilingus, tease her by going as close to her clitoris as possible without ever touching it. By the time you finally do, her “erotic high” will reach a new level.

At this point you can bring your woman close to orgasm, then stop and move away to stimulate another area on her body. Continue to do this until she can’t take it anymore. When she finally reaches orgasm, she will be in a state of bliss.

Amplified Trigger Response Technique

If you have being paying attention, you would have noticed something very important. You would have noticed that the techniques you are using to intensify your woman’s orgasms are by stimulating her mind. The amplified Trigger response is a more direct example of mind stimulation.

It is important to keep in mind that timing plays a crucial part when it comes to using this technique. The “amplified Trigger Response” has to be applied just before your woman reaches an orgasm, and must continue during her orgasmic state.

This technique can be approached in two ways; by direct touch, or by what she hears. However, both approaches have the same end goal of triggering a thought or feeling in her mind that amplifies her state of arousal just before she reaches the ultimate height of ecstasy. This in turn will escalate that height of ecstasy.

Amplified Trigger Response Technique Through Touch

This technique is especially effective when you are performing cunnilingus, or when you are fingering your partner. Before going down on your woman, mentally pick a part of your partner’s body ( preferably one of her erogenous zones) that you will avoid touching while performing cunnilingus on her.

In this example we will choose the nipples, and we will use cunnilingus as a method of stimulation.

Now tell your partner to lie back with her eyes closed and relax. During the cunnilingus session, you may let your hands freely explore your woman’s body. However, whatever you do, don’t go near her breasts and nipples. Keep doing this until you feel she is within seconds of reaching an orgasm.

When she reaches this point, begin lightly pulling on her nipples. Keep on doing this until she has completed her orgasm. The unexpected yet welcomed action will trigger some erotic feeling in her mind, thus intensifying her orgasm.

Amplified Trigger Response Technique Through Sound

This technique is effective through cunnilingus, fingering and intercourse. However, we will continue to use cunnilingus in order to show an example of this technique.

Let your partner lie back with her eyes closed. Feel free to explore her body with your hands. Yes, you may touch the breasts too. Once you feel she is within seconds of reaching an orgasm, start moaning and groaning until she has fully completed her orgasm.

Once again, the unexpected yet welcomed action will trigger some erotic feeling in her mind, thus intensifying her orgasm.

Now feel free to combine the two methods of this technique to create something new. Your imagination is a powerful sex toy. By using it correctly, you can come up with many new techniques to give your woman a good time.

Does Your Woman Have Trouble Reaching Orgasm? Try These 2 Powerful Tips…

By paultony

I think you will agree with me that there is nothing more frustrating and tiring when you know you have done everything right in helping your partner achieve an orgasm, yet she still never reaches it.

It is frustrating because you have no idea what you have done wrong in terms of technique, and it is tiring because your hands, jaw or any other part of your body is aching from the never ending rubbing, licking or sucking.

In the end, nobody is having fun, and the whole ordeal turns into a nightmare.

Here are two tips to help your woman achieve any type of orgasm without difficulty;

She Must Be In The Mood

This is one of the biggest obstacles that will stand between you and your woman when it comes to helping her easily achieve an orgasm. If she is not in the mood, and is only having sex to end your begging and moaning, helping her achieve any type of orgasm can become very difficult.

Your woman needs to be in the mood for sex. It should never be a chore for her. Think about it; if she gives in and says yes so that you can stop your whining, she will want to get it over with as soon as possible.

Because of this, your woman will be trying very hard to orgasm, hoping that she can satisfy you and get it over with as soon as possible. Unfortunately, the opposite effect occurs. Because your woman is trying so hard to orgasm, she develops a mental block, thus finds it difficult to orgasm. In the end, nobody wins.

How Do I Get Her In The Mood?

Well, you could try the “ seduce her during the day” routine. This can be achieved by spoiling and flirting with your woman. Take your woman out for a romantic dinner. Give her a romantic gift. Charm your woman by telling her how beautiful she is. All of this might or might not work , because at the end of the day, it is up to her whether she truly feels in the mood, or not.

The best way to get your woman in the mood is by letting it happen naturally. Unlike men who generally get horny at the snap of a finger, women get horny for sex at certain times of the month. These “In the mood” days usually occur between ovulation and menstruation. This is somewhere between the 14th and 28th day of their cycle.

Knowing When That Occurs

The trick is to find out when these days occur. The only way to know this is by waiting and watching. If you pay attention, you will soon notice when she is feeling hornier than usual. When these days occur, make a mental note of it.

Not every woman is the same. While some women admit that they feel horny just before their period starts, other’s report to feel at their horniest right after their period ends.

During the days when your woman is in the mood, it will be a lot easier for you to seduce and make love with her. She will become more sensitive and responsive to every type of touch, thus stimulating her hot- spots to reach orgasm becomes a lot easier as well.

Do Not Go Faster Or Change Direction Just Before She Orgasms

The reason many women fall short of having an orgasm is because their partners believe they should go faster or change the direction of movement when their woman is just about to orgasm. This is a big mistake.

If your woman signals you that she is about to orgasm by moaning or breathing faster, just keep doing what you were doing at that point to get her to this stage of arousal. Do not change a thing. Don’t go faster. Don’t change direction of movement, and for crying out loud, don’t friggin stop. Continue doing what ever you are doing until she has totally completed her orgasm.

By keeping these two powerful points in mind, helping your woman achieve an a-spot, g-spot or clitoral orgasm will be very easy task. Instead of your lovemaking sessions being frustrating and tiring, they will be a lot more enjoyable and satisfying for you and your partner.

Multiple Orgasms – Did You Know That It IS Possible For Men Too?

By carlatara

Tantra is such a vast subject that it’s fascinating and awe-inspiring. It includes so much that it can be very confusing to the beginning student. Tantra is an art, a science, a way of life that is honest and courageous. It includes and faces squarely our sexual energy, this awesome force that some religions fear and want to suppress.

It can be used to help us reach our highest potential of pleasure, and union with the divine. To achieve this, it offers a series of exercises in breathing, tone vibrations, the use of certain muscles, and concentration on certain symbols representing the energy centers of the body.

One of the techniques it teaches allows men to have an orgasm without ejaculating, which makes it possible for him to come again and again.

How is This Possible?

Well, by using tantric principles, such as breathing, visualizing, and squeezing the love muscles to draw sexual energy from the sex organs up the spine to the back of the brain, a man can learn to ride the waves of orgasm and start coasting along the crest of those waves like a skilled surfer.

He can go down in the valley of the wave and enjoy playing more safely in a sweet and intensive romantic/spiritual space, absorbing the benefits resulting from the heightened pleasure he just achieved. He feels as if he’s buzzing with energy, more open and tender toward his partner and himself.

They can look into each other’s eyes, exchange gentle caresses, or simply breathe together to expand the state of bliss. All this can be done without the man losing the precious life-force contained in his semen.

Then the couple can proceed to make love actively, and reach several peaks in one love session. After having reached several peaks and experienced several body orgasms, the man can choose to have an ejaculatory orgasm if desired.

Controlling Ejaculation

How quickly a man can learn to control his ejaculation response depends on how much he practices, and the attitude he practices with. It’s almost a paradox: The more patient and loving you are with yourself, the less in a hurry to achieve quick results, the faster you’ll learn.

That’s because relaxation is the key, and you can’t be relaxed if you’re very goal-oriented. When you’re goal-oriented, you’re tense and usually judgmental. Ideas like, “I don’t know if I’ll ever learn this stuff…..Perhaps it’s not for me….I’m wasting my time….” or similar discouraging thoughts will retard the process of learning.

Be Positive and Loving

Start with self-pleasuring sessions as though you would pleasure the body of a god, or a person you love and admire. In such a case you wouldn’t care how long it takes that person to learn ejaculation control, or anything else. It helps if you set the mood by lighting a candle, burning your favorite incense, and perhaps having some of your favorite flowers or inspiring pictures in view.

The right kind of music can help set the right atmosphere for relaxation as well. Each time you pleasure yourself and feel an ejaculation approaching, try to become more consciously aware of all the signals your body is sending you. With practice, you’ll be better able to anticipate, and then regulate, your reaction.

Regulate Your Reaction

By the way, the more I work with clients concerned about ejaculation control, the more I realize that the word “control” is not really appropriate. It’s rather a redistribution of energy throughout the body. With breathing techniques and the use of your PC (pubo-coccyceal) muscles, you engage your imagination.

Visualize that you’re bringing the very hot energy that has collected around your genitals to the rest of your body, especially to your heart, mixed with a feeling of love for yourself. It’s almost as if you’re opening up a dam and letting the flow of water run along the river. Imagine that it’s a river of warm energy, love and light, spreading throughout your body.

Most men need to try more than one session before they can actually own the techniques that will extend their pleasure by postponing their ejaculation.

While reading about these techniques can point you in the right direction, it really helps when someone knowledgeable can guide you through the experience, and this is one of the areas where an experienced Tantric practitioner can aid you immensely in your practice.

How To Tell If She Is Faking Her Orgasms! And What To Do If She Is…

By wwilcox

It’s every sexually active man’s fear, that his partner or partners have or are faking their orgasms. So is there a way to tell if a girl’s only acting like she’s in pleasure heaven? And what can a guy do to turn her amateur dramatics into fully blown, sexual satisfaction?

The female orgasm has always been shrouded in mystery for men (and many women!). Unlike a guy’s guaranteed sexual pay-off, a female orgasm is never a certainty; for it to occur at all requires a whole host of special requirements to be met.

Things like the male’s sexual technique, the woman’s knowledge of how her body works and responds to different things, and the female’s mood at the time of sex all play a part in either preventing or allowing an orgasm to take place.

So let’s tackle the first issue: what signs should you look for to tell if a girl’s putting it on in the sack and not really reaching her ultimate climax?

1st Signal That She May Be Faking Her Orgasms

BLOOD FLOW SIGNALS. When a woman is sexually aroused, the blood flow to specific parts of her body change. These changes are most notable (and useful to us guys!) when a woman climaxes by reaching an orgasm. Here are the Blood Flow Signals you should watch out for:

A. Watch her cheeks as you have sex and take note of how red or blushed they are. When a girl climaxes, the blood flow to her face typically increases, you’ll often notice her cheeks suddenly become more pink and flushed.

B. Another part of the body that receives an increased flow of blood when a woman reaches orgasm is the nipples – again, try to watch out for how they change as you have sex and especially when she appears to be having an orgasm. If she IS truly cumming, her nipples may very well become harder and more “erect”.

C. Her chest is another GREAT place to notice the after-effects of an orgasm. A massive percentage of women, right after they climax, have a red flush on their chests that almost looks like a light rash. If your girl has this, it’s a strong sign she’s just achieved the magic “O.”

D. Lastly, her vagina’s lips (labia). Look for a slight swelling and reddening as another indication that she’s not play-acting her ultimate pleasure.

2nd Signal That She May Be Faking Her Orgasms

The above blood flow signals are usually noticed just after a woman’s climaxed. This sign is noticeable only when she’s actually experiencing an orgasm. Try to feel or sense tiny contractions in her vagina. These twitches often happen as a natural result of what a woman is psychically going through and feeling and serve as a really good, accurate indicator of whether or not she’s actually cumming.

3rd Signal That She May Be Faking Her Orgasms

When they reach orgasm, most women sort of zone out for a moment and then, over the 15-20 seconds that follow their climax, slowly come “back around.” Look for this zoning out effect by watching her eyes after she supposedly cums. Do they look sort of glazed or glassy, even for just a few seconds?

The good thing about this sign is that women rarely ever try to or even know how to fake it, so when you DO notice it, it actually tends to mean something significant (and positive!).

4th Signal That She May Be Faking Her Orgasms

Lastly, consider the way she acts and behaves. When she ‘climaxes’, is it usually from the same kind of stimulation. For example, does she tend to cum most of the time from oral sex or penetrative sex? Is it usually towards the end of your lovemaking or does it seem to happen randomly.

If her orgasms ARE wild and inconsistent and brought about seemingly by completely different kinds of stimulus, there may be something…amiss. Also, does she talk about having an orgasm a lot? Say, after you finish sex, does she often confirm, even without you asking, that she had a great time and came lots? A lot of women do this when they think the man hasn’t believed their orgasmic reactions, so consider what she says and the way she says it carefully.

Overall, your goal is never to be a private investigator in bed. You simply want to know if she’s being satisfied or not, right? To help you ascertain whether or not you’re regularly bringing her to orgasm, look for the 4 signs and signals you’ve just read.

If you DO think she’s faking it, I recommend first talking to her about it. But then, as the real answer to the problem, you should pick up your game and learn exactly how to physically satisfy her, or for that matter, any woman. There are dozens of techniques and strategies for doing this, all ready to be learned and applied to your sex life…so don’t wait any longer to revolutionize your performance and ability in bed.