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Top 10 Best Redneck Places To Have Sex

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Sex can be classy, or it can be downright dirty. Getting it on in the country, or just the way a “country gal” might, can be a lot of fun and may end up being really memorable! Want to know some truly “redneck” places to have sex? Here are ten you and your partner can have fun trying!

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In A Barn Loft Full Of Hay

While the hay might be coarse and itchy (heads up, bring a blanket), this can definitely be a romantic and sexy way to connect with your inner “redneck.” The smell of the hay will help you get in touch with your country side, and you and your lover can have fun bringing the term “rolling around in the hay” to life.

On The Fence In The Middle Of A Farm

One of the best things about being on a farm is that you’re really out in the middle of nowhere. There’s almost never anyone around, so you can have nearly complete privacy while still being out in the open and experiencing the thrill of “public sex.” Hop up on a picket fence and get busy! Make sure to avoid having sex on electric cattle fences – they’re pretty easy to spot, but if you do mistake an electric fence for a regular fence, your bum is going to be sorry!

Grab A Quickie At The County Fair

The county fair is a great place to grab a quickie. There are plenty of places to do it, and almost no one is paying attention – they’re too busy playing carnival games or people watching. Next time the fair is in town, find a secluded nook and get it on with your lover. Standing sex positions are probably your best bet here, there’s no telling what is on the ground – it could be anything from petting zoo waste to sticky popcorn and cotton candy.

On A Hunting Platform In A Tree

Find a much better use for a hunting platform and use it for sex instead of shooting wild animals. This can be super fun if you’re not afraid of heights – just be careful and make sure that the platform you’ve chosen is sturdy enough to support both yours and your partner’s weight combined. Don’t go at it too vigorously though – shaking the entire tree might not be in your best interest.

At A Public Laundromat

There are few things more raunchy than having sex in a public laundromat. If you happen to go when it’s either really early or really late (never on the weekends, laundromats are always super busy on Saturdays and Sundays), you will often find yourselves alone for quite some time. Take advantage of the privacy and bend over a commercial washer doggy style!

In A Car Lift At The Auto Shop

When your car is being worked on, sneak into the backseat and have sex while your car is lifted up in the air. The bonus? No one will be able to hear you and your lover getting it on over the noise of the machinery in the shop. The caveat? It’s going to be pretty tough sneaking in the backseat without anyone from the shop noticing you. Even if you manage to get up there without anyone being the wiser, you’re probably not going to be able to get out without someone seeing you.

On A Blanket In The Middle Of A Pasture

This one is actually very easy to do and you probably won’t get caught doing it. Find an empty pasture and bring a blanket – and a picnic if you like – and relax under the open air. Do this at sunrise, sunset or at night under the stars. It’s simple, fun and super romantic! Just be sure to avoid the cow paddies.

Under The Bleachers At A Monster Truck Rally

If the idea of monster trucks crushing each other and the sound of twisting metal turns you on (what redneck doesn’t like monster trucks?), grab two tickets to a monster truck rally and get busy under the bleachers. No one will be able to hear you over all the noise, so be as loud as you like!

In The Back Corner Of The Dollar Store

This may be difficult to do without getting caught, but it is possible. Next time you’re bargain hunting at the dollar store, sneak to a back corner or aisle that isn’t frequented by customers or staff. If you can’t manage to have sex, start a little foreplay like a handjob or deep kissing that can be continued at home.

On The Sofa At A Truck Stop Lounge

This is probably the raunchiest, most redneck spot of them all. If it’s late at night, it’s unlikely that anyone will notice or be bothered by you and your lover getting busy on the couch – just make sure to bring a blanket. You don’t know what – or who – else has been on that couch!

How A Woman’s Orgasm Works

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An orgasm isn’t something that men can easily give until they understand the basics of how a it comes about. You’ve probably heard this disconcerting fact before: 75% of women do not reach orgasm during intercourse. This doesn’t mean that 75% of women don’t climax at all, it means only 25% of them can climax while you’re pumping away and screaming baseball statistics into their ears.

This is a rectifiable situation, and it starts with you, buddy. Understanding the four stages of the orgasm, as laid out by sexperts Masters & Johnson, can help you put your significant other into that desired 25%, and make her like you better!

The Stages Of Orgasm

  • Excitement
  • Plateau
  • Orgasm
  • Refractory
  • Resolution

The Excitement Phase

So what happens when you are excited? Blood rushes to your penis, and it gets hard. It is similar for women. Blood rushes to her genitals causing her clitoris to swell and her vagina to increase in diameter and length. Her cervix and uterus are pulled up, and her body produces lubrication, i.e. she gets wet. While this doesn’t happen as quickly as it does to you, 5 minutes into Meet Joe Black she ought to be ready to go.

The Plateau Phase

The term plateau gives the impression that there is not a lot happening. On the contrary, there is a lot going on. Your heart rate and your breathing speed up. Blood is congested in your genitals, waiting to blow. This is the same for her. Listen to her breathing and feel her heart rate. If you don’t notice a change, go back to step one.

The Orgasm Phase

Now here is where men and women differ. Men have a Point of No Return (PNR). This is when there is no stopping a man. He is going to orgasm even if his mother walks into the room. Women do not have this. A woman can be a split second away from orgasm, and it may be interrupted. She must be stimulated all the way through her climax!

The Refractory Period

After this, there is the Refractory Period. That is the part where you’ve climaxed, you may still be hard, but you are definitely not climaxing again. Once again, women do not have a Refractory Period! They go back to the Plateau stage. This confuses men. To them, the orgasm is the end game. Once it’s achieved, the act is over. For women, they’re just getting started. Each proceeding orgasm is more intense than the previous. Given proper stimulation, a woman can reach an “orgasm cloud” where her multiple orgasms are so strong and so continuous, that they seemingly blend into one constant orgasm.

The Resolution Phase

After the Refractory Stage comes the Resolution. This is the part where you’re blissfully snoring before the condom even comes off. Since women don’t go through the Refractory Stage, Resolution begins once stimulation has ended. If you have satisfied her sexually, you have flooded her brain with endorphins, the happiness hormone. That means she will be happier with you, less likely to be angered by your dirty socks on the floor. Well, at least for a few hours anyway.

Q&A: MMF Threesome – How Can I Get Him To Try It?

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A threesome can be fun for everyone involved, but how do you get your man interested in swinging with another guy? Many men are down with swinging, but only if it’s a FFM threesome – not a MMF. However, if he gets to indulge in his fantasy of two women, shouldn’t you be able to indulge in your own fantasy with two men? How do you get your lover to be open minded about a MMF threesome?

Question: My husband and I are toying with the idea of having a FFM threesome, however I am more interested in meeting with another couple than with just another woman. But my husband can’t stand the idea of another man with me. I feel as though it isn’t a fair trade! How do I open my husband up to the idea of a foursome over a threesome? Or should we call the whole thing off?

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Communicate With Your Partner About Where The Boundaries Are

If you and your lover have some differing opinions about what is okay and what isn’t okay during a threesome, it’s essential that you talk to them about it before you actually engage in any type of play. You want to hash out where the boundaries are beforehand, so neither of you are left uncomfortable or hurt by anything that goes on. So where do you draw those boundaries?

Start with flirting and work your way up. It may seem awkward to try to imagine and talk about all the possible scenarios that you could end up in during a swinging situation, but it’s important to talk about each one of them separately. For example, you may be comfortable with kissing, but your partner may not be because it’s too intimate. They may want to reserve kissing just for the two of you. Talk about flirting, kissing, touching, oral sex and anything else that crosses your mind. You want to know going in what is okay and what isn’t. Draw the line at what you’re both okay with – if one of you isn’t comfortable with something, don’t push the issue.

Talk To Your Partner About The Way You Feel

Most people wouldn’t see it as fair for your lover to get to indulge in his fantasies but for you to be unable to indulge in yours. However, just because it’s obviously not fair doesn’t mean that you should discredit your partner’s feelings about the situation. Talk to your lover about how they feel and why they are uncomfortable with a MMF threesome. Ask them why and listen to their questions and concerns openly. Don’t be critical of your lover and remember that it doesn’t need to turn into a fight.

On the same token, your partner needs to listen to your concerns as well. Explain to them why you feel it’s unfair and suggest some possible solutions to the issue. Once you understand his point of view and he understands yours, you can start to find a compromise that works well for both of you. Is there another fantasy of yours that you’re dying to try that could be substituted for the MMF threesome? Or does he have another fantasy that he wants to act out that doesn’t involve being hypocritical?

If They’re Not Into It, Let It Go

Remember that your partner’s concerns are just as valid as your own, even if they seem unfair. If the thought of you with another man really makes him uncomfortable, even if he’s in the room and it’s consensual, then it’s not something you want to continue to harp on. If you try to talk him into it, he may do it – but begrudgingly and you’re in for more than you bargained for there.

If you and your lover have trouble finding a common ground, think about the possibility that swinging just isn’t right for your relationship. And that doesn’t mean that it’s not right for your relationship ever, but simply that it’s not right for your relationship right now. If you can’t come to a consensus where both you and your partner are happy with the results, put the issue to bed and come back to it at a later time.

There are tons of different things you can do besides a threesome to add spice and variety to your sex life. Try experimenting with a little bondage or roleplay, or read about new ways to give your partner an orgasm. Don’t get stuck thinking a threesome is the only thing that is going to make your sex life as hot as it used to be!

Naughty Fingers Review

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Naughty Fingers is a completely comprehensive guide that goes into detail about female orgasms, how a woman receives pleasure and how give her an orgasm through fingering – or two or three!

The Good

Naughty Fingers leaves no stone unturned when it comes to learning how to please a woman sexually with your fingers. You’ll learn erotic touch, sensual massage and the exact techniques you’ll need to give her orgasm after orgasm. You’ll also learn the basics behind a woman’s pleasure, which is important when trying to understand why other techniques that have been used in the past didn’t work.

The book is well planned out, with easy to read and understand text, as well as delineated chapters that are easy to navigate through. Gabrielle Moore demonstrates her vast knowledge about female anatomy and female orgasms in each chapter, from how to finger a woman to warming her up with foreplay and sensual massage.

The Bad

While Naughty Fingers is definitely a well thought out lesson on how to please a woman with your hands, some men and women may find that the anatomical references and diagrams go a little overboard. In fact, the section on brain anatomy seems out of place, however, it can easily be skipped without compromising the take-away from the text, unless you really desire to know the physical breakdown of the brain.

The section on a woman’s menstrual cycle may be enough to scare any guy who has made it this far through the book away, because he’s probably thinking, “Hey, I didn’t sign up to learn about her period. How does that relate to me fingering her at all?” Truthfully, understanding where a woman is in her menstrual cycle and how she’s feeling at any certain time is probably one of the first things you’re going to want to be aware of before trying to finger her. Depending on where she is in her cycle and how she is feeling at the time, she may not be receptive to your advances at all, regardless of how excellent your technique is. So men, while you may be tempted to skip over this part, man up and at least glance through it. She’ll thank you for it!

There’s not much else bad to say about Naughty Fingers simply because the text is so comprehensive, there’s really nothing missed. Taking the time to really read and understand what is being said in the book may take some time, but it is well worth it.

The Bottom Line

If you really want to learn how to finger a girl, as well as understand her orgasm and how to get her there over and over, Naughty Fingers is right up your alley. It’s a complete guide on understanding how a woman’s body works so you can learn how to please her without her ever telling you what to do. There’s also a great technique section at the end, so after you learn the “why’s,” you can start to learn “how.” An excellent book for men who not only want to learn exactly what to do and when, but also more about a woman’s pleasure in general.

The Full Naughty Fingers Review

Naughty Fingers is a guide to fingering and female orgasm and is incredibly thorough. Some men may not want to read through the entire background of how a woman reaches orgasm and will want to skip ahead to the actual fingering techniques – however, without understanding the basics behind a girl’s climax, a man is never going to be able to fully please her and give her a mind-numbing, earth shattering orgasm. Take the time to learn what women truly want and what they don’t want and why. Having a better comprehension of the way women operate will help you immensely when it comes to giving your partner sexual pleasure – of any kind!

While well worth the read, the introduction is lengthy. Don’t be afraid to read through it in small chunks, because the information really is vital to what you’re trying to do. In the next section, you’ll learn quite a bit about the hands, their function and how the brain controls the hands. It seems a little out of place here, but not for long. Naughty Fingers immediately jumps into “good touch” vs. “bad touch” and how to tell if your style of touching your lover is at all what she likes or what she wants.

What Type Of Partner Do You Have?

You’ll also learn what “type” of woman your partner is, and you can determine what category her libido falls into. You’ll learn more about the different types of orgasms a woman experiences and how she experiences them. Who knew that the female gender could experience so many different and separate types of climaxes, as well as multiple orgasms! This is perhaps one of the best sections in the text if you’re truly looking to understand female pleasure and how an orgasm works for a woman.

The sections on the female menstrual cycle and detailed diagrams of the female anatomy are next. While the Latin terms for all of her hot spots might seem a little overwhelming, remember that this is not your average high school sex ed class and that you’re actually learning this stuff to give your partner more sexual pleasure than she has ever experienced before. Take a deep breath and read on! Naughty Fingers shows you all of her most sensitive areas like the A-spot and the G-spot. You’ll even learn where the X-spot and the Y-spot are (huh? Those exist?) and how to stimulate them.

Strength And Stamina

Naughty Fingers also includes exercises to help build up the stamina and strength in your hands, because it takes a woman several minutes to become aroused and to reach orgasm – even longer if you want to give her multiple orgasms! You definitely want to make sure your hands, wrists and forearms are in peak condition so you can finish. It’s not going to be very fun for her if your hands cramp up when she’s almost there.

The next chapters are where Naughty Fingers starts to get really good, because you’re going to start delving into the the steps you’re going to take to start to massage and finger a woman until she’s writhing with pleasure. Don’t jump too far ahead – start from the beginning with the labia massage before trying to insert your finger into her vagina – you’re going to want her to be plenty aroused and plenty wet. Don’t forget to have a bottle of your favorite lube on hand too!

Techniques That Will Blow Her Mind

You’ll also learn specific maneuvers and techniques to use that will turn your partner on and send her over the edge – from the “Rumble In The Jungle” to the “U-Turn” and the “Ring Around The Rosie.” There are no shortage of suggestions here, so if you try one and it doesn’t work well, feel free to try another. You’re bound to find something that really rocks your partner’s world, and you’ll actually probably find several. You’ll also find lots of different sex positions to try fingering your partner in. This ensures that you’ll never run out of new combinations of things to try, so she’ll never get bored!

Naughty Fingers wraps up with tips on how to communicate with your partner, as well as how to set the stage for what you’re going to do and get your partner warmed up and ready for it. You’ll also learn how to choose the right lube, how to talk dirty to her and how to use erotic and sensual massage to get her relaxed. All in all, Naughty Fingers has more information about female orgasms and how to use fingering to pleasure your partner than you ever thought was out there. Enjoy the read – and then enjoy putting what you’ve learned into action!

Bonus: Forbidden Sex Toys

You can also spice up your sex life by bringing some sex toys into the bedroom. If you or your partner have never tried using sex toys (apart from masturbation alone), you can be in for a real treat – but how do you know which sex toys are the best and which ones to buy? Sex toys shows you many different styles of sex toys, so you can start to become familiar with what’s out there.

You’ll learn “how to pick ’em and how to use ’em” with everything from vibrators to lingerie to dildos and dongs and anal toys. Gabrielle doesn’t forget that sex toys aren’t just for girls, and includes a section on sex toys for boys, like masturbation sleeves and prostate stimulators. If  you’re not familiar with the sex toy industry and what it has to offer, Forbidden Sex Toys will give you a starting point. It’s also a great read if you just want to learn more about what different sex toys so you don’t end up spending your money on things you don’t end up liking or using!

Anal Fingering – 6 Techniques To Introduce Your Partner To Anal Play

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Anal fingering can be a great way to introduce new sensations in your sexual repertoire. The anus is packed with tons of pleasurable nerve endings – but many of them receive pain as well. Anal fingering can be extremely pleasurable or painful, if you don’t do it right. Never tried it before? Here’s how.

Use Plenty Of Lube

You may already know this, but there’s no mistaking the importance that a good amount of lube does for anal sex or any kind of anal play – including fingering. Don’t try to use spit, saliva or oil as a lube – it’s just not going to work. Instead, make sure you have a bottle of water based or silicone based lubricant on hand before you ever get started.

A scented lube can work really well for anal fingering, because not only do they work well, but they smell great too. Your lover may be apprehensive that they will smell bad if you’re that close to their nether region, but if they’re showered first and if you use a scented lube, it most likely won’t be an issue at all.

Never use a desensitizing lube when engaging in anal play. While it may seem beneficial to make sure your lover can’t feel it as much, that means you can do more damage than you intended to and not have any clue that you’re doing it! Your lover will wake up in the morning sore or bleeding, and won’t ever want to try it again!

Start With One Finger

This may seem like a no-brainer, but many people get so excited to try anal fingering with their lover that they try to use more than one finger to start off with. This won’t work very well and may cause  intense pain or discomfort. It’s important to start with one finger (your pinky finger if your hands are extremely large and your fingers are thick) until your lover gets used to the sensation. Once your lover seems to be enjoying it and is well lubed up, you can work on introducing more fingers, one at a time.

Give Them Oral Sex First – And During

For your lover to enjoy the sensations you’re giving during anal fingering, they have to be really, really turned on first. Even with plenty of lube, you’re still going to have a difficult time inserting your finger if their anal muscles are tight and not relaxed. So spend some time getting them turned on first, through foreplay and oral sex. Oral sex is an excellent precursor to anal fingering, simply because it is such an erotic activity.

Lube your finger up and slip it slowly into your lover’s anus while you’re performing oral sex on them. They will be more apt to enjoy the feeling than shy away from it, simply because what you were doing before already felt so good!

Wear Gloves

Consider donning a latex or vinyl glove before anal play. It may make you feel a little awkward, but your lover will appreciate it. You may think you have your nails trimmed and your cuticles cut, but if your hands are at all callused – as in, if you do any work for a living at all – your fingers are going to hurt your lover. Ladies, acrylic nails can hurt a man when you’re trying to massage his prostate gland!

Invest in a good box of gloves and keep them around for using during anal fingering. Your fingers will go in much more smoothly, especially with enough lube on hand. Also, it will protect you from getting bacteria and solid waste under your fingernails! Just be aware that petroleum jelly or oil based products will break down condoms and latex gloves!

Go Slow!

When you’re first fingering your lover, don’t be tempted to go too fast. It’s easy to go fast when you’re excited, but you can really hurt your lover this way. Instead, take your time and go slow. Build up their pleasure with oral sex while you massage their anus. Even if you can only slowly get your finger in and out once, you’re doing good for your first time.

You may not even get to have a really amazing session the first time you try anal fingering with your lover – the first time may actually be just “trying” it. Your lover isn’t sure what to expect and they don’t know what it’s going to feel like. The first time might simply be them getting accustomed to what it’s like. The next few times you’ll notice your lover getting more and more into it, as they get used to how it feels and they learn how to get pleasure out of it.

Use A “Come Hither” Motion

Anal fingering is much the same as vaginal fingering. You want to slowly insert the finger, palm side up. Once you get into position, slowly move your finger in a “come hither” motion, as though you would if you were trying to stimulate the g-spot. This is pleasurable for a woman, and even more so for a man, because it stimulates the prostate gland.

Many people make the mistake of thinking anal fingering is pushing the finger in and out of the anus. This is not going to be pleasurable at all! In fact, insertion and pushing past the tight sphincter muscles is actually the most painful part and only when it’s over can the recipient actually begin to experience pleasure. If you’re just pushing your finger in and out, you’re just repeating the worst part of anal fingering over and over again.

Instead, use the come-hither motion to gently massage all the nerve endings on the inside of the anus, and to put pressure on the pelvic floor. Combined with a glove, patience and plenty of lube, you can get your lover to really enjoy anal fingering!