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6 Ways To Make Anal Sex Better For Her

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Anal sex is something women do to make their men happy, right? They don’t actually enjoy it, right? Wrong! Lots of women really enjoy anal play. The anus is actually extremely sensitive and when stimulated the right way, can lead to intense and explosive orgasms! Many women enjoy anal play during sex and oral sex, and lots of girls like straight up anal sex and double penetration. However, there’s a lot of guys who don’t know how to make it safe and comfortable for a woman, so she can’t really enjoy it. If a guy doesn’t warm her up enough or use enough lube when engaging in anal play, it’s not going to be fun at all for her – in fact, it will actually be incredibly painful! Here’s how you can make anal sex something she loves.

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Use Enough Lube

The main reason that women don’t enjoy anal sex is that it can hurt and it can hurt bad if it’s not done correctly! One thing that can contribute to pain during anal sex is not having enough lube. Lube is very important during this activity because the anus does not lubricate itself the way a vagina does. Without external lubrication, the anus can become very dry and the delicate tissues can tear and bleed. Don’t be afraid to dump a whole bottle of lube on her butt if you have to – when it comes to this activity, you really can’t use enough lube.

The best lube for anal sex is a water based lube – a silicone lube is thick and can last longer (which is important for prolonged moisture) but it is not as easy to rinse off as water based lube. Search for a good, gentle water based lube that is made in a thicker formula. Never use a desensitizing lube for anal sex! While this may make her more “comfortable” in the beginning, she won’t be aware if the pain becomes too much. This can definitely lead to tears in the anus or bowel that require immediate medical attention. Good water based lube (and plenty of it) is all you need!

Use Small Toys First

Most guys get really excited at the prospect of trying anal sex with their partners and are eager to put their penises in right away. However, unless you’re a really small guy, you may be too big for her if she hasn’t tried anything else. Even with lube, if she’s not accommodated to taking something as large as your penis into her anus, you’re going to have to start smaller and work your way up.

Fingering the anus is a good starting point, since you can use one finger and gradually increase to two or even three fingers once she becomes more comfortable with it. You can also purchase small butt plugs that can be used to get her used to anal stimulation during sex. Even if you’re chomping at the bit to get it on with her backdoor, she’s going to like it a lot better if you don’t bombard her with something huge at first. She’ll also be more receptive to have anal sex more often if it doesn’t hurt!

Give Her Encouragement

Women love to know that they’re giving their men pleasure – and they want to hear about it first hand. While she’s having anal sex with you, don’t be too shy to let her know how much you enjoy it. Let it all out – moan, grunt and gasp so she knows that your pleasure is genuine! You can also give her a few words of encouragement as you’re warming her up with a sex toy or your fingers. Let her know how hot her butt is and how naughty and sexy she is for doing this with you. She’ll love hearing how much you’re enjoying it!

Don’t Act Like Poop Is A Big Deal

A huge reason that women don’t enjoy having anal sex with their partners is that they’re afraid or embarrassed to make a mess. This may keep her from ever having anal sex with you at all – she could be extremely apprehensive about fecal matter coming out during sex and she may think you’ll laugh at her or criticize her for it. Let her know up front that you know it might get dirty – and that it doesn’t bother you in the least. And if it happens – don’t freak out. Have a warm, wet washcloth nearby for clean up and take care of it as soon as you notice. If you can, don’t even mention it to her.

You can also ease her fears about making a mess during anal sex by encouraging her to have a bowel movement first or to do an enema first. Some women even find the enema process pleasurable, and it keeps things clean during sex later.

Make Sure She’s Aroused First

If she’s not aroused, she’s not going to enjoy anal sex, period. Her anus will be tight and puckered, and it won’t relax enough to allow you to put anything in, including your penis. So before you plan on heading to her backyard, play in the front a little first. Give her oral sex and get her really, really turned on. Lick her clitoris and get her to where she’s begging you to finish her off. Then, proceed to warm her up anally and don’t neglect her clitoris when you get started. With a combination of clitoral, anal and even vaginal or g-spot stimulation, you may end up giving her the best orgasm of her life!

Take Care Of Her Afterwards

When you’re finished, don’t just roll over and go to sleep, even if you’re tempted to. Instead, make an attempt to have a conversation with her. Help her get cleaned up, or join her in the shower if that’s what she wants to do afterwards. Let her know how much you enjoyed it and how glad you are that she did it. Let her know that you care about her and show her that you don’t think any less of her. Give her a sensual massage or make her a cup of hot tea to help her relax. Show her that she’s important to you and fulfill her emotionally as well. If you make her feel good emotionally after having anal sex, she’ll definitely want to have it again!

The Blowjob Move You’ve NEVER Heard Of

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Oral sex for men is something they really, really like – but it can also get boring . Think about it – you suck on his penis for awhile and he gets off. That’s it. You can change up your technique, but even after that, it’s pretty much the same each time. You really have to be on top of your game to keep him surprised each time you go down on him.

However, you can use this simple but never before heard of maneuver to send your guy to cloud nine. Next time you give your man head, think about doing something totally off the wall that he’ll never expect – but he’ll LOVE. Surprise your man by changing it up with this maneuver you NEVER knew about.

Start By Giving Normal Head

You’re going to start this oral sex technique by just going down on your guy like you normally would to get him warmed up. He’ll think you’re just giving him head like normal and won’t expect anything different than what you usually do. Besides, you want him to be kind of into it before you really surprise him, but honestly, what man isn’t into it from the get go?

Suck and lick his penis until he’s completely erect and is just starting to really enjoy what you’re doing. While any sex position will work for this super sultry technique, the better ones are with your partner either standing or sitting to receive his blowjob. This will give you more access and make it easier for you to effectively do the special technique.

Switch To Giving Him A Handjob

Once he’s in full enjoyment of the foreplay, switch to giving him a handjob. His penis should be plenty wet from your saliva, but you can also use flavored lube if you really want to get wet and wild. Please him with your hand for a few seconds while he wonders just what exactly you’re planning on doing next! Once you’re fairly sure he’s about to ask you what in the heck you’re doing, you can go on to the next phase of this titillating maneuver.

Then Lick His Balls

When you switched to giving your man a handjob, you probably wondered what the heck you were going to do with your mouth since this an oral sex technique and all. Take your mouth and snuggle right up to his scrotum. Lick the seam of his testicles with your tongue, and use your mouth to suck each of his balls in and out. This is a no holds barred maneuver, so don’t be afraid to get really chummy with his sack and make him think you’re French kissing it.

Do Both At The Same Time

The true trick here is to keep the handjob you’re giving to your man going as you lick and suck his scrotum and testicles. Most women handle their man’s testicles with their hands while giving them a blowjob, but you’re doing the exact opposite. He’s probably never had this done before, so it is sure to send your guy into absolute shock – he really won’t know what to do with himself!

If you’ve got a guy who also enjoys anal sex (and if you’ve got an extra hand), lube up your finger and massage his prostate too. The combination of different sensations are what will send him over the edge and into an earth shattering orgasm!

Things To Keep In Mind

Since you’re going to be up close and personal to your man’s scrotum, you’re definitely going to want to do this oral sex maneuver after he’s had a nice, long shower and has scrubbed his package very well. Make it extra special (and keep what you’re going to do a surprise) by hopping in the shower with him and scrubbing him up yourself! Why not start teasing him before you’re even ready to give him head? By the time you actually do get started giving him a blowjob, he’s going to be ready to bust!

Consider asking your man to shave his testicles if the idea of licking his balls when they’re hairy grosses you out. Let him know you have a sexual surprise for him, but you’d really like him to be soft and smooth first. Knowing that you’ve got something sexy up your sleeve will probably be enough to get any man to shave his nuts, even if he’s apprehensive about doing it. After you show him what you’ve got planned, he may just keep his testicles shaved!

How To Use A Masturbation Sleeve On Him

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Sex toys can spice up your sex life, but most of the time, people assume you’re referring to vibrators for women. In fact, the far majority of people believe that sex toys are just for women! The reality is that there are a lot of sex toys out there for guys, from cock rings to anal toys to masturbation sleeves. And not all of this is just for solo play – here’s how to use a masturbator on HIM!

Masturbation Sleeves Aren’t Just For Him

While the name “masturbation sleeve” gives people the idea that the product can only be used during masturbation, the truth is that a masturbation sleeve can actually be used during a handjob as well! If your partner has been apprehensive to the idea of bringing in a sleeve, trying it on him first during a handjob can warm him up to the idea. He may very well be surprised at just how good it feels! Instead of lubing up your hands next time for a handjob, slip on a masturbation sleeve instead and let the fun begin!

How It’s Better For You

Let’s face it – giving a handjob can be tiring. Especially if your man isn’t super sensitive. If you’re really trying to bring him to orgasm through a handjob, you could be there for thirty minutes or more pumping away. Plus, there are lots of different handjob techniques you need to learn if you really want to get good at it. Or, you can just bring in a masturbation sleeve!

  • Using sex toys on him during a handjob makes it much, much easier for you. You’ll notice that you don’t get tired as easily or that your hands and arms don’t cramp up as quickly.
  • No technique is really required when giving a handjob with a masturbation sleeve. The texture of the sleeve does it all for you.
  • Since the sensations are much, much more powerful, your man will reach orgasm much faster than if you were just using your hands.
  • It’s a great alternative to having sex if you really just don’t feel like putting out!

How It’s Better For Him

Using a masturbation sleeve on him during a handjob isn’t just easier for you, it feels better for him too! There are many benefits for him when using sex toys during a handjob instead of just your hands.

  • The soft material feels way better than your hands, especially when used with enough lube.
  • Many sleeves are textured inside to provide different sensations during use.
  • This is a good toy to use if you’re a novice, or haven’t had that much practice giving a handjob. A handjob can take forever if you’re not skilled at it, so save yourself the trouble (and make it feel better for him) by using a sleeve.
  • It’s great for him because using sex toys during a handjob will make it so much easier for you, you’re going to be willing to give him handjobs more often!

Advanced Techniques

There is so much fun to be had for both partners when using sex toys with each other. Even if it’s not a couples sex toy, such as in the case of the masturbation sleeve, you can still have a lot of fun using it on your partner and watching wave after wave of pleasure wash over them.

  • Try using it in the shower with a really thick, silicone based lube. Just make sure your toy isn’t silicone!
  • Try mutual masturbation on each other. Use the masturbation sleeve on him and let him use other sex toys, such as vibrators, on you!
  • You can also masturbate yourselves with these sex toys while watching each other. This is a great way to learn how your partner likes to be touched!

Recommendations

There are lots of different male masturbators out there on the market, and it can be confusing to find the right one. Pretty much, any masturbation sleeve is going to feel great for him, but there are some products out there that are going to give you better results.

Super Head Honcho Masturbator

Adam & Eve’s top selling masturbator. Has a wide mouth for insertion and lots of little nubs on the inside for extra pleasure. What makes this sleeve so great is that it’s super easy to clean – just flip it inside out and wash with warm soapy water or toy cleaner.

Climax Gems Crystal Handjob Stroker

Made from crystal clear Cyberskin, this masturbation sleeve will feel fantastic for him. One side is ribbed, while the other is studded, so you can flip it around for tons of different sensations. This one is also super easy to clean – which frankly, is a must for male masturbators!

Adam And Eve Pleasure Pearl Masturbator

This one has pleasure pearls deep inside that move around as you stroke this up and down the penis towards orgasm, but that’s not what makes this sex toy so unique. It is one of the only masturbation sleeves that include loops on the outside, which are slipped over the fingers and used as a handle! Guys who use masturbation sleeves know that things can get slippery sometimes!

Things To Keep In Mind

Keep in mind to use lots of good lube when using a masturbation sleeve on your partner. Check out what your sex toy is made from – silicone toys cannot be used with silicone lube. Water based lube is pretty much a safe bet for anything, so make sure to stock up before you get started. Male masturbators really can’t be used without lube!

Also, keep in mind that you will need to clean the sleeve properly after each and every use. Think about it – those things can get pretty nasty if you use them more than once without cleaning them in between uses! Most sleeves are easy to clean because you can flip them inside out, but if you choose other products such as a Fleshlight, you’re in for a little more cleanup. No matter which sex toys you choose though, the cleanup is well worth it!

7 Sultry Things That Make His Toes Curl

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Sex ruts are easy to get into when you’re in a relationship – but they’re not so easy to get out of. Without bringing some new moves to the bedroom, your man starts knowing what to expect – which can be a huge turn off for guys that like to mix it up. Make sex an incredibly new and wonderful experience for your man by surprising him with these sex tips that will blow his mind and leave him gasping for breath.

Suck On A Popsicle – And Then Suck On Him

Make oral sex super cool when the weather is hot by alternating sucking on a Popsicle and sucking on your partner’s penis. This is a great way to experiment with cold temperatures without scaring him off – let’s face it, a guy isn’t going to want you to do nothing but rub ice all over his penis. That’s just too dang cold!

When you suck on the Popsicle, it cools your mouth down quite a bit, but not so much that it is going to be painful for him. As you continue to lick and suck on his member, your mouth heats back up and the process is repeated. He’ll love the feeling of alternating hot and cold, and you’ll love the idea of oral sex being a little bit more fun (and tastier) for you.

Give Him A Handjob With A Masturbator

Most guys don’t use male sex toys when they’re masturbating – they simply just use some lube and their hands. A lot of guys don’t even use lube! Show your man the difference that a sex toy can make when you’re flying solo by introducing it to him during a handjob given by you.

Put some lube on the inside of a masturbation sleeve of your choice and slowly slip it over his member after you’ve gotten him nice and warmed up with your hands. At this point, he’s not going to ask you to stop and he’ll get to experiment with the feeling of a masturbation sleeve even if he’s been a little apprehensive about doing it in the past. He’ll be amazed at the difference in the way it feels!

Let Him Videotape Or Take Pictures Of You

Since guys are such visual creatures, they usually need something like pictures or a video to help them get off, unless you’re there in the flesh of course. If you’re confident that you’re in a relationship with a guy you can trust with something like this, surprise him by allowing him to take a few pictures or even a video of you while having sex or while you’re masturbating. It’s almost guaranteed that a video or pictures of you will be more cherished than any porn he’s ever downloaded.

Give Anal Sex A Try

Your man might not have ever asked you for anal sex (because he’s afraid it will hurt you or he doesn’t want to offend you) but it’s almost a sure thing that he’s thought of doing it with you before. Treat him to something special by letting him know one night that he can try it up your rear if he’d like, but make sure you practice on your own at first.

Buy a small butt plug or just use your fingers (along with plenty of lube) and try inserting them into your anus the next time you’re masturbating. It will be uncomfortable at first, but much easier than if you just let your man try it without ever having prepped yourself.

Next, move up in size until you’re comfortable with inserting something into your anus that is about as thick as your man is. When you actually do let him do it, he’ll be so surprised at the fact that you can take his penis – because he’ll be expecting you to freak out.

Leave Him A Sexy Voicemail While He’s At Work

The sound of your voice – especially during dirty talk – can do wonders for him. Take advantage of this fact and leave him a dirty voicemail on his cell phone while he’s at work. Plan to tell him what you want to do to him when he gets home, or what you want him to do to you. Of course, you can also do a combination of both!

If you’re shy, write it down first so you know what you’re saying and you don’t choke on your words – which is easy to do once you know you’re being recorded. After listening to the message, your man won’t be able to wait to get home and have sex with you. He may have to arrange to leave work early!

Use The Cowgirl Sex Position (With A Twist)

The “Cowgirl” sex position is pretty much just the woman on top position, but with a twist. In the real Cowgirl position, you’re going to sit up instead of laying your torso down onto his. Then, you’re going to take it a step further and lean back, placing your hands behind you on the bed (or whatever surface you’ve chosen for your tryst). This will give him the most incredible view of you and him having sex that he’s ever had. In fact, you may want to wait to let him do the videotaping until you try this!

Practice Your Kegels

You’ve probably heard of Kegel exercises – where you squeeze your vaginal muscles like you’re stopping the flow of urine. These muscles can actually become very strong if you exercise them regularly. Squeezing them during sex can give your man divine waves of pleasure, but not if your muscles aren’t strong enough to actually give him a good squeeze.

Practice your Kegels while he’s not around, or get a pair of Ben Wa balls that will help you exercise your vagina while you go on about your busy day. When you feel that you’re vaginal muscles are comparable to the female Hulk’s, try them out next time you and your partner have sex. Give him a squeeze as he’s pulling out and watch as he gasps and begs for more.

Viagra Condom: What Is It And Where Can I Get One?

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Viagra has long been touted as the cure for erectile dysfunction – just one pill can give you a raging hard on that lasts for hours. But as with any medication, there are reported side effects (notably an erection that lasts more than four hours – which requires immediate medical attention) and it’s not for everyone. Alternatives to Viagra are cropping up everywhere, from herbal pills to creams and jellies. But can you actually achieve a bigger, better erection with just a condom?

What Is A “Viagra” Condom?

A new condom is being tested in the UK that is lined with a gel that is designed to stimulate blood flow to the penis and result in better, longer and harder erections. This same gel is used in patients with angina and other heart problems to improve blood flow to the heart. By using the gel in a condom, it is believed that the vasodilating components in the gel will increase the blood flow directly in the penis.

Contrary to popular belief, the “Viagra” condom is actually not affiliated at all with the company that manufactures Viagra. The condom was only coined with this term due to the possibility that it will give a man a rock hard erection while using it.

Will It Cure Erectile Dysfunction?

If you’re with a monogamous partner, you may not want to use a condom in a situation like this, especially if you and your partner are using different forms of birth control or are trying to get pregnant. There are lots of effective treatments for erectile dysfunction for those who are in partnerships or marriages and don’t require the use of a condom. For this reason, the condom is not being marketed as a treatment for erectile dysfunction only, but rather at men who don’t like wearing condoms.

Improving The Desire To Use Contraception

Instead of aiming the product towards men with erectile dysfunction, it is being marketed towards men who don’t enjoy wearing condoms. Many men report that an erection is difficult to get or maintain when wearing a condom, because sexual sensitivity is reduced even in thinner condoms. A lot of men choose not to use them for this reason alone. The UK company creating the “Viagra” condoms reports that if men had more of an incentive to use a condom – such as not having any erection problems during use – they would be more likely to choose safer sex over going bareback.

Some men experience impotency only occasionally (and in some cases, men experience only a single episode of ED or have episodes very rarely), so conventional treatments for ED may not work well for these men. A “Viagra” condom would be an effective way to treat ED that happens only occasionally, rather than seeking the aid of systemic medications that have a number of side effects.

Are They Available In The U.S.?

Right now, these condoms are being tested in the UK and they are expected to pass regulatory inspections and be manufactured in the UK within the next year. At present, scientists are working on stabilizing the gel within the condom so that it only touches the penis during sex. They also want to make sure the gel doesn’t break down or degrade latex, making the condom ineffective.

However, if these condoms work well and are readily accepted by the public, it won’t be long before they’re introduced in the United States and are available for purchase anywhere regular condoms are sold.

Other Treatments For ED

Erectile dysfunction is common in the United States and can happen to men of any age – although older men tend to experience this more than younger men. There are a variety of treatments for ED, including:

  • Herbal supplements
  • Viagra or Cialis
  • Creams and gels
  • Penis pumps
  • Surgery (in very rare cases)

However, if you struggle with erection problems, all you may need to do is live a healthier lifestyle. ED can be caused by a variety of things, including smoking, heart disease, diabetes and high blood pressure, using illegal drugs or some prescription medications, and not eating healthy, vitamin rich foods.

By making a few simple lifestyle changes such as eliminating smoking or using drugs and exercising and eating healthier, you may be able to conquer erectile dysfunction without the need for medical intervention, medications and supplements.