Sex Tips & Advice

Q&A: Safe Sex – Using The Withdrawal Method

There are a number of different birth control methods that work well to drastically reduce the risk of pregnancy or contracting sexually transmitted diseases, but many guys insist on trying birth control methods that don’t really work at all! A lot of guys want to pull out, simply because it feels better than wearing a condom. Here’s why you shouldn’t pull out and how you can have safe sex that still feels great.

Question: Hey Dan and Jennifer, I’m 19 and my boyfriend is 23. He wants to use the withdrawal method, but it’s not always effective! How do I tell him?

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Why Pulling Out Doesn’t Work

Simply put, if a penis touches a vagina without protection, there is a risk of pregnancy involved. Even if there is no penetration, if there is genital to genital touching, the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted disease or becoming pregnant goes up. This risk, of course, goes up the more contact there is. Consider the penis a loaded gun. There are most likely sperm present before ejaculation, whether it is because ejaculation took place not long before, or because pre-semen or pre-ejaculate can contain sperm as well. It takes only one sperm to get a woman pregnant, although millions are present in very small amounts of semen. Not only are you taking a risk of becoming pregnant or getting an STD simply by allowing a penis to touch your vagina without some sort of protection, you are also taking a greater risk by trusting your partner to pull out at just the right time when he’s on the brink of orgasm. This usually ends in disaster! Statistically speaking, the withdrawal method has a pregnancy rate similar to having completely unprotected sex.

Other Methods Of Birth Control

Condoms, of course, are the number one form of birth control. They are easy to purchase, easy to use and protect against both pregnancy and STD’s. No other form of birth control does all those things. However, if you’d like to forgo using condoms, there are many different kinds of birth control you can use so you can still have great sex safely. First, you and your partner need to be tested for sexually transmitted diseases. Make a committment to each other that you will be monogamous, so once you and your partner are given the green light, you can continue to stay disease free without a condom. Do not have sex without a condom until both of your test results come back! To protect against pregnancy, talk to your doctor about different forms of birth control. Hormonal birth control, such as the pill, the patch or the shot are popular, while barrier methods such as spermicide and diaphragms are also still being used. You can also consider doubling up with a hormonal and barrier birth control method. Talk to your doctor and talk to your partner about which options are right for you.

No Glove, No Love

If you want your partner to wear a condom, he needs to wear a condom. If he doesn’t, simply put your foot down and state that there isn’t going to be any sex without a condom. If you’re not comfortable with the withdrawal method or other forms of birth control, your partner needs to respect that. There are tons of great condom styles out there, including large and small condoms, non-latex condoms for men who are allergic to latex, flavored and scented condoms, colored condoms, glow in the dark condoms and much, much more! There’s no reason that using a condom during sex can’t make it safe and fun!

Q&A: Female Orgasm – I Could Never Make My Ex Climax

By loveandsex

If there’s a girl you aren’t able to give an orgasm to, you’re not alone. Unfortuately, being in the same boat with tons of other guys doesn’t exactly make being unable to pleasure a certain girl any less frustrating. So what gives? Is there really something wrong with you, or is it time to accept what happened and move on? Could she have even contributed to the problem?

Question: I recently went through a fairly rough break-up but often find myself thinking about my ex. We were together for almost two years and in this time I could never make her orgasm (a first for me). I am quite well endowed and very fit and have never had trouble making others girls climax, but my inadequacies with her have really effected my confidence. What can I do to get over my insecurities and be comfortable with my inability to pleasure her?

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Moving On

If there’s a certain girl you can’t give an orgasm to – but have no problems with any other girls – there’s not much you can do about it. Sometimes it hit or miss, and if you’ve been lucky so far, you’ve simply come upon your dues. It’s time to move on, especially if you and this particular girl aren’t together any more and have broken up. You may want to brood over what happened and try to figure out why you weren’t able to give her an orgasm, but it’s really not going to do you much good. Many times, there is no why and things like that just happen. Sometimes two people are sexually incompatible, no matter how many other girls you were sexually compatible with. Realize that it’s time to move on and get back in the game.

Brushing Up On Your Orgasm Skills

That said, it never hurts to brush up on your orgasm skills. You may think you know all there is to know about female orgasms, but you’d be surprised at how much you probably don’t know about giving a woman a climax. Take the Orgasm Quiz and assess your orgasm skills. You’ll get the Top 25 Female Orgasm Tips after you take the quiz, which are free and include twenty five great tips on how to please a woman. Learning new tricks and techniques to use in the bedroom is a great way to make sure you know what you’re doing and can try to give every girl you’re with a mind blowing orgasm.

Was It Her?

While you may be content to blame yourself and commit yourself to learning every female orgasm secret known to man, you need to realize that part of the reason you were unable to give your partner an orgasm could be because of her hang ups, not yours. Don’t be so fast to completely blame her, but realize that it takes a lot on the woman’s part to have an orgasm. She must be relaxed, stress free and open to having an orgasm. If she was stressing about a test or work the next day, or going through some particularly stressful situations, she may have been unable to reach climax regardless of how great your bedroom skills were.

Q&A: Bad Breath – How To Prevent And Treat It

By loveandsex

A huge turn off for a lot of people is bad breath. There’s nothing that will kill a sexy mood like getting a whiff of your partner’s bad breath when you’re leaning in for a kiss or getting hot and heavy on your way to the bedroom. So how do you tell your partner they have bad breath without offending them, and how can you treat it so it doesn’t happen again?

Question: Hey Dan and Jennifer, sometimes when I am with my boyfriend, he has bad breath. I find it a real turn OFF. How can I tell him without hurting his feelings? His oral hygiene is really good, just sometimes he has bad breath … any advice?

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Be Honest

It’s important to be honest with your partner about their bad breath. Wouldn’t you want someone to tell you if you had bad breath? Of course! Give your guy a heads up about what is going on in a kind and non-critical way. Don’t act like your breath doesn’t ever stink, either because it most certainly does! Everyone has bad breath problems from time to time, whether it’s a medical condition or simply because of something they ate. Have a laugh about it! Your guy isn’t going to get his feelings hurt unless you’re mean about the issue or unless he’s really, really super sensitive. Let him know that it’s not really that big a deal – just that you two need to fix it so you can kiss, make out and have sex whenever without having to worry about bad breath.

What Causes Bad Breath?

There are a lot of contributors to bad breath, and not all of them are just foods. Medical issues that can cause bad breath are cavities, infections in the teeth or gums and gum disease. Often, bad breath caused by these conditions is some of the worse bad breath that is out there! Vitamins, supplements and certain medications can also cause bad breath, as well as doing illegal drugs and smoking. Diseases such as diabetes can also contribute to or cause bad breath. If your partner suspects that his bad breath is a medical problem, have him speak to his doctor about things that can be contributing to his bad breath, such as medications or diseases. Your partner’s doctor can rule out any serious causes for his bad breath and even give him a few pointers on how best to handle it.

How To Handle It

Encourage your partner to have regular cleanings and to have cavities filled if they’re needed. Make sure your partner brushes at least twice daily and flosses once a day. You’ll be surprised at how big a difference these little things can make! Even skipping a six month cleaning with the dentist can contribute greatly to bad breath that can’t be fixed with gum or mouthwash. For things that can be fixed with gum and mouthwash, make sure you stock up on plenty of it! Keep it at home, in the car and in your purse so you always have it around. Lead by example and let your partner see how great your kisses can smell and taste! He’ll want to follow in your footsteps and get a minty fresh mouth of his own.

Turning Her On – How To Get Your Girlfriend In The Mood

By leejenkins

Getting a woman in the mood is not as difficult as you may think. But we have to admit, it gets harder and harder to create the right mood for some frisky lovemaking when you’ve been with a woman for a while. Unlike that time when you just started dating, the intervals between the days she wants sex get longer and longer.

I have no doubt that you know exactly what I’m talking about. Sometimes her rejection of your advances has a lot to do with the girl’s approachability. But more often than not, it’s the fact that you’ve run out of ideas on how to turn her on. You figure she has seen and heard everything that you have to offer, and that flirting with her will seem like you’re just reprising the role of the horny boyfriend who wants to jump her all the time.

If you can’t help but to overdo the physical side of your relationship, here are some ways to make sure you don’t leave the emotional aspect alone. A woman gets turned on based on what she’s feeling, whether or not you’re touching her.

Romance Her

Much to the dismay of women, some guys don’t know (or have forgotten) how to romance a woman into bed. Don’t get me wrong. Most women love sex, and they’d go all out when the sex is good. However, women need a different set of stimuli to get it going. We can do with a good cleavage view, or simply the thought that we can get laid, but women need more than that. They want to feel like they’re being wooed rather than being used as objects.

During foreplay, you have all the opportunity to make a woman express her needs to you. Tune in to her mood and go from there. If she’s tired, start slowly. If she’s angsty or even angry, you can rough her up a bit in a sexy way.

Make Her Feel Sexy

Women go into power trips several times during sex, but we often don’t notice these moments because we’re wrapped up in our own fantasies and sexual thoughts. If you want to open the doors to friskier sex, you’d better pay attention when a woman tries to impose her own brand of power while you’re doing it.

For example, here’s how you can make her do oral sex on you longer. While she’s down there, tell her how sexy she looks and that you love it when she does that to you. You can tell her to keep going, but make sure you shower her with a lot of compliments to get her in the mood. If you do this right, you’re going to get something more than the 30-second, obligatory sucking.

Show Her You Want Her

Showing a woman you’re in the mood can be done in more ways than one. Don’t go for the cliches like flowers and jewelry. Although a bath and an erotic massage are great, getting her to that point needs some doing. What you can do is to pursue her like you’re just going out. Show up at her workplace and ask her out on a date, or ask her to go with you somewhere for a couple of drinks. Think of it like you’re hitting on her again, and you’ll set the mood for some frisky lovemaking easily.

The New Sex Rules For Women

By jessicaperez

Women who enjoy sex are much happier than those who don’t. Sex can make you smile all day and make you bloom like a flower. If you have an active sex life, you feel sexier and more alive.

Some women claim that it’s the constructive and romantic relationship that is making the sex awesome. Some say the sex is great that’s why the relationship keeps getting better. From any angle, it’s unmistakeable that sex plays a huge role in making any loving relationship a success.

But what if your relationship with your partner continues to flourish even if your sex life has started to falter? You are still living together, you’re talking like old buddies and you enjoy watching movies and television shows together. You do not share a long French kiss but you peck each other on the cheek before you leave for work. Is that enough to keep your relationship going?

Some women might say yes, it’s enough. But a sizable majority would probably disagree. Sexual intimacy is something that a relationship must have or it’s going to hit the skids anytime soon.

So, what can you do if you want a better sex life and you want to share intimate moments with your partner again? You lay down some ground rules…

Share Sexual Fantasies

You should never feel ashamed about your fetishes. Everyone has some kinky thoughts every now and then, and yours should not make you feel embarrassed. One way to improve sexual intimacy with your partner is to tell him about your sex fantasies, no matter what they are. Doing this will give him an idea of what you like, and he can think of some ways to please you more in the bedroom.

Encourage Intimate Touching

Remind your partner that touching is essential to make a woman feel secure and safe. Touching often does not have to lead to sex, but if it does, you both should go with the flow. Some men feel pressured when their partner touches them intimately. They feel pressured to perform.

Female Masturbation

I know a lot of women who try to keep the fact that they masturbate a secret from their partner. Some women feel like they are cheating on their partner. A woman should not feel ashamed of the fact that she pleasures herself. In fact, the next time you have sex, you must be able to show your partner how you do it.

Having sex daily might be impossible if you have chores at home and you have to deal with stress in the workplace. However, you should never assume that the intimacy requirement could only be met with actual penetration. You can strengthen the sexual tension between you and your partner by acting sexual towards each other whenever you can.