Sex Tips & Advice

Targeting Her Pleasure Buttons: How To Finger A Woman’s G-Spot

From a man’s perspective, there are a lot of issues about sex which may bring you insecurities especially if you’re not so confident about your skills as a lover. Did she reach orgasm when during your first time together or was she faking it? When she has one of those ‘girl talks’ with her friends, do you think that she raves about your skills in bed or does she portray you as a lousy lover?

In order for you not to feel any insecurity in this department, the best that you can do is develop your skills as a lover. Remember to always be sensitive to a woman’s sexual needs, always take her pleasure into account instead of always looking for your own pleasure, take your time and learn new sexual tricks every now and then. This way, your wife or girlfriend will feel satisfied about the way that your sex life is going.

A Woman’s Pleasure Buttons: Differentiating the G-Spot from the Clitoris

For men, the erogenous zone is pretty much concentrated on the area below his waist and above his thighs. For women, however, there is a pretty wide area which can be considered as her pleasure zones. The breasts, her thighs, her waist, the back of her neck and even the not-so-erotic curves of her body can bring her pleasure when stimulated. And of course, there’s the center of all her pleasure zones which is her vagina.

Now, if you want to be a master lover, there are two aspects of a woman’s sexual organ that you need to learn the map for: the clitoris and the G-spot. Target these two pleasure buttons and you’ll surely be able to bring her multiple orgasms. To make the distinction between the two, here’s a crash course on the basic things that you should know about the clitoris and a woman’s G-spot.

First, the clitoris is the sole organ in the female body which is dedicated to physical pleasure. Think of the sensation that she feels down there as comparable to the pleasure that you feel when the head of your penis is being stimulated. The clitoris is a nerve-packed ending which is sensitive to the touch, and it is located just above the opening of her vagina.

Second, there’s the G-spot or the Gräfenberg spot. This is actually a bean-shaped tissue which has a spongy texture, located about a couple of inches back from the opening of her front vaginal wall.

Confused? Don’t worry, the G-spot is something that even women themselves find difficult to locate. But once you do manage to find it and bring her mind blowing orgasms by stimulating her G-spot, she’ll practically be under your sexual spell for life!

How to Bring Her Mind Blowing Orgasms by Fingering Her G-Spot

So how exactly should you stimulate her G-spot? Just as it is when you’re introducing a new sexual position to her, the best way to start stimulating the G-spot is by easing your way into it. Always start slow and be sensitive to her responses.

Don’t scrimp on the foreplay since this is one of the best ways to prepare her for the G-spot stimulation. The best way to go after her G-spot initially is by using your fingers. Once you’ve mastered the location of her G-spot, that is the time that you can target this particular pleasure button using your penis during penetration.

To do it, face your partner while she is lying on her back. Then, insert your index finger or your middle finger into her vagina as far back as it will go. Since the G-spot is located near her front vaginal wall, you should crook your finger along the top of the vagina. Do this gently until you feel an area which is rougher than the rest of the vaginal wall. Watch for her reaction – you’ll know when you’ve hit the right spot from the way that she will respond.

Don’t be afraid to communicate during the process of searching for her G-spot. Since she knows that it’s her ultimate pleasure that you’re after, she will surely cooperate.

The best way to make her reach an orgasm by fingering her G-spot is by using a firm tapping motion with your finger. Other women prefer G-spot stimulation during intercourse and the best position for this is when she’s on top or when you’re on a rear-entry position.

If you haven’t yet mastered the art of using a ‘helping hand’ to reach and stimulate her G-spot, don’t feel frustrated – try again and experiment. In due time, you are bound to reach that oh-so-elusive G-spot and use your finger to stimulate a woman’s ultimate pleasure button and bring her an orgasm that she’s not bound to forget anytime soon.

Master The Art Of Cunnilingus: Learn How To Eat A Girl Out

By leejenkins

When it comes to oral sex, women are lucky in the sense that all they need to do is brave the waters down there and they will be able to give men a mind-blowing orgasm through fellatio. No matter how they manipulate the penis – as long as the teeth are not involved – it will be an experience that is well worth it as far as men are concerned.

Men are not so lucky, however. The vagina is quite a complex territory so the art of cunnilingus is basically a different one to master. It’s not enough for you to be willing to go down on her – it involves a bit of tongue dexterity, finger manipulation and being sensitive to how she wants to be eaten.

Also, there are quite a number of spots that you have to master: the clitoris, the vaginal lips, the G-spot and her anal opening. But don’t worry – once you have learned how to give women the utmost sexual satisfaction through cunnilingus – you’ll be a master lover for life!

Eating a Girl Out 101: Start with the Basics

As mentioned earlier, there are a number of parts of the woman’s vagina that you need to be familiar with so that you would know what to do once she opens up her legs for you.

Remember that giving her head is something which she anticipates, loves and wants more than anything. For most women, oral stimulation before sex – or it being the main event – is the easiest way for them to reach a mind blowing orgasm.

So master your oral love skills by familiarizing yourself with those female parts first. Take a look at some of parts of the vagina that you can try to manipulate while you’re going down on her:

1. The Labia

‘Labia’ is the Latin term for lips. At the entrance of a woman’s vagina, there are two pairs of lips – the larger outside pair, and the smaller pair inside. Together, they add up to what is called the vulva or the external female genitalia.

2. The Clitoris

The sensations that a woman can feel from her clitoris is equivalent to just how sensitive the head of your penis is. The clit is that small protrusion above the opening of the vagina. And interestingly enough, it’s the only organ in the human body whose sole function is to provide sexual pleasure. How’s that for using the clit to eat a woman out?

3. The G-spot

Finally, there’s the oh-so-elusive G-spot which is the Holy Grail of all the female erogenous zones. You can either stimulate her G-spot using your fingers while you’re giving her some oral love – it’s that bean-shaped, rough-feeling tissue located behind the front wall of her vagina. Pointing towards the belly, it’s about a couple of inches inside her vaginal opening.

Provide The Finishing Touches: How To Keep A Woman Begging For More By Eating Her Out

Now that you’ve had a crash course on the female parts that you need to be familiar with, here’s a blow by blow account on how you can eat a girl out.

The number one rule that you need to remember is that you should not zero in on the clitoris immediately. You may not like the sound of it but in order to prepare a woman to take in some of your oral loving, there should be some – preferably a lot – of foreplay involved. Start by blowing gently into her ears and doing a lot of kissing, touching and petting. Pay particular attention to her breasts and her nipples just so that you can prepare her for the main event.

Now comes the good part. Using your tongue, make some sweeping motions on her labia – both the inner and outer lips of the vagina. Again, don’t go straight for the clitoris because this is a highly sensitive area. Play around her vagina using your mouth and tongue – be sensitive to her moans and responses so that you’ll know which move in particular has an earth-shattering effect.

Once you feel that she’s wet, spread out her vaginal lips and do a literal writing with your tongue – use the alphabet or the numbers and find out which one is a hit with her. While you’re at it, use your middle finger to stimulate her G-spot and once you hit it, go for the clitoris next.

Her hips should be digging into your face at this point, and this is the time when you can amp things up and go for the finale which is to lick the clitoris faster and faster while stimulating her G-spot at the same time. Once her vagina tightens up and suddenly goes lax – that’s when you know that you have succeeded in eating her out.

How Do I Know If I’m A Nympho?

By loveandsex

Women who truly enjoy sex often get labeled as nymphomaniacs, or “nymphos” for short. Just because a woman likes sex and enjoys having it, does that make her a “nympho?” What if she’s recently lost weight or had a big life change and has started to see herself in a more sexual way? Here’s what you want to know about sex and lots of it – as well as what’s safe and what’s not.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I’ve recently lost a lot of weight and rediscovered my sexuality. I may have awakened a nymphomaniac! I think about sex all the time. Is there something wrong with me?

–Jane, Georgia

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When Your Body Changes

If you’ve lost a lot of weight, or recently started working out or even just gained some self esteem about the way you look, it’s perfectly natural to start feeling more sexual. It’s to be expected – you’re starting to see yourself as more attractive and people are starting to feel more attracted to you. Not only have you become more physically attractive, your own confidence in yourself has made you doubly attractive. No wonder you’re feeling more sexual than you have before! Embrace this new feeling – it’s an incredible feeling and you should feel proud of yourself for making such a great life change!

How Much Is Too Much?

Most people enjoy sex and some people enjoy sex more often than others. There are no guidelines as to “how much is too much” when it comes to sex, but there are a few questions to ask yourself. Is your newfound sex drive interfering with your daily life? Do you find it hard to function if you haven’t had sex recently, or do you find it hard to focus because you’re thinking about having sex all the time? If you truly find that your sex drive and the need for sex and sexual satisfaction start overtaking your life – almost like drugs – it’s time to see a therapist or a counselor to talk about your feelings. If you just find that you enjoy sex and do it when you can, you’re probably just like everyone else on the planet – human!

Playing It Safe

If you have started to enjoy sex more and have started to have more sex, it’s important to play it safe. Don’t be promiscuous and make sure you’re well informed about sex and especially sexually transmitted diseases. Take the time to educate yourself about sex, sex toys, STD’s, various forms of sex and sexuality and everything sex related – going into it well informed can help you make safe and smart decisions that will help you enjoy the moment more instead of creating a moment that you’re likely to regret later. Get tested regularly if you have multiple sex partners, or find friends that you can have fun and experiment with who stay monogamous with you. It’s all about finding a balance between what is fun and sex and what is safe!

If you take the time to educate yourself, feel confident about body and lifestyle changes and play it safe and smart, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with liking sex, enjoying sex and having sex, even lots of it! Find a partner who enjoys sex as much as you do and have fun with it. Life is short and as long as you’re not ignoring the facts, it’s time for you to love yourself enough to do what you enjoy doing!

He’s Just Not Interested in Sex

By melody

“I’m not interested in sex anymore…I’m only 28… What is wrong that I don’t have the desire anymore?”

“I’m not interested in sex with my partner anymore, I don’t have any desire for it and I do it just for the sake of the marriage and I have to do it. I have no feelings at all and no sensation.”

“Why? Why are we so scared to say, ‘Hey! I’m not interested in sex!’ Is talking about having no desire to touch another person’s genitals so taboo?”

When she was in her 30s, Lillian* ended a relationship because her boyfriend liked sex less than she did. “He thought sex once a week was more than enough,” she recalls. “I wasn’t looking forward to having sex as much,” he says. “It was, ‘If we do it, we do it; if we don’t, we don’t.’”

“What is wrong with me? I’m not interested in sex at all and I am really bothered by it.”

Help! He’s Not Interested In Sex!

I was at a party recently with five women, ranging in age from 25 to 55 and all of these women were complaining that their husband’s are not interested in sex. They would rather play video games, work, or watch TV than make love to the woman they love. My husband’s initial reaction was, “Frankly, I’m disappointed in the American male.” But in fairness, his statement is blaming the guy for something they obviously can’t help. What is going on with these guys? And is this really as common as this party would suggest?

I personally suspect that it is just as common as this party would suggest. Out of all the couples there, only two of us wives could claim the joy of being sexually satisfied. There is a statistic out there that says something like 70% of all women have affairs, generally in their 40’s. I think I am beginning to understand the statistic. They don’t want a divorce but they don’t know how to make it better for themselves. One of my girlfriends once told me that her husband and lost all interest, and she was desperate. He told her to go out and find sex outside of the marriage and he would not care. How sad is that? They obviously love each other but have no capacity to enjoy the passion that had once filled their marriage bed.
For most of us the axiom that sex ends after marriage comes from men who are dissatisfied with the level of sexual activity from their wives. So it came as a shocker to me that this is, perhaps, more of a dominant problem for women.

Why would this be? How could so many healthy men be so disinterested in sex? After all, biology would have us believe that their sex drive is higher than women’s and they should be the ones incessantly demanding more frequent sexual encounters, but this doesn’t seem to be true!

Holding Back On Passion

What is holding back their passion? They love their wives and, I must say, the women at this party were no dogs. They were beautiful, intelligent, interesting, passionate women who were as perplexed as I was that this is a problem for their husbands. This is when I started to get really interested, because I have always said that I believe that men and women are not really so different. Men and women both need emotional intimacy to enjoy frequent, spontaneous and joyful sexual encounters. But so few of us know how to obtain that connection. The sad thing is that so many of us think we have that connection, simply because we have nothing to compare it to so we think it’s adequate.

Well, the “proof is in the pudding”. If you are not having frequent, spontaneous, joyful, sex than there is something missing in your emotional connection with your partner. Discovering what is missing has sent people packing off to therapy only to be disappointed at the outcome because underlying problems were brought to the surface and rather than resolving them the couples ended up divorced!

What To Do If Your Partner Has Problems Connecting With You Sexually

If your partner is struggling with their desire for sexual connection there are some important things you MUST do:

1) Have them get a physical (this is important for both sexes but VITAL for men as Dr. Oz says, “The penis is the ‘dipstick’ for physical health” and it’s often the first indicator of a problem)
2) Make sure hormone levels are where they need to be for you to feel desire. (I have suffered from low desire my whole life and found out a few years ago my Testosterone level was WAY off).
3) Start educating yourself about communication, connection and intimacy. There are many good sites online that will help you transform your intimacy (www.thisisgreatsex.com is but one)
4) Stop taking it personally. This is not about you having failed your partner or your partner having failed you. It is simply that you both need to take ownership of the problem as a couple. It’s a relationship problem you can solve together.
5) Understand that men are just as sensitive emotionally as women are and we all carry with us baggage from our pat that impacts our sexual desire and our ability connect emotionally

Having exciting, frequent sex with your partner is not just good for your relationship, its also good for you. Your health and emotional well-being are greatly enhanced by engaging in satisfying sex. It’s not a secret any more that if you want to keep your relationship alive you have to work at it. If the sex is not alive then there is something amiss in the relationship and there is no one to blame, only work to be done. The good news is that it’s not something that takes years and years to do and it’s an exciting thing to participate in even if you don’t get immediate results. Cement your future, your relationship and your health by making sure that his, or her, passion is reignited.

Asexual Wanting BDSM But Not Sex – Is It The Medication?

By loveandsex

A self-proclaimed asexual begins taking medication and now finds herself having a strong sex drive – not only wanting sex, but BDSM as well! Is this normal? Is she falling out of the asexual orientation, or does her medication have something to do with it? It may be confusing and intimidating, but it’s important to get to the root of the issue – what is really going on here?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I’ve been asexual all my life. I met my boyfriend on an asexual website. I’m taking medication and now I’m getting a sex drive. Now, all I can think about is BDSM. I can live with normal sex, but I can’t be happy with BDSM. My mind would never accept this type of lifestyle. What do I do?

–Alyssa, Virginia

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What is “Asexual”

“Asexual” is a sexual orientation, much like being gay, bisexual, lesbian or straight. Asexual people usually do not desire sex, and form emotional and satisfying relationships without being sexual at all. It’s comparable to celibacy, with the exception that asexuality is a sexual orientation and not a choice like celibacy is. You might want to compare it to the difference between being a lesbian (a sexual orientation) or just choosing to have a threesome because it’s fun. Asexuality is like celibacy, but it’s something that is rooted deep inside of the person’s identity rather than a choice.

A Sudden Interest In BDSM – Is It The Medication?

In this particular situation, experiencing a different set of emotions and feelings right after beginning a new medication should not be taken lightly. Anti-depressants, epilepsy medications and other type of mind altering medications can make you feel all sorts of different ways, even ways that you would have never expected or anticipated. If you’ve just started taking a new medication and find that your emotional and even sex drive is different than before you began the medication, it’s important to talk to your doctor. Talk with your medical doctor or even a psychiatrist to find out whether these new feelings are a side effect of the medication and will dissipate or not. If these new feelings are a result of the medication, ask your doctor if you are able to switch to a different medication that may not cause these side effects, or how to best handle the side effects until your body gets used to the medication.

It’s Not The Medication – Now What?

If you’ve found out that the medication has not caused your newfound desires and fantasies, it’s time to dig deep and start questioning yourself. You may still be asexual, but if you’re having desires and fantasies, find out where your comfort zones are. Are you okay with incorporating sex into your life? What about the BDSM part? In this situation, this particular person is uncomfortable with acting out on her BDSM fantasies. Why? Examine yourself and ask yourself why you’re comfortable with some things and not others. Think about trying BDSM, or slowly easing yourself into it. Try light roleplaying, or even a little dressing up, without harming yourself or harming someone else. There are lots of fun ways to get into BDSM without starting with the whips and chains. You might find out that this is something you really enjoy, with or without sex!

Remember, experimenting with your desires and fantasies is fun – it’s not supposed to be intimidating or make you feel ashamed. As long as you and anyone else involved is having fun and isn’t getting hurt, what is the harm in trying a few things out? It could be something that really fulfills your life, even asexually.