Sex Tips & Advice

How To Put On A Condom

Whether it’s your first time or your three hundredth time, putting on a condom the correct way might still prove elusive to you. How do you put on a condom safely, how do you make sure the condom is still good and how do you take it off correctly to avoid spillage? Here’s answers to your questions, and more!

Dear Dan And Jennifer,

I’m a first time condom wearer – I want to be safe, but how do I put one on the right way? It seems harder than it should be! Do you have any tips?

–Terry, Washington

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Checking Your Condom

First, keep your condoms in a cool, dry place. Condoms that are kept in glove compartments, wallets and back pockets can break down more easily than condoms that are kept in a drawer or another safe place. Before opening your condom, make sure the condom hasn’t passed its expiration date – yes, condoms can expire! Open your condom gently to make sure you’re tearing only the package (not the condom) and check it for consistency. Make sure if it’s a lubricated condom that the lube is still moist, and make sure your condom is still in good, working condition. If it seems like your condom might not be ready to go, throw it out and get a new one!

Putting Your Condom On

You might want to put your condom on in a lighted situation – putting on a condom in complete darkness can lead you to possibly put it on the wrong way. Grab the built in reservoir on the top and roll the condom slowly down the penis, making sure that all of the air bubbles are worked out of the condom before you start. To avoid fluid contamination, be sure that both your hands and penis are clean before putting on a condom. Be very careful that no fluid from the penis gets on the outside of the condom before you begin intercourse, as this may lead to sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy.

Removing Your Condom

When you’re ready to remove your condom, pull your penis out slowly while gripping the base of the condom to avoid spilling any seminal fluid that is inside the condom. Turn completely away from your partner before removing it, and slowly roll the condom back up the penis while making sure that the seminal fluid stays in the built in reservoir. Take your used condom, wrap it in tissue and throw it away properly – they don’t flush! Wash your hands and penis thoroughly with soap and water before touching your partner again.

Tips And Pointers

If a condom breaks, pull out immediately and remove the condom, washing thoroughly before putting on another one. Make sure your condom fits properly – if it’s not snug, or there are air bubbles or it seems too loose, your condom might be too big and you may need to choose a smaller size. It can also be dangerous if your condom is too small or too tight – if the ring around the base of the condom doesn’t go all the way to the base of your penis, the condom isn’t the right size for you. Don’t be afraid to experiment with different types of condoms until you find the right one for you!

Condoms 101: How To Buy A Condom

By loveandsex

If you’ve made the decision to have safe sex with your partner – and good for you – it can still be intimidating to purchase a condom. There are so many options available when it comes to condoms, with different sizes, flavors and textures to suit almost anyone’s needs. So where do you start?

Dear Dan And Jennifer,

I want to have safe sex with my partner, but what kind of condom do I get? There are so many different types, how do I know which one is for me?

–Terrence, New Jersey

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Fun And Flavored

If you’re looking to have great sex while still being safe at the same time, you don’t have to purchase the traditional, latex-smelling condoms. Many different condom manufacturers make flavored and colored condoms that both taste and smell good, so you can have both fun and safety. Great flavors include vanilla, chocolate and mint and some condoms are even glow in the dark if you want to bring a little something extra to the bedroom. Don’t be afraid to experiment with different colors and flavors to find the one you like best.

Different Materials

Condoms don’t come in latex only versions. There are actually quite a few people that are allergic to latex, so condom manufacturers had to create condoms that would be safe and effective without causing allergic reactions in some individuals. Polyurethane – a type of plastic – is a good option if you’re allergic to latex, with the exception that it doesn’t have as much “stretchy” give as a traditional latex condom. Lambskin condoms are also a choice for people allergic to latex, but they’re only effective at preventing pregnancy – they’re too porous to protect against sexually transmitted diseases.

What’s Your Size?

Condoms also come in a variety of sizes, and it can be difficult for a man to find out what size he needs. Many men feel they need a bigger condom than they really do, because almost 90% of the male population can wear a regular sized condom well. If you feel that a regular sized condom is too tight or too small, you can purchase larger sizes that might be more comfortable.

Texture, Texture, Texture

Many condoms are available in ribbed and studded varieties, helping to increase the friction between the man and the woman during intercourse, and can help increase pleasure for both partners.

Female Condoms

Ladies can also protect themselves with the female variety of condoms, although they’re not as effective as traditional male latex condoms. Unfortunately, although a female condom is a safer choice than nothing at all, it can feel a bit like having intercourse with a grocery bag inside of you.

Choosing condoms can be challenging, but it’s important to have fun with it and not be embarrassed about it! Try different types and varieties of condoms until you find the one that works best for you and your partner, and don’t be afraid to try new ones now and again. There are lots of places online to purchase a variety of condoms, or you can always stop by your local convenience store if you’re in a hurry. It’s always better to be safe than sorry!

Do I Really Need To Wear A Condom?

By loveandsex

Whether you’re new to sex or not, you might wonder if you really need a condom. You’ve heard they protect you and protect your partner, but do you really need a condom when you’re having intercourse, or is it all just hype? Are the condom companies raking in millions for no reason or is wearing a condom really the smartest way to go?

Dear Dan And Jennifer,

I’ve heard a lot of people talk about condoms and some people say you don’t need them and that you can just pull out. What’s the truth – should I really wear a condom or is it all just rumor?

–Ted, California

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Do I Need A Condom?

Yes! Condoms can help prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. While animal skin condoms are too porous to prevent STD’s, they’re still effective at preventing pregnancy and traditional latex and plastic condoms are even better. What if your partner is on birth control? Do you still need to wear a condom? Yes! Birth control is effective, but can be made less effective by taking it incorrectly, taking antibiotics or being ill. When coupling condoms with birth control, you are doubly protecting you and your partner against pregnancy as well as preventing the spread and contraction of sexually transmitted diseases.

But I Don’t Like The Way It Feels

Just because a condom might decrease the sensitivity experienced during intercourse a little is no reason not to protect you and your partner. You can still have a lot of fun with condoms – especially flavored ones and those with warming lubricant – and still have a satisfying sex life while staying safe. For some men, condoms are an excellent way to help prevent premature ejaculation. If you tend to “go” too quickly, wearing a condom might help you last longer and some are even available with desensitizing gel or cream that will help you to keep from ejaculating too quickly.

But I’m Embarrassed To Buy Them

Don’t be! If you’re buying condoms, it means you’re having sex. That’s a good thing, right? You can buy condoms at any drug store, supermarket or convenience store and they’re incredibly inexpensive. If you’d like more privacy while purchasing your condoms or would like a wider variety of condoms to choose from, there are many online stores that offer flavored, glow in the dark, colored and other types of condoms that you and your partner can really have a lot of fun with! If you purchase your condoms online, they’ll come to you in discreet packaging and no one will know but you! In reality though, there’s nothing wrong with purchasing condoms from your grocery store, a gas station or even online – it means that you’re being safe and you’re getting ready to have a great time.

All in all, it’s important to be safe – it’s always better being safe than sorry, right? Don’t have sex without a condom – you might be in your doctor’s office getting a positive result on an STD test or finding out that your partner is pregnant, wishing you would have simply put one on in the first place. Have fun with condoms and be safe, and don’t be afraid to experiment with condoms and make them a part of your sexual routine instead of a nuisance!

Are You Dabbling With The Idea Of Swinging?

By chickinheels

So, maybe it’s always been a part of your fantasy world. The thought of being in a room, sharing your partner with someone else, having a new person explore your body at the same time – no strings attached – just some good kinky fun right?

And now information about swinging is readily available to the average individual. The internet has made things a lot easier and swinging is a topic that most people are, at least, aware of.

The Topic Of Swinging

If you have a similarly twisted sense of humour you’ll understand how the topic of swinging can get the giggles going in a group of friends. Eyebrows raise, inquisitive smiles perhaps, a lot of chuckles I’m sure – but underneath it all, I’d be willing to bet most, if not all involved let the thought of going through with swinging cross their minds. Is it a fleeting thought that causes a laugh or instinctual disregard? If so, then you know swinging isn’t in your scope of possibilities.

Do you find that thought lingers with you, maybe just while fantasizing…maybe more? Where do you go from there? Well – first off, if you feel this is something you want to cross over into your real world you need to be open, safe and extremely secure with your partner. Many couples wouldn’t even consider sharing their true fantasies with one another for fear of rejection.

If your fantasies are well known to one another this step won’t be as much of a shocker.

The Real Possibility Of Swinging

The next consideration would be who you would want to swing with? Would your comfort zone be to swing with people you already know on some level? Or would you prefer to swing with people who might not otherwise be a part of the other aspects of your life. People you want to see again or people who would only meet one time? People who have experience with swinging or newbies like you? So many things to think through if you are going down this road.

If you make the decision to move forward into the world of swinging some other considerations may be to what extent do you want to participate? Do you want to have sex only with your partner but in the same room as another couple? Would you switch partners up? Would there be limitations to what you would or would not do with another? Ground rules seem to be key in a situation as sticky as this.

It seems that this would be a part of the introduction into the consideration of the swinging phenomenon. I cannot speak beyond this stage but recently a few jokes with friends created cause for consideration.. a little excitement, even if only for a fleeting moment.. and even if it verified for me, that the world of swinging was most enticing in my fantasy world. I do see, however that what is easy and free in the world of fantasy requires a whole lot more thought if you cross over into reality. As open minded as I am I believe it takes a lot of pieces of the puzzle to fit together to have swinging be a positive experience for everyone involved.

What Is Great Sex?

By david

What is it about sex (besides that it’s fun and amazing) that makes it great? I mean, what is great sex to you?

All of us have different versions of great sex, each with different emotions that are conveyed during sex. Some people like dirty talk. Some people like romantic talk.

Connecting With Your Partner

I’ve got to tell you that to me, though, great sex is when you connect with somebody on all levels – emotionally, mentally and physically. Great sex is also when you feel so at ease with each other’s minds, bodies, and souls that you are able to explore each other totally and everything feels great. Really great sex involves both the anticipation of what’s happening in the moment and what’s going to happen next.

What is so interesting to me about the concept of great sex, is that in my lifetime I want to be able to continuously get to new levels with people. I don’t want the same sex forever. I don’t want the same type of relationships forever.

As I go through the cycles of life and the cycles of relationships, I get to know myself better and better over time. What that means is that I am going to be able to give more of myself when the right person comes into my life.

When it comes down to sex, I don’t want to experience the same thing over and over again. I want to feel things I’ve never felt before, and I want to experience a connection that’s deeper, more erotic and more passionate that I’ve ever had previously.

I don’t want the same, because nothing in life should ever be the same. Life should be about getting to new levels, getting deeper with you and getting deeper with your partner.

What Do You Like During Sex?

Some people say they like to kiss during sex. Have you ever kissed somebody during sex, though, where your mouths are so hungry for each other that as you kiss you feel like your whole body is connected from head to toe?

I’m talking about the kind of kiss that is so deep, so passionate and so hungry, that as you’re moving together the kiss is a truly bonding thing. It’s like your souls are so hungry to taste one another, that you just can’t control yourselves.

What is great sex for you? I know for me, it’s everything I’ve just been listing. I know what I want. What I want is the most incredible connection I can possibly feel.

Have you ever had sex with someone and after only the first few times, you can’t believe it’s only been a few times because you feel (in a really good way) like you’ve been having sex with them forever? You feel like you’ve been having sex with them forever because you immediately started learning each other’s bodies and really letting go, and you’re so comfortable with them that you feel like you’ve been connected with their soul and their body forever. At the same time you also know that there are so many other places you want to go with them.

Truly Great Sex

Truly great sex (the kind I’m describing) is something I don’t think happens that often. I think you can have a great and sexually satisfying experience with a lot of people, but I think it’s much more rare to have great sex – the kind where you souls are talking to each other – with someone.

So to me, truly great sex is where your souls are not only connecting, but you know deep down in your heart and soul that you are with a person with whom you can experience things that are more passionate, more erotic and more sensual than with anyone else you’ve ever been with before them. It is almost like you have saved a piece of yourself for this person.

It is like you waited to give that last bit of yourself until you found that someone who just blows you away on an unprecedented soulful and passionate level. The truth is that I think all of us should hold back just a little piece of ourselves until we find that person who has all the keys to unlock all of our secrets.

This kind of great sex is what I strive to have. As a matter of fact, I’m having it now.

What are you having in your life right now? This is what your journey to meet the opposite sex is really all about – this is why you’re learning how to flirt with members of the opposite sex.

You are doing it so you can float on a magic carpet ride. Have you ever moved somebody where every time you move, you feel their soul and their body moving with you in such a rhythm that you feel like you are floating while still 100% connected with that person?

Let’s open up the dialog today and talk about this. Let’s stay on topic, and let’s talk about great sex.