Sex Tips & Advice

Do You Really Need To Know If She’s Faking An Orgasm?

I have had many people ask me if it really is possible to know when a woman is faking an orgasm. My answer to that question is yes, if you are extremely alert.

However, why spend so much time trying to find out if she’s faking an orgasm when you can rather spend that time learning different techniques in cunnilingus, fingering and intercourse.

More importantly, why not spend that time to learn what your woman’s sexual wants and needs are in the bedroom. By doing that, you won’t ever have to wonder if she is faking it or not.

Why Is She Faking Her Orgasm?

If your woman truly is faking an orgasm, it is because she does not want to hurt your feelings. So, the only way to make sure that she never does this again, is by allowing her to be open with you in the bedroom.

Take the initiative to be the first to open the communication channels between yourself and your partner. Make her feel totally relaxed and comfortable when she is with you. The way to do this is by showing her that you don’t take yourself too seriously.

For example, if you make a small yet embarrassing mistake during a lovemaking session, don’t just keep it quiet. Instead, acknowledge it in front of her, and then laugh it off.

By doing this, you will show your partner that if things don’t go the way they should when making love, you won’t get all upset and act like you have just lost your manhood.

Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously

By not taking yourself too seriously, you will show your woman that you are open to criticism, and that if all still fails in the end, it doesn’t matter, because you are both just having fun. Once she has opened up, take the opportunity to ask her what really gets her going.

Let her know that you are open and ready to do whatever it takes to please her, and that you lay no judgment on her for showing you. Do it in a fun way so that it does not look like a science project, and never feel frustrated or anxious if you do not get it right the first time.

By applying this type of mindset, you will make it easier for your woman to be open with you. This will then allow her to openly tell you what her deepest and darkest desires are.

Think About What Faking An Orgasm Really Means

Faking an orgasm spells "miscommunication between two lovers". Both are afraid to open up to each other, because both feel the other might get upset or judge them incorrectly.

So really, if you read between the lines, you will realize that each partner has a common goal, and that goal is to please the other, even if it means not hurting the other’s feelings. Unfortunately, the outcome is disastrous, because both shoot themselves in the foot. Someone needs to break the ice, so why not take the lead and let it be you?

By spending your valuable time on being open, and learning to accept your other half for who they are, you will be paving the way for a much healthier, passionate sex life between the two of you.

So ask yourself seriously, what sounds more productive; Finding out if she is faking an orgasm in the hopes that one day you can catch her out and embarrass her, which in the end will make your woman close up even more in the hopes that you never catch her out again, or rather spending the time to learn how to prevent your woman from faking an orgasm by learning how to communicate openly and not take yourself so seriously, so that both parties can actually learn to enjoy a night of passionate sex.

You decide.

Men, Think Your Penis Is Too Small? Here’s How To Gain Another Inch Naturally…

By rogermiller

Let’s say the average penis size is 6 and a ½ inches. And that’s a generous average. How would a guy with that starting size feel if he were told that, with work, he could gain one inch in length?

Pretty happy. Very happy. In fact, most men would be completely pleased with a one inch gain in length. They wouldn’t much mind if that’s the most they could physically gain.

Now there’s some good news and some bad news. The good news is that most men can gain an inch in length. The bad news is that it takes at least a fair amount of work. Sometimes it can take a lot.

But consider this situation. The pros heavily outweigh the cons. Most men don’t know it’s even possible to improve the size of their privates.

So…that first inch. Let’s make that your main goal. That is what you’re going to aim for. Now, how are you going to achieve it? Here is how.

Total Motivation – You Have To REALLY Want A Bigger Penis

The idea of having an extra inch of penis is already a pretty motivating one, but it’s not enough. Most men will give up long before they’ve done enough exercise routines to gain noticeable new size. So, total motivation is necessary.

Start by getting an erection and looking down at it. You know the sight well. Now place a ruler along the side of it. Don’t cheat. Place it from where it starts at the base to where it ends at the very tip. Now move your eyes along to that golden starting figure.

What is it? Let’s say it’s 6”. I want you to visualize one more inch on top of that. Extend the shaft in your mind. Picture it longer and thicker. Imagine the difference in weight in your hand. This is a tool you’re looking at and you need to vividly picture it one inch bigger, no more, no less.

Burn the image of it one inch bigger into your mind’s eye. Now imagine the feeling you WILL experience when you reach your goal of being one inch bigger. The feeling of knowing that it’s always going to be longer and thicker, for all time. It’s a good feeling and it’s one you will experience if you follow the rest of these tips…

Creating A Solid Penis Enlargement Routine

If you rush into natural penis enlargement, you’ll tire out the tissues of your penis from the get go and, as a result, you’ll struggle to gain new size. You need to stay calm and relaxed.

Put together a simple routine that you will use, unchanged, for two weeks.

Something like: three sets of 10 wet jelqs (look them up if you don’t know what they, or any of these exercises go like). Each wet jelq lasts 3 seconds and there is a one minute gap between each set. Then you do 5, 5 second stretches at 20% erection.

Then 20 Kegels, finishing with 15 dry jelqs at 60% erection, each one lasting 4 seconds. That’s a great beginner’s routine. So memorize it and start using it two or three times a week for the next two weeks. Do it.

Restrain Yourself From Measuring Your Penis Too Soon

You should take your starting measurements ONCE before the two weeks begin, then refrain from measuring again until the two weeks are up. The temptation to measure is strong, but don’t do it. There’s no point. Just focus your attention on completing your routines in a full and high quality way. No slacking or cheating.

Keep It Up For Two Weeks and Then Check Your Penis Measurements Again

Complete the two weeks and then take your flaccid and erect measurements again. Have you gained? If not, so what? You’ve not lost anything, you’ve learned something. You’re going to increase the intensity of your routine by upping the rep numbers. Simple. If you’ve gained, then great! Continue using the routine until the gains slow down or stop. Then up the intensity.

These simple tips will help you towards achieving your goal of gaining that first magical, wonderful, glorious inch. It feels good…trust me.

Not Having Enough Sex? Here’s The Secret To Increasing Her Sex Drive

By cynthiaperkins

One of the most common points of conflict for couples in a long-term relationship is the loss of sexual desire for the woman.

The loss of sex drive for women may occur for a variety of reasons, some of which may be physiological, but putting all those aside for another conversation, it may surprise you to learn that what I hear from many of the women I work with in my practice is that one of the primary causes for loss of desire is unmet needs.

As they tell me their story, they are not usually aware it’s their unmet needs that is the culprit of their dilemma, but it is what we uncover as we explore their situation further.

Why Women Lose Their Sex Drive

A great deal of women lose their sex drive for one very simple reason she is not enjoying the sex. When sex is not pleasurable for the woman, she responds by withdrawing and shutting down sexually. Think about it, would you want to have sex if it weren’t satisfying?

Sex is not enjoyable for many women, because not only are her sexual needs not being met adequately, but neither are her emotional needs and for the woman, both are equally important.

Why aren’t these needs being met, you ask? Because many men and women alike don’t truly understand what it is a woman needs.

A lot of couples are not aware that the sexual needs and biological responses of men and women are quite different and it is essential that they understand these crucial differences to have a sexual relationship that is equally satisfying for both partners.

Increase Her Sex Drive by Increasing Her Pleasure

Solving her sex drive problem should be a joint effort. It should not rest on his or her shoulders alone. However, if you’re a man reading this page I’d like to make you aware that there is a simple solution to keeping her sexual desires alive that is totally within your control. Take matters into your own hands and make sex irresistible for her.

Dazzle her by focusing on her needs. Blow her mind by getting to know her body better than she does. Help her expand her horizons to places she’s never gone before and you’ll be viewed as an amazing lover that she deeply appreciates. Once she sees how enjoyable sex can be, she’ll become more willing to explore and be adventurous.

She doesn’t know what she’s missing, but once she discovers it with you, she’ll be grateful that you took her on the journey and this will strengthen her bond with you. Coach and encourage her to express her needs to you and show you what is pleasurable for her.

Deepening The Connection

Fill her emotional needs by deepening your connection with her. Make her feel special, appreciated, valued and important outside the bedroom as well as inside. Shower her with affection and give her adequate foreplay,

When sex is more satisfying for her, it benefits the man as well. She’s going to be more willing and even eager to give you pleasure in the way you desire, such as more oral sex. She’ll be willing to have sex more often and you may find that she’ll even be the one initiating it.

Phrases like "I have a headache," or "I’m too tired," will no longer be part of her vocabulary. Your sexual adventures will be more satisfying for both of you. When you share a strong sexual bond that is mutually satisfying, it keeps your sex life fresh and exciting, prevents your love from eroding or diminishing and you develop a stronger and more fulfilling relationship all around.

Do You Know This Simple Technique To Increase Your Sexual Stamina?

By edwardwhite

One of the main reasons men suffer from premature ejaculation, which simply means reaching orgasm before they ideally want to when they have sex, is because they have a negative mindset. And it’s not surprising when you think about it.

Mind Over Matter

Our minds rule our bodies. If we are sad, we cry. If we are happy, we smile and walk confidently. And, yes, if we have the wrong mindset, we guys can climax too early during sex. Here’s how it works.

Let’s take an imaginary guy called James, who reaches orgasm too soon. He knows this and is very, very conscious of the fact that he wishes he could last longer and satisfy himself and his partners more.

He’s been sexually active for a few years, it doesn’t really matter how long. The point is, he’s not happy with his performance. Fast forward to a sexual encounter.

How Negativity Influences The Outcome

Even before foreplay has begun, as soon as the opportunity or chance to have sex has arisen, in the back of his mind is the nagging thought, “This time I’d like to last longer than I have in the past, but will I ejaculate too soon?”

Already, either consciously or subconsciously, his performance is tainted with negative emotion. It’s providing extra pressure he really doesn’t need.

Before sex he was thinking about foreplay, during foreplay he’s thinking about how he’s going to satisfy the female, and all the while at the back of his mind overshadowing his thoughts is that question, “Am I going to ejaculate too soon?”

This technique focuses on bringing you into the present and avoiding the negative emotion that’s brought on by thinking about what has happened in the past, or what might happen the next time you have sex.

Totally aside from sex, you can witness how we operate on auto-pilot. Everyday, we’re taking ourselves out of the present and into the future when we really don’t need to. Walking down the street you’re thinking of work, at work you’re thinking about sex, during sex…well, we know what you’re thinking about during sex.

The point is, to fully relax and focus and enjoy sex for long periods, you need to be in the present. Inadvertently thinking about what might happen, ejaculating too soon, takes your focus off what is actually happening: you’re moving up the stimulation scale.

How Close Are You to an Orgasm?

This in turn hampers your ability to identify how close you are to an orgasm, making its prevention impossible.

This technique has one simple goal: to increase your self-awareness and bring you back into the present during sex. It’s used during the plateau stage of sex, the hard part, where keeping control of yourself is the most important and difficult.

What you need to do is, every now and then, ask yourself a couple of simple questions in your head. “Do I feel tense or relaxed?” and “How close am I to reaching orgasm?”

It’s really important you say the questions in your head and not just “think” them. Actually say each word.

The first question uses a simple psychological principle to relax you and bring you into the situation at hand. If, after asking yourself if you feel tense, you notice your shoulders are tight, or that you’re tensing your stomach when it’s not necessary, you don’t need to think of what to do next. Your shoulders automatically drop and your tense mid-section relaxes.

Asking yourself the second question, “How close am I to reaching orgasm?” is something you should be doing throughout sex identifying where you are on the stimulation scale. This brings you into the present and focuses you, but actually saying the question in your head once in a while is doubly effective!

Practice Makes Perfect. Yes, You Can Train Yourself To Last Longer in Bed

By edwardwhite

Edging is a technique that can be used to increase your ability to refrain from climaxing when you’re really stimulated and turned on. It goes like this.

Sexual Stimulation on a Scale of 1 to 10

You imagine a scale of stimulation from 1 to 10. 1 means you aren’t stimulated at all. It’s how you are before you even start to have sex. 3 means you’re starting to become physically stimulated. In other words, you can definitely feel it, but it’s not enough to make you come too early. 6 is where you really start to feel stimulated.

If you carried on with this level of stimulation, you’d rise to the next number on the scale: 7. 7 is where you’re very sexually stimulated. When you go above a 7 on the stimulation scale, you get close to the point of no return which is a 9.

The Point of No Return – You Will Orgasm

Passing the point of no return means you’re definitely going to ejaculate, no matter what you do. The edging technique involves masturbating until you get to a 7 on the scale, then backing off and slowing down until you’re back down to a 4 or 5, then speeding up until you’re about a 7 or 8 once more.

Using this method, you can learn to control your stimulation levels and thereby extend how long you’re able to have sex without coming. Once you’ve used edging alone for a while, though, you should take it to the next level: edging with your partner. Here’s how to do that.

How to Use Edging During Sex With Your Partner To Prevent Ejaculation

Begin sex with your partner. You should have already discussed that you’re going to try edging during this sexual encounter and she should be happy and enthusiastic about the idea. After foreplay, enter you partner in the position you know creates the smallest amount of sexual stimulation for you.

Now slowly build your way up to 7 on the stimulation scale. Be careful! It’s easy to jump right past 7 and pass the point of no return when using the edging technique in ‘live’ conditions. Once you’re at or just beyond 7, and therefore fairly close to coming, slow down or withdraw from your partner, wait a moment, then build it back up once more.

Keep going just as you do it when performing edging by yourself. After a while, you can switch to your next least intense sexual position and start the edging process once more. Of course, your partner doesn’t have to just lie there and let you beaver away throughout all of this.

The Perks for Her- Extended SEx

You can still kiss her, talk to her, tease her, etc. In other words, done right, this technique is awesome for your partner, even though it’s serving a productive purpose for you. Keep going through sexual positions, edging throughout each one. If you come after a while, don’t worry about it. You’ve made good progress. Next time, you’ll be able to go even further.

You won’t believe how effective this technique is when used in conjunction with deep breathing exercises. After just three or four sexual encounters, during which you’ve used this technique, you’ll notice that you can last two or even three times as long as you used to, before you used this method of edging.