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How To Last Longer In Bed Just By Breathing

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When tackling the problem of premature ejaculation, it’s easy for a guy to only think about sex from a male point of view because, after all, coming too soon is a male problem.

But this is a mistake. When you think about it, there are certain key similarities (and differences) between the sexes that, when understood, can help you extend your sexual performance.

The Similarities

Both sexes have that feeling that sexual stimulation and sensation are building in their ‘private regions’. They both get that sudden feeling about five seconds before they come when they know it’s going to happen. Those a few of the similarities.

The Differences

But there’s also a key difference between the male and female orgasms which is worth taking note of. It concerns breathing or not breathing during the minute or so before the orgasm could technically take place.

If a woman unconsciously holds her breath for the minute or so before she could potentially come, it will tend to delay her orgasm. In other words, make it harder for her to come.

However, if a man holds his breath for the minute or so before he could come, it will tend to make him come faster. God knows why this is the case, but it is.

So when you are having sex and want to delay when you come, you should always focus on doing the following:

  • Breathe slowly and in a regular fashion. Don’t take random breaths only when you need them.
  • Breathe deeply, focusing on your lower chest and belly. Expanding your belly as you breathe helps you take in more air, which relaxes you and keeps you calm.
  • NEVER hold your breathe. Just don’t do it. It tenses you up and puts you on edge, making you much more likely to come too soon.

By breathing deeply and regularly in the way described above, you’ll be able to reduce anxiety and increase your ability to always be totally aware of the sensations you’re feeling in and around your penis.

The natural result? A longer, more pleasurable sexual experience for you and your partner.

How To Use The REAL Distraction Principle To Boost Your Sexual Stamina

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‘Premature ejaculation’ is a well known term. And every guy that’s heard of it has his own theory on the best way to deal with it. One of the most common is often referred to as the distraction technique.

What is the Distraction Technique?

It goes like this. While having sex, the guy who doesn’t want to come too soon thinks of mind-numbing concepts or completely non-sexual imagery. For example, he’ll count back from 1000 or picture a deer getting hit by a car. Whatever it is, he’ll make sure it is a complete turn-off.

He’ll do this in an attempt to take himself out of the moment and therefore distance himself from the sexual stimulation he is receiving all in an effort to extend his sexual performance. But you have to ask yourself: is having sex for a long time worth it if you’ve got to totally separate your mind from it?

Of course not! This distraction principle is a bad way to handle the problem of rapid ejaculation. Instead, you should use the REAL distraction principle, which goes like this.

The REAL Distraction Principle

Great sex isn’t just about penetration. Any man that thinks different is in for a nasty surprise. Mutually pleasurable, great sex is a combination of teasing, foreplay and penetration, amongst other things.

The point here is that sex should be varied. This is not only good from a pleasure point of view, but also from a premature ejaculation point of view. By periodically altering what you and your partner do to and with each other during sex, you can keep your stimulation levels under control and thereby delay your climax from happening until you want it to.

The reason this is called the real distraction technique is because you are effectively distracting you and your partner’s attention away from the fact that you aren’t having penetrative sex and onto the fact that you are doing something different yet equally pleasurable, like massaging each other, performing oral and manual stimulation, engaging in dirty talk, kissing and licking each other, etc.

What you should do is alternate between a minute or two of penetration (or however long you can currently last without your stimulation levels soaring too high) and some other, non-penetrative activity, like giving her head or kissing up and down her body.

Why Women Love It

As well as your partner loving the variation of your sexual encounter, you’ll also love the fact that your stimulation levels are always under control, because whenever they get too high, you can simply switch to doing something else for a minute or so. It’s a simple, but devastatingly effective technique.

In fact, most women who experience this kind of varied sexual experience prefer it over having sex with a guy who doesn’t have premature ejaculation but who can have penetrative sex for as long as he wants.

Discover The One Powerful Skill That Will Turn You Into an Exceptional Lover

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A true master in the art of making love knows that every woman has different wants and needs. Therefore, a lover a can only really become a masterful lover to the one woman he takes the time to learn.

A masterful lover realizes that each woman will have specific tastes in the bedroom. While one woman might like her man to be rough, another might prefer her man to take the more gentle approach.

The Sexual Uniqueness of Men and Women

Yes, like men, every woman will have the same basic likes and dislikes, but that is only on the surface. Think about it, while most of us like the taste of fruit, some of us prefer an orange over a banana.

This is what makes every man and woman unique. It is this uniqueness that a masterful lover will try to discover and appreciate in his partner, thus will take the necessary time needed in order to truly know what turns his woman on.

No matter what techniques you learn, none of them will really matter if you have no idea what your woman’s true desires are. Therefore, if you want to become an exceptional lover in your woman’s eyes, it is important that you learn one very important skill;

The Art of Paying Attention To Her

In order to master the “art of paying attention”, you need to learn to listen to every moan and groan your woman makes while you are making love with her. Now there is a difference between listening and really listening. I am talking about the type of listening that is able to interpret each moan and groan your woman makes.

You have to find out if a certain groan means that she likes what you are doing, or if it means that you should stop what you are doing. This takes time, concentration, and patience.

In order to successfully interpret every noise that your woman makes, you also need to learn to pay attention to every movement she makes during sex. Is she squirming her pelvis during a cunnilingus session because she is enjoying what you are doing, or is it because she is signaling you to stop as she is feeling uncomfortable with the type of stimulation you are applying?

By paying attention to both her movements and noises, you will soon be able to get an accurate interpretation what she is feeling, and what she would really like you to do to her.

The Importance of Verbal Communication During Lovemaking

Verbal communication also plays a big part in the “Art of Paying Attention”. I am talking about the type of communication that goes on during a love making session. This is where you really have to be careful. If you ask too many questions, you will simply annoy your partner.

In order to verbally communicate with her , you have to do it in such a way that it actually becomes part of the love making ritual. There are many ways to find out exactly what your woman likes or dislikes, while at the same time using the question and tone of your voice to turn her on and keep her on that “erotic high.”

An example of this would be to seductively ask your woman how she is feeling while you are stimulating any part of her hot zones.

Keep the questions short and make them sound sexy.

For example, the wrong way to do it would be to stop what you are doing and say something like this; “Now, when I move my finger up and down like this, does it make you feel excited, or should I rather move it in a circular motion.Really, which one is better; up and down like so, or circular like so …”. At this point you might as well put your clothes on, politely say goodbye to her, and show yourself out. Don’t forget to shut the door behind you.

Communicating the Right Way During Sex

The right way to verbally communicate with your woman during sex is by continuing to do what you are doing, and while you are doing it, say the following softly in the most sensual and sexiest voice you can muster; “does that feel good?”, or “do you like that?”.

Now, if you have “paid attention”, you will realize something very important. Not only are the questions short, but they also require a simple yes or no. This ensures that your woman does not have to strain her self too much by having to pull herself out of concentration to answer your long “philosophical” questions. She simply has to say yes, no, nod, shake her head, say “hmmm hmmm”, or “mhhhh mhhhh”.

Another thing to keep in mind, as short and sexy as these questions may seem, don’t ask them after every friggin move you try on your woman. That will also bug the hell out of her. The perfect balance is to verbally ask her a question now and then, while at the same time paying attention to every noise and movement she makes. Once you have accomplished that, you will be well on your way to becoming an exceptional lover.

Premature Ejaculation Problems? Try the Triple ‘S’ Technique to Last Longer in Bed

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If you suffer from premature ejaculation and want to remove it from your sex life, the first thing you must do is ascertain how much of a problem it is for you. Which of the following sums up most closely how long you can last in the sack?

  • Less than one minute
  • Between one minute and two minutes
  • Between three minutes and five minutes
  • Between five minutes and ten minutes
  • Always under 15 minutes

The Worse Your Problem Is, The Better

The higher your choice is on that list, the worse your problem with premature ejaculation is. But that’s okay, in fact, it’s a good thing. You now know what you’re dealing with. Now you need a technique to tackle the problem. The triple ‘S’ technique is a perfect method to start with. Here’s how it works.

When you have sex with your partner, it starts out fine. You’re enjoying it and able to control your stimulation levels. However, as you continue, your stimulation levels grow rapidly and start to get out of hand. Finally, they get too high and make you ejaculate too quickly.

Taking Action Ahead of Time

The key to solving the problem is taking action before the process just described can complete itself. Here’s how. Start having sex as normal. Carry on until you feel your stimulation levels growing to a point at which you know they’re becoming unmanageable.

Slow Down

You now need to use the first ‘S’ of this technique: slow down. It’s simple and easy. Just slow down the speed of your thrust action. Also alter the depth of your strokes, to make the penetration less intense. Once your stimulation levels have dropped to a more manageable level, you can increase the speed and depth of your strokes again.

Stop

Continue for as long as it takes for your stimulation levels to get out of hand once more. It doesn’t matter if this is 30 seconds or 3 minutes after you applied the first ‘S’. Now you’re going to apply the second ‘S’, which is ‘stop’. Stop the motion completely and deflect your attention onto another part of your partner’s body.

Rub her clit, kiss her lips, massage her back…do whatever you want until your stimulation levels have dropped once more.

When they’re back to normal, initiate penetration again. Keep going until you’re getting close to the edge. By this point, you’ll probably notice that even slowing down or stopping aren’t going to allow you to continue for much longer.

Squeeze

You need to apply the final ‘S’, which is ‘squeeze’. When your stimulation levels soar and push you close to the point of no return, withdraw your penis from your partner and squeeze it hard at the end, right on the head. This sounds a little brutal, but it really isn’t. Squeeze and pinch it until you feel the sensations subside, then carry on having sex.

By using all three of the S’s of this technique, you can effectively extend your sexual performance by up to 7 minutes…the first time you try it. Just imagine what the application of other sexual stamina building techniques could do for you.

Want to Last Longer in Bed? Try This…

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Do you want to last longer in bed but have no idea how? Think of sex like a running a race.

I’d like you to imagine you’re an athlete whose specialty is running the 1000 meter race. Your goal is to run or jog around the 1000 meter track in the shortest amount of time possible. Simple enough, you’d think. Just run as fast as you can.

But that’s not how it works. If you were to sprint at your maximum speed as soon as the starting gun sounded, you’d soon be so drained that finishing off the rest of the 1000 m would be impossible. The real way to do the run is to pace yourself and be acutely aware of how tired you are and how strained your body is getting at each point in the race.

By having this heightened awareness of what’s going on in your body, you are able to configure your speed to an extremely fine degree, optimizing it as you go. Now, the subject of this article is not how to run well. It is, as the title suggests, how to last longer in bed.

Running the Race is Like Having Sex

The reason I just described the running of a race is because the same principle applies to when you have sex. If you aren’t absolutely aware of the sensations in your body, you will find it impossible to configure your performance and make it last longer. Here’s how to develop this awareness.

  • Set aside half an hour when you know you can relax, undisturbed.
  • Arouse yourself until you are erect using whatever method works for you.
  • Now start to masturbate at a medium speed. As soon as you start, pay attention to where on your penis you are feeling the sensations of pleasure.
  • Begin to pick up speed and increase grip strength. Focus on how the sensations of pleasure change, both in their location and their intensity.
  • Spend about five minutes varying the speed and technique you use. During this time, pay close attention to the feelings you’re experiencing. You should notice that, as you continue to masturbate, there will be a growing sense of pleasure in the head of your penis and down at the base, on the topside. Feel how this begins to increase and become more noticeable as you continue.
  • Now get the point of almost climaxing and try to detect exactly how it feels. Notice every wave of pleasure, where it starts, how long it lasts…every little detail.
  • Keep on the edge of coming for as long as it takes to experience all of the changes in sensation and stimulation you can. Then come and see how the feelings subside.

Building Understanding and Awareness

This kind of experiment builds your understanding and awareness of what the sensations in your penis are as you get aroused and how they change as you get closer to your climax.

This is crucial knowledge when attempting to improve your sexual stamina, because when you have sex, you will know what every little feeling in your penis means at any given time in regards to how close to coming you are.

You’re then free to slow down, speed up, change positions, or do whatever is right to avoid climaxing too early and continue having sex with your partner.