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Masturbation – 3 Ways To Make It Feel More Like A Vagina

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If guys masturbate often (and they do) it’s not at all unusual for the same masturbation techniques to get boring. You’d like to create some different feelings, perhaps try to recreate the feeling of a vagina or just all out make your orgasms through masturbationbetter than you’ve ever had before. Here are some great things to try if you want to spice up your masturbation routine and create vagina-like sensations with using sex toys or some things you have at home!

Question: Recently, masturbating has been getting very boring for me. What are some ways I can get the feeling of a vagina to my penis while masturbating (without any sex toys)?

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Using Enough Lube

Some men masturbate without lube, and others don’t use enough. If you’re masturbating with out lube, it’s time to go get you a bottle stat! The right sexual lubricant – and enough of it – will make masturbation feel so much better than if you’re not using lube at all. Lube the single most important component of male masturbation and if you want to recreate the feeling of a warm, wet vagina, lube is going to be your best friend. In fact, a generous amount of lube may be all you need to take your masturbation to the next level! For male masturbation, silicone lube is probably your best bet, although water based lubricant is great and works well for just about anything. Silicone lube does last a little bit longer and is slightly more difficult to wash off, but that’s not usually an issue because the penis is so easy to clean.

Using Different Hand Techniques

Try using both hands when you masturbate instead of just one, or grip your penis with one hand and lay face down on the bed, thrusting into your hand as you would if you were thrusting into a woman’s vagina. The latter, with a good amount of lube, can feel warm and wet, just like a vagina. By using your body to move your penis in and out of your hand (instead of the other way around) you’re recreating the feeling of having sex rather than just masturbating. Don’t be afraid to try different hand techniques when masturbating because even the simplest change in how you hold your hand, how tight you grip it or which fingers you’re using can make all the difference in the world!

Using A Condom And A Warm Towel

Another trick to recreate the feeling of a vagina during masturbation without using sex toys is to use a condom, lube and a warm (not hot) towel. Squirt a generous amount of lube in the condom and then put the condom on your penis. Using a condom that is a little larger than your penis may benefit you here, although you would want to switch to properly fitting condoms when you have sex. You can also use a female condom if you like. Wrap a warm towel around your penis after you put the condom on, and grip the warm towel and move it back and forth when you masturbate. This is a great way to recreate the “warm, wet” feeling of a vagina. There are lots of other homemade sex toys that men have tried, such as using an empty paper towel or toilet paper roll or other items found around the house. Talk about ouch! That’s why many men choose to use male sex toys for masturbation instead of using items found around the house – it just works so much better!

Masturbating With Sex Toys

Sex toys are often used for female masturbation, but there are lots of sex toys for boys that are available too! Male masturbators are often made from soft, squishy silicone that is formed into a sleeve that slips over the penis. With a good amount of lube, the silicone sleeves create multiple sensations during masturbation. Many male masturbators are smooth and squishy, while others have textured or ribbed insides for his pleasure. If you’ve never tried using a sex toy for masturbation, you might want to consider it. There’s nothing embarassing about using the right sex toy for what you want to do, and male masturbators can take your orgasms to the next level. Most sex toys for boys are inexpensive and easy to use, even if you’ve never used one before. Many men who use a male masturbator have never gone back to regular masturbation with their hand because the sex toy just feels so good!

5 Tips For Awesome One-Night Stands

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If you are looking to have a little fun without the drama of a relationship, a one-night stand could be the answer to your sexual rut. One-night stands can be a lot of fun if they are handled properly. When they are not handled properly both parties involved can feel used and cheap, affecting self-esteem and self-image.

Almost all men and women have had a one-night stand during their lives, but the effects of a romp in the sheets without commitment must be taken carefully. If you would like to avoid the hassles of dealing with a bad one-night stand there are some very basic rules to follow. Here are a few tips to help you out.

Keep The Drinking To A Minimum

A one-night stand can be a lot of fun, but both parties must have clear consent without the influence of substance. One of the biggest reasons that so many people wind up with a bad one-night stand on their conscious is because of alcohol. If you are going out with some friends, try to keep your mind clear. Alcohol has a way of making situations seem better than they are. It can make people seem much more interesting, physically attractive, and compatible with you. But as the alcohol starts to wear off, you will probably regret sleeping with them. Monitor your drinking and make sound decisions.

Always Have Protection

It doesn’t matter if you’re a guy or a girl, always having protection easily available is a must for casual sex. Just think to yourself, if this guy or girl is willing to have sex with me within hours of meeting, who else have they been with? This isn’t to say that exploration makes you a slut or a man-whore, but you have to keep your bases covered. STDs are running rampant nowadays and it’s very important to make sure that you protect yourself and your partner. Birth control is not a substitute for condoms. While your primary concern may be with pregnancy, the threat of STDs is real.

Keep Your Home Clean

If you’re going to bring a guy or a girl back to your place the last thing that you want is for them to see your dirty underwear or last week’s dishes in the sink. A person’s home is reflective of their personality and their health. Make sure that you pick up a little bit before you go out for the night. When a person enters your home they will take notice of how you keep it. While you might be the most hygienic person on the planet, dirt and grime around your home can easily turn a guy or a girl off. Sweep, mop, dust and wipe to have a great one-night stand.

You Have To Get Up Early

It doesn’t matter if you have the day off, a great rule to follow is that you always have to get up early. Laying this foundation before sex is essential to soothing the awkwardness in the morning. If you want to have a great one-night stand without the expectation of a relationship afterward, make a clean exit. Set your alarm and get out of the house as soon as possible. You don’t want to linger around or have the other person lingering around your home in the morning. Make up a story if you have to and actually leave your own home if you need to get the person out of your house. Drive around the block once and then come back to your house if you need to. The more time that this person spends with you is more time for mixed signals or awkwardness.

Don’t Dismiss A Real Connection

There are plenty of real relationships that have begun with one-night stands. Whether you are against this as a genuine way of starting off with your soul mate or not, it’s unfair to dismiss a real connection just because you had sex on the first date. If you really think that you see yourself with this person then contact her or him again. Women are known to get a little clingy after they have a one-night stand, but there is a difference between wanting to see this person again and latching on for dear life. If you have a genuine interest in spending more time with your one-nighter, go for it. You never know. They may feel the same way. Just make sure that you aren’t trying to keep it strictly physical if you decide to go down this path.

4 Ways To Make Sex More Spontaneous

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Making sex more spontaneous is something that a lot of couples try to focus on when working on their sex lives. Spontaneity can bring a lot to people’s sex lives. This can bring passion and more intimacy to a couple with very little effort. It’s easy to fall into the trap of having the same old boring sex on the same day every week, especially if you’re in a long-term relationship. So in an effort to break this monotony, couples are engaging in more spontaneous and “in the moment” styles of sexual activity.

If you would like to take your sex life out of this rut, there are a few ways to make sex more spontaneous.

1. Toss The Schedule

So many couples rely on a schedule for sex that it completely downgrades their sex lives. This schedule might not be set in stone or written down, but if you know that you always have sex on Saturday morning at 8am it’s probably time to toss the schedule.

A scheduled time to have sex will not only hinder the excitement, it can lead to less intimacy. A relationship is a partnership and having this set day to have sex can make it seem more like a chore than a meeting of the minds. Make a conscious decision to never follow a timetable in your sex life.

2. Always Have Condoms

While this rule might only appear to be geared toward men, it can also be applied to women. One of the biggest reasons that couples can’t have spontaneous sex is because of protection issues. It is a great idea to always carry condoms with you, but if you’re specifically trying to make your sex life more spontaneous, this is a must.

Having the proper protection with you at all times will prevent pregnancy and the spread of STDs. This can also give you a “ready anytime” attitude with your partner. This suggestion also extends to women. There are going to be times when your husband or boyfriend does not have condoms on him.

Surprise him by whipping your own stash when the moment strikes. There are a lot of women that consider using birth control for this very subject. Birth control can be a great way to add peace of mind and spontaneity to your relationship, but always check with your doctor beforehand. Different women have different side effects with the birth control they use so you want to bring any issues up with your physician.

3. Discover Each Other’s Fantasies

When you know what turns on your partner, you can easily avoid the pitfalls of mundane sex. Make it a point to share your fantasies with each other so you can spice up your love lives with some spontaneity. You can start to feel those butterflies at any moment and an opportunity might present itself in the blink of an eye.

Say your boyfriend has a roleplaying fantasy and you just happen to be dressed up as a sexy businesswoman. This is an excellent opportunity to take control of his desires and make your sex life a little less ordinary. When you share each other’s fantasies he will also be able to take you up on a spurt of the moment romp. This can also work for women.

Say that your girlfriend has a fantasy of being taken by a mechanic. You’re working on your car one day and boom, she is instantly turned on. Communicate with each other your sex life will thrive.

4. Have Date Nights During The Week

Date nights are usually relegated to Friday or Saturday nights. Why not shake things up a bit and turn date night upside down by utilizing it during the week? Tuesday, Wednesday or even Monday night can give you a little something extra to look forward to when you have a spontaneous date night. Men are expected to make the plans for the date and oversee all of the details.

If you want to have a more spontaneous romance, the woman can take control. Surprise your husband or boyfriend with a date night in the middle of the week. Plan everything yourself and simply tell him that you’re taking him out. This is a great way to break up the week and add to the spontaneity.

A great date night is to meet each other in a bar and pretend that you have first met. Have your boyfriend try to pick you up for some extra spontaneity.

5 Sex Secrets He’d Die From If You Found Out

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Sex secrets are the cream de la cream of secrets in a relationship. There are a lot of guys that are into some very out of the norm stuff and if you ever found out, they just might kill over from it. The thing about male sex secrets is that they aren’t as obscure as you might think. Many straight men are turned on by things that are traditionally considered a little effeminate. So if you want to know some sex secrets that are extremely common with straight men, here is a short list.

Sex Secret #1: He’s A Cuckold

A cuckold is a special breed of man. Cuckolding is essentially when a man is in a relationship with a woman and gets turned on by another guy having sex with her. This usually happens in front of the boyfriend or husband. Cuckolding is very popular in the swinger community, but it’s also something that he will probably never admit to. Guys that don’t have the nerve to tell their wives or girlfriends about this fantasy usually masturbate to the thought of it. If you believe that your guy is a cuckold and you’re okay with it, you might want to approach him with this thought. What seemed to be his unbearable sex secret could turn out to be something that you both enjoy.

Sex Secret #2: Cross-Dressing

Cross-dressing is another sex secret that is very common among men. This is more of a fetish that he doesn’t want you to know about. Every straight man likes to see their wives or girlfriends in lingerie, but the cross-dresser secretly wants to engage in the lingerie himself. If you ever find that your panties, bra or other clothing is not where you left it, you might need to have a chat with your guy. While cross-dressing is not something that is completely out of the ordinary, it can put a strain on the relationship. Some women really like that their man puts on their clothes whereas others get very weirded out by it. Talking to your guy about his secret fantasies can alleviate any embarrassment associated with cross-dressing.

Sex Secret #3: Domination

Domination is a very common sex secret that men have. Whether it’s that he wants to dominate you or he wants you to dominate him, having this fantasy can be extremely hot or extremely lackluster unless you know what you’re doing. If you think that your guy really likes dominating you, make it clear that you think it’s hot too. If you think that he gets turned on more by you dominating him, make an effort to help him fulfill his fantasy. Be a little rougher with him during sex. Order him around. Make him tell you how sexy you are. Whatever he needs to get turned on. Having communication is essential for a relationship and it’s hard to make him completely happy if you’re not up front about wanting to know what he likes in bed.

Sex Secret #4: Prostate Massages

The male prostate is said to be the equivalent of the female g-spot. However, there is a perception that a man having something put up his butt is gay. The fact of the matter is that prostate massages are getting very popular with men. If your man lets off a shriek of delight when you start to go near his anus he might have a secret fantasy of getting a prostate massage. If this is something that you would be interested in doing, you might want to ask him about it. Guys are very open to doing things that are a little questionable with women they feel comfortable with. And you might just be the one that he opens up to about his secret sex fantasy.

Sex Secret #5: He Wants To Do It In Public

Exhibitionism is another very common sex fantasy among men. The fact that he secretly wants to take you in public shows that he’s not ashamed of your body or his own. If he has been beating around the bush about taking you in public, consider this a compliment. There is a certain element of danger associated with having sex in public and this is something that he thrives on. Having sex in a public place can be very hot and very spontaneous, but you need to be comfortable with it. Some men do not have the confidence to fulfill this fantasy so they will need an extra push in the right direction. If you feel comfortable enough to do this for him, you might just have a lifelong relationship on your hands.

Blowjobs 101: What Your Man Secretly Wishes You Knew About Oral Sex… But Will Never, Ever Tell You To Your Face!

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Most women know that men love blowjobs. And many women can adequately please their partners orally, more or less anyway. But can YOU truly blow your partner’s mind when you give him head and have him absolutely begging for more?

Here are some surprising facts about blowjobs:

  • Did you know that your tongue is a muscle just like every other muscle in your body and exercising it will make it stronger and more powerful?
  • Did you know the tongue can put six to eight pounds of pressure on a man’s penis?
  • Did you know a great handjob can feel as good as a blowjob to a man if it’s done the right way?
  • Do you know that a string of pearls, a silk scarf and a bag of Skittles can make your man’s toes curl?

If you’ve ever wanted to give your partner the kind of blowjob you know he wants, then we have a little secret to share with you.

First, let’s talk about why you are not pleasing him through oral sex…

Three Mistakes that MOST Women Make Consistently and the One Killer Mistake that ALL Women Make When Giving Head

Mistake #1: Awkwardness and Feeling Tired After Just Several Minutes of Giving Head

Most women can start a blowjob right but never finish because of tongue muscle cramps and jaw locking. When these happen, men feel the tension (and more often than not, sharp teeth!) and get turned off.

Mistake #2: Seeing Blowjob as a Tedious Chore

You CAN learn to enjoy blowjob just by being adventurous and playful. If you can see blowjob as a way to express your sexuality, you will never have to feel tired or bored while giving head.

Mistake #3: Lack of Knowledge of the “Hot Spots: on the Penis and the Whole Gonad Area

There are specific areas on a man’s penis which increase the likelihood of orgasm, but a lot of women miss these completely.

And, finally, here’s the most common mistake that lead to annoyance, discomfort and relationship tension….

Mistake #4: Some Women Do NOT Develop a Fail-ProofSystem to Make Him Climax through Oral sex

To really learn the skills to make him climax through blowjob, you must develop a system to vary, combine and intensify the pleasurable sensations men feel while being blown… and they let their men confuse them even more with barely thought out instructions on where to lick, when to suck harder and when to speed up…

If no consistency is achieved, what results is a hit-and-miss blowjob style that only works at certain times. This lack of consistency makes women feel more inferior about their blowjob skills.

If you’re ready to take the plunge and start learning about how to really turn your partner on…

Our friend Jessica Perez just published an amazing guide called Blow His Mind Tonight which is all about the in-and-outs of giving your man the best blowjob of his life. Never before have we seen a book so loaded with useable blowjob tips and techniques as this one!

Not only is Jessica’s book great for beginners, it also contains a wealth of information for women who simply want to amp up their blowjob skills and increase their sexual skills.

Jessica’s Blow His Mind Tonight is not only a great place to get started with lots of exercises to help your mouth’s strength and stamina, but also a great place to get tons of ideas on what positions to use and what tongue techniques will work the best.

Check out the awesome information that Jessica has in her incredible book:

  • Learn correct tongue placement and easy tongue exercises that you can do anywhere, anytime to make your mouth a powerful pleasure deliverer!
  • Find out the right way to breathe during a blowjob
  • Learn how to make your hands baby bottom soft for that perfect handjob
  • Test your blowjob abilities with two fun, before and after quizzes to see how much you’ve improved your oral sex skills
  • The different parts of an orgasm, including arousal, ejaculation and recovery
  • Learn how to give your partner the holy grail of blowjobs – deep throating – without gagging
  • Learn dozens of different techniques to use during handjobs and blowjobs to give your man the ultimate pleasure

But hold on a second, there’s a catch.

Before you download Jessica Perez’s Blow His Mind Tonight, make sure you’re willing to put in the effort it takes to learn how to give your partner the ultimate head. While Jessica’s guide is practically bursting at the seams with information, it’s not going to guarantee that you instantly become an oral sex goddess. The tips and techniques included in her book are things you actually have to do to make work, so make sure you’re willing to invest your time into learning how to give your partner an amazing blowjob.

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