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7 Sultry Things That Make His Toes Curl

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Sex ruts are easy to get into when you’re in a relationship – but they’re not so easy to get out of. Without bringing some new moves to the bedroom, your man starts knowing what to expect – which can be a huge turn off for guys that like to mix it up. Make sex an incredibly new and wonderful experience for your man by surprising him with these sex tips that will blow his mind and leave him gasping for breath.

Suck On A Popsicle – And Then Suck On Him

Make oral sex super cool when the weather is hot by alternating sucking on a Popsicle and sucking on your partner’s penis. This is a great way to experiment with cold temperatures without scaring him off – let’s face it, a guy isn’t going to want you to do nothing but rub ice all over his penis. That’s just too dang cold!

When you suck on the Popsicle, it cools your mouth down quite a bit, but not so much that it is going to be painful for him. As you continue to lick and suck on his member, your mouth heats back up and the process is repeated. He’ll love the feeling of alternating hot and cold, and you’ll love the idea of oral sex being a little bit more fun (and tastier) for you.

Give Him A Handjob With A Masturbator

Most guys don’t use male sex toys when they’re masturbating – they simply just use some lube and their hands. A lot of guys don’t even use lube! Show your man the difference that a sex toy can make when you’re flying solo by introducing it to him during a handjob given by you.

Put some lube on the inside of a masturbation sleeve of your choice and slowly slip it over his member after you’ve gotten him nice and warmed up with your hands. At this point, he’s not going to ask you to stop and he’ll get to experiment with the feeling of a masturbation sleeve even if he’s been a little apprehensive about doing it in the past. He’ll be amazed at the difference in the way it feels!

Let Him Videotape Or Take Pictures Of You

Since guys are such visual creatures, they usually need something like pictures or a video to help them get off, unless you’re there in the flesh of course. If you’re confident that you’re in a relationship with a guy you can trust with something like this, surprise him by allowing him to take a few pictures or even a video of you while having sex or while you’re masturbating. It’s almost guaranteed that a video or pictures of you will be more cherished than any porn he’s ever downloaded.

Give Anal Sex A Try

Your man might not have ever asked you for anal sex (because he’s afraid it will hurt you or he doesn’t want to offend you) but it’s almost a sure thing that he’s thought of doing it with you before. Treat him to something special by letting him know one night that he can try it up your rear if he’d like, but make sure you practice on your own at first.

Buy a small butt plug or just use your fingers (along with plenty of lube) and try inserting them into your anus the next time you’re masturbating. It will be uncomfortable at first, but much easier than if you just let your man try it without ever having prepped yourself.

Next, move up in size until you’re comfortable with inserting something into your anus that is about as thick as your man is. When you actually do let him do it, he’ll be so surprised at the fact that you can take his penis – because he’ll be expecting you to freak out.

Leave Him A Sexy Voicemail While He’s At Work

The sound of your voice – especially during dirty talk – can do wonders for him. Take advantage of this fact and leave him a dirty voicemail on his cell phone while he’s at work. Plan to tell him what you want to do to him when he gets home, or what you want him to do to you. Of course, you can also do a combination of both!

If you’re shy, write it down first so you know what you’re saying and you don’t choke on your words – which is easy to do once you know you’re being recorded. After listening to the message, your man won’t be able to wait to get home and have sex with you. He may have to arrange to leave work early!

Use The Cowgirl Sex Position (With A Twist)

The “Cowgirl” sex position is pretty much just the woman on top position, but with a twist. In the real Cowgirl position, you’re going to sit up instead of laying your torso down onto his. Then, you’re going to take it a step further and lean back, placing your hands behind you on the bed (or whatever surface you’ve chosen for your tryst). This will give him the most incredible view of you and him having sex that he’s ever had. In fact, you may want to wait to let him do the videotaping until you try this!

Practice Your Kegels

You’ve probably heard of Kegel exercises – where you squeeze your vaginal muscles like you’re stopping the flow of urine. These muscles can actually become very strong if you exercise them regularly. Squeezing them during sex can give your man divine waves of pleasure, but not if your muscles aren’t strong enough to actually give him a good squeeze.

Practice your Kegels while he’s not around, or get a pair of Ben Wa balls that will help you exercise your vagina while you go on about your busy day. When you feel that you’re vaginal muscles are comparable to the female Hulk’s, try them out next time you and your partner have sex. Give him a squeeze as he’s pulling out and watch as he gasps and begs for more.

Viagra Condom: What Is It And Where Can I Get One?

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Viagra has long been touted as the cure for erectile dysfunction – just one pill can give you a raging hard on that lasts for hours. But as with any medication, there are reported side effects (notably an erection that lasts more than four hours – which requires immediate medical attention) and it’s not for everyone. Alternatives to Viagra are cropping up everywhere, from herbal pills to creams and jellies. But can you actually achieve a bigger, better erection with just a condom?

What Is A “Viagra” Condom?

A new condom is being tested in the UK that is lined with a gel that is designed to stimulate blood flow to the penis and result in better, longer and harder erections. This same gel is used in patients with angina and other heart problems to improve blood flow to the heart. By using the gel in a condom, it is believed that the vasodilating components in the gel will increase the blood flow directly in the penis.

Contrary to popular belief, the “Viagra” condom is actually not affiliated at all with the company that manufactures Viagra. The condom was only coined with this term due to the possibility that it will give a man a rock hard erection while using it.

Will It Cure Erectile Dysfunction?

If you’re with a monogamous partner, you may not want to use a condom in a situation like this, especially if you and your partner are using different forms of birth control or are trying to get pregnant. There are lots of effective treatments for erectile dysfunction for those who are in partnerships or marriages and don’t require the use of a condom. For this reason, the condom is not being marketed as a treatment for erectile dysfunction only, but rather at men who don’t like wearing condoms.

Improving The Desire To Use Contraception

Instead of aiming the product towards men with erectile dysfunction, it is being marketed towards men who don’t enjoy wearing condoms. Many men report that an erection is difficult to get or maintain when wearing a condom, because sexual sensitivity is reduced even in thinner condoms. A lot of men choose not to use them for this reason alone. The UK company creating the “Viagra” condoms reports that if men had more of an incentive to use a condom – such as not having any erection problems during use – they would be more likely to choose safer sex over going bareback.

Some men experience impotency only occasionally (and in some cases, men experience only a single episode of ED or have episodes very rarely), so conventional treatments for ED may not work well for these men. A “Viagra” condom would be an effective way to treat ED that happens only occasionally, rather than seeking the aid of systemic medications that have a number of side effects.

Are They Available In The U.S.?

Right now, these condoms are being tested in the UK and they are expected to pass regulatory inspections and be manufactured in the UK within the next year. At present, scientists are working on stabilizing the gel within the condom so that it only touches the penis during sex. They also want to make sure the gel doesn’t break down or degrade latex, making the condom ineffective.

However, if these condoms work well and are readily accepted by the public, it won’t be long before they’re introduced in the United States and are available for purchase anywhere regular condoms are sold.

Other Treatments For ED

Erectile dysfunction is common in the United States and can happen to men of any age – although older men tend to experience this more than younger men. There are a variety of treatments for ED, including:

  • Herbal supplements
  • Viagra or Cialis
  • Creams and gels
  • Penis pumps
  • Surgery (in very rare cases)

However, if you struggle with erection problems, all you may need to do is live a healthier lifestyle. ED can be caused by a variety of things, including smoking, heart disease, diabetes and high blood pressure, using illegal drugs or some prescription medications, and not eating healthy, vitamin rich foods.

By making a few simple lifestyle changes such as eliminating smoking or using drugs and exercising and eating healthier, you may be able to conquer erectile dysfunction without the need for medical intervention, medications and supplements.

6 Ways To Set Monogamy On Fire

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Sex gets boring when you’re monogamous – but does it have to? Should you resign yourself to lame sex just because you’re in an exclusive relationship with someone? Of course not. Part of the benefits of being in a steady relationship is being comfortable enough with someone to try new things and go a little bit outside your box. Here’s how you can heat up your sex life – tonight.

Take A Break

A lot of couples that are in a sex rut just keep trying to have great sex with each other, but it always ends up being mediocre no matter how hard they try. Instead, remember the quote “absence makes the heart grow fonder” and apply it to this situation. Plan to take a break from sex all together for a few weeks. This may seem like the exact opposite of what you want to do, but abstaining from sex for a little while will actually make it hotter when you do get back together.

Give A Foot Or Back Rub

No, not an erotic massage. This actually isn’t going to get you sex right away – but it will help your partner to become more open with their bodies and more receptive to your touch. Next time your partner has a hard day at work, grab a little massage oil and give them a great rubdown. Really get into it and do it well. Make it good, and show them that you truly do care for them. This act of complete selflessness and genuine interest in how they feel will help them open up to you sexually.

Pay Compliments

After being in a relationship for awhile, you tend to take your partner for granted. We all do it, but getting too comfortable contributes to a boring sex life. Next time your lover spends a lot of time getting ready, puts on a new outfit or does something out of the ordinary to look good, make sure you pay them a compliment. Let them know you still find them sexy and attractive. Take this a step further and compliment your partner for something completely ordinary. Guys will enjoy a compliment on their hard work or something they’ve fixed while women respond well to compliments on their ideas.

Touch Each Other

Couples who have been together for a significant amount of time find that they don’t touch each other as much. Not necessarily just in the bedroom, but in general. They may avoid brushing up against each other or simply keep their hands to themselves more often. Improve your sex life with your lover just by making an effort to touch them more every day. Hold hands in the car while you’re driving to work or take time for a prolonged hug when you get home. Don’t let a day go by where you don’t touch your partner several times a day, both casually and passionately.

Make Out

Remember when you used to kiss your lover just for the sake of kissing? In fact, you probably kissed for hours without ever thinking of what was going to happen next. Bring that back to life in your current relationship by having a good old fashioned make out session with your lover. Put on a great movie (but maybe something you’ve seen before so you aren’t tempted to get too engrossed in it) and start softly kissing your partner’s neck.

Move to their lips and make it clear that you want to make out. Don’t let things progress past making out or heavy petting. Then, go to bed without ever thinking of having sex or where the kissing will lead. It won’t be long before your lover can’t stand it anymore!

Do Something Taboo

Part of what makes sex boring in a monogamous relationship is that things stop being “taboo.” You start expecting things a certain way and know what’s going to happen next. Shake things up a bit by doing something with your partner that is “taboo” or slightly outside of your box. Instead of doing what you normally do in the bedroom, take it out on the couch or even outside to the yard or in the car. Bring in a new sex toy or try bondage for the first time.

When you’re with someone you completely trust and love, you have the benefit of being able to try new things without the fear of judgement. You can be open and honest about what you like and what you want to try – and the same goes for them. Take advantage of the opportunity and do something with them you’ve never done before!

10 Things You Didn’t Know About Penises

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Sex is something most people are familiar with, but there are many things that remain unknown. With myths and gossip constantly surrounding sex and different sexual activities, it can be difficult to sort out the truth from the bunk. Perhaps one of the most misunderstood things about sex is the penis – due to the numerous jokes gossip about it, there’s a lot of things that women just don’t know about it – but should.

The Penis CAN Break

Believe it or not, even though the penis isn’t a bone, it can break. A “break” is most often called a “penile fracture” and can happen during rough sex or even vigorous masturbation. A penile fracture happens when the tough, fibrous tissue around the penis experiences sudden trauma, and a cracking sound is often heard – along with immediately losing the erection and a large bruise appearing very quickly. This condition requires immediate medical treatment.

Erections Can Be Random

Most of the time, an erection happens when the penis is either physically stimulated or a man becomes psychologically aroused. However, erections can be completely random and can happen when a man is being neither physically or psychologically stimulated sexually. As embarrassing as it is, a man can have an erection at the most inopportune times, such as at a funeral. The next time your man pops a boner, it may not be because the hot girl you thought he was looking at – it might be “just because!”

The Average Penis Size Is Actually Quite Small

Men are obsessed with their penis size – they usually think that theirs is too small, or much smaller than the general populations. The truth is, the average size is just 5-6″ in length! While many men may think that they can’t please a woman with a 5″ penis, the reality is that they can – and the majority of men do! Large penises are actually fairly rare, and size really isn’t that big a deal to a woman. The man who holds the record for the largest penis (over 13″) lives at home with his mother – so really, size doesn’t matter.

The Way It Looks Is Not Genetic

A man may think that he passes on the size of his penis and the way it looks to his sons, but the way it looks and even how long or wide it is has nothing to do with the way his father’s looks. A man’s penis is formed within the womb, when the body begins turning an androgynous fetus into either a boy or girl. Similarly, the way a woman’s vagina looks has nothing to do with the way her mother’s looked either.

Most Men Do Not Need Large Sized Condoms

Because the average penis size is about 5 to 6 inches, most men do not need large or “Magnum” sized condoms. However, many men buy large condoms because they either want to think they have a bigger one or they want their partner to believe that they do because they brought extra large condoms to bed. The truth is, the far majority of men can fit just fine in a regular sized condom and if they do, they should use it. Using a condom that is too large can cause it to slip off, increasing the risk of unwanted pregnancy or the transmission of STD’s.

He’s Not Lying About “Blue Balls”

Most women think that the excuse men give about having “blue balls” if she doesn’t have sex with him is false – he’s just trying to get a piece, right? Wrong. However, during foreplay and increased arousal, the prostate gland and the testicles become swollen with fluid. This causes anywhere from mild discomfort to acute pain. The release of these fluids during an orgasm will relieve the discomfort. So should you sleep with him just because he has blue balls? Of course not – unless you want to. Blue balls can also be relieved with an aspirin or just good old fashioned masturbation.

You Cannot Tell The Size Of A Man’s Penis By His Shoe – Or Hand – Size

Many men and women believe that if a man has large feet or large hands with long fingers, that he will also have a very large or long penis. This is not true! However, you can predict the length of a man’s penis by looking at how tall he is. Men who are taller tend to have larger penises. Also, a study in 1999 proved that gay men actually have longer, thicker members than heterosexual men!

“Liquor Dick” Exists

If a man drinks too much, he may have trouble having an erection later that night. The same goes for illicit drug use. The more inebriated a man is, the more trouble he will have achieving an erection. If you’re planning a big date that you want to end in the bedroom with some really hot and wild sex, keep the drinks at a minimum.

Erect Penis Size Is Not Indicated By How Big It Is When It Is Not Erect

If a man has a small penis when he is not erect, many men and women think that this is an indicator that it won’t get a lot bigger when it becomes erect. Similarly, people also believe that if a man has a large member when it is flaccid that he will have a much larger penis when it is erect. The truth is, how large or small a man’s penis is when it is soft has absolutely no correlation on how big it will be when he has an erection. The average length of a flaccid one is about 3 inches, but some of these penises grow to be much larger when a man becomes sexually aroused. On the other hand, a member that is very large when it is flaccid may only gain a few centimeters when it becomes erect.

Most Men Are Uncircumcised (But Not In The U.S.)

Circumcision is still routinely practiced in the United States, where about 60% of boys are circumcised at birth due to religious and personal reasons. However, most men in the world remain uncircumcised – in fact, the rate of circumcision around the world is only 10-15%. If you meet a really hot foreign guy and end up in bed together, don’t be surprised if he’s uncut. American women think that being circumcised is the norm (and may even be a little unnerved about having sex with a man who hasn’t been circumcised), but in reality, the majority of men around the world haven’t been snipped or clipped.

9 Ways Sex Can Make You Healthier

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Sex feels good, there’s no doubt about that. But most people think that it is purely a recreational activity. However, studies show that it can actually improve your health! Couples who have great sex often lead healthier lives than those who don’t do it as often, don’t have a close, satisfying sexual relationship with their partners or single men and women who don’t have sex at all. Even masturbation can help make you healthier! Here’s how sex can give your wellness a boost.

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Give Your Immune System A Boost

Believe it or not, sex can actually improve the quality of your immune system! Studies show that regular, satisfying nookie can actually increase the effectiveness of your natural immune system by increasing the amount of immunoglobulin-A in the body. Immunogloblulin-A is the first antibody to react when the body has been invaded by a cold or flu virus, so more of this in the body is a good thing, especially during cold and flu season! What a great excuse to stay home in bed on a cold winter day, cuddling and making love with your partner!

Lower The Risk Of Death

Sure, sex is great and all, but did you know it can actually lower a man’s risk for death? The same goes for masturbation, because studies show that men between the ages of 45 and 59 who had an orgasm twice or more in a week’s time actually lowered their risk for death by as much as fifty percent!

Decrease The Risk Of Prostate Cancer

If you’re a man between the ages of twenty and fifty and ejaculate frequently, you’re actually decrease your risk of developing prostate cancer in the future! In this case, the more you ejaculate, the more you’re lowering your risk! Do you need a better excuse to ask your partner for more sex? The studies showed that men decreased their risk of developing prostate cancer by as much as 33%!

Make Your Period More Regular – And Stop Aging In Its Tracks

Women who are more sexually active – getting busy approximately a few times a week – tend to have menstrual cycles that are more regular than women who don’t have sex as often. This same study also produced findings that women who got it on at least weekly – without ever missing a week – aged more slowly than women who didn’t do it as much.

Ease Post Menopausal Symptoms

After menopause, the vagina can become dry and uncomfortable, and women can experience hot flashes as well as other symptoms when their bodies stop producing estrogen and other hormones necessary for reproduction. If a woman who has reached menopause has sex frequently – and at this age, “frequent” is considered about three or more times per month – her vagina tended to dry out less and produce more lubrication. She is also less likely to experience hot flashes. This is because sex increases the amount of estrogen in a woman’s body, which is the very thing women start to lack when they go through menopause.

Increase Your Threshold For Pain

Believe it or not, stimulation of a woman’s g-spot will actually help increase her threshold for pain. This is because pleasurable stimulation (with or without an orgasm) produces endorphins in the body – which are as effective as morphine at blocking pain. A woman can nearly double her pain threshold with regular sex!

Burn Calories And Boost Your Mood

Of course, it can help burn calories and boost your mood, for two reasons. First, your body burns calories during sexual activity because you’re working your body and sweating, but the activity will also boost your metabolism throughout the day (especially if you have morning sex), allowing your body to burn more calories during the day than it would have if you hadn’t had sex. A great orgasm will also boost your mood, as will the sheer act of being physical and feeling intimate with your partner.

Prevent Build Up Of Toxic Substances In The Body

If you’re a man who smokes cigarettes, drinks alcohol excessively or participates in illicit drug use, you might be surprised to find that certain substances – including cancer causing carcinogens – can build up in the ejaculatory fluid. Without regular sex or masturbation to expel the ejaculate, the body can simply harbor these chemicals and they will continue to build up until there finally is a release. Keep carcinogens and other unwanted chemicals from building up in your ejaculatory fluid by getting busy with your lover or masturbating until you reach climax regularly.

Decrease Headaches And Arthritic Pain

Studies also show that great sex reduces the intensity and frequency of headaches in both males and females, as well as the frequency and intensity of arthritic pain. This can be contributed to the release of endorphins through the body during sexual pleasure, especially during orgasm. If you have headaches often, or experience body aches and pains caused by arthritis, try increasing the amount you have sex with your partner or the amount you masturbate alone.