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Q&A: Condoms – Should You Flush Them?

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Disposing of a condom can be tricky. You want to be discreet about it, so putting it in the trash might make leave it visible to whoever uses the bathroom after you. Flushing it seems like a great idea, but can flushing a condom ruin the toilet or cause an overflow? Here’s why you shouldn’t flush a condom and how you can dispose of your condom properly.

Question: Can you flush condoms down the toilet???

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Flushing Condoms Is Tempting

Of course flushing a condom down the toilet is tempting. It’s quick, easy and leaves absolutely no evidence behind! Instead of messing with a used condom after you’re done having sex, you simply slip it off, toss it in the toilet water and away it goes without a second thought. Flushing a condom down the toilet makes cleaning up after sex a breeze, right? Wrong! Flushing a condom down the toilet can cause a lot more problems than you originally bargained for.

Why You Shouldn’t Flush Condoms Down The Toilet!

Best case scenario, your condom goes down the toilet no problem and you never see it again. Of course, this doesn’t always happen. In fact, it actually rarely happens. A condom may not flush down the toilet the first time, and you may get stuck flushing over and over again only to watch the condom spin around the bowl in happy little circles. Of course, an even bigger problem is if the condom actually does go down the toilet and then comes back up…with everything else that is in the depths of the toilet. If you’re in your own house and aren’t trying to be discreet about having sex, this can be a definite inconvenience. However, if you’re trying to hide your condom and it comes bubbling up with the rest of the toilet contents, your cover is absolutely blown! And whoever you’re trying to hide your condom (and your safe sex) from is going to be even more mad that you caused the toilet to back up, on top of finding out that it was a condom that did it. Your condom may flush the first time and even the second time, but the more you flush your used condoms, the greater chance something not so great will happen afterwards. Not to mention that most condoms aren’t biodegradable and may end up choking some poor animal that thought it was lunch.

How To Properly – And Discreetly – Dispose Of A Condom

You may think that throwing condoms the trash isn’t discreet at all, but it can be if you do it right. It’s actually very simple. Wrap your condom in a wad of toilet paper or tissue and then throw it away. Usually, this looks like you’ve simply blown your nose in a wad of tissue and threw it away! Girls have been doing it for years and years with used female hygiene products such as sanitary napkins or tampons. If you really want to make sure no one will find your used condom, wedge your wad of toilet paper into the middle or bottom of the trash. Someone would really have to dig to find it and it’s extremely unlikely that whoever throws the trash out is going to want to get into that mess.

Q&A: Shaving – Should Men Trim Or Shave Completely?

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Genital hygiene is a big issue for both men and women. Of course you want to be clean and fresh for your partner before sex, but what about pubic hair? Is it better to let it all grow wild or shave your genitals off bald? Or is it even better to do the in-between and use a trimmer for a close but still fuzzy trim? Here’s the downlow on pubic hair and whether to shave or not to shave.

Question: Should men trim or shave completely?

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What Is Your Personal Preference?

Whether you shave your pubic hair, trim it with a trimmer or leave it completely hairy is completely a matter of personal taste and preferences. Of course, you want to think about your partner and their tastes and preferences too! If your partner doesn’t like giving a blowjob to a very hairy guy, consider giving yourself a trim or a shave. If your partner really digs your bush, let it grow. Also, do what is most comfortable for you. If your pubic hair is constantly getting caught in your zipper but your partner really likes a lot of pubic hair, consider a medium trim to still please your partner but also keep yourself from getting hurt!

The Benefits Of A Trim Or Shave

Even if you and your partner like it hairy, there are some definite benefits to trimming your pubic hair or shaving it off completely.  Hair easily traps sweat and bacteria, which can cause a strong odor. You can wash regularly, but the odor often tends to hang out if you’ve got a lot of hair. Men who trim their pubic hair short or shave it will notice that they have less of an odor down there, and almost none if they wash up often. Of course, the other benefits include not finding long, curly hairs everywhere when you’re peforming oral sex on your partner or when you’re cleaning up after sex.

Things To Think About

If you are hairy all over, with lots of chest hair and leg hair, it’s going to look a little strange if you have a completely shaved groin area. Men who are very hairy all over may find that a pubic hair trim looks a little more natural than a complete shave! Alternatively, if you are a very hairless man, shaving completely may look and feel better to you. Also think about how much time you are willing to spend on pubic hair maintenance. Do you have a lot of time to devote each week or even every few days to shave your genitals completely? If not, consider trimming because a quick trim can only take a few minutes each time and doesn’t have to be done as often as shaving.

If you’re really stuck deciding whether to shave, trim or be hairy, try them all and see which you like best! Ask your partner which she likes best when she’s giving you oral sex. You can always grow your pubic hair back after you shave it off, and you can always trim it down once it gets really hairy. Nothing is permanent when it comes to your pubic hair (even if you get it waxed off) and you can change your mind later if you decide you want a different look and feel down there.

Q&A: How Do I Stop Day Dreaming During Sex?

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Going from a busy, stressful day to sex without some time to wind down may leave you thinking about everything during sex but sex! If you find this happening to you, you’re not alone. Here’s how you can stop thinking about your to-do list, chores, television and bills and start thinking about having great, satisfying sex!

Question: When my bf and I have intercourse, I always find myself thinking about things non related to sex. How do I focus more about what’s going on rather than something like a tv show?

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Sex On The To-Do List

Many women have a difficult time turning their brains off when it comes time to get in the mood for sex. A woman’s brain, emotions and physical sensations are all interlinked and if her brain is going haywire, her body and emotions aren’t going to sync up either. Many women feel as though sex is actually a chore on their to-do list instead of something they find relaxing and enjoyable. So if you find your mind wandering when you’re trying to have sex and reach climax, you are most certainly not alone. Some women think they can’t do anything about it, but the truth is, you can!

How To Relax

Make a conscious decision to stop what you’re doing, put away everything from the day, and focus on getting ready for sex. Get yourself to relax by listening to whatever music gets you in the mood, reading a book (erotic novels are a great way to get your mind and body ready for sex) or taking a hot bath with a glass of your favorite wine. Putting your thoughts about the day behind you and the day ahead of you isn’t going to be easy, but it is most certainly not impossible. It will require effort though, and determination on your part to make sex a priority in your life. Turn off the television or computer, and do what gets you turned on the most. Give yourself time to warm up though, because getting in the mood for sex may not happen right away.

Is He Pleasuring You?

A lot of women don’t reach orgasm through sex and the culprit could be one of two things. A woman who can’t relax enough to let sex take over her body and mind will have a difficult time reaching orgasm no matter how hard her partner tries. On the other hand, a completely relaxed woman won’t orgasm if her partner simply rushes to reach his own climax. Encourage your partner to do some research on female orgasms and how he can help pleasure you better. Everyone has something to learn about sex, even if they feel like they’re a seasoned pro. During sex, don’t be afraid to let your partner know if you like something or if something feels good. If you give him lots of vocal reassurance about what he’s doing right, he’s going to want to keep doing that! With you relaxed and ready for sex after you’ve put the day’s activities behind you and your partner taking the initiative to pleasure you, you’ll find that you think about sex and how much fun you’re having way more than you’re thinking about television or bills!

Q&A: How To Make Sex Better For Her

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Making first time sex special is a concern for many couples who ready for sex but haven’t taken that big plunge yet. Many guys are worried that their girlfriend won’t find the first time pleasurable, and they’re afraid of sex being uncomfortable for her. Here’s how you can make the first time – or any time – better for her.

Hey, my question is – this will be mine and my girlfriends first time, and I would like to know how to make this very special for her. I’m a little worried it will be too short and I would like to know the best way to keep it going to satisfy her.

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Make Sex About Her

If you want to ensure your partner enjoys sex, make the sex all about her. Focus on her pleasure instead of your own. This is where foreplay can really become handy, because instead of rushing into penetration (which likely will be uncomfortable at the very least if it’s her first time) you can focus on getting her aroused through foreplay.  Start out by helping her to relax with an erotic massage, and make sure you take your time. Don’t rush into anything, even if you are tempted to hurry up and get your own pleasure. Taking the time to pleasure your partner is well worth it, because in the end sex will be more pleasurable for the both of you.

Give Her Oral Sex

Women love oral sex. That’s a fact! Most women, actually, can’t climax through vaginal stimulation alone and require some degree of clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. Helping your partner reach orgasm through oral sex before the actual act of penetration will help get her aroused and more physically receptive to your penis. This is especially helpful if your partner is having sex for the first time, as it will be more comfortable and pleasurable for her if she’s naturally lubed up. Another benefit of oral sex is that your women actually find it emotionally fulfilling as well. She’s going to love the fact that in that moment, even if it is just for a few minutes, she is the complete and total focus of your efforts. She gets to lie back, relax and enjoy receiving your efforts to please her!

How To Make It Last Longer

Many guys who haven’t had sex before or who haven’t had sex in a long time are worried about reaching climax too quickly once they start having sex with their partners. This is definitely a common concern, because many guys report they reach the brink of orgasm more quickly than they would like. To make sure you don’t climax too soon the first time, try masturbating often before the big event. Masturbation will help relieve pent up sexual tension, so you don’t feel the need to climax right away. This will give you more time to spend with her focusing on her pleasure and ensure that first time sex doesn’t go too quickly. These are actually all great tips that you can use beyond the first time as well, to make each and every time as amazing for her as it is for you.

Q&A: Is Sex Good For The Body?

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Sex feels great, so it’s natural to wonder if sex does any more than just feel good. The good news is that it does! Sex can help just about every aspect of your life including physically, mentally and in your relationship. Here’s how great sex can be great for your body and why you need to start having more of it!

Question: Is having sex regularly good for the body?

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How Sex Benefits The Body

Sex actually does lots of great things for your body! Not only does it feel good, but it will help make you healthier all the way around. Sex boosts the immune system and helps more oxygen travel to the brain when your heart starts pumping and your breathing gets faster and faster. By boosting the immune system, sex can help you fight off diseases like the common cold or the flu. Couples that have sex often are generally healthier and have to visit the doctor less. Very vigorous sex will burn lots of calories and work your thigh, leg and abdominal muscles even better than weightlifting reps at the gym! Many women have used regular, vigorous sex as a way to exercise and lose weight. Sex sends endorphins throughout the body that help relieve pain, including headaches. Forget using a headache as an excuse to getting out of having sex on a particular night! Sex can actually be a great cure for headaches. And of course, everyone knows that sex will help you sleep like a baby! Many men and women use sex instead of sleep aids to help them fall asleep faster and sleep deeper, so they feel refreshed and ready to go in the morning.

How Sex Benefits Your Relationship

Having sex often with your partner helps build an intimate sexual bond that carries throughout your relationship. You’ll feel closer to your partner even when you’re just hanging out. With regular sex, your attitudes will be better towards each other and you’ll fight less! Sex will also help improve your self esteem and help you to feel loved and emotionally close to your partner. Sex also relieves stress, so if you’re having a tough day at work, it’s a great way to “cool off” and relax. If you don’t feel like you have enough sex in your relationship, try as best you can to have sex more often. Sex will snowball and if you have more, you’ll start to want more. Having more sex increases your libido so you can have more sex!

How Sex Benefits You

So sex can boost your immune system and help you fight diseases, help you feel better about yourself and your relationship, and help make you healthier! Different sex positions can also help you lose weight! On top of all this, sex feels great and satisfies one of our basic desires as human beings. After all, humans are indeed sexual, no matter how society tries to suggest that we ought to hide it or pretend that we don’t want it or like it. So enjoy sex and have lots of it, because it will definitely improve your life in many more ways than you thought!