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Q&A: Does A Woman’s Vagina Get Looser After Having Babies?

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A woman’s body goes through several monumental changes when she becomes pregnant and has a baby. Not only does she have mood swings and weird food cravings, she’s also going to have larger breasts and – eek! – a looser vagina if she gives birth naturally. Is this something that is permanent or is everything going to go back to normal?

Question: Is it true that the more babies a woman has had the less pleasure she feels from sex, because she is ‘loose’?

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Does Everything Go Back To Normal?

While some women take longer to “bounce back” after having a baby than others, almost every woman’s body returns back to normal after having a child. The breast size will reduce after she stops breastfeeding, and the vagina will firm back up in the months after she’s given birth. A vagina does stretch a great deal when accomodating a the size of a baby, but the skin and tissue down there is very elastic and most of the time will return to it’s normal size and shape after everything is said and done. This certainly doesn’t happen right away, however, and it may even take several months to a year before her body is fully back to normal.

How She Can Take Care Of Herself

Exercising and eating a healthy diet is one of the best things she can do to help her own body return to normal as quickly as possible. To help her vagina return to normal after birth, she can regularly do kegel exercises. Kegels involve squeezing the PC muscles (the same ones used to stop the flow of urine) and holding them several times in a row. The PC and pelvic floor muscles are what are weakened during pregnancy and the birthing process, so exercising them regularly will help them firm up. Remember to follow all doctor’s orders for exercise, diet and sex after pregnancy. Most doctors recommend waiting at least six weeks after a natural, uncomplicated birth to release a woman for exercise and sex. This time frame may be longer if the birth was complicated or a c-section was performed.

Will Some Changes Be Permanent?

Typically, no. A woman’s body is designed to be with child and to give birth – it’s a completely natural process. The biggest changes you may notice after a woman gives birth are that she carries weight in different places than she did before or is heavier now, but of course, exercise and a healthy diet will help some with that. Her breasts may be a little saggier, but then again, gravity affects most women at some point in their lives! A woman’s vagina may be very different after giving birth if she had an episiotomy or tore during the birthing process. An episiotomy is where the skin between the vagina and anus is cut to make more room for the baby, and the incision is stitched up afterwards. Some doctors will repair vaginal tears and some won’t, depending on the doctor’s preference and the severity of the tear. This may change the way her vagina looks and feels, but it won’t stop her or you from receiving sexual pleasure and more often than not the changes are small and easy to overlook.

Q&A: Condoms – Magnum, Magnum XL, or XXL?

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Finding the right size condom for your penis can be difficult, especially if you’re a little larger than average in girth or length. There are a variety of larger condoms available, but some are better for wider penises and others are better for penises that are longer. Also, you want to make sure that the condom isn’t too loose and still fits well around the base of the penis. Here’s how to measure your penis and find the right condom for you.

Question: Hey I have a question, since you said on one of your videos Magnum is wider and XXL is longer, what about Magnum XL?
Is that REALLY REALLY wide or is it the longer version of Magnum?

–YouTube Viewer

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Magnum vs. Magnum XL vs. Durex XXL

How do you tell which condom is the biggest or which condom is the longest? It’s not written right on the box, but here’s what Trojan has to say about the size differences between condoms. A Magnum condom is 15% larger than a standard condom. The Magnum XL condom is 30% larger than standard condoms. The Durex XXL is longer than both standard condoms and all Magnum condoms, but not as wide as the Magnum XL.

Width vs. Length

Most of the time, men who have a large penis feel uncomfortable in standard condoms because they feel too tight. This is usually a girth issue rather than a length issue, however, it’s possible to be both too wide and too long for standard condoms. Comfort, however, is not the only issue here. A condom that is too large may feel comfortable, but it is much more likely to slip off during sex and fail at protecting you and your partner from pregnancy and STD’s. Measure your penis and if your girth is below 5.5 inches, use a standard condom. If your girth is between 5.5 to 6 inches, use a regular Magnum condom. If your girth is 6 inches or more, use a Magnum XL. If your penis is exceptionally long, use a Durex XXL. Remember that for condoms to be effective, they must fit snugly at the base of the penis and maintain the semen reservoir at the top.

How Do You Measure Your Penis?

To accurately measure your penis to determine the correct condom size, get your penis as big as you can. You can do this with your partner or without, but it can certainly be more fun with a partner! If you have a fabric ruler (you can get them at sewing stores or at most superstores in the sewing and crafts section) you can use it, or you can also simply use a piece of string that is several inches long with a standard ruler. A tape measure may work to measure the length of your penis, but you won’t be able to accurately measure your girth with a tape measure. Wrap the string around your penis at the very widest part and mark where the string meets itself. Lay next to the ruler to find out how many inches wide your penis is. The same can be done for length. Take one end of the string and put it at the very base of your penis up against your groin and stretch the other end to the very tip of your penis. Measuring both the length and girth of your penis will help you find the best fitting condom for your penis size. In addition to getting the correct size condom, you can also grab a few of each style of condom and try them out to find out which one feels the best!

How To Make Love To A Woman The Right Way

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Sex for men is a lot like revving up an engine and going full throttle until the finish line, but for women, it’s more like a leisurely ride by the coast, enjoying the scenery and stopping every once in a while for an ice cream or two. This difference in the way men and women perceive good sex leads to the disconnect that we (and women) often feel inside the bedroom.

Sexual chemistry is something you can brew, and continue to brew, as the night goes on. It involves increasing and decreasing anticipation in the girl, and making her look forward to more. If you’re wondering what all these mean, read on to find out how to make love to a woman the right way.

Step 1: Increase Sexual Tension

Sexual tension is always present when you are interacting with a girl you like. It can lead to sex, or to a romantic encounter at least. One result of sexual tension is excitation of the senses, which makes you more aware of how close she is to you and how nervous you’re feeling when you’re around her.

This sexual awareness can be increased to a feverish degree when you’re preparing for sex. By making her think “oh no, I’m getting excited,” you’re psychologically setting the stage for her first orgasm.

Step 2: Excite Her Senses

When she’s fully aware of the inevitable (that you’re going to do it with her and you’re going to give her a great time), her perspective narrows down to instant action and reaction. This means when you kiss her, her eyes move to your lips. When you touch her, she notices how coarse or smooth your hands are. In addition, when you lean over, she can smell the cologne you put on that morning.

This is the phase when she’s absolutely mesmerized with you, and her attention is 100% on you. When you reach this point, don’t hold back. Talk dirty to her if she’s into that, or continue making her extremely aware of your presence by moving closer (embracing, taking off her clothes, etc.).

Step 3. Invite Her To Participate In The Action

After you’ve done the first two steps, she’s bound to be in an orgasmic frenzy. It’s time to allow her to “act on her desires” by guiding her hand to where you want to be touched, and reacting accordingly.

Making a woman feel that she’s partly in control, and that she can make you lose control if she feels like it, makes sex all the more exciting for her. However, you have to do this without taking your hands off her so that she continues to be under your spell, even when she thinks you’re under hers.

Sex is both physically and mentally stimulating, and if you do it right, there’s no way the woman will say you’re a lousy lay. Do yourself a favor and just try these tips out the next time you’re with your girlfriend. You will be glad you did.

The Weighty Issues of A Relationship: When Your Partner Becomes Less Attractive To You

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While your partner’s appearance is likely not the top (or even tenth) reason you love him or her, it is still of some importance. Physical attraction can ensure your sex life stays exciting and it can keep you feeling appreciative of one another. In an ideal world, we would look as fresh-faced and fit as we did at the beginning of a relationship, regardless of the passing years. Yet as time goes by, weight will be gained, hair will be lost, wrinkles will appear, breasts will sag. (Especially with the possible introduction of those little gremlins we call children.) While you don’t consider yourself to be superficial, these things may still bother you.

What Can Be Reasonably Changed?

To be fair, are these changes in your partner something that can reasonably be fixed? If plastic surgery or expensive treatments are the only way to correct a problem, you are very likely being unreasonable. However, if the problem is that your partner’s weight has begun to rise drastically or she is actively doing something which affects her appearance (such as excessively tanning, not showering, or dressing differently), you might possibly have some sway in making a positive change. Simple suggestions like, “Remember how you used to wear your hair curly? I really liked that,” or “I think you would look just as good with pale skin as you do with orange, streaky skin” can be subtle, yet complimentary hints.

Weight issues can be trickier, especially with women. Many women will go from fine to hysterically and inconsolably crying at the mere suggestion of diet and exercise. Rather, take up hiking, bicycling or another physical hobby and ask if she would join you. Don’t pressure her, though, or she will see through your ploy. That being said, do not take up this hobby for the sole purpose of tricking her into slimming down. Do it for yourself, for your own health, and as a way to share something fun together.

How To Talk About It

As a last resort (and oh, how I emphasize that), gently point out that you have noticed a change in grooming or eating habits. Point out that you will love your partner no matter what, but you are starting to worry about what may be affecting these changes.

Nevertheless, the change that needs to take place may be your attitude. He may have decided that he wants to grow his hair long. She may feel the extra pounds accentuate her curves. People will change as they age. Love the person because of these changes, not in spite of them. Finally, cut your partner some slack; you are no Dorian Gray yourself.

Q&A: Having A Baby – Will Her Vagina And Breasts Be Bigger?

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Many changes happen to a woman’s body during pregnancy. It’s definitely an eye opening process for a woman, however, it can be downright scary for their partners. Many guys want to know what happens to his lady’s special parts when she gets pregnant and has a baby, and if the sex will feel different for him after it’s all said and done. Here’s the downlow on how a woman’s body might change during the next 9 months.

Question: I heard from a friend that if a girl has a baby that her vagina will be wider than before and her breasts will be bigger is this true?

–YouTube Viewer

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What Happens To Her Body During Pregnancy

A woman’s breasts usually do get bigger during pregnancy and especially after she has the baby. During pregnancy, a woman’s blood volume actually increases by up to 40%, and much of this blood is used to simply nourish the body’s growing reproductive organs. It also goes to the breasts and vagina and can make both look much bigger and even swollen. After the baby is born, her breasts will become even bigger as her milk comes in. They will stay large if she chooses to breastfeed, or they will reduce in size several days after discontinuing breastfeeding. If she decides to breastfeed, you will even notice that her breasts change sizes several times throughout the day as the milk comes in and the baby nurses. Your partner may also have hair and skin changes, where her hair becomes fuller and her skin becomes darker or blotchier. After the baby is born, her vagina may look and feel different. It may feel more loose or stretched out, or it may look larger and darker in color.

When Everything Goes Back To Normal

Usually, after a baby is born, a woman’s body goes back to it’s normal, pre-pregnancy state. After breastfeeding is stopped, the breasts should return to their original size. The body absorbs the extra fluid and blood that was created during pregnancy and skin discolorations generally start to subside a few days or weeks after the birth. The vagina is made to be elastic and resilient and even the vaginal canal and surrounding vulva will begin returning to normal at this point as well.

When Everything Doesn’t Go Back To Normal

While a woman’s body is designed to “bounce back” after pregnancy (even though this process can take some time), there are changes that take place that may be permanent. After breastfeeding, a woman may notice that her breasts are larger or smaller than they were before, and they may be droopier or less perky than they were before the pregnancy as well. She may lose the extra pounds she gained during pregnancy and return to her pre-pregnancy weight, however, the weight may be distributed in different places. She may now carry more weight on her hips and lower stomach, even if her “trouble spots” were always her thighs or buttocks before. The vagina may retain some of the changes that took place during pregnancy and birth, especially if her vagina tore at all and required stitches. Sometimes, doctors will perform a procedure called an episiotomy, where the skin is cut to make room for the baby and then stitched back up. This can make sex feel very different for both her and her partner.

Even though the body goes through monumental changes during pregnancy and birth, sex can still be very pleasurable – and sometimes even better than before!