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Dirty Talk Tips: What She Wants Review

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Dirty Talk Tips: What She Wants is a digital guide to talking nasty in the bedroom. A lot of guys think that girls don’t want to hear naughty things during sex, but they are dead wrong! Women LOVE dirty talk – they love to hear it and they love to say it. With this guide, you’ll learn how to sweet talk her or how to unleash her inner sex goddess by just using words!

The Good

This is a great beginner’s guide to talking dirty in the bedroom. Dirty Talk Tips: What She Wants covers everything from the basics of doing it, why women like it and how it can improve your sex life. It also gives several great examples of actual phrases you can use on your own, ranging from tame to scorching hot. This guide is written by a woman, so there’s no guessing about what women REALLY want to hear. The last chapter of the guide also includes different ways to use dirty talk, such as in emails, text messages, phone sex and webcamming so that you can take what you’ve learned to the next level.

The Bad

It takes awhile to get to the actual examples of dirty talk. The beginning of the book goes into the basics of talking dirty, such as what it is and why it’s effective. Men looking for advanced suggestions are going to want to skip ahead. There are just four pages of real examples, but there are different versions of each example that you can use depending on whether you want to be naughty or nice.

The Bottom Line

All in all, Dirty Talk Tips: What She Wants is an excellent guide for men who have little to no experience with talking dirty to a woman as part of foreplay or during sex. Newbies will appreciate the in-depth introduction to the concept of dirty talk, while guys who are experienced in this area might get bored. The actual examples are top notch though – not the kind you’d feel corny saying out loud to your partner. No, “Stuff your man sausage in my love hole” here.

The Full Dirty Talk Tips: What She Wants Review

Dirty Talk Tips: What She Wants is an actual guide to dirty talk that was written by a woman for men. It’s intended to teach men how to say the right things to a woman during sex to get her begging for more. Guys don’t have to guess anymore about what a woman likes to hear in the bedroom, because this book lays it all out there for them in plain view. Well written and easy to understand, guys will appreciate that this guide doesn’t miss a thing.

Beginners and men who are new to this area of sex will enjoy the book’s lengthy introduction to the concept of talking dirty, while others are going to be tempted to skip right over the “basics” section. Some things you might find helpful if you’re new to talking sexy are:

  • Why you should even bother with dirty talk
  • What dirty talk really is
  • When you can – and should – use it
  • How to be comfortable when doing it

The next chapter in this guide continues on the path of starting things off slowly and teaches men how to get a woman primed for dirty talk even before they open their mouths. Women aren’t going to respond well if a guy just blurts something “sexy” out without setting the right mood first.

Probably the biggest reason men fail at talking dirty to their lovers is they fail to read their partner first to tell how they want to be spoken to. For example, not every girl is going to like XXX-rated talk. Some like it a little sweeter – and many men make the mistake of saying the wrong thing to the wrong kind of girl. Fortunately, this guide goes into detail about how to tell the difference between a woman who likes to hear sweet nothings and a woman who likes to hear all kinds of nasty things.

The best part of the book – four pages of nothing but actual dirty talk examples – illustrates the difference between sweet things and not-so-nice (but totally hot!) things you can say in the bedroom. Each example has three different “takes” on the same phrase – something that might be safe to say to any kind of woman, along with a sweeter version and a version that is a little more intense. So few guides out there give examples, and even fewer give you the different kinds of examples that this guide does. The actual examples are probably the best take -away here.

A short section on names to call your girl in the bedroom leaves a lot to be desired (some are cute, others are just plain offensive), so you may want to either come up with your own name to call her or forgo calling her anything at all. However, the guide does differentiate between talk that is nasty in a good way and what is considered downright rude or upsetting. This distinction is going to come in handy for a lot of guys who just aren’t sure where that line needs to be drawn.

No dirty talk guide is complete without something to let you know that you’re actually doing it right, and this one doesn’t disappoint. You’ll learn how to interpret her verbal and non-verbal cues to determine whether you’re hitting the jackpot or not.

You’ll also learn how to turn compliments into dirty talk – because what girl doesn’t love to hear a sexy compliment about herself – and you’ll learn how to use your new sex skills in other ways, including emails, text messages, phone sex and more. And like any valuable e-book, you get lots of bonus materials with the download of this guide, including:

  • How To Have Sizzling Phone Sex
  • The Fine Art Of Seduction
  • How To Make Any Woman Orgasm
  • Top 100 Sex Secrets
  • Pillow Talk 101
  • 101 Romantic Ideas
  • Classic Kama Sutra
  • 7 Simple Ways To Get Your Ex Back

With Dirty Talk Tips: What She Wants, you’re definitely getting your money’s worth – in fact, you’re getting a lot more. Beginners will benefit the most from this guide, however, there are still lots of things that advanced dirty talkers can use as well. Between this complete dirty talk guide and all the extras that are included in the package, any guy will be able to turn a woman on with just a few simple words!

Sexting: Secret Conversation While In The Same Room

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Sexting is a super hot way to stay in touch with your girl when you’re not together, but can you use it to entice your lover while you’re in the very same place together? You bet! Having a private talk with your partner when you’re just a few feet away from them (especially if you’re doing something else entirely) is incredibly hot and will have your girl melting in minutes. Here’s how to do it:

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Sexting – A Secret Conversation Between You And Your Lover

Having a special talk between you and your partner that no one else knows about is an incredible way to turn your partner on. If you’ve used sexting before to get her hot and had success with it, it will make this technique even better. She’ll be least expecting a naughty message from you describing how you would give her oral sex (in detail) while she’s sitting across from you. This is an excellent way to make a boring meeting suddenly hot and steamy.

Sexting In Inappropriate Places

The best way to use this technique is to do it while you and your partner are together in a place where PDA or public sex would be completely and utterly inappropriate. If you’re sitting across from each other in an area where nobody else is around, you’re not going to be able to have very much fun with it. But if you’re somewhere that being a little risqué would be considered taboo, the heat is on. For example, if you are together at a meeting, at a party or during dinner with friends. You can make this technique even steamier by doing it while you and your partner are engaged in a conversation with other people.

Why This Is So Hot

The fact that you’re near her while having this secret chat but can’t act on what you’re saying or how you feel is what is so powerful about sexting while you’re in the same vicinity together. There are lots of different things you can say to your lover to create an amazing level of heat between the two of you, and the right texts will get her imagination going and keep it going all day – or at least until she can get her hands on you and start ripping your clothes off!

What To Say

The use of sensual language while you’re sexting your partner is probably the most important aspect of this technique (and any sexting technique, really). Sensual language is what is going to unlock her sexual desire and get her imagining doing very, very naughty things with you. For example, if you simply say “I want to do you,” you’re not going to evoke a response from her in the least. However, if you change your language a little bit and say, “You look so incredibly sexy over there, my erection is straining against my jeans just looking at you. I can’t wait to get home and do you,” you’re going to get her turned on pretty much instantly. A secret sexting chat in the same vicinity might go something like this:

Example 1:

You say: “Stop it….” or “Stop it ;)”

She says: “Stop what? ”

You say: “Stop distracting me…I keep getting fixated on the curve of your neck and the way your ass looks in that dress.”

She responds: “Really?”

You say: “If I could right now, I would…”

She says: “Would what?”

You say: “Push you down on that table over there…kiss my way down your back…drag your panties down your legs and take you right here in front of everyone.”

She says: “Hmmm…would you really?”

You respond: “Do you have any idea how sexy you are?”

She says: “I’m starting to….”

You can really build on this and change it up to suit where you are with your lover or what you’re doing at that point in time. Having a chat like this with your lover is almost like a personalized, live and interactive erotic novel or a porn that your partner can participate in and that is completely private and just between the two of you!

Dirty Talk

Dirty talk can be incorporated into sexting very easily and is part of using exciting, sexual language to evoke your lover’s emotions. Use words like, “hot, wet, clitoris, need, desire, sexy, lick, touch, etc.” The right kind of language will have your lover melting before you can even get her home and take her clothes off!

Sexting: Keeping It Hot While You’re Away On Business

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Sexting is such an incredible way to keep your partner turned on and thinking about you (and what she wants to do to you or what she wants you to do to her) while you’re away on the job. It’s easy for two partners to grow apart a little sexually when they’re not near each other physically, but that doesn’t have to happen to you when you use your cell phones (and even your email) to your advantage. Here’s how to use sexting to keep things on fire while you’re out on the job.

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Sexting Is The Best Way To Keep Your Partner Interested While You’re Away On Business

Remember that old saying, “out of sight, out of mind?” It applies here too. If you’re out on the job and haven’t been home for a few days or weeks, it’s not unlikely that your partner isn’t going to be thinking about you as much sexually. In fact, she may be replacing you in her sexual fantasies with other guys (even if she’s not cheating) or porn or erotic novels.

You want to be the only one she’s thinking about sexually while you’re gone, don’t you? Instead of her thinking about other guys during your extended leave, you want her thinking only about you and fantasizing about what you and her like to do together behind closed doors. This isn’t as difficult to achieve as you may think. In fact, sexting alone will keep her turned on while you’re away and even create amazing reunion sex when you get back.

Sexting is so effective at keeping your lover’s thoughts on you while you’re gone that she may want you to go away for your job more often! When you’re sexting, you’re building your lover’s excitement by really working with her imagination and emotions. This is way better than an erotic novel or porn, because it’s tailored specifically to her sexual interests and allows her to get involved too.

2 Kinds Of Texts To Send While You’re Out

While sexting of any kind is sure to get her blood boiling while you’re out, there are actually two specific kinds of texts that you can use to really ramp up her sexual excitement.

The “If You Were Here” Fantasy

This is a great sex fantasy to use if you’re stuck somewhere (like an airport or a hotel) and have time to kill. If you’re thinking about her while you’re waiting for your flight, why not send her a text and let her know what’s going through your mind? Remember that this is simply a fantasy about what you would do if your partner were actually there with you, and it doesn’t have to be realistic at all. Say something like:

“I’m imagining what I would do if you were here right now, wearing that little black dress of yours, smiling at me with those beautiful eyes, drawing the attention of all the guys in the bar, swishing your hips as you walk back to my hotel room with me so we can….”

The “….” is very important here, because this is where her imagination is going to fill in the gritty details about what you would actually do in the hotel room. She’s certainly not going to be imagining sitting in the foyer of the hotel drinking coffee with you. She’s going to be imagining giving you a sloppy wet blowjob as you slide her dress up her soft, milky thighs….you get the picture.

The “When I Get Home” Fantasy

This is a great text to use when you’re near the end of your trip and you’re getting ready to come home. Think about this as foreplay – it builds incredible anticipation and excitement for the moment of reunion and getting back together. This technique works even better if you give her specific instructions for when you get home – for example, what you want her to be wearing when you come home or what you want her to do as soon as you walk in the door. Say something like:

“I’m counting down the hours….”

“You can’t imagine how it’s going to feel when I finally touch you again….”

“Don’t wear panties when you pick me up….”

Anything that you can say to let her know that it’s going to be really hot and steamy when you get home is going to get her imagination working and start things moving in the right direction for an incredibly sexy and wild reunion.

Sexting: “Power Words” – Turn Your Girl On At The Push Of Button

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Sexting is such a great way arouse a woman (without even touching her), but many guys fail to use the right language when sexting and it ends up not working at all. The most important part of sexting is to use the kind of language that instantly gets your partner thinking about sex – and gets your lover’s imagination working at the same time. Check out these phrases you can use while sexting to instantly get your sweetie’s mind in the gutter.

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Sexting Successfully Is All About Picking The Right Words

While you do get some points for making the effort to use your cell phone to communicate with your partner sexually, sexting is not going to work well (or at all) if you’re not picking the right words and using the right language. For example, lame (but somehow popular) phrases might sound something like:

  • “You are so sexy…”
  • “I like your tits…”
  • “You are hot…”

As you can see, this language is completely uninspired and thoroughly “blah.”  These phrases will do nothing to turn a woman on, simply because the words that are being used are doing nothing to spark your woman’s imagination and get the brain thinking about having sex.

This is where understanding the primary difference between they way men and women think about sex comes in. A man’s sex drive is often ignited by anything visual, such as porn, a naughty pic or even just a woman in a bikini. On the other hand, however, a woman’s sex drive is ignited by the exact opposite – a woman will get more turned on by reading or imagining something than just looking at it.

Instead of using lame phrases, strive to create sensual language when sexting your lover. Fore example, think of ways you can change an ordinary text into something incredible:

Instead of saying “I want to have sex with you tonight,” try saying “I’m going to make love to you tonight…make your whole body shudder…make you feel that warm, wonderful pleasure pulsing through your limbs, building and building until you explode in an orgasm.”

Using Primal, Sensual Language

A woman isn’t going to be turned on by hearing the words “tits,” or “sexy,” or “hot.” These just aren’t going to do it. The word “tits” does absolutely nothing to spark a woman’s imagination. On the other hand, however, using the word “thrust” is more likely to send your partner into a memory of the last time you two had particularly amazing sex – and she’s going to replay your thrusting in her mind over and over again – all because you used one simple word.

Another example of using primal language might be to use the word “lick” or “suck.” Instead of sexting your woman and saying “I want to go down on you,” you might want to say something like, “I can’t wait to get home and put my hot tongue on your clitoris. I’m going to lick you up and down until you squirt.” By using such sexy, descriptive language, you’re going to get your girl to immediately start imagining you performing oral sex.

Stimulate The “Sex” Area Of Your Lover’s Brain

So you know that using details and language that really play into the sexual part of a woman’s mind is the key to sexting. But what exactly are the phrases that when put into any text will instantly get your lover’s mind working? Next time you send your lover a racy text, try using some of these words when describing what you want to do – and what you want your woman to do to you.

  • Thrust
  • Scratch
  • Hips
  • Hair
  • Eyes
  • Throat
  • Nipple
  • Shudder
  • Shock
  • Force
  • Grab
  • Giggle
  • Slap
  • Spank

Other excellent words to use when sexting your partner are sexy verbs that are similar to those used in romance novels and erotic literature. For example, try using words like:

  • Lick
  • Suck
  • Tickle
  • Touch
  • Slide
  • Soft
  • Hot
  • Sweaty
  • Throbbing
  • Shaking
  • Wet
  • Dripping
  • Sticky
  • Taste
  • Feel
  • Hard

In addition to using the right words when sexting your lover, you also want to avoid using the wrong words. There are some words that even erotic novel authors use that aren’t going to arouse your woman – they’re going to make your lover laugh. Words that will make you sound ridiculous might be:

  • Manmeat
  • Man sausage
  • Love button
  • Sex hole
  • Globes
  • Love stick
  • Muffin

Remember that sexting should be fun and have a good time describing to your lover everything you want to do. She’ll imagine it all day long and when you actually get together, the fireworks will explode.

Sexting: Give Her Permission To Be Your Slut

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Sexting is a great way to get your female partner turned on, but even if she’s aroused, she still may have trouble letting go and letting her inner “naughty girl” out. The pressures that society puts on women to be prim, proper and professional are strong, and most women have trouble getting rid of the facade, even behind closed doors. Here’s how you can use sexting to give your girl permission to be your slut and get her to let go of her inhibitions and get down and dirty.

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Women Really Have Higher Sex Drives Than Men

It’s a common misconception that women have lower sex drives than men. This is usually because a woman doesn’t reach her true sexual potential until she reaches her mid to late thirties and early forties. By this time, she has learned to keep her sex drive very well hidden, mostly because being labeled a “slut” in a negative, derogatory way is something that no woman wants.

How A Woman’s Sex Drive Stays Hidden

A woman’s libido is like an oven – it takes a while for them to “preheat” and get warmed up, and after it’s hot and ready, it takes a significant amount of time to cool down. After the cool down period, it takes a while to get warmed back up again. Men, however, are different. Most men stay turned on pretty much all the time, without a long warm up or cool down period. Like a blowtorch, a man can be hot and ready almost instantly.

Since women will naturally go back to “zero” or square one when they’re not turned on, they learn to stay there. Even if they’re incredibly aroused and about to rip their clothes off, they learn to show nothing on the outside. That facade is what keeps them from being labeled a “slut” and allows them to function well in a society that looks down on women for being “slutty.”

Women Want To “Belong” To A Strong, Confident Man

Women are attracted to strong, confident men. It’s something in their genes that says, “He’s in control. He could take care of me. He would protect me.” Even the most independent women who can obviously take care of themselves will be attracted to men who are confident and in control.

Women also want to “belong” to a man, especially the strong, confident type. While many people have the misconception that “belonging” to another person (especially if it’s a woman “belonging” to a man) it’s always in a derogatory, “ownership” sort of way, that’s not what this means. Women want to “belong” to their man in a loving, safe and sexy way.

How To Get Her To Act On Her Impulses

  • Make her feel safe. A woman who doesn’t feel safe isn’t going to let any of her walls down, period. Make her feel safe in your relationship and safe being herself – the real her, not the person she shows everyone else.
  • Let her know she won’t be judged. It’s very important that you let your partner know that you’re not going to judge her, no matter what. Women get judged daily on how they look, how they act and who they are. Let her know that she can be herself around you and you’re not going to pass the least bit of judgement. Go one up on that and let her know that you are going to love her no matter what.
  • Let her act out her dirty side. When she gets a little frisky in the bedroom, make sure you offer her positive encouragement and let her know that what she did or what she’s doing really turns you on. If she goes a little outside her comfort zone and she doesn’t get positive feedback from you, she’s not going to go back out for awhile and not without a great deal of coaxing. If you let her know you really like it when she gets naughty, she’s going to want to do it more and more to please you.
  • Make her feel like she’s “giving in” to those desires. If you do this the right way, you’ll make her feel as though she “couldn’t help herself” and that she’s not responsible for her actions. This is absolutely key to getting a reserved woman to really let go and be naughty. This is also part of why a woman is much more attracted to men that seem as though they’re in control. If you’re in control of the situation, it gives her an excuse to get out of control!

How To Use Sexting To Unlock Her Inner Slut

So how does all of this apply to sexting? How can you use sexting to unlock her inner “slut” and become “your slut?” Sexting allows you to have a secret, private conversation with her, without her having to let her guard down visibly in front of others or in public. She can be as dirty and naughty as she wants to in a text, and no one will know about it but you. This is a very powerful concept for a woman and one of the reasons that sexting works so well. She doesn’t have to let go of her facade to let go of her inhibitions.

Using Sensual Language In A Story

When it comes to sexting and making it effective at getting your lover aroused, it’s very important to use sensual language to describe describe what you want to do, what you want her to do and what you’re looking forward to when you get home. Take that up a notch by using sensual language to describe a story where she’s being particularly slutty, in private with you.

Describe her giving you a sloppy wet blowjob (in detail) and tell her how much you love it. Or, describe bending her over and taking her without warning and tell her how much you love it when she gives herself up to you and lets herself be your slut.