The female orgasm is easy for a woman to fake, but it’s also simple for a man to tell when she’s not being honest about an orgasm. Here’s how!
Unless your girl is a professional porn star, it’s really not that difficult to tell whether her orgasm is faked or the real deal. Even if she is a professional (lucky you, eh?) there are still some telltale physical signs that will give her away. Here’s how to tell if she’s actually experiencing the big O or if she’s just a big liar.
1. She Sounds Fake
Listen to her. Is she moaning and groaning like she’s putting on the performance for best actress? Then she probably is. Is she perfectly capable of forming complete sentences? Then she’s probably not in the throes of a real orgasm. A woman who is truly headed over the brink of climax isn’t going to sound fake – she may even be silent as her eyes roll back into her head and her body is wracked with spasms of pleasure.
If she’s “telling the truth,” she’s not going to be able to really form words or sentences – she will likely say nothing at all or only be able to say a few things like your name or “Oh God!”
2. Her Vagina Doesn’t Contract
When a woman orgasms, her vagina contracts in such a way that really cannot be faked. It’s so fast and erratic that a woman can’t mimic it on her own – it only happens that way when she’s climaxing. Unfortunately, you can only tell if you’ve either got your penis or your finger inside of her as she’s coming.
So if you want to tell whether she’s faking or not using this method, either make sure she’s having an orgasm during intercourse or you’ve got a finger or two massaging her g-spot while you’re going down on her or fingering her. Feel for those “butterfly” spasms – if there aren’t any, she’s likely putting on a show.
3. She’s Not Breathing Heavy Or Isn’t Flushed
If she doesn’t look like she’s ran a 5k, then she probably didn’t have a real orgasm. A real orgasm will increase a woman’s heart rate, make her sweat, increase her breathing and cause the skin in her face, neck and chest to become red and flushed. If she’s just hanging out looking as chill as can be, you can bet her O was fake.
4. No Involuntary Movements (i.e. No Orgasm Face)
Women tend to lose control when they have an orgasm, much like you do when you have one. If this climax is the real thing, she’ll probably be making some involuntary movements when she’s in the throes of pleasure – such as twitching her arms or legs and making the orgasm face.
Don’t call her out on her O-face – the fact that she can’t control herself and might look like she’s about to sneeze as she’s coming will likely embarrass her. But pay attention to it in secret – if her eyes are closed but her face isn’t contorted even a little bit, she’s probably not being honest about her orgasm.
5. She’s Not Dazed And Confused Afterwards
Most of the time – although not every single time – a woman will be slightly dazed and confused after a real orgasm. She’ll have to hang out for a minute or two while she regains her breath and her composure. If it was really good, she may take a little longer, or have trouble standing up afterwards. These are all good signs! However, if she rolls off of you immediately, gets up and starts getting dressed to start her day, you can bet pleasure wasn’t on her mind at all – just her to-do list for the day or how great the new purse she got will look with her outfit.
6. Her Clitoris Isn’t Sensitive Afterwards
This is another telltale sign of a real orgasm, although if a woman is really skilled and good at faking, she’ll be sure to fake this too. Some women aren’t “in the know” about this aspect of their anatomy though, and you may be able to use this to your advantage when trying to determine whether she’s being honest with you or not about her climax. After an orgasm, a woman’s clitoris will be so sensitive it will likely hurt to touch it.
This only lasts a few seconds, so make sure to “test” her right after her orgasm. Touch her clitoris lightly after she’s climaxed and watch her reaction. If she’s totally cool with it, she faked. If she jerks back involuntarily and almost violently, her orgasm was real. If you were giving her oral sex, just keep licking for a few seconds longer than you need to and see what happens.
When trying to determine whether or not your girl was faking her orgasm, use your instinct and trust your gut. Your girl would have to be really, really good at faking it for you to not spot at least one of these signs, if not more. If you think she’s faking, just ask her. Don’t be critical of her and talk to her about it – but be prepared for the answer. Don’t con her into revealing that she faked by saying you won’t get mad, and then turn around and get mad about it.
If you want to talk to her about faking, make sure you’re doing so with an open mind and open heart. Talk to her about why she’s faking and be prepared to offer possible solutions. Be prepared to step up and make some changes if that’s what she needs. If you’re not ready to do this and are still just pissed at the possibility that she’s been lying to you about her orgasms, then you’re not at all ready to approach her about it. Getting mad about it isn’t going to get you anywhere except not getting laid at all.