A female orgasm is completely dependent on a solid understanding of your partner’s body, climactic response, and what makes her feel good both physically and emotionally. You feel confident about your knowledge and skills, what to look for when you’re in the heat of the moment, and can tell when your partner is aroused or not.
Even if you’ve ticked all the boxes, maybe making her come with your hands and your mouth just aren’t enough! When you both are eager to experience intercourse orgasms, it’s during these situations that you can try nudging your partner in the right direction using natural rhythms and biology. Now, not all of these options will work for everyone. Let your woman be the judge as to what works and what doesn’t, but here are a few suggestions to get you started.
Ask Your Partner To Tense Up
When your partner is already aroused, ask her to tense up different parts of her body. Things like pointing her toes, making a fist, or clenching her legs together creates tension in her body – something that is crucial for her to achieve orgasm. Try stroking different parts of her body while you are inside of her, suggesting she tighten those muscles as much as possible before moving onto the next erogenous zone. Spend extra time around her inner thighs and pelvis and feel them quiver under your gentle touch.
Ask Her To Use Kegel Exercises
Ask her to clench her vagina around your penis during intercourse. The squeezing and releasing in a rhythmic manner, called a Kegel exercise, often excites a woman and allows her to feel more of you inside of her, helping her to focus her attention and yours directly on her genitalia.
Choose Your Sex Positions Carefully
Choose positions that are more challenging than normal for your partner to hold, angled so that her head lies below her torso. These sex positions work great because extra blood flow to the head creates tension in the body and quickens breathing. For positions that aren’t already primed for this technique, scoot her to the side of the bed or couch and get her to lie her head back over the edge with her shoulders still flat and supported.
Make Sure That She Is Comfortable
Encourage your partner to really let go of her anxieties and inhibitions. If she’s comfortable, get her to use sexy language to encourage her own orgasm – for example, ask her to tell you how close she is to climax, how badly she wants to come with you inside of her. Why not try role-playing with her? Suggest she move her hips as if she were a belly dancer, stripper, or another sexual creature that she feels kinship with.
When she shows signs of arousal, move away from stimulating her directly and start teasing different parts of her body instead. Why? You’re building more tension in her body indirectly, allowing her climax to sneak up instead of focusing on it entirely.
Maybe she’d like to watch the two of you while having sex. Ask if it’s okay to grab a mirror, or have sex in the bathroom, so you can both get a better look at the incredibly hot positions you’re about to try. If she really likes the view, maybe she’ll let you hook up the video camera to the TV and get it on to your very own homemade porno!
Find Out Her Favorite Sexual Fantasy
Ask her what her favorite sexual fantasy is, and suggest you act it out. If she can’t think of anything, grab one of her favorite books of erotica and read through it together. When you find something that turns her on, try acting out whatever it is that appeals to her most.
Or if she’s still to shy to talk, try reading some erotica out loud to her during foreplay, then tell her to close her eyes and think about her fantasy while you’re having sex. Hearing you use words she might still be too nervous to say out loud might help encourage her to blurt something out in the heat of the moment!