The g-spot is often considered the holy grail of sex – if you can find her g-spot and get her to orgasm with it, you’re in for a wild ride! Here’s how.
Who Invented The G-Spot?
Nobody! It has always been there, silently awaiting discovery.
In the 1950’s, Dr. Grafenberg (hence the term “G”-spot) discovered the zone. Of course, he was ecstatic to write about it, but like most great finds, his work has to undergo the painful process of gathering dust in the bookshelves. For the next 30 years, nobody paid it much attention. Then came 1982. Dr.’s Whipple, Perry and Ladas did more extensive study on the area, and it was with the publishing of their work on the G-spot that consciousness really caught on.
Where Is It?
The G-spot is located between the back of the pubic bone and the cervix. That means you’re dealing here with the TOP WALL of her vagina.
Unlike the clitoris, the g-spot is stimulated INTERNALLY. Hunting for it is best done when a woman lies on her back, bringing her knees to her chest. Here’s what you do: Palms up, slowly and teasingly insert your middle and index fingers 2-3 inches into the vagina. Then point your fingers up, remember the area is behind the pubic bone. Now, imagine you’re beckoning somebody to come to you. Simulate that “Come Here” finger motion by curling your fingers back towards the wrist.
You’ll know you’ve hit the spot because the texture there is different from the adjacent areas. It feels rough and you may find a raised spot or ridge. On average, it’s the size of a pea. You’ll feel it become firm & engorged when the lady is aroused. She’ll know when you’re there because she’ll feel something different.
While performing all this hunting inside, position your other palm a few inches below her belly button. Gently but firmly press towards your fingers inside. This bearing down helps isolate the G zone and results in more intense sensations.
How To Find & Stimulate The G-Spot
Do not consider the it as merely a pea-sized locale – it’s better to think of it as a zone or region. Begin by fingering her and let your fingers play around and stimulate areas adjacent to the rough spot itself. This indirectly stimulates the g-spot and animates your partner as you go nearer and nearer the post.
You may utilize 1-3 fingers, but more than that, when it comes to curling, you could execute simultaneously or serially. Again, these will seem trivial to you, but these simple variations have profound effects on the woman whose core you’re invading. A woman notices the tiny details men couldn’t care less of.
Do vertical and horizontal firm sweeps of the area. Run circles around the spot. You may also execute a 2-finger squeeze using the forefinger and the middle finger.
But I Still Can’t Find It!
Let’s make this clear, the G-spot is not found inside the vagina, it is accessed through the vagina. And if you would have any chance of finding it, you need to apply FIRMER, DEEPER PRESSURE. Firmer than the ones you use for the clit – do not baby the G-spot.
Simply rubbing the area won’t work, as pressure is needed to get THROUGH the vaginal walls. No matter how many thousand curls you administer, doing it with insufficient pressure won’t result in any heavenly experience. Men who have been stirring the same zone without result suddenly struck gold just by making the wonderful mistake of increasing pressure. They were dead-on all this time, but the pressure just wasn’t enough.
You don’t want weak, tentative fingers curling back and forth. You want well-trained marines to get in and get the job done, troops that are confident and know exactly what they’re doing.
It’s not a cavity exam, but be firm with it.
Unfortunately, for women with very thick vaginal linings, access to the G-spot may not even be possible.
I Swear Man, My Girl Doesn’t Have One!
She has one, they all have one. You just expected her reaction to be “Oh Danny that feels so good. Don’t stop. Please don’t stop!”
All eyes may be for seeing, and ears for hearing, but stimulating the G-spot has DIFFERENT EFFECTS for DIFFERENT WOMEN. Some love it and orgasm only through it, some don’t. Some are very sensitive, others couldn’t care less.
When a guy plays with a woman’s G, she will typically feel the need to pee. Why? Because the area you’re dealing with runs alongside her bladder, that’s why. (Just to be sure, make her pee before proceedings begin). When you continue with the stimulation, that need to urinate will gradually turn into a feeling of pleasure. And that pleasure, nurtured will soon result into a raging, wet and possibly squirting orgasm.
OR, stimulation may get you nothing. A woman may simply feel NOTHING. That’s right, NOTHING. In that case, you stop and watch “Friends” reruns instead.
But that doesn’t mean you’ll go nowhere with her every time. Her sensitivity and your skill will improve as you clock in several sessions. For all you know, she may feel zilch that evening, but on a different night, it’ll be gold. She can have different reactions on different occasions, so don’t give up so easily.
OR, a woman will hate every irritating minute of it. That’s right, it can have a negative effect on her. In that case, stop stimulation, turn on the TV and watch “Seinfeld” reruns instead.
Women can have different G-Spot reactions. When people expect it to work in the same manner, for all women, every time, that’s when the debate on its existence and purpose really heats up.
People have been conditioned to think that G-Spot stimulation will always shoot her through the stratosphere. Truth is, sometimes it’ll work, sometimes it will work against you. Sometimes she’s crazy about it, sometimes not so much. There will even be times when you’ll think her spot has disappeared or will doubt if you’ve actually found the real deal when she’s not as responsive as before!
You may have to awaken and train her G-spot in the first place – over a period of several sessions. Such is the nature of the Grafenberg Spot. So when dealing with it, better check your ego at the counter.