The fear of being alone inflicts on anyone who harbors it feelings of insecurity, anxiety, low self esteem and self worth, the tendency to depend and rely too readily on others and their opinions, feelings of emptiness and a needy disposition that makes them unattractive to others.
In other words it perpetuates the very thing that the person fears — being alone.
Yet many who are afflicted by this have no idea what to do about it other than to try and wrestle it to the ground and pretend to themselves and others that they are not afraid of being alone. Does this feel like a tenable strategy to you? Hardly!
There is another solution and I present it here in a powerful way that I feel will shift you and your experience permanently if you wish to undertake this pioneering journey into yourself.
The Motivation of Fear
Let’s start with the simple question:
What does this fear actually motivate you to do?
Well, it supposedly motivates one to find friends so that they will no longer feel alone.
So if they are no longer feeling alone what are they supposedly feeling instead?
Well, they would be feeling secure, comfortable, like they fit in, attractive to others, loved, good about themselves, happy, at peace and so on.
What the Fear of Being Alone Does
So in summary one could then say that:
The fear of being alone causes one to not feel secure, comfortable, like they fit in, loved, good about themselves, happy, at peace and so on. (I call this the Summary Statement)
Now if we look at what the fear of being alone actually does to you you’ll notice as stated above that it leads to feelings of insecurity, anxiety, low self esteem and self worth, the tendency to depend and rely to readily on others and their opinions, feelings of emptiness and a needy disposition that makes them unattractive to others.
In other words it perpetuates the very thing that the person fears i.e. being alone.
The Toxicity of the Fear Of Being Alone
This fear is clearly TOXIC, is it not?
If you see this place one hand over your heart and as if you are speaking from there simply affirm this to yourself and then notice how you feel.
Now does what this fear does to you concur with the Summary Statement above?
Hardly, because they are exact opposites!
The Truth About the Fear Of Being Alone
So which is the truth about this fear?
Well, I think that you’ll recognize that the Summary Statement is false.
A Simple Affirmation
If you do, place one hand over your heart, and as if you are speaking from there simply affirm this to yourself and then notice how you feel.
So do you want this false statement to be living inside your mind or body? If not, as if you are speaking from your heart command that it be forever purged from your life.
Next, with your hand over your heart command the fear of being alone to be purged from your life.
Finally, in the present tense (i.e. I am feeling …etc.) describe how you would rather feel and be. Once you have your list then once again affirm this as if you are speaking this from you heart.
Notice how you feel now.
If you’ve followed this, you’ll find yourself in an entirely new place in your self and you life.
Congratulations! You have just experienced what I call the Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).