Sex is something men love. That’s hardly news. But what is the difference between getting it on and having the best intercourse ever? Use your brain. Yes, that is the answer. Your brain is the greatest powerful sex organ you have. Thinking about intercourse and understanding what you like is an important but commonly overlooked, step in being great at sex.
When Sex Is More Than Just Doin’ It
Men tend to react simply and physically to arousal: “I see a hot girl. I want to have sex with the hot girl.” Transforming that into mind blowing intercourse means getting to know yourself, and I don’t just mean manually. Understand who you are as a sexual being. These days, men are bombarded with sexual imagery. Porn is readily available. Half-naked girls are constantly bouncing across your TV screen and through the pages of magazines. As a result, men tend to take their sexual cues from outside sources. While new ideas are always welcome, it is important to explore the real reasons behind your arousals, and thrilling ways to satisfy them.
Expand Your Ideas About Sex
Let’s take the hot girl from before. You already know you want to get it on with her, but what is that going to look like? Ask yourself some questions:
- How do you want to touch her?
- How do you want her to touch you?
- What are you hoping to achieve during your encounter (besides orgasm)?
What Turns You On?
Understand what turns you on and why, and learn how to communicate it. Being great at sex works in both your favors. For example, if you love performing oral sex, your partner has the benefit of being in bed with someone who is completely engrossed in the task at hand. She may reach orgasm several times before you’re done. However, if that is something you’re not into, your partner will sense it, and that is uncomfortable for everyone involved.
Getting to know yourself sexually is valuable in understanding your own comfort zone. The kinkiest of kink may be intriguing on screen, but that doesn’t mean it translates well into real life. Understanding your sexual boundaries and how to communicate them to your partner will help you avoid unsatisfying encounters.
The brain is a powerful organ. Your body only reacts the way the brain instructs. When you understand the satisfaction of the intercourse you’re having in your mind, you can bring it to the bedroom. You will be a more self assured with sex, allowing you to satisfy both yourself and your partner better than ever.