So you want to heat things up a notch in the bedroom, but you find that your sexual stamina is just not holding up. Sexual endurance is one of those things that most men would love to have, but very few actually achieve it. In fact, shame, guilt and disappointment often accompany guys who fall short in the bedroom. Worst still, most of us are not comfortable talking about this shortcoming.
So what do you do if you want to last longer in bed? Well, these 3 deadly effective “P” techniques may just be what you need to give your stamina a lift!
Power Of Pleasing
The real purpose of sex should be in helping your partner enjoy the moment as much as you are (if not more!). One of the reasons why men are not lasting long enough is due to the fear or anxiety of not being able to sexually fulfill their partners. If this sounds like you, there is an easy way out. Instead of focusing on using your male anatomy to please her, why not engage the “whole-body” experience instead?
A woman does not need sexual intercourse to be erotically fulfilled, although that would be the icing on the cake. A woman needs emotional connection and above all, attention to her body on the whole – and not just her genitals.
So what does this mean for you? Simple! Tease her with words, and pay attention to the sensual areas and hot buttons all over her body. This will get her all warmed up before the actual deed, and more importantly, help extend your time in bed too.
Power Of Positioning
The next time you feel the uncontrollable urge to climax, think about what makes you feel good. This will help “debug” your quick orgasm reflexes. For many guys, the positioning of the hips plays a huge role in defining how long you can last. Thrusting with vigorous hip movements can push you to the verge of climax very easily, especially if you engage in the conventional missionary position.
Also pay attention to the positioning of your partner’s legs during penetration. If her legs are closed tightly, more pressure and stimulation will be applied to your penis glans and if you aren’t trained properly, you will likely last no more than a couple of quick minutes.
Try spreading her legs apart during intercourse, thrust more deeply and rub your pubic mound against her genitals. You will last longer and she will derive more pleasure at the same time!
Power Of Plateu-ing
There are four phases to a man’s sexual arousal. In the “excitement” phase, you are just getting erect and still very much in control of your arousal. At the “plateau” phase, you are fully erect, very aroused, but still in control. At “orgasm” phase, your arousal builds up intensely and the amount of stimulation tips over into ejaculation. The last phase is the “resolution” stage where your breathing returns to normal and your erection subsides.
The key to controlling your ejaculation is to extend the “plateau” stage. This means you need to maintain your levels of arousal without allowing yourself to boil over to a climax.
So how do you prolong the “plateau” phase?
First, maintain a steady tempo during penetration. Allow your thrusts to slowly gain momentum and when you sense you are fairly close to a climax, slow down, and if need be, withdraw entirely. Resume penetration when the arousal tapers off. Communicate with your partner why you are doing this. Her support with help you build greater confidence in your performance.
Second, try alternating between deep and shallow thrusting. Shallow penetration will stimulate the sensitive nerve endings within the first 2 inches of a woman’s vagina. Deep thrusting will present less friction and stimulation on your penis glans and help you rock on much longer!