Let’s face it. When it comes to sex, there is a whole myriad of issues and perhaps even insecurities that we as men would face in the bedroom. But perhaps nothing comes close to the proverbial question that most men have been asking for the longest time: how do I delay premature ejaculation during sex? Or simply – how can I last longer in bed?
For a woman, the ability to reach an orgasm quickly is almost a far-fetch fantasy. But for a guy, ejaculating too fast during sex is the bane that can cause even the strongest relationship to falter if the problem is not addressed.
But if you are not lasting beyond 4 minutes into sex, you are not alone. You have almost 40 percent of the male population behind you! And you are definitely not alone in wanting to find a solution so that you can last longer and enjoy better sex.
A Supercharged Sexual Arousal Is Detrimental To Your Sex Life
Many “premature ejaculators” can go from erection to ejaculation within one or two minutes. That is simply not enough time for a woman to be properly aroused. In fact, most women require at least 10 to 15 minutes of sexual stimulation to be able to achieve an orgasm! The problem with most men suffering from PE is over-stimulation. They simply allow the stimulation to go out of control until it is too late.
But First, You Have To Possess The Right Mindset If You Want To Last Longer
This is fundamentally important. It is not just about using the latest sprays, creams or ointments to give you superior sexual stamina. It is about adopting the right paradigm and attitude during sex that will separate you from rookies who ejaculate from the word “GO” and REAL men who can truly master their ejaculation almost on command.
Mind Over Body
We all know that the mind controls the body, and not the other way round. Guys who climax too soon allow their bodies to rule their minds. They let the sexual stimulation get too intense to the point that they cannot stem an impending orgasm, regardless of how they try to mentally distract themselves. When you reach the “point of no return” during sex, it is too late to rein in your ejaculation.
The Attitude You Should Adopt
Honesty is the best policy even when it comes to sex. You don’t have to feel guilty that you are not lasting long enough for her. You just got to be honest with her that you are climaxing too soon because she has turned you on so much, and you would love to return her the favor.
Women love men who have the courage to face up to their sexual inadequacies. Sex doesn’t have to end when you ejaculate! You can and SHOULD continue to give her sexual stimulation. Your penis isn’t exactly the only “tool” you have. In fact, most women hardly get an orgasm through penetrative sex.
One of the key “female orgasm instruments” is the clitoris, and because of direct penetrative movement during intercourse, very often the clitoris does not get sufficiently stimulated.
So go down on her if you like and stimulate her clitoris with your tongue (women love oral sex) and continue to romp her erogenous spots with your fingers. This exudes sexual confidence on your part; it shows you are in control… and this turns women on!
Believe me, having confidence is that the first crucial step to curing premature ejaculation and lasting longer in bed. Be bold, and take that first step!