Men love blow jobs. That’s a fact.
Many men also love finishing in a woman’s mouth during a blow job.
It can make them feel powerful or good about themselves and for some men, it just feels better physically to orgasm in a woman’s mouth than finishing another way.
Unfortunately, not all women relish the idea of having a man orgasm in her mouth.
There can be many different reasons why, but if you’re a man who enjoys finishing in a woman’s mouth, it can be disheartening when she doesn’t want to. What can you do?
Dear Dan and Jennifer,
When my wife gives me a blow job, she can’t quite let me finish in her mouth. Is there any advice you can give her?
– Pete, Alberta
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It’s a texture thing
Some women don’t like the texture or consistency of ejaculate. There’s no need to get into details here, but ejaculate in a woman’s mouth may make her gag simply because of the consistency and texture. If this is her primary reason for not wanting you to finish in her mouth, there’s not too much you can do about it. Can you finish elsewhere?
It’s a taste thing
Many women dislike the taste of ejaculate. That’s not bad news because the taste of your ejaculate can differ depending on what you eat. Garlic and onions may make your ejaculate taste bitter while strawberries and sweet fruits will make your ejaculate taste sweeter.
If this is your partner’s issue, you can change your diet to make your ejaculate easier to swallow. Just remember to get feedback from your partner about what foods work well and what doesn’t.
It’s a gag reflex thing
Many women have big gag reflexes. It can’t be helped! While she may be able to tolerate deep throating and blow jobs in general, ejaculate in her mouth might send her over the edge. This is also something that you can’t really do anything about, so if this is the case, you should discuss with your partner some other ways to finish you while still making it feel good.
It’s a mental thing
Having a man ejaculate in her mouth is a very personal and even submissive thing for a woman. If your partner was abused in any way, sexually or physically, she may have some serious issues with letting go and letting you finish in her mouth.
If your partner has emotional reasons for not wanting to let you orgasm in her mouth, have her talk to a therapist and work out some of her inner issues. If she does let you finish in her mouth, it’s important to be supportive and positive, and show her that you truly do care and you’re not just using her.
There are many great ways for a man to have an orgasm with a woman after a blow job, without having to finish in her mouth. Get creative and find different ways that she can please you without having to swallow ejaculate.
If the idea of ejaculating in her mouth really turns you on but she simply can’t come to terms with it, try flavored condoms or regular condoms that are made for this specific purpose. The feeling might decrease a little bit, but you’ll get to finish in her mouth and she won’t have to swallow it so everyone wins!
Most of all, it’s important to talk with your partner about these issues and find common ground so you can both get pleasure from oral sex.