An orgasm is the icing on the cake when it comes to sex for a woman. Give her clitoris lots of attention during sex and she’ll be putty in your hands!
The three stages of building an incredible orgasm with her clitoris are as follows:
- Early Goings (Disarming)
- The Build-Up Stage
- On the Edge
Let’s talk about stages 1 & 3 first. Notice the clear distinction between stimulation in the Early Goings and On the Edge.
Early Goings vs. On The Edge Of Orgasm
In the Early Goings, don’t be overly intent on the clitoris itself – instead, pay attention to the areas surrounding it – they’re gold. In some cases, the surroundings may even be more sensitive than her bud.
And when you do come to provoking the clit itself, start off with soft, slow, palm, indirect (via clitoral hood) stimulation. It’s gentle & sweet, disarming but exciting. This settles her down but also creates an expectant eagerness for things to come.
Clearly, a different set of stimulation is required when she’s on the edge, you have to do better than gentle and sweet if you’re going to push her all the way. Stage 3 requires harder, faster and more direct stimulation – a far cry from the innocent, slow maneuverings at the onset.
The Build Up Stage
It means a progressive increase in stimulation. Soft becomes a bit harder, slow gets a bit faster, the palm soon becomes the fingers, and indirect is replaced by direct confrontation. This increases the sexual tension flooding her brain.
During Stage 2, you’ll hear sighs turn into moans, with her body beginning to writhe in exquisite pleasure. She’ll begin squirming seriously as she’s feeling hotter and more thrilled by the second. You’ll hear panting as her pulse shots triple time. If you’ve really done well, tiny beads of sweat will perceptibly well out. She’ll start gyrating with your hands, her pelvis moving to get as much action going. Her eyes will almost always be closed, she will even forget that you exist!
How does one actually go about stage 2?
This is the time to invest in the push & the pull.
That means you start from slow and begin to go faster. From light, you go harder. Pulling is when you tone down and go the other way.
So for example, instead of a continuous, rhythmic stimulation, you might STOP for a few seconds. Resume, and then stop again. The pull is the harder of the two, because it’s as if you’re purposely squandering what has been gained, wandering away from the goal. But know that this is as vital as the push.
Instead of increasing pressure on the clitoris, you slacken a bit and take it easy for a while. Then increase pressure again. Instead of going faster, ease off and coast along. Then build up speed again. Remember, teasing always comes in pairs – the push and the pull – bringing her down and bringing her up to an even more scintillating height.
This naturally takes more time, but this is definitely a worthwhile investment.
Getting Closer
Now, this is the point where I want to make something very clear: As she gets closer to orgasm, gradually phase out the teasing.
That means the longer you are into the process, the pauses, breaks and easing off become shorter in span and less in frequency. There comes a point when the teasing entirely disappears and you simply bring your woman to orgasm without bringing her down. The pull becomes useless at some point, you simply go forward and never look back.
That means you become more aggressive with the clit, giving it faster and harder provocations. You increasingly focus on it until you deal with it exclusively – never giving it rest and forsaking the rest of her body. A few seconds of this type of stimulation and she will orgasm, big time.
Of course, it will be your call when to do away with teasing altogether. I can’t tell you exactly when to do this. Gauge her and decide.
After her first blow, unlike men, she doesn’t dive to non-arousal – she remains horny still although she is quite sensitive. It really becomes easy to usher in those multiple orgasms because after she starts exploding, she can keep going as each subsequent orgasm get easier.
After she cums, this is what you do: Leave her clitoris alone for a minute or two and do something else. Her clit gets extra-sensitive after an orgasm, just as the head of your penis gets extra-vulnerable after ejaculation. (By the way, this is not a refractory period, women don’t have them.) After a minute or two, simply reinstate the last thing you were doing that pushed her off, and keep at it.
Not long after, she will orgasm again.
Many guys never discover the multi-orgasmic capacity of their woman simply because they don’t give her a second shot. While a soulful climax may be enough for a lot of couples, know that both of you can opt for more.