An orgasm is an excellent end to a great sex session, but what if you could learn how to orgasm TOGETHER? Here’s how, and why it’s fantastic!
We all love our orgasms, and we really want to make our partners have them and they in turn want us to have them, and taking the Malcolm X approach to having orgasms (by any means necessary) is great, making sure you both climax together is the ultimate.
Sure, you can do some connecting with your partner during cuddling or enduring crappy episode of her favorite chick show because you know she likes it, but that’s really not the way to connect with your partner on a deeper, almost spiritual level. If you really want to form a deep, lasting bond with your partner, you need to do it through simultaneous orgasm.
Why It’s Better For Her That Way
Why is orgasm the way to go as opposed to sitting around and talking about your feelings and all that touchy feely stuff? Simple. Sex is the ultimate bonding experience. When a couple climaxes together, at the same time, it’s a deep, deep bonding experience (and no, that’s not code for something) Emotionally satisfying well.
Movie sex isn’t realistic in its portrayal of sex, but it is right about the effects of achiving mutual orgasm at the same time. You get that super, duper steroid induced chemical connection between two people that can only happen when you both get your rocks off at the same time. When everyone comes together, everything in the relationship comes together and gets better.
Is It Really Possible?
People seem to think this kind of orgasm is only part of movie sex and isn’t part of real life for anyone. We’re here to tell you that’s not true. Can it elude alot of people? Yes. Is it true that most people haven’t acheived it? Yes. Is it impossible to have in your sex life? No, not at all. It’s not some mystical secret passed down through the ages. It’s two people climaxing at the same time. It’s an orgasm, not the space shuttle launch codes.
How To Get There
How do you get there? The same way you do anything else. Just work towards it. Mutual orgasms are really, really simple to achieve, once you get past the concept of difficulty in your head.
Yes, that’s right. We said it. You and your partner getting off at the same time is super simple and easy. Sort of. The technique is simple. Practice is challenging – but fun! Really, you’re not trying to get yourselves to the point where you come at the same time. That’s not what this is about at all. What is it about? Simulating to the point of almost orgasm! This is most easily achieved during foreplay.
A state of almost orgasm is where you get each other on the edge at the same time, then go over the edge together. Synchronized, like swimming. In those Ethel Merman movies.
Communication Is Key!
So how do you master the art of the almost orgasm? Communication. You really need to know where the other one is coming from, so to speak. You need to know how close you and your partner are to the edge at all times. Then once you get an idea where you each are, then you can begin to adjust so that you both get to the edge, and then go over and have those amazing movie sex orgasms at the same time, but only when you’ve decided.
“Are we there yet?” That’s not the way you want to phrase the question, but that’s basically what it boils down to. One of you is going to get to the edge faster than the other. That’s just how it works. The person who’s already at the almost orgasm state need to be the person needs to doing tons of communication. And ideally, the need to find a way to slow it down so that there partner can catch up, so that they can both get off. It’s simple, said the wise man, but not easy. It will take a bit of practice, but trust us, it is more than worth it.