Swinging and threesomes – it seems as though it is everywhere and is the new “it” for sexual relationships. Is it? Should you incorporate swinging into your lifestyle? Would your partner enjoy going to a swinging club?
I just celebrated my 2nd anniversary with my girl and I was thinking of asking her to go to a swing club – what should I do?
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Evaluate Your Intentions
First of all, if you’re thinking about taking your partner to a swinging club, think about why you want to take her to a swinging club. Is this something she is interested in, or something you want her to be interested in? Is this something you want and just want her to go along with? Or have you and your partner talked about swinging in the past and both you and your partner showed interest in swinging? The reason you need to look carefully at why you want to swing is because swinging isn’t for everyone. In fact, only the strongest and most trusting relationships can survive swinging. You and your partner both must be completely non-jealous and confident in each other to be able to swing successfully.
Ask Yourself Questions
Sit down and ask yourself a few questions to better guage your partner’s possible response to being asked to a swinger’s club. Does your partner get jealous easily? Is she very possessive of you? If so, swinging may not be her style. Does she show interest in the same sex, or in threesomes or foursomes? Has she talked about swinging or having an open relationship in the past? If this is the case, you might want to talk to her about it. It’s important to think about how your partner will react to being asked to swing before you ask them. If you jump in without thinking ahead, you may offend your partner to the point of damaging the relationship. Sure, it may not be a big deal to you but swinging is that big of an issue to some women. Even suggesting it if she is not open minded may make her feel as though you don’t like her sexually or that you are interested in other women, both of which are not good things for a woman to think.
How To Approach It
Do not – and we repeat – DO NOT ask your girl to go to a swinger club if you haven’t talked about swinging or threesomes first. If swinging is something you would like to try or you think your partner might be interested in, approach the subject slowly. Watch some threesomes with your partner and ask her what she thinks of them. Take it slowly, but communicate with your partner about what she likes and where her interests are. If she respons well, suggest that she might enjoy going to a swinger club. Make it seem like her idea. If she is not open to the idea of swinging, definitely don’t push it. Leave it alone and learn to enjoy sex with your partner in a variety of different ways. Forcing the swinging issue with an unwilling partner isn’t worth it if you value the relationship at all.