Many people find themselves in sexless marriages. As unfortunate as it is, if you’re in a sexless marriage, you’re not alone.
Does that mean you have to live with it? Of course not! Here are some great ways to understand what is happening in your relationship and what you can do to fix it so you can turn the heat back up in your marriage.
First the sex was great… but suddenly I look up and I’m in a Sexless Marriage! What Happened?
How Sexless Is Your Marriage?
Different couples have sex at different frequencies. Some married couples have sex once a week and they’re completely satisfied.
Other couples have sex once a week and they’re not satisfied. They feel like they should be having sex three or four times a week or even every day.
Whatever frequency of sex that makes you and your partner most comfortable and satisfied is your “magic” number. Don’t feel that if your friends or neighbors are having sex more often that you have to have sex the same amount or you’re not satisfied with your sex life.
Have sex as often or as little as it takes to keep both you and your partner happy and satisfied!
Hormonal Issues
If you truly aren’t satisfied with your sex life, it’s time to make a change. There’s no reason that you should not be in a marriage with a satisfying sex life!
There are a number of things that can contribute to a sexless marriage or an unsatisfying sex life, so it’s time to do a little digging.
Visit your doctor to rule out any physical reasons that might be decreasing you or your partner’s sex drive. Many couples in sexless marriages will find out from their doctor that they have an imbalance of hormones that is contributing to a lack of sex drive. Your doctor can help you determine if this is an issue for you and your partner or not.
Feeling Close Again
Another big culprit of sexless marriages is not feeling close to your partner. Feeling emotionally distant can really take a toll on your sex life. You no longer feel emotionally safe with your partner, so you desire being sexual with them less and less.
If you find that this is a major issue with you and your partner, it’s time to get back on track and work on being closer emotionally.
A great way to feel close to each other is to sleep in the nude. It may sound strange, but sleeping in the nude and having skin to skin contact releases “happy” hormones that not only make you feel closer to your partner, but improve your emotional and physical health as well.
In addition to that, you can start talking to your partner and opening up to them emotionally, provided they do the same with you. If you’re truly having trouble with this, a counselor or therapist can help you and your partner start seeing eye to eye again.
Once you and your partner become close again emotionally, you’ll find that you want to experience each other sexually again as well.
If you find you’re in a sexless marriage, take a few steps to try and get your relationship in the right direction. With time and effort, you can figure out what went wrong and how you can get right back to where you want to be – in the bedroom!