Sexual fantasies are something everyone has – but many people are too shy to reveal them. They’ll enjoy their sexual fantasies on their own during masturbation or solo play, but they may be afraid of sharing them with a partner, even someone they are very close to. However, exploring your fantasies together can be a great way to increase intimacy and bring more heat into your sex life! Here’s how you and your lover can accept each other’s desires.
These can be both a blessing and a curse. There are so many men and women that are afraid to tell their partner what they want in the bedroom out of fear of rejection. Telling your partner that you think it would be hot to live out a fantasy is not very easy if they are not receptive.
Having a wife or husband that is willing to engage in your wants and needs is crucial to being happy. When you are in a relationship with a partner who is not willing to entertain your fantasies it is easy to become frustrated or discouraged by their stubbornness. Here are a few way that you can tell your partner about your fantasies and hear some of theirs as well.
1. Have A Meeting
No, you don’t have to get access to a boardroom, but you do have to arrange a meeting with your partner. When you are having a discussion about your it, you want to make sure that you are in a good environment for it. Give the kids some money to go out for ice cream or arrange a time when your partner’s favorite TV show isn’t on.
There can be no distractions when you are discussing your sex life. If there are distractions your partner might just tell you what you want to hear instead of really listening to what you are saying. This isn’t an intervention, but you should kind of take the approach.
2. Engage Them As A Partner
There is no reason to place blame on yourself or on your partner. Sure, either of you might feel like the other is not as receptive to your sexual fantasies as you wish, but that is why you are talking about it now. The last thing that you want to do is turn a discussion into an argument. Talking about your desires should be fun and exciting. It shouldn’t drudge up past problems in the relationship or lead to new problems. Remember that your partner is going to take a part in your sexual fantasies so you need to be respectful and figure out a way to work together so you are both happy.
3. Leave The Judgment At The Door
All judgment should be left out of the room when you are discussing your wants and needs. One of the biggest problems with couples is honesty. There is a lot of judgment in every day lives and couples can feel as if their partners would reject them if they shared something that was too over the top.
For the most part, your partner’s desires are going to be fairly tame. If you’re in a healthy relationship and you are committed to each other, there is nothing that should sway your partner’s love for you. Desires should be used to create more intimacy in the relationship, not to bring a barrier between the two of you.
Each of you should be sharing with each other. It takes two people to make up a couple so there is no reason why one partner’s fantasies should overshadow the others. Make it a point to talk to each about both of your fantasies for a more healthy relationship.
If there are conflicting fantasies then you need to work through them. For instance, if both of you have sexual fantasies about being dominated by the other, you should take turns. There is no reason that the both of you can’t be happy. Work together to get rid of all the discrepancies in the relationship and enjoy your desires together.
5. Start Slow
It’s all too easy to start sharing your sexual fantasies and then get so hot that you can’t wait to put them to work for you. Start off slow. You have no idea how your partner is going to react once you or they finally get what they want. The fantasy might not actually have the same weight that it did in you mind.
Your partner might not even do it right the first time. Start off slow so the both of you can perfect your sexual fantasies and make them mind blowing each time. If you rush it, what you thought would be super hot could actually leave a very bad taste in your mouth. Take your time and build upon what you and your partner feel comfortable with.