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Anal Sex, Enemas & Colonics – What You Need To Know

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Anal sex always looks so clean in porn films – but you know from what comes out of there, it can’t be that clean, right? Well, it can be if you do a little preparation beforehand. Make anal sex cleaner with an enema or a colonic, but be careful – you can do more harm than good if you don’t research what you’re doing thoroughly before you do it. Here’s what you need to know about enemas and colonics, before you get started!

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If You Play In The Mud, You Might Get Dirty

The hard truth about anal sex is that you can get dirty doing it – quite literally. The anus is designed to excrete fecal matter, and during anal sex (either with a penis or with a sex toy), fecal matter can get on you and your partner during thrusting. Unfortunately, there are very few ways around this and if you have watched a lot of porn that features anal play, you may have gotten the illusion that anal sex is clean when it really isn’t.

Why Don’t Porn Flicks Ever Show Feces?

Unless it’s a really, let’s say interesting fetish film, a porn isn’t going to show fecal matter on camera during any kind of anal play, whether it be penetration, fingering or analingus. Why is this? How do porn directors and actors show perfectly clean anal sex when we all know very well that it can get very, very dirty? Most porn stars do a little preparation before a shoot to make sure their intestinal tract is completely cleaned out. They often use an enema or a colonic to clean themselves out, so everything stays clean during filming.

What Is An Enema?

An enema is a procedure that involves squirting liquid up the rectum and into the bowels to stimulate them to excrete waste rapidly. Most of the time, only plain water is used during this procedure but other concoctions can be used as well, such as saline. This procedure is often used to clear the lower part of the intestinal tract for medical procedures or in cases of constipation, but it is also a popular way to get ready for anal sex since an enema can usually be performed at home.

What Is A Colonic?

A colonic is similar to an enema because it does involve pumping liquid into the rectum, but during this procedure, the liquid and the fecal matter are physically removed from the bowels using a tube. This is a much deeper, more thorough cleaning of the colon and intestinal tract, but it must be performed in a physician’s office by a licensed practitioner – this is not something you can do at home! It is also not recommended that you have this done right before having sex. An enema cleans only the lower part of the colon, but a colonic actually goes in quite a bit further to get rid of more waste.

Should You Use Either Procedure Before Anal Sex?

Deciding whether or not to use an enema or a colonic to get ready for anal sex is entirely up to you. It’s all about the personal preferences of you and your sexual partner(s). If they don’t mind a little fecal matter here and there and you don’t either, don’t worry about it.

You don’t have to put yourself through uncomfortable and possibly very expensive procedures to get ready for anal play if you and your partner really don’t care one way or the other! Remember that if you do choose to have an enema or a colonic done, you need to follow all directions to make sure you don’t do more harm than good.

Alternatives To These Procedures

If you want anal sex to be clean but the idea of having an enema or a colonic really freaks you out, you’re not at the end of the road. There are other ways you can clean yourself out too!

  • Go to the bathroom before sex. If you haven’t eaten a heavy meal, this may be all you need to get sparkling clean for your partner.
  • Wear a condom. This way, your partner doesn’t get fecal matter on his penis but you can both enjoy having anal sex. The condom slips right off and can be thrown in the trash without another glance.
  • Use an at home laxative. There are lots of over the counter laxatives that are available and can be used easily at home if you follow all the directions.
  • Use lube. With anal sex, lube is a must. The delicate tissues of the anus can tear and bleed if lube isn’t used. Don’t risk it! Lube is cheap and easy to get. There’s no reason not to!

My Boyfriend Wants Anal Sex – What Do I Do?

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My BF wants to try anal sex , but I’m not so sure I’m into it. It’s a bigger commitment on my “end,” so to speak! What do I do?

What She Said

Oh, honey! This is a question for the ages and I’m so glad you asked it. There are two schools of thought: (1) It’s great and everyone should try it. (2) No one wants to marry the “up the butt girl.” Yes, I’m pulling quotes from the Sex and the City series – those ladies had some good advice!

Is Anal Sex Actually Fun?

Let’s start with the “It’s great” theory first. Anal sex – with the right partner and the right lube – can be a lovely experience. If you choose to do this, have a frank talk with your boyfriend beforehand. He already knows you’re a bit nervous; if you agree to this, you get to call the shots. He needs to be gentle – he also needs to be willing to use lubricant and a condom. Your vagina and anus are separated for a reason – he can’t pull out and enter you vaginally in the middle of anal sex.

Be sure to let him know that health and safety come first, even before the two you. Now on to the fun stuff! If you’re feeling good about your talk, go for it. There’s no harm (with proper precautions) in trying something once. You might find that you love it – in which case you can consider adding it to your repertoire. If you didn’t enjoy it, you don’t have to do it again. At least you’ll be basing your “no go” from a position of experience.

And here’s the “flip side,” so to speak. No one wants to marry the “up the butt girl.” Of course this is an antiquated notion – anyone who would judge you for experiences you’ve chosen to have can shove off, in my book.

Would You Really Rather Not?

What I mean to point out via this example is: What’s the state of your relationship? Is he pushing you into trying something you don’t want to do? Is the decision to try anal based on a last ditch effort to save your coupling or is it based on a mutual agreement to spice things up? If you guys are on the rocks, he might be pushing for anal so he can try it before he dumps you.

Sound harsh? Imagine how you’ll feel if you give in to something you’re not comfortable with only to find yourself single weeks later. Why give it up for someone who doesn’t care? If the relationship is sound but this isn’t your preferred way of adding something new to your sex life, talk with your BF then buy a copy of the Kama Sutra. There are plenty of other sex positions out there that don’t involve the ass.

What He Said

Snoop Dogg once said “You can’t make a ho a housewife.” If you can’t, I’ll never get married. Seriously, the “no one marries the up the butt girl is” stupid and untrue. Your marital charms are not based on any particular sex act. If he likes you, he likes you, pure and simple.

IF you’re concerned about anal sex and don’t want to do it, just tell him he can screw you up the ass right after you get to screw him in the ass with a sex toy. (See the ‘Bending Over Boyfriend” series for details if he actually agrees to it)

There’s No Reason To Be Scared

If you’re into it and are scared for whatever reason, don’t be. You are not the first person on the planet to want their boyfriend to do them in the butt (assuming you’re into that). It doesn’t mean you’re a slut or a whore, or that you’re going to hell. Just that you like it up the ass. It’s that simple. Raise your concerns whatever they may be with your man and go from there. You’ll be glad you did.

That is, unless this is some last ditch effort to save your relationship. If it is, than it won’t work. You can’t take it up the ass to save your relationship any more than you can have a baby to save it. This can enhance it, but if it needs saving, that’s a whole other issue.

Crazy Things Women Do For Adult Films

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Porn actresses have great bodies and have squeaky clean anal sex – but how do they get it? Are their vaginas just naturally the perfect shade of pink, with tiny, delicate looking labia? Truth is, women in the porn industry do a lot to their bodies to get them looking just right, especially for close ups. Check out the intense things porn stars do to get ready for the camera.

Anal Bleaching

Yes, you heard that right. Many adult film actresses have been known to have their anuses bleached, particularly right before a big anal sex or analingus scene. This is so the puckered skin around the anus appears lighter and less “brown,” making the anus look cleaner and more appealing on camera. Women can have this done at salons who offer this service, or a special cream can be purchased and applied in the privacy of the home. Anal bleaching is relatively safe, however, creams and bleaches should not be used if the anal area is inflamed or irritated in any way.

Brazilian Waxing

Women that you see in porn flicks are almost always perfectly smooth and hairless down there. If you’ve ever shaved your pubic region before, you know that you rarely – if ever – get a shave that close. The truth is, most porn stars get their privates waxed. This is called a Brazilian wax and usually involves taking off all the hair in the groin area, in between and around the labia and around the anus. This gives a silky smooth appearance, but can be quite painful.

Nipple Tinting

While photo and video editing software can be used to give the nipples that “rosy pink flush” that looks so great on film after the fact, many actresses in porn still use lip and cheek tints to give their nipples a more pink appearance in the flesh. This makes it look as though the woman is much more aroused than she really is. For this same reason, ice is often used on the nipples in between takes to make them pucker up and stand erect.

Labia Tinting

Lip and cheek tints can also be used on the labia area to make them look more pink and flushed, as though the woman is incredibly turned on and her genitals are swollen with arousal. Special tints for the vaginal area also exist, but are generally more expensive. If you’ve ever wondered why a porn star’s labia are so pink and fresh looking, it’s most likely because they’ve applied some kind of labia tint before the camera started rolling.

Enemas And Laxatives

Those anal sex scenes can be tough, because unless it’s a fetish video, fecal matter is a “no-no” on set. Most porn actresses will give themselves an enema beforehand, rinsing their colons completely clear of any matter whatsoever. Others will use laxatives to clean themselves out so they don’t have any accidents on screen. This gives couples engaging in anal sex on their own think that it’s going to be a perfectly clean activity – when in reality, if the woman hasn’t prepared herself beforehand, it can actually get pretty messy.

Extreme Dieting

Many girls in the adult film industry will end up dieting to the extreme just to make their bodies appear thinner on screen, but extreme dieting is also used when an anal sex scene is to be filmed, in conjunction with enemas or laxatives. Women in porn have been known to starve themselves up to twenty four hours to prepare for a scene, just to make sure that the anal play ends up squeaky clean. On the other hand, women in “golden shower” fetish videos will take in an excess of liquids to make sure she has enough urine for the many different takes that will be filmed.

Labiaplasty And Breast Augmentation

It’s pretty obvious that a large number of women in the adult film industry have gotten a boob job. You can tell by the way their breasts barely move as they’re getting pounded on screen, and the way the skin of their breasts look stretched tight over their too large implants. However, you might not be able to tell that many women in the industry have also gotten labiaplasties.

These surgeries involve shortening the labia so they look smaller and more dainty, giving the vagina an overall tinier and tighter appearance. This gives the illusion and creates the misconception that vaginas should look perfect to be considered attractive, when in reality, vaginas are all shapes, sizes and colors!

Porn Moves Men Shouldn’t Use – Are You Guilty?

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While porn is a great way to check out your favorite sex fantasies being acted out, there are some things that happen in a porn movie that you don’t want to re-enact with your partner regardless of how adventurous you think she is. These are moves that most ladies will find offensive at best and may even leave you on the front porch with your bag in hand. Here’s what you need to avoid, no matter how much the idea turns you on – leave it to the professionals.

Deep Throating Without Telling Her First

In a porn movie blowjob, the object is not to give the man the best orgasm, but rather to put the woman in a submissive position and the man in a dominant one during sex. Often, the man will deep throat the woman during a blowjob, but will shove his penis as far down her throat as he can. He will usually do this without telling the woman first, surprising her by gagging her and making her eyes water. While many guys enjoy watching this in a porn because of the strong S&M factor, it’s probably not something you want to try at home with your girlfriend or wife. Not only will you piss her off, you may also get a lap full of vomit.

Anal Sex Without Lube

Porn does a great job of making anal sex look super easy. He just slips his penis in her anus and thrusts away, without worrying about a thing. And the best part is that the woman looks like she’s enjoying it, right? The reason that this works in porn but not in real life is that porn actresses are more accustomed to anal sex and large objects in the anus than your average girl off the street. If you want to try anal sex with your partner, start small (like with a finger or a small butt plug) and use lots and lots of good, water based lube. Anal sex without lube can hurt your partner, tear the anal tissues and may even cause an injury serious enough to win you both a visit to the emergency room.

Giving Her A “Facial”

Anyone who has watched porn knows about the “money shot.” When a man is ready to have an orgasm, he pulls his penis out and allows the camera to see him ejaculate on his partner – usually the vagina, thighs or butt. When a woman is giving a man a blowjob in a porn, he may pull his penis out and ejaculate on her face (thus, giving it the name a “facial.”) Some girls do enjoy being ejaculated on (and may even enjoy it in the face) but the far majority of real ladies will consider this demeaning and upsetting. If you want to give your girl a facial, talk to her about it beforehand and see if she’s down with it. If not, find somewhere else to finish the job.

Slapping Her With Your Penis

Guys in porn videos also have a bad habit of “slapping” their partners with their penises when having sex. This may be to help keep his penis hard, but it works the same way as deep throating – it’s another way to make a man appear dominant the woman submissive. Your lover may not mind having her butt slapped with your penis during anal sex or vaginal intercourse, but may get offended if you slap her in the face with it during a blowjob. If you want to smack your girl a little with your penis during sex, talk to her first and let her know that you’d love to try it. She may surprise you with her answer!

Blowjob After Anal Sex

Many anal sex porn flicks will feature the woman giving a man a blowjob right after he’s had anal sex with her. While this may appear sexy to some, it’s actually a very dangerous activity. While you generally don’t see any feces on his penis before she puts her mouth on it (this is because porn actresses will usually go through a regimen of fasting and enemas before filming), it’s covered in bacteria that could make her sick. If you would rather keep your girl out of the hospital with a nasty bout of e-coli, wash your penis thoroughly with soap and hot water after anal sex before doing anything else, including vaginal intercourse. You can also wear a condom during anal sex and take it off before vaginal intercourse or oral sex if you’re with a monogamous partner without STD’s.

Best Anal Sex Tips Of 2010

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Anal sex is an activity that lots of couples enjoy, including both men and women. It can create wonderful sensations for both partners if done safely (and with lots and lots of good lube). For women, anal stimulation can be a wonderful addition to oral sex or vaginal intercourse. Contrary to popular belief, many women truly do enjoy anal play with their partner or even with toys.

Anal stimulation can also be a great way for men to discover their prostate gland and have more powerful, earth shattering orgasms. Even though anal play has lots of great benefits, if proper safety precautions aren’t taken before engaging in the activity, it can have lots of drawbacks as well – almost all of which can be prevented with a little planning. The anus does not self lubricate, so a generous amount of a good sexual lubricant must be used at all times. Also, when experimenting with anal toys, it’s important to make sure they are designed specifically with safety in mind.

Toys without a wide, flared base or ring on the end can get lost inside (this usually will require an embarrassing trip to the emergency room). This past year, we’ve found the information you need to not only make anal stimulation super pleasurable and fun, but also to keep it clean and safe. Check out our top “rear entry” techniques of 2010 so you can have fun well into the new year!