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How to Meet Women in Coffee Shops

Going to get coffee is almost as much of a staple of human behavior as going to the grocery store. With a Starbucks on almost every corner (and an independent coffee shop on the corners not occupied by Starbucks), coffee beverages are everywhere.

Gone are the days when people would ask “what’s a cappuccino” These days people argue over what ingredients are supposed to be in a Macchiato and which ingredients are not.

Since you probably spend a good portion of your day waiting in line at your local coffee shop, you have probably spent some time thinking about whether or not it is a place in which you can meet women. Here is the good news: It is possible to meet women in coffee shops!

It is even possible to meet women in coffee shops and get them to meet you again—in someplace that doesn’t smell like Sumatra. Here are some tips to help you meet women in coffee shops.

Be Gracious

If she is having trouble deciding what to order from the menu and turns to apologize, always be gracious. She is probably feeling very embarrassed. If she is truly sorry you can offer to help her decide what to order. Sentences like “I come here all the time, what were you thinking of ordering? I can tell you if it’s good or not,” are good openers.

This can work in the opposite situation. If you can’t make up your mind, you can ask the woman behind you what kind of coffee drinks she likes and then you have the bonus option of buying her coffee “to make up for taking so long to decide.

Be Cautious

If she is alone and reading or writing in a journal, approach with caution. People like to do these things without being interrupted, even if they are in the middle of a busy and noisy coffee shop. This rule can be voided if there aren’t any empty tables to claim for yourself.

If she looks up from her book a lot, a good way to meet her is to ask what she is reading and what she thinks of it. Be honest when she asks if you have read it or have read other books like it. Lying about what you read will come back and bite you later.

Be Polite

When you are standing next to a woman at the sugar stand, you can ask her to pass you something—you can easily play it off as being polite—you didn’t want to get in her way. Politeness goes a long way with women. The same is true for if she is reaching for something closer to your side of the stand. Grab it for her with a simple “here you go.” And the conversation can go from there.

Be Bold

If you are feeling bold, you can always sit down next to her table and if she is having a conversation with someone, you can interject your own opinion and then join in the conversation. This is something with which you should be cautious.

Not all groups of people are going to want to open up their conversation to the person at the next table, and if she is with a group of women, you need to be extra careful.

Be Helpful

If you are walking toward the trash can or the bussing station with your coffee cup, walk past her table and offer to take her empty coffee cup up with yours. Then, when you go back by her table, you can pause for a chat.

Be Complimentary

If the woman you want to talk to is working at the coffee shop as the Barista, always compliment her on the coffee—even if she just poured it from a carafe. This simple compliment when followed by a thank you will go a long way.

If you are shy, you can make a habit of going to that coffee shop while she is working. Eventually you will be familiar enough with each other that a conversation will happen all on its own. Toe this line carefully, though. The line between “fun regular customer” and “creepy stalker guy” is a fine one and easy to cross.

Coffee shops can be intimidating places, even for men who are not trying to meet women there. The good news is it is possible to meet women in a coffee shop. You just have to be a little bit creative and a lot brave and, in many cases, you have to initiate the conversation.

To find out more, sign up for Joseph Matthews’ free Meet Women Secrets newsletter for all the most recent tips and methods for meeting and seducing women.

Insider Secrets Revealed – How To Pick Up Women In 4 Easy Steps

By josephmatthews

Having trouble picking up women?

Have no fear! All you need to do is follow a few simple methods to help you get the woman of your dreams!

Do you want to go out and pick up a woman tonight, but have no clue where to start?

Most of your friends probably don’t know how to pick up women. Your dad probably doesn’t know (and lord knows your mom couldn’t tell you)!

Even the dating “experts” that you see in the media wouldn’t be able to give you the proper tactics on how to pick up women, because if they did -they’d never be able to appear on TV again! (Let’s face it, the mainstream media is extremely feminist and looks down upon anything that could help guys get laid!).

Bottom line: Picking up women is not a politically-correct topic!

You want some practical advice that can really work, that you can start to use right away. Fortunately, you found this article. So let’s get started!

What You DON’T Need

First off – here’s what you DON’T need to pick up women.

You DON’T need to be “male model” good looking.

This is the biggest mistake men make. You have to realize that close to 85% of women care more about how a man makes them FEEL, rather than how he actually LOOKS. So if you don’t think you’re a very attractive guy, don’t worry! There’s still hope for you.

Next, you DON’T have to drive a fancy car, or spend a lot of money! Quite a few of the best Pickup Artists I’ve ever known spend $30 or less when they go out on dates, and more than one of them doesn’t even own a car! (And the ones that do don’t drive anything special!)

You’ll find that women can be very forgiving when it comes to how much money you make or spend on them, if they LIKE you! And part of picking up women is to get the girl to like you, right?

Finally, you DON’T have to be famous, be a certain type of ethnicity or nationality, or anything else you can think of. The secret is to have a great personality – this will make any other obstacle you think you have to getting a girl to like you obsolete! If you know the proper way to interact with women, nothing else matters.

Skyrocket to Success

Unless you’re already on the verge of becoming a master pick up artist, you’re probably not going to have phenomenal success right away using these tips and tactics. But if you apply these and other tactics over a period of time and learn from your experiences, you’ll find your success with women will skyrocket! In order to learn the quickest, you’ll want to go out as often as you can – particularly when you’re first starting.

You don’t have to go to nightclubs or other high-pressure environments to meet women, but they are great “practice grounds” because there are SO MANY women there to meet and talk to. Despite where you choose to go, you need to set aside some time every day to go out and pick up women – you’ll get better the more times you do it! When you’re first starting, you might not have a whole lot of success with the ladies. But over time, as your experience builds, your confidence will grow. Every success and failure you have is a learning experience meant to make you better at picking up women.

And Remember…

Remember: The more experience you have, the easier it’ll be.

The most important thing to remember about going out to pick up women is to gain experience! When you do go out to gain this valuable experience with the ladies, try and look as good as you possibly can! (Notice here that I’m not saying you have to be “good looking.” I’m saying you need to “look good.” There is a big difference between the two. You don’t have any say about what you look like, but you DO have a say in your appearance – your hairstyle, the clothes you wear, what cologne you put on, etc.)

Look the Part

Dress for success: Wear clothing that fits you, that’s color-coordinated and looks good on you. If you have fashion-conscious friends who can help you pick out a wardrobe (particularly if they’re women), now’s the time to recruit them. It’s true that you don’t need fancy threads to meet girls, but why not make it easier by wearing nice clothes, why wouldn’t you do it? Besides, looking good will also make you feel more confident!

Be on the lookout for opportunities to do pickup. You can find attractive women just about anywhere. And if you notice that she’s given you the eye, it would almost be a sin not to start talking to her!

The Steps

Finally, every good pick-up follows a structure. Its a series of steps you can actually REPEAT time and time again and get similar results. Here’s the structure:

Find the girl.
Meet her.
Talk and Gain Rapport.
Build Attraction.

These four simple steps is all you need! You’ll find that if you can just meet the women you want and gain rapport with them, you’ll easily be able to build attraction with them too.

To find out more, sign up for Joseph Matthew’s free Meet Women Secrets newsletter for all the most recent tips and methods for meeting and seducing women.

5 Ways to Avoid Striking Out This Friday Night

By david

Are You Tired of Striking Out Night After Night?

Most guys think that women like ‘bad’ boys so they try to portray this image and simply end up looking like a jerk. What a woman really wants is a man who will keep her interest, has great confidence, who is not afraid to stand out, and is not afraid to disagree with the status quo – A guy who is comfortable in his own skin…

Here’s a great article on approaching women from David Wygant, one of today’s most popular and successful dating coaches. David is not a ‘pick up artist’, but a real dating coach who offers good solid advice that actually works. In this article, he talks about some of the biggest mistakes that almost all men make when approaching women and how you can avoid them and actually capture her attention and create a real spark.

Most men think that they need a clever line to approach a woman, which in some cases may garner a reaction. But through all my years of coaching men and women I have found that it is not what you say that’s important, but how you approach.

Most women put more importance on visual clues to assess a man’s character. They don’t care what you say as long as you say it without hesitation and with authority. Unfortunately, most men don’t know this, so they walk over and approach a woman like a wounded animal expecting to be rejected.

When you approach like a wounded animal you will be rejected every single time no matter how clever of a line or remark you may have. Sound familiar?

With eighty percent of human interaction based on non-verbal body language, what is a man to do?

The key to impressing her right off the bat is you need to be different than all other men that are approaching her that evening in the bar or lounge. It is really competitive at night, and most women will start to lose interest in men after a few jerks have hit on them, so you need to learn to use a few of these tips to make you stand out from the crowd of drunk testosterone-laden men.

Here a few sure-fire ways to make your approach more powerful and convincing even if you are not sure what you are going to say:

1. When you see a woman that you are attracted to you need to walk right over.

Stand up straight and walk over slowly but with confidence. Make sure your chest is puffed out and your posture is looking strong and not slumped over. You need to keep eye contact as you approach so you do not spook her. You also need to walk directly over to her without any hesitation.

With practice, you will get comfortable doing this. Most men linger in the background like a scared animal for a period of time before they approach. When they finally do approach, the woman is quick to turn her back on him. The reason is he did not exude confidence.

Most women notice who is observing them. When you do not approach within seconds of spotting her you might as well go home and get your game on for another night or day.

2. When out on the town, avoid being seen with the drunken testosterone pack of males.

One of the biggest turn-offs for women is the “male pack” — you with five of your buddies high-fiving each other, drinking and checking out other women. Yes, women make note of this childlike behavior and when you approach them with your buddies waiting on the sideline they will impulsively reject you in front of the pack to avoid being scrutinized later. You need to break away from the male pack and find one other guy who is like you to go out on the town with.

Save the male bonding and excessive testosterone for a sports bar.

3. Dress in clothing that gives you a strong appearance.

Make sure you’re not sabotaging your efforts with your attire. Following the steps above will fall short of projecting great body language if you are wearing a pair of baggy khakis and ratty sneakers out at night. If you look like a slob it will not matter what your body language says because you will look like every other man who put no thought into what he was going to wear that night to attract women.

Start buying clothing that makes you stand out from the rest of the men. Find a cool pair of jeans and some great shirts that give you an edge so when you walk into a bar or lounge with the right body language women will see you. When you are dressed the part, women will give you a double take and follow your every move. Keep in mind shoes are really important too, so find a few pairs that look great on you.

4. After you walk over you need to create a spark within her.

Most men’s conversation will center on being agreeable and non-confrontational in the hope that she likes him. The key word here is “hope” — That is the mindset of the average man. They are so jazzed that she is actually speaking with him, so they play it safe and hope that she likes him.

In the mind of a woman, playing it safe equals boring!

So you need to spark her interest by being a bit disagreeable. For example, you get into the conversation about summer movies and she says that Spiderman III was her favorite Spidey movie so far. The typical male would agree with her even if his opinion is that the first Spiderman was superior. Instead of being agreeable, you would look her right in the eye with confidence and tell her that she is so wrong — the first Spiderman was superior. Then proceed to tell her why you think so. This will create a fun, friendly, flirtateous verbal sparring which will create a spark in her brain.

She will realize that you are not a pushover like most men and attraction will start to form in her head.

5. Maintain some tension after you meet.

Flirting with women is all about gathering information, so the better listener you are, the more you will know about her. So when you call her you will have many things to speak with her about. What I like to do is, before I call I think about everything she said and then I pick the most juicy topic or opinion and challenge her with it.

For example, going back to the example of Spiderman III, I would text her the next day and challenge her with this text:
I was thinking U & I need 2 re-watch Spiderman. U R so wrong. Name the time & place & I’ll bring the DVD.

By challenging her, you are bringing her back to a moment of tension that she shared with you. She will immediately respond to the challenge and text you back. You have just learned the secret of re-creating the tension that you shared with her plus you are being totally unlike every other guy who waits three days to call her and schedule a predictable dinner date.

The secret to capturing her attention and creating that spark is do not be like everyone else. Follow the above tips and you will become the alpha male that women desire.

How to Approach Any Woman Without Fear of Rejection – Pick Up Secrets Exposed by a Woman

By loveandsex

How SHOULD a regular guy approach a woman to get her phone number, a date, a chance?

We’re always seeing seduction and pick up advice from the same well known faces in the Seduction Community. From David DeAngelo, to Zan, Mystery, Jason Matthews, and many others. Do you see the pattern yet? They’re all GUYS!

They tell us how to approach women, how to get their phone numbers, and how to get them to go out on a date. They even tell us how to get those hot one night stands that some guys are crazy about.

We think it’s about time to get that advice straight from a woman – the object of your search.

You ARE trying to get a woman to go out with you, aren’t you?

Why not find out from her what’s really going on behind her pretty blue eyes… what she’s thinking about you as you first walk into the room, why she can’t get rid of some guys fast enough when they come up to her… That kind of information is priceless.

Imagine getting the lowdown from the other side… what it’s like being a woman and having ALL THOSE GUYS hitting on you.

Here’s our review of Tiffany Taylor’s excellent insider guide to the fairer sex – Guy Gets Girl. In reality, it’s more of a strategic and tactical plan than a “book”, but anyway.

It’s also worth noting that Guy Gets Girl is the first and only step-by-step pickup, dating, and seduction guide available written for men… By a Woman. 🙂

“How To Approach Any Woman, Anywhere And Know Exactly What To Say To Get Her To Give You Her Number And Go On A Date With You – NOW”

You’ll want to read all the way to end of this post so that you don’t miss a single great idea.

Tiffany’s promise is a pretty tall order, but from everything we’ve read, I’d say she delivers.

After all, it’s not about fancy pickup lines, sleazy hypnosis tricks, and all kinds of other less than honest stuff. At the core, what matters is being confident and understanding that woman that you’re approaching… understanding what she wants, what she’s looking for, her true desires.

That’s what matters and what will get you that date.

Tiffany also tells you how any nice guy can get practically any girl he wants, IF he knows what the lady is really looking for. Overall jerks don’t hold a candle to nice guys, but beware – nice guys who don’t know what they’re doing often end up in the “friend zone”.

She also tells you where to find great available women, even if you’re not into dance clubs and the traditional singles scene.

And how about three different ways to approach a woman and immediately get on her good graces. Really, it can be that simple if your timing is right.

Her motives

Guess what… every person on this earth has a reason for everything they do. Many reasons are friendly and completely noble, and others are selfish misguided. Women are no different than men in this respect – pay close attention to what they say, what they’re asking you about, how they act, act. and you’ll always know where things are headed.

Flirting – the good, the bad, and the ugly

What you should say and when to get her affections, but especially what NOT to do when flirting unless you want to scare her off…

The first date

Learn the 4 best places to take a girl on a date, to guarantee you’ll see her again. They don’t even cost as much as a meal at a cheap restaurant, but they are infinitely more enjoyable for her!

A 3 step formula for planning that crucial first date, to ensure she’ll not only go out with you, but keep going out with you, but keep you after that date.

What to talk about on your first date. Some great conversation starters, and what topics to avoid, or else.

Reading her signals – how to know if she’s ready to take the next step.

The first kiss – how to know when she’s ready to be kissed, and when she ISN’T.

The one night stand

There are many reasons you may not want to do this, but in case you do, there’s a good section describing how to get her in the mood, how to read the signals, where to go, and what to do next. Also how to separate with no hard feelings after the sex, and how to ensure you’ll be able to do it again if you choose.

Sex tactics

The key here again is understanding what women truly need and want… how to romance her and get her in the mood every time, why foreplay is so important if you want to have sex with her again, etc.

Also, the one mistake guys generally make that puts the freeze on any sexual activity for the evening and beyond.

And of course, knowing when to throw in the towel. Sometimes it just isn’t working out, no matter how much you want it to. But you MUST know when and how you should break it off, so that you can still stay friends. Get this wrong and you could end up with a lot of problems.

Is she the one?

How to know if she’s really the one for you, even if you think you’re sure one way or the other.

Approaching – what to do and say that will boost your chances of getting the girl

Ponder these questions…

Do you just walk right up to her, or is there a “right moment” to approach?
If she’s with friends, how can you use her friends to your advantage?
Once you get her talking, how do you break the awkward silence?

And find out how to get her real number, and not end up with a bogus one.

Asking her out

How long do you need to wait before calling her, and what should you say to really keep her interested? Most guys get this completely wrong, which is why they can’t ever seem to get that ever elusive second date.

A word of warning

Although the material is thorough and the ideas are very insightful and well thought out, we do have a strong concern with this guide. Guy Gets Girl comes with an additional bonus guide entitled Advanced Psychological Techniques.

We are not fond of using psychological triggers and similar seduction tactics to approach women, get a date, etc.

It is your choice if you want to use the advanced psychological seduction tactics in this book, but be warned. While you may be virtually guaranteed to get her phone number, get a date, get a one night stand… honesty is the most important factor in a relationship. Eventually she will get to know the real you, and you could be in trouble.

So the short version is this: use the advanced psychological seduction tactics at your own risk. This guide has a lot of great information, but use it wisely.

Overall we highly recommend this book.

Download your copy right now before you get busy and forget. Then go out and walk up to the girl of your dreams, and score a date with her.

Is Shyness Keeping You From the Girl of Your Dreams?

By loveandsex

The Question:

There is this girl at my church that I think might like me. Every time I get a chance to say something to her I don’t because I’m really shy. What can I say or do to break the ice?

The Answer:

The challenge here is that you really like her and really want her to like you. And that’s the problem. That wanting translates into fear – fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of being alone.

STOP! Let’s go through this together so you will be able to approach her with ease the next time you see her.

She’s a regular person, just like you

Don’t put her on a pedestal just because you like her. This is one of the biggest mistakes men make with women, which is why they strike out so often.

Remember, she’s a regular person, just like you. So, treat her that way. Be nice, friendly, and most of all, confident in yourself. You wouldn’t be shy talking to one of your guy friends or a girl that you have no interest in, right?

So treat her like that – just one of your friends.

Men and women aren’t nearly as different as we all like to believe. At the end of the day we’re all people with needs, feelings, hopes, dreams, etc. We all need friends, companionship, and so on.

How can you tell if she likes you?

When you talk with her, notice how you feel. Do you feel like you WANT her to like you, or do you feel that she DOES like you? Is there a strong surge of energy, a magical spark between the two of you? Down deep, you’ll know if she really likes you.

You can feel it. Trust your gut.

Warning. Many guys make a big deal about asking a girl if she likes them. Don’t ever do that. You’ll put her on the spot and she’ll have to choose without getting to know you first. It’s like deciding if you want to buy a car without ever sitting in it.

The key here is confidence and belief in you. Listen for what’s in your heart, not for what you want to be there. If you’re too nervous to even talk without stuttering, then you won’t be able to read your gut feelings. So it’s very important to get a grip on yourself and just relax.

What if she turns you down?…

Before you approach any woman, tell yourself that it’s perfectly OK if she doesn’t go out with you. Heck, it’s perfectly fine if she doesn’t like you at all. Your life will be no different than it is now, but you will have more experience in approaching women. That’s it.

Read this over and over until you get it: You have absolutely nothing to lose.

Lots of men get their egos crushed because a really hot girl won’t go out with them.

Well, guess what? Fact is there are hundreds of reasons why she may not want to go out with you – or with anyone else for that matter.

She could be in a committed relationship, could be a lesbian, could be grieving a loss of some sort, could be having her time of the month, could be having a bad day for any other number of reasons, etc.

Or, you simply may not be her type. And that’s OK too. Wouldn’t you agree that’s it’s better to know up front?

With all that put together, assuming that you are her type, you have a 20% chance (at best) of succeeding when you approach a woman. That’s life, deal with it. This bears repeating. At any given time, a woman may not be interested in any man whatsoever. Accept that and go on. It’s just a fact of life.

The key point here is not to take it personally and go hide in the closet. Follow your heart and approach all the women you feel attracted to. You will find one, or more, that you really click with. Have fun and don’t take life so seriously.

How to approach her – the magical ice breaker

Now that we’re past that, it’s time to actually move in. She’s not going to know you like her if she doesn’t know you exist. So let’s get on with it.

Simply go talk to her.

There’s no magic to it. Just go over there and make some small talk. Don’t be overly eager and don’t have a firm agenda. Just say hello and see what happens.

Let her feel you out.

Think of two dogs when they first meet – they growl a little and spend lots of time sniffing each other. People do the same thing really… it’s all about getting a feel for the other person. We like to think we’re more evolved than lower animals like dogs, but they actually have a lot to teach us. I’ve yet to ever meet a person that’s as pure at heart as a dog…

Ask her out – leaving the “Friend Zone”

At some point you’re going to have to make your move and depart the friend zone. Now, this may not be in the first minute or two, and maybe not even the first time you talk to her. The key here again is self confidence. You’ll also need a little patience.

Take your time and feel it out first. Don’t make her choose until you know she’s comfortable enough with you to give you a chance and you’re comfortable enough to take the chance.

Now, on the sex and physical attraction issue…

Most guys assume that men and women want drastically different things, and sex is something that’s to be won over from the woman – like a special gift. Wrong! That’s a very dangerous perspective which will leave you doing the sex thing all by yourself for a long time.

Many years ago my father gave me a bit of insight on this. He said “she wants it just as much as you do”. In my early teens that nugget didn’t really do much for me. But as I grew into an adult, that advice took on special meaning. It’s important to remember that women want and need companionship (and yes, even sex) just as much as men do.

Love yourself – guys read this section, it’s for you

Decide today to love and embrace yourself. Yes, even as a guy, you can still love and embrace who you are. In fact, guys are notorious for self loathing and not appreciating themselves.

Guess what?

As any good salesman will tell you, if you don’t believe in yourself and in what you’re selling, nobody’s going to buy from you. If you don’t love yourself and don’t think highly of yourself, nobody else will either. Guaranteed.

So get over the self punishing and self loathing and decide to change your life today. Yes, you.

Need some help going up to her or asking her out?

For advice on how to approach a woman and ask her out, let’s get some advice from some of the experts in the pick up and seduction community.

Download and read this helpful guide to approaching women:

Guy Gets Girl – a Pickup, Dating And Seduction Guide written for men… By a woman!

This guide will help you increase your confidence so you can approach women more easily and get better results.

A word of warning. Some of the advice from the seduction and approaching experts involves psychological and hypnosis tricks to get women to want you, to trust you, to open up to you, etc.

But always remember to be yourself, because while many of these tricks will get you that hot girl for the night, they won’t get you a real girlfriend. In the end she’s going to see you for who you really are and you’re better off getting her to like the real you from the beginning.

In summary

Don’t put her on a pedestal – treat her like a regular person.
Be nice, friendly, and open.
Approach her… Yes, you will have to do this eventually.
Talk to her about something, anything. It’s not about what you say; it’s how you say it.
Download the Guy Gets Girl guide for a confidence boost on approaching her and asking her out.
Now go for it! Onward – no fear.