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3 Mistakes You Should Steer Clear Of When Learning How To Give A Blowjob

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If you are trying to brush up on your oral sex skills, the first thing that you need to learn about is the worst mistakes that you can ever make. Although you might think that any blowjob is better than not receiving one at all – most men would wish that you to be skilled at it. 

They would most definitely prefer not getting a blowjob at all rather than receiving a bad one – especially if you are a ‘teeth-grazer’ or if you treat a penis like it’s your grandmother’s fine china! 

So if you do want to better your skills in bed and learn how to give a BJ or a blowjob, here is a list of the top three mistakes that you should steer clear of:

Mistake #1: Not Lending Him A Helping Hand

Perhaps one of the most common mistakes that women make when learning how to give a BJ is not using their hands enough. Remember that just like your vagina, there are secret crevices, curves and veins around his shaft and below his balls which require attention.

In order for you to explore these zones and give him some oral loving that he is not bound to forget anytime soon, make sure to lend him a helping hand. Move your hands up and down his shaft within the area which is not covered by your mouth. The motion of your hands and lips should be one fluid movement – which makes him feel as if you are taking it all in.

Mistake #2: Giving Him The Death Grip  

There’s a thin line between sucking firmly, and gripping him with your mouth as if you are trying to strangle a live chicken. If you don’t want to give him the death grip – either using your mouth of your hands – make sure to always listen to his moans and groans.

If the sounds that he is making are moans of pleasure rather than groans of pain – then you are on the right track.

Mistake #3:  Ignoring His Balls

You might hear how some men refer to their genitalia as his ‘package’ – and this is because the shaft of his penis should not be separated from their cousins – which are his balls.

While going down on him, make sure that you are well acquainted with his balls. Use your free hand to caress his balls – try not to squeeze too hard – tickle, tease them and do whatever it is that you want to do, just don’t ignore them!

By avoiding the top three mistakes that women make when learning how to give a BJ, you will be on your way towards mastering the art of giving head. 

After learning about the top three blowjob mistakes that you should steer clear of, visit our site to learn more about what exactly you should do to properly give him head – and lead him to have an orgasm that he is not bound to forget anytime soon.

3 Mistakes Women Make in Porn Blowjob Videos

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Since most women do not like watching hardcore porn videos, are there any lessons or mistakes that they can take a cue from when watching blowjob videos? Although it seems as if the women starring in these porn films are doing everything right, there are a few mistakes here and there which can serve as a lesson for other women.

Basically, your goal should be to blow a man right out of his mind – so you should steer clear of some of these mistakes when giving him head.

Mistake #1: Using Your Teeth

Okay, this one is something that you hardly ever see on blowjob videos – but that’s exactly the point! It’s really quite a major thing if you graze his penis with your teeth. You can either cause him discomfort or downright pain – or the fact that you had your teeth down there will be a major turnoff for him, so things will not really end up as you expect.

Mistake #2: Holding On To His Penis With A Death Grip

You don’t necessarily know how much force those female adult film stars are exerting on their stud partners on screen. So just because their grip looks tight, it doesn’t mean that you should imitate the ‘death grip’ in real life. The shaft of the penis can probably take the extra pressure, but the other more sensitive areas, not much so.

As such, it would help if you will listen to his moans and groans so that you would know exactly how much force to apply. You can also take a cue from the way that he runs his fingers through your head, or the way that he cocks his hips.

What you can do instead is use a combination of your hands and mouth to give him head – and don’t forget to pay close attention to his other manly parts that most women forget. This includes his family jewels and that oh-so-sensitive area on the underside of his shaft.

Mistake #3: Going Down On Him Too Soon

When you see a clip from an adult site, the camera is immediately focusing on a woman giving head to a man. If you don’t want to end things a little too soon, don’t go proceed to the main event just yet.

If women prefer a lot of foreplay just before penetrative sex, men would appreciate it if you will worship other parts of his body first – before zeroing in on his penis.

In Summary

There’s really a great deal of lessons that you can learn when watching a blowjob video. But the first thing that you need to learn are the aforementioned mistakes that you need to steer clear of when giving him head.

Next Steps

Now that you already have an idea about the top mistakes that women make when giving head, the next thing that you should learn about are the steps on how to give him a mind-blowing orgasm.

Oral Sex – Should It Hurt?

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Oral sex is one of the most pleasurable sex acts that couples can engage in and many people enjoy giving and receiving oral sex. It’s a great way to strengthen the bond between two individuals and keep your sex life satisfying, but sometimes it can hurt! Should oral sex hurt or is there really something wrong?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

When wife gives me oral sex, it seems to hurt more than it feels good. Is there something wrong with me?

–Kevin, Michigan

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When Does It Hurt?

It’s important to find out when your genitals hurt or become uncomfortable. If your genitals hurt all the time, such as during oral sex, during urination and at other times, you might want to consider making an appointment with your doctor.

While oral sex can sometimes hurt if the person giving oral sex doesn’t have good technique, your genitals should not hurt or be uncomfortable at other times. It never hurts to get checked out – it’s always better to be safe than sorry.

Technique

Most likely, your partner’s technique is what is causing you discomfort. Both types of oral sex – fellatio and cunnilingus – can become uncomfortable and even painful if your partner doesn’t have good technique. Teeth can get in the way and even a tongue that moves too quickly or is rough can become uncomfortable.

Abrasive facial hair is a big issue for women receiving oral sex as it can often make the genitals raw and painful after an oral sex session. Often, both men and women have poor technique when it comes to oral sex. Men are often too rough with women during cunnilingus and many women suck too hard or squeeze too tight during fellatio.

If receiving oral sex from your partner is uncomfortable and painful at all, try to pinpoint exactly what they’re doing that is causing you discomfort. Is your partner pressing too hard with their teeth, or are their teeth scraping you too hard? Is your partner performing oral sex on you too fast or using their hands in a way that feels rough?

Talk To Each Other

When it comes to oral sex – or any kind of sex, for that matter – communication between the two partners is key. If something becomes uncomfortable or painful, it’s important to let your partner know in a completely non-critical way.

Let your partner know that a certain activity is uncomfortable, but also suggest something that you like instead. Giving your partner positive feedback during an oral sex session is one of the best ways to communicate to your partner what not to do, simply by letting them know what you do like.

If you like a certain maneuver or technique during oral sex, your partner will automatically want to use that technique to give you the maximum amount of pleasure. Just let your partner know what you like! If your partner is going something wrong, suggest ways that they can do it differently that would be more pleasurable for you or keep oral sex from being uncomfortable.

Back and forth communication is the best way to keep oral sex pleasurable instead of becoming uncomfortable or painful. Your partner will most likely appreciate positive input and your sexual relationship will become better and more fulfilling and satisfying.

Getting Her To Give You Oral Sex More Often

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Many people love receiving oral. In fact, most people do. Whether you’re a guy or a gal, receiving oral sex can be extremely pleasurable.

However, giving oral sex might not be as fun. Some people don’t like to give oral sex at all, or they seldom give it because it makes them uncomfortable.

If you want oral sex to become a regular part of your routine, how can you get your partner to give more oral?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

Hi, I’m 18 and my girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for over a year and are very happy together; but, I don’t think she gives me oral often enough – like once in the past few months.

I talk to my friends and it seems like i’m the only one not getting it. I’ve spoken to her about it and asked why, but she just said “Do any girls really like doing it?” and sort of didn’t talk any more about it and i didn’t want to ask again since in case she thinks i’m nagging.

I think that if i ask the right way then she will but i’d hate to say “suck me off” or “gimmie a BJ” as I treat her with much more respect than that. Any ideas what i could say… or do to change her mind?

— Adam, UK

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The Taste And Smell of Oral Sex

The biggest complaint from oral sex givers is that both male and female genitals have their own taste and smell. Sometimes the smell or taste more strongly than other times, but this is something that is completely natural. However, a strong taste and smell might be off putting for someone who is giving oral sex.

You can make sure your partner is enjoying giving you oral sex as much as possible by making sure you’re clean and trimmed. Take a shower right before oral sex if you need to!Although genitals’ natural smell is perfectly normal, if you’ve been outside mowing the lawn all day, it might be a little strong for someone to consider going down on you.

You can also improve the taste of your genitals through what you eat. Naturally sweet foods, such as strawberries and pineapples, make semen and vaginal secretions taste sweeter, so giving oral sex is more pleasurable…

Talk To Your Partner About How Much You Enjoy Oral Sex

Although it might be an uncomfortable issue to bring up, talking to your partner about how much you enjoy oral sex and how much oral sex you would like to have is the only way to communicate your needs and wants to them.

Don’t expect your partner to read your mind! Your partner might be completely unaware that the status quo isn’t working for you. Speak up and give your partner a chance to meet your expectations. It’s likely that your partner wants to please you, but doesn’t know how much or how often you would like to have oral sex.

There’s Nothing More Giving Than A Sexually Satisfied Woman

Make sure that your partner gets something pleasurable out of giving you oral sex. Perhaps you could give your partner oral sex in return, or even try having simultaneous oral sex. If your partner views giving you oral sex as a chore, they won’t be very interested in giving oral.

Try getting your partner turned on before asking for oral sex. If they’re sexually aroused, they might be more inclined to give oral sex than if they’re not aroused at all.

By the same token, make sure you’re not a bore to give oral sex to! If you’re very quiet during sex or don’t let your partner know that you’re enjoying it, how will they know you’re enjoying it? They won’t!

Make a few noises or let your partner know you’re really into it in some other way. Many people who give oral sex suggest that they get more turned on by giving oral sex if their partner is clearly having a good time. All in all, just talk to your partner about your sexual wants, needs and expectations so you both are on the same page.

Oral Sex and Orgasm Dilemma – I Want To Finish In Her Mouth…

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Men love blow jobs. That’s a fact.

Many men also love finishing in a woman’s mouth during a blow job.

It can make them feel powerful or good about themselves and for some men, it just feels better physically to orgasm in a woman’s mouth than finishing another way.

Unfortunately, not all women relish the idea of having a man orgasm in her mouth.

There can be many different reasons why, but if you’re a man who enjoys finishing in a woman’s mouth, it can be disheartening when she doesn’t want to.  What can you do?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

When my wife gives me a blow job, she can’t quite let me finish in her mouth. Is there any advice you can give her?

– Pete, Alberta

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It’s a texture thing

Some women don’t like the texture or consistency of ejaculate.  There’s no need to get into details here, but ejaculate in a woman’s mouth may make her gag simply because of the consistency and texture.  If this is her primary reason for not wanting you to finish in her mouth, there’s not too much you can do about it.  Can you finish elsewhere?

It’s a taste thing

Many women dislike the taste of ejaculate.  That’s not bad news because the taste of your ejaculate can differ depending on what you eat.  Garlic and onions may make your ejaculate taste bitter while strawberries and sweet fruits will make your ejaculate taste sweeter.

If this is your partner’s issue, you can change your diet to make your ejaculate easier to swallow.  Just remember to get feedback from your partner about what foods work well and what doesn’t.

It’s a gag reflex thing

Many women have big gag reflexes. It can’t be helped!  While she may be able to tolerate deep throating and blow jobs in general, ejaculate in her mouth might send her over the edge.  This is also something that you can’t really do anything about, so if this is the case, you should discuss with your partner some other ways to finish you while still making it feel good.

It’s a mental thing

Having a man ejaculate in her mouth is a very personal and even submissive thing for a woman.  If your partner was abused in any way, sexually or physically, she may have some serious issues with letting go and letting you finish in her mouth.

If your partner has emotional reasons for not wanting to let you orgasm in her mouth, have her talk to a therapist and work out some of her inner issues.  If she does let you finish in her mouth, it’s important to be supportive and positive, and show her that you truly do care and you’re not just using her.

There are many great ways for a man to have an orgasm with a woman after a blow job, without having to finish in her mouth.  Get creative and find different ways that she can please you without having to swallow ejaculate.

If the idea of ejaculating in her mouth really turns you on but she simply can’t come to terms with it, try flavored condoms or regular condoms that are made for this specific purpose.  The feeling might decrease a little bit, but you’ll get to finish in her mouth and she won’t have to swallow it so everyone wins!

Most of all, it’s important to talk with your partner about these issues and find common ground so you can both get pleasure from oral sex.