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Blowjob Tips: How To Give Head To An Uncircumcised Penis

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A blowjob should be different for an uncircumcised guy – you’re not necessarily going to use the same blowjob tips for an uncircumcised guy as you would a circumcised one. Your technique should differ a little between the two, if you really want to be a master at giving a blowjob. So here’s what you need to know if he’s uncut.

Getting Clean – It’s His Job

Most of the care for an uncircumcised penis is in the man’s court – that is to say, it is his responsibility to keep his penis, foreskin and underneath his foreskin clean and dry for your comfort during fellatio. An uncircumcised penis has more crevices in which debris and bacteria can hide, making it unpleasant for the woman during fellatio. By making sure that his penis is clean, an uncircumcised male can ensure that his partner will enjoy fellatio as much as he does.

Most men already do this – and have been from a young age. However, some uncircumcised guys don’t – and that can make things pretty unpleasant for the girl. If your guy isn’t super clean, you can always make a shower part of foreplay and make washing his penis sexy. Soap him up and rub him down while you talk dirty in his ear – you’ll fire him up for a great blowjob and get him clean in one fell swoop, without him ever knowing what you were really up to.

Being A Little More Careful

Of course, the woman must keep her end of the bargain up as well – even if his uncircumcised penis is clean, trimmed and ready to go, she must be more careful with her fellatio technique than she would if she were performing fellatio on a circumcised male. Why is that? Remember, a circumcised penis has had thousands and thousands of sensitive nerve endings removed. As a result, although a circumcised penis is very receptive to touch, it is more desensitized than an uncircumcised penis. A man will never know the difference, since he is either one or the other, but a woman that has been performing fellatio on a circumcised penis is used to stronger, more direct strokes. It is very important that for an uncircumcised man, a woman use less direct strokes and a softer approach.

So it is safe to say that the fellatio technique used on a circumcised male is a lot rougher than the technique that would be used on an uncircumcised male. A woman performing fellatio on an uncircumcised penis needs to be especially careful not to scrape her teeth on her partner’s penis or suck too hard – the foreskin is so sensitive to these maneuvers that a stroke that is too hard or rough may turn him off at best and cause him pain at worst.

As long as the female is gentle and the penis is clean, fellatio on an uncircumcised male can be a pleasant experience for both the man and the woman!

Blowjob Troubleshooting: How To Erase Your Concerns And Love Giving Head!

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A blowjob is something almost every guy loves – but there are lots of things that keep women from going down there. Nix her fears and get great head TONIGHT!

You may or may not have noticed that a man generally does not enjoy interruptions during fellatio. Even if your partner is on the brink of orgasm and the fellatio is interrupted, it will probably take him a fair amount of time to build that excitement back up and get close to having an orgasm again. Fellatio is generally not a “pick up where you left off” sort of thing.

With that having been said, we think it is very important to have all of the items that you’re going to be using during the fellatio session handy so that any interruptions are short – and of course, keep interruptions to only those that are necessary to the fellatio session. Put on your voicemail or answering machine and shut the television off! Keep distractions minimal. Ladies, this is not just for your partner’s pleasure!

If you are truly seeking to give your partner an orgasm through fellatio and the fellatio is interrupted once or twice, that will keep you between his legs for that much longer and we’re going to be honest here – fellatio is a lot of work! If you stay completely focused on your partner and minimize all distractions, which is less time you spend developing a crick in your neck!

My Mouth Gets Tired/Sore

As with any unused muscle in your body, it will tire out when you first start regularly exercising it. Same holds true for bobbing up and down on your partner. Start with some sucking and switch to your hand in between time when your jaws start to get sore. You can also switch to intercourse while you begin to build up your time. Think of it like when you learned to hold your breath underwater as a kid. At first, you couldn’t stay down for more than a few seconds, but the more your practiced, the longer you lasted.

It Takes Too Long

The more you communicate about what he likes, the less time you may feel you are spending on just “sucking”. There are many ways to stimulate him by exploring his entire body with licks, sucks and hand stimulation. Knowing his trigger points and gauging his responses to what you try will allow you to target in on his favorites. Spending time on other sensitive parts of his body and utilizing some key dirty talk phrases will “prime his pump”, getting him so turned on that he might just explode within seconds of being in your mouth. Women usually take longer to orgasm orally than men, so a blow job shouldn’t be viewed as a “job” but more of a “joy” from the pleasure you’re providing. Check your mindset and the time will pass quickly as you realize how much he’s enjoying you focusing on him entirely.

It Smells Bad

Fellas, this section is for you! And there are only two simple rules:

If it’s dirty… wash it!

If it’s hairy … trim it or shave it! (sweat, etc. hangs on tighter with hair, than without).

Men, hear me out on this one. I’d like to suggest that you purchase some Summer’s Eve Feminine Body Wash. Though this product is marketed for a woman’s lower parts, I can attest to the fact that it does the trick on ANY lower body odor. Keep it in the shower and use it especially right before she goes down on you. So suck it up and go to the store and purchase some on the feminine product aisle. She will thank you with repeated visits if she isn’t hit in the face with a foul smell.

It Tastes Bad

Certain foods (garlic, asparagus, etc.) as well as smoking, etc. are reported as being transferred into the taste of a man’s semen. Pineapples, Melons and Cinnamon are a few things that can help improve the taste of semen.

Deep Throat Techniques That Will Leave Him Breathless And Begging For More!

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Deep throat is a blowjob technique that many women can’t do – but every guy wishes they could. Learn how to deep throat and make his fantasies come true!

Okay, so you’ve been practicing your fellatio techniques and your partner loves it, but you’re ready to pull a few more tricks out of your bag. Not to worry – where there’s innovation, there’s an awesome fellatio session! You can use a variety of new techniques to create a fun and exciting session and if you get a little creative, you might discover a technique that both you and your partner go crazy for! Here, we’re going to give you a few ideas that you can bring with you into the bedroom – or elsewhere!

The Art Of The Deep Throat

The deep throat is possibly one of the best oral sex techniques that you can have in your repertoire – but it’s not for everybody! You will take your partner’s penis into your mouth completely – all the way down to the base. A good portion of your partner’s penis will end up past your gag reflex and into your throat, hence the name “deep throating.” Some women cannot perform deep throat fellatio due to large glands, tonsils or a particularly strong gag reflex. Some women make excellent deep throaters by nature – there are some women that do not have a gag reflex at all! If you are like most women, however, and are in the middle of the deep-throating road (you can deep throat, but your gag reflex sometimes prevents you from doing it as much or as well as you or your partner would like during fellatio), not to worry. These types of women can end up being great deep throaters with practice, practice, practice!

Oral Sex Positions For Deep Throat

Having the proper positioning during deep throating can make all the difference in the world. Remember, the biggest hindrance to deep throating is your gag reflex. Taking your partner’s penis into your throat in a standard fellatio position (any position in which your head is not facing your partner’s feet) will put your partner’s penis right in the line of fire of your gag reflex.

In these oral sex positions, your partner’s penis will directly hit the back of your throat and you will most likely gag, making your eyes water and probably turning off your partner in the process! If you want to have deep throat success, you will need to position yourself properly. You can be creative, but any position in which your head is facing your partner’s feet will allow his penis to go more smoothly down your throat and avoid hitting your gag reflex directly. Even if you utilize this positioning during deep throating, you will still need lots of practice to get it down pat.

Practice Makes Perfect!

Try just doing a few deep throat strokes per fellatio session or for a designated number of minutes and then increase the time spent deep throating during each fellatio session until you have built up a good tolerance for it. Once you have done this, you may even begin to enjoy deep throating and the wonderful sensations it gives your partner. You can work on your natural gag reflex by practicing on a dildo that is the same size as your mate.

Without the pressure of the moment, some women can train themselves to not gag by utilizing a sex toy. For some women, it’s worth time to master the ability! Your man will thank you!

Fellatio: What YOU Need To Now About Penile Anatomy

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Fellatio has to start somewhere. Before you engage in the art of fellatio, learn your way around your partner’s sensitive spots to give the ultimate head.

Unlike a vulva, which has as many different parts as it has folds and creases; a penis is pretty cut and dry when it comes to anatomy. This does not mean, however, that penile anatomy does not need to be taken into consideration. Learning the anatomy of a penis is the first step to knowing what you’re doing when it comes to fellatio and it will also help serve as a map when we go into detail about what to do where later in the book. With that having been said, let’s explore the different parts of your guy’s anatomy.

The Shaft

There are many misconceptions about the shaft when it comes to fellatio. Although it comprises the majority of the penis in both circumcised and uncircumcised males, it is the part that has the least amount of nerve endings. During fellatio, it is a wonderful sensation for the man to have the shaft enveloped by a warm, wet mouth but a tongue licking only up and down the shaft is rather boring and may cause his erection to go soft because of the lack of contact on other parts of your partner’s member. This is not a spot to concentrate on for your partner’s pleasure; however, it does have its part in fellatio as a whole. You can also use your hands on the shaft while you entertain more sensitive parts with your tongue and mouth and we’ll explore those techniques later in the book.

The Glans

This is probably the most sensitive part of a man’s penis, also known as the “head.” The glans is much like a clitoris is to the vulva – the source of the majority of the pleasure inducing nerve endings. Also like the clitoris, the glans can be very sensitive and even quite painful to any stimulation following an orgasm and this may be more pronounced depending on the intensity of said orgasm. The largest concentration of nerves in the glans is just at the outer edge or ridge, which is much more pronounced in circumcised males than men who have not been circumcised.

The Frenulum

This too is a spot that is much more pronounced on circumcised males, but that doesn’t mean that men of the uncircumcised variety don’t enjoy attention on this spot as well. The frenulum is the “V” shaped spot that joins the shaft with the glans on the underside of the penis. While not having as many sensitive nerve endings as the glans, this area certainly has more nerve endings than the shaft, so it’s a good place to focus your efforts when you’re ready to heat things up but not bring your partner to a full orgasm just yet. We’ll talk more about exact techniques to use in this spot later in the book. Although the frenulum is less pronounced in uncircumcised males, it actually contains more nerve endings than a circumcised male because it is where the foreskin actually joins the skin of the rest of  it.

The Testicles

The testicles must be approached with care as they are quite possibly the most sensitive (pain-wise) part of the male anatomy. A stroke or touch that is too rough can easily send pain waves throughout your partner’s entire body and turn him off to fellatio completely. This is very similar to how a woman can feel if her sensitive clitoris is handled too roughly – it may turn her off or worse, become uncomfortable and painful to her. Not every man enjoys having his testicles handled, however, so it is important to talk to your partner about this aspect of fellatio before beginning a fellatio session. If he enjoys having his testicles touched, you can utilize blowjob tips that focus on your lover’s scrotum.

The anatomy of a man’s genitals differs greatly, of course, between man to man and even circumcised penis to uncircumcised. Remember, a man is very emotionally sensitive about his anatomy (and his penis size) and any judgment (in either words or facial expressions) can deliver a crippling blow to his ego. Such a situation can make it very emotionally uncomfortable for a man to want to receive fellatio. If this becomes an issue with you and your partner, be sure to discuss it so that both you and he will be more comfortable during a fellatio session.

Oral Sex: Why YOU Need To Think About Safer Fellatio!

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Oral sex isn’t as risky as intercourse when it comes to STD’s, but there is still plenty of risk involved. There’s even more risk involved if you swallow your partner’s semen. Here’s the reason YOU need to think about safer fellatio!

Safer Oral Sex

This is a question with a simple enough answer – or maybe not. Safer oral sex practices depend on the type of sexually transmitted disease that you’re trying to prevent against. If you’re trying to prevent them all, you might as well just go and get a trash bag to cover your partner’s penis and his entire genital area. This is why it is so, so important to have regular exams and STD testing if you and your partner are not monogamous or if you plan to be monogamous, just one STD test before hooking up.

Condoms Are Essential!

If you’d like to practice safer oral sex and don’t enjoy the trash bag idea, you can still protect yourself from many of the other sexually transmitted diseases by using condoms. Condoms will not protect you against genital herpes or the human papillomavirus, however they are so much safer than unprotected oral sex. If you’re fairly concerned about herpes or genital warts, you can combine a condom with plastic wrap (easily found at your local grocery store) to protect your hands and face from coming into contact with skin in your partner’s genital area.

What Kind Of Condoms To Use

The best condoms for fellatio are either the non-lubricated kind or the kind with flavored, edible lubricants. If you try to perform fellatio on a partner wearing a regular, lubricated condom (especially if it is lubricated with spermicide) you are going to be sorry! If you or your partner have a latex allergy, polyurethane condoms are available and can actually be much more useful during fellatio than regular condoms because they tend to be thinner. However, the flavored condoms (which usually come in their corresponding colors) add a bit of fun to a fellatio session while still protecting you and your partner against sexually transmitted diseases that can be contracted through fellatio.

Think About Gloves Too

Condoms are not the only safer-sex tool that you should have on hand if you’re planning on a great (and safer!) fellatio session. Many guys enjoy hand action in addition to oral when receiving fellatio and to be perfectly honest – if infected semen comes into contact with your hands and you happen to have a small cut or abrasion (such as a paper cut) on your skin, you are at a high risk of contracting a sexually transmitted disease. Latex or polyurethane gloves can be your best friend during a fellatio session! These are also great if you are planning to touch your partner’s anus and all and it even keeps long or untrimmed nails and hangnails from scratching your partner and making him uncomfortable.

Don’t Brush It Under The Rug

Sure, insisting on condoms or even gloves during oral sex might make you feel like you’re “ruining the mood,” and it may even make your partner look at you like you’ve lost your mind. That is, however, better than the nurse at the health clinic looking at you like she’s about to tell you that you have HIV.