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Q&A: I Don’t Like Giving A Blowjob – Do I Have To?

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A blowjob is an amazing gift that you can give to a man – it’s not only an act of pure submission to your partner’s pleasure, but it’s also something that feels totally incredible to him if you do it right. But not every girl likes giving head – some girls absolutely HATE doing it! Is a blowjob something you have to do for a guy to please him, or can you keep him sexually satisfied without oral sex?

When I was still dating my ex, every time we had sex he always tried to pressure me into giving him a blowjob. The first time I tried it, I almost gagged because of the taste. He kept begging me to do it and I would keep telling him no. I know for a fact that I won’t be able to avoid it if I become sexually involved in my next relationship. So my question is, how can I still give my future partner the pleasure he deserves without having to do what I don’t like?

–YouTube Viewer

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You Never Have To Do Anything You Don’t Want To Do

When it comes to sex, even if you’re in a relationship, know that you don’t ever have to do anything you don’t want to do. Don’t ever let someone pressure or force you into doing something that you’re not on board with – because frankly, that’s rape. If you don’t like something sexually, simply be honest with your partner and don’t do it. Don’t let them use the “If you love me, you’ll do it” line on you because if they love and care about you, they’ll be willing to compromise with you to find something else that feels good to them but that you don’t absolutely despise.

Do Most Women Enjoy Giving A Blowjob?

Sexual preferences are so diverse between people that it’s really unfair for you to try to compare yourself to other women and what they like or don’t like. The truth is, there are a lot of girls that LOVE giving their partners a blowjob. For them, sex just isn’t complete without giving their partner oral sex first. Then again, there are also lots of other girls who – like you – can’t stand it. It doesn’t turn them on and in many cases, it actually grosses them out. The same goes for guys – some guys are into oral sex and others aren’t. There’s no set rule on whether you have to enjoy giving your lover a blowjob to be “normal” or “like other women.”

Why Do Some Girls Not Like Performing Fellatio?

There are a number of reasons why some women don’t like performing fellatio on their partners, all of which are very valid reasons for not wanting to give a blowjob:

  • Some women have a stronger gag reflex than others. For these women, it’s not even about deep throating – they’ll gag before their partner’s penis even touches the back of their throat.
  • They’re afraid of having to swallow their partner’s semen.
  • The taste or texture of semen can make a woman gag or vomit.

How To Make Giving Oral Sex Better

If you don’t like giving a blowjob but want to try to make it better for yourself so that you can give the gift of oral sex to the person you care about, there are several things you can do to make giving head a little easier:

  • Use a condom to keep the semen from getting in your mouth when your lover ejaculates. A flavored condom is an even better choice if you have issues with the taste of your partner’s penis in general.
  • Don’t try to deep throat – this WILL set off your gag reflex. Instead, use your hand at the base of your partner’s penis to stroke his shaft, and keep only the head of his penis in your mouth.
  • If not using a condom, ask for a fair warning before he ejaculates. There should be plenty of time for him to pull out of your mouth and ejaculate into a towel or a tissue.
  • Finish your lover off with a great handjob if you don’t want to swallow.
  • If you want to try swallowing but the taste grosses you out, there are many things you can do to improve the taste of his semen. Eliminate smoking, drinking and eating pungent foods like garlic and onions. Instead, substitute sweeter foods like pineapple (which can work wonders), strawberries and supplement with lots of water. This won’t improve the texture of his semen, but it will make it taste sweeter to you and a lot less bitter.

5 Porn Star Blowjob Secrets EXPOSED!

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A blowjob is an amazing gift you can give to your partner – even better than sex. Every guy loves getting head – there’s nothing that compares to the feeling of a hot, wet mouth on his penis. However, there are far too many girls that don’t know how to give a good blowjob, leaving their men to watch porn and wish their girlfriends and wives could suck them like that. Make his fantasies come true by learning a blowjob like a porn star! Here are five porn star blowjob secrets that turn boring, run of the mill oral sex into something incredible!

Play With It First

All good porn stars know that you can’t just put your mouth on a guy’s cock and expect fireworks to happen. Guys need a little warm up time too, although they need far less than girls. So warm your guy up by playing with his penis a little first, before you start sucking on it. Rub it lightly over his underwear or over the sheet while you’re lying in bed. Rub it against your cheek, your lips and your face. Give yourself a little smack with it! Your enthusiasm and obvious love for his member will turn him on more than anything else.

Make Eye Contact & Smile

A guy really wants to see that you’re enjoying giving him head. You can let him know that you love what you’re doing by looking him in the eye and smiling when you’re going down on him. If you ask almost any man what his favorite thing about his partner is, he will likely either say her eyes or her smile – or both. When you make deep, soulful eye contact with your lover and smile while giving him a blowjob, you’ll not only make his knees weak with pleasure but you’ll also get him involved emotionally.

Deep Throat

Deep throating is hard work. It’s easy to gag and in some cases, women have vomited because their lover’s penis aggravated their gag reflex so much. (It wasn’t their fault). Men love to have women deep throat them though – in fact, many guys feel like it’s the “holy grail” of getting oral sex. Fortunately, you can still deep throat – without vomiting – even if you have a strong gag reflex. It’s a learned skill that takes practice (and breathing through your nose). Practice deep throating each time you give your lover a blowjob, and you’ll get better and better at it.

Don’t Be Afraid To Swallow

Most porn stars aren’t afraid to swallow their partner’s semen. Some seem to really, really love it! Sure, it’s an acquired taste and all, but the truth is, if you can learn to stomach it (or learn to love it), your man will LOVE his blowjob. There’s just something super sexy – and ultra naughty – about a woman who swallows her man’s spunk like it’s the most delicious thing she’s ever tasted. If you can’t manage to bring yourself to swallow, have a towel nearby that you can discreetly spit his semen in when he’s finished. If you’re acting like you can’t get enough, he’s not going to notice or care if you spit in a towel while he’s not looking.

Bring The Variety

Some girls get in a “rut” when it comes to giving a blowjob. They find a few techniques that work well and use them over and over again. Worse yet are the women that thing simply moving their mouth up and down their lover’s penis is a good blowjob. If you want to give head like a porn star and make your guy get down on his knees and beg for more, you want to learn several great techniques that you can mix and match when going down on him.

When going down on your lover, take note of his reactions each time you use a new technique. Play with it a little – this is part of the fun of giving excellent head! Try a technique and judge his reaction. Does he love it? Does he moan, grunt or thrust his pelvis towards your face? Or does he just kind of sit back, waiting for you to do something else? When you pay attention to his cues and body language, you’ll learn what he likes and doesn’t like. Then, take a mental note of what works (forget about what doesn’t) and use the best techniques in a different order and at different times to keep things fresh.

4 Naughty, Forbidden Places For Great Oral Sex

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Oral sex is a lot of fun, but it can be even more titillating when you do it somewhere other than your bedroom. Here’s where to go to make oral sex even hotter.

As in most things, a little creativity can go a long way to spicing up your relationship. If you think about it, performing fellatio on a guy is pretty straight-forward, but add to that the elements of forbidden areas, stolen moment, and the fear of getting caught – well, it could be the best sex you guys have ever had!

On The Balcony

So near, yet so far. This is the feeling you guys will get when you engage in oral sex at your own balcony. Think about it. You’re still ‘home’. It’s your own place. And there’s probably a spot secluded enough so that nobody else can see you but at the same time, you guys are so ‘out there’. What if the neighbor see? Imagine the thrill!

If your woman is game with these things then lucky you! However, if she’s not that adventurous, take baby steps to convince her. For example, have an al fresco dinner and engage in light foreplay. Kiss her deeply until she feels comfortable with allowing you to place your hand under her clothes.

Take it just a little bit further each time you go out on the balcony. Soon enough, you’ll reach a stage when you both want more and this is the perfect time to guide her to go down and perform fellatio on you.

Wet & Wild – Oceanside Or Poolside?

If you have your own swimming pool, great. This would make it easier for you to engage in oral sex in your own pool. For this event, the thrill is in the fact that you guys are still in the water. If your pool is outside your home with neighbors potentially looking in, all the better! Again, use your imagination. Don’t just do it on the sides of the pool. Think pool steps or even on the diving board!

If poolside doesn’t work for you guys, then how about ocean-side? Granted, salt water does make it difficult for her to perform fellatio on you while you’re standing in the ocean but it doesn’t mean it can’t be done for a few seconds. This is especially thrilling if there are other swimmers nearby.

Of course, there are other areas where you guys can engage in oral sex. For instance, what about a secluded side of the beach? Or why not hire a raft, go out into the ocean and perform oral sex on each other there? You’ll have your own natural water-bed.

Out In The Open

Another great place to engage in oral sex is out in the open space. Take a hike one weekend, find a secluded, grassy area and have an afternoon romp. You can also try an open field. This is great if you own a nice, big piece of land but if you don’t, that’s ok, just go for a nice walk into some nearby woods or park near you. Just be careful of two things: poisonous plants and the potential presence of ferocious wildlife!

In The Kitchen

We’ve been discussing areas outside the home, but really, a lot of people can’t even make this sex fantasy come true: oral sex or intercourse in the kitchen.

Well, now is the time to take that step and fulfill this fantasy of yours. After all, especially if you’re just starting to be more adventurous, the kitchen offers a LOT of areas for comfortable oral sex: the counter, the dining table, kitchen sink, etc.

Another plus with doing it in the kitchen is that you’re near some very handy props. Admittedly, there’s less props you can use while performing fellatio (compared to performing cunnilingus) but there are some old reliable staples you can use like whipped cream, liquid chocolate, and of course, peanut butter. As these items are all literally within an arm’s reach, there’s no need to break the momentum during oral sex. And so what if it gets a bit messy? The kitchen sink and tea towels are just nearby!

All these areas aim to increase the excitement factor and makes performing oral sex on you a whole new experience for her too. So the next time you plan to ask her to perform fellatio, surprise her with just how naughty you can be with these new, hot and sexy ideas.

5 Fellatio Mistakes – And What To Do About Them

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Fellatio is great – of course, if everything goes smoothly. Here are five things that you don’t want to happen during a blowjob (but that do) and how to deal.

Unlike what you may see in adult-rated movies, sex in real life can actually be awkward and funny. Slipping, fanny farts and sloppy wet noises are ALL part of making love. You can’t escape them. The tick is of course how to deal with these situations; how you convert the seemingly embarrassing situation into one that’s not.

The same goes with oral sex. There are issues that might occur so it’s up to you guys to deal with it in such a way that it doesn’t completely destroy the sexual charge in the bedroom!

The following items are scenarios that can likely happen during oral sex. They’re not meant to discourage you and your partner with engaging in oral sex at all. They’re meant as a guide to help you guys get over potentially awkward, yet real life situations easily.

Your Pubic Hair Gets In Her Teeth

This happens more often than you think. You’re so turned on by the sexual pleasure and she’s so into what she’s doing that unwittingly, a strand of your pubic hair gets caught in her teeth and gets yanked. Ouch!

The best way to deal with this is of course to laugh it off. Now how to get that hair out? The worst thing she can do is to make a big show out of it by sitting up and trying to get the hair out with her mouth wide open and her fist in it. Instead, she should casually – almost quietly and without drawing attention to it – take the hair out from her mouth and simply wipe the hair on the bed sheet to deal with later.

Her Dentures Get Dislodged

Actually, if HE didn’t’ notice it, SHE should simply go ahead as if nothing happened. However, the problem here is that often, her instinctive reaction is of course to ‘catch’ the slipping dentures with her hand, or worse, by closing her mouth. If this happens, and if she caused you pain, she should remedy the situation by slowly, lovingly licking and caressing the injured spot.

She Accidentally  Bites You

Sometimes women get so turned on by performing fellatio that they get a tad carried away and he can feel her teeth slowly, but firmly, touching his manhood. First of all, if you feel this guys, speak up! Simply touch her hair lovingly – don’t yank because you’re in a panic – and ask her to ease up a bit. Believe me, she will understand.

The same goes if she’s using her nails, have tongue jewelry or even hand jewelry that you feel is too close for comfort. Simply speak up before the ‘accident’ occurs.

You Have Gas

If women are afraid of fanny farts, men get conscious too of letting out gas especially if their women are down there performing fellatio on them. If this does occur, what do you do? Really, the best thing to do is simply pretend like it didn’t happen.

However, if what you released was not pleasant at all, then be a gentleman and stop for a while. It’s no use for you to go out of the room as the deed was done there. However, what you can do is ask her to stop, pull her up so you guys are face-to-face and get into some deep kissing. This way, the sexual rhythm is not that shattered, yet you save her from suffering down there or worse, give her time to laugh and make fun of you.

She Gags While Deep Throating

Some women can be too adventurous and try to bring their man’s manhood all inside her mouth to deep throat him. The problem is, if her mouth really can’t accommodate him, she’ll experience what most people call a ‘gag reflex’ and this is not pleasant – for you and her. The best thing to do is for her to pause as proceeding might only push her to gag further.

However, this does not mean she should stop stimulation of your manhood altogether. She can simply take you out of her mouth and use her hand for a while to stimulate you while she catches her breath.

In the end, a good sense of humor is all it takes to get over these oral sex problems. The more you focus on them, and the longer you focus on them, the bigger the blunder gets and the more awkward the situation becomes. Don’t let this happen, as this may become a deterrent in engaging in oral sex in the future.

Have a laugh, jot it down as experience, and move on!

Q&A: How To Avoid Using Your Teeth During A Blowjob

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Oral sex is amazing for a guy – some men even favor oral sex over traditional vaginal intercourse, believe it or not! Fact is, a blowjob is an incredible gift that you can give your guy – unless your pearly whites get caught on his member! Then, you’ve caused more pain than pleasure and it’s not really a gift at all! If you’re experienced at giving head, you probably know how to keep your teeth to yourself but then again, many women think they know how to go down on a guy, when really all they’re doing is causing him pain and discomfort with their teeth! Are you really blowing his mind, or is he humoring you because he doesn’t want to tell you you’re actually hurting him? Here’s how NOT to scrape your teeth against his penis during a blowjob.

Hi Dan and Jenn, my teeth always seem to get in the way when I give my boyfriend a blowjob and I’m afraid of hurting him. Do you know what I could do to stop this? I love your channel!

–YouTube Viewer

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You REALLY Don’t Want To Use Your Teeth

No matter how kinky you think your guy is, or how kinky you are, it’s not the time to nibble or bite when giving a blowjob. Teeth can put an amazing amount of pressure on a man’s penis, and that’s just scary – not to mention all the horror stories guys have heard about men getting their penises bit off during oral sex (most of them aren’t true, but these are horror stories that circulate the locker room nonetheless). Fact is, guys are just terrified of your pearly whites, plain and simple. So no, you really don’t want to use them during a blowjob – on purpose, on accident or otherwise.

Use Your Hands Instead

The most common time that the teeth scrape against the penis during oral sex is when a woman tries to put the whole thing in her mouth. Sure, deep throating is great and all if you know how to do it, but most of the time, women accidentally drag their teeth against their lover’s member on the way up. You can avoid this by not going down so far on his penis and using your hand to stimulate the shaft instead. Using your hand as an extension of your mouth gives him pressure and stimulation at the base of his penis (which is necessary for him to reach orgasm) and leaves your mouth free to stimulate the sensitive nerves on the head.

Use Your Tongue And Lips More

A lot of women think that if they just simply suck on a man’s penis, that they’re giving fellatio the right way. Nothing could be further from the truth! A great blowjob doesn’t happen by just sticking a penis in your mouth. You have to have some skill in this area, and use your tongue and lips to stimulate the many different sensitive areas of a man’s genitals.

Licking the head of his penis can be extremely pleasurable for him, especially if you’re using your hands at the base of his shaft to give him a handjob. You can do this more easily if you use a nice, flavored lube that you don’t mind the taste of. Your lips are soft and wet too, so don’t forget how amazing those can feel when you’re kissing all the way up and down his member!

Wrap Your Lips Around His Teeth

As your lover gets closer and closer to orgasm, he’s going to need less licking and sucking and faster, more rhythmic stimulation. You can do this with your hand, but if your lover prefers you using your mouth only, wrap your lips over your teeth as you move your mouth up and down his shaft. This may be a little uncomfortable because in essence, you’re squishing your lips over your teeth and then putting pressure on them, but it’s totally worth it not to drag your teeth over your lover’s shaft as you’re giving him head.

There’s something in it for you too though ladies – ever notice how incredibly soft your lips are after doing this? That’s because you’ve exfoliated all the dead skin off your lips – and there’s also more blood flow to your lips, so they’re nice and plump. So why not give your guy an incredible blowjob before heading out for a date, and then just swipe some clear lip gloss on? People will swear you’ve had work done!

Use Your Hands To Control The Speed

If your partner starts getting really into what you’re doing, he may start thrusting his hips faster and faster as he gets closer to climax. This may end up doing more harm than good, because if he’s going too fast, you’re going to have a lot less control over what is going on and your teeth may slip out from behind your lips and scrape him – which can be worse and do more damage if you’re going fast! If he starts thrusting too fast, use your hands to control his hips and slow him down. He’ll still most likely reach orgasm if you’re going a little slower, and you can avoid any painful accidents.