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Seduction Methods To Close The Deal With ANY Stripper!

A stripper will get typical customers trying to ask them out on a daily basis. YOU need to be different. Once you’re successfully escalating and you can tell she’s feeling the physical attraction, it’s time for you to close the deal.

Don’t Linger In The “ZONE”

Remember the old rule of show business: “leave ‘em wanting more.” You need to be the one to end the conversation and excuse yourself while the interaction is at a high point, so that she wants to see you again soon and pick up where you left off.

Otherwise, the longer you drag out the interaction, the greater the chance that she will feel she needs to get back to hustling and making money. Even if she’s totally into the conversation, she can only talk to you for so long before she’ll start to feel that she needs to get back to work.

2 Ways To Close A Stripper On Duty

1. Get Her Phone Number

Plan on calling her/texting her soon to see her outside of the strip club. Hopefully tonight. Be sure to find out during the conversation when her shift ends.

2. Use A 2nd Location

If her shift ends within the next few hours, make a plan to meet her at another location. I suggest you make it a late-night restaurant—strippers are usually hungry after working a long shift. The key is to invite her to come along and join you somewhere. Lay out a specific plan that is easy for her to agree with.

Set Your Plans In Stone

You may have no intention of heading to this place later tonight, if you’re alone, but you’ve got to present it this way to her—as if your plans for later on are already set, and she’s welcome to come along so you can continue this cool conversation.

In U.S. cities, restaurants like Denny’s, I-Hop, etc are good locations for the meet. Even better are local pub-restaurants where you can grab a burger and some drinks afterwards.

Make it a place that she’s probably already familiar with. If she has no idea where it is, she’s very unlikely to try to drive around and find it in the middle of the night.

Don’t Even Bother Trying To Make A “Date Plan”

Inviting her to dinner or a movie next week while you’re talking to her in the club or while you’re getting a lap dance is pretty much hopeless. If you try to suggest this, she’ll probably agree to it, out of politeness, but she’ll forget all about it as soon as you leave. Besides, she’ll probably be working that night.

Always try to sleep with her tonight. Strippers usually lead busy, hectic (if not chaotic) lives and meet new guys every day. Trying to build a “friendship first” and taking it slow is the downfall of many guys when they’re trying to hook up with women—and this is especially true when you are dealing with strippers. Strike while the iron is hot and the sparks are flying!

Make The First Conversation A Winner!

The first conversation is all about gathering information on her, communicating your confident, playful personality, and working towards the “close.” Guide the conversation along—never allowing her to control the conversation and the topics—and build your bond with her using the right body language.

Learn the special details about her that you know she doesn’t share with her customers. This ensures that when you do call or text her, she’ll immediately remember who you are, and you can refer to things you talked about—especially the private “in jokes” you shared.

5 Body Language Moves You MUST Master When Meeting Women

By loveandsex

Body language is interpreted by women more than you might think. Women are very good at interpreting body language for one reason: It’s how they determine whether a man is irresistible or not.

Why is this? This is because without displaying confidence, no amount of flirting will work. In fact, do you know that women can tell how confident you are just by the way you stand? Women always interpret your body language to see what’s REALLY going on.
So how can you portray to women a high level of self-respect that makes them feel attracted to you?

1. Stand with Powerful Posture

Posture is extremely important when you flirt with women and it’s the most powerful way to convey power and confidence.

Here’s how to correct your posture:

Stand in front of a mirror
Puff out your chest and make your spine straight
Relax your shoulders

Bonus Step: Now slouch over and see how it makes you look. Which image do find more appealing?

Women can tell whether you’ll be interesting or not just by observing your posture as you approach them. And, although posture is important, eyes are your most important asset when it comes to successful body language and flirting.

2. Get Caught Looking

Eyes convey a tremendous amount of information about a person. When you keep eye contact with woman, you say an awful lot about your own self-esteem.

Do not look away when a woman looks at you. I repeat. DO NOT look away when a woman is looking at you. If you do, she will think, “He’s shy, has no confidence and if he has any feelings for me, he’s trying to hide them. I know this because he doesn’t even have the guts to keep looking and be honest about how he feels.”

If you want to utilize the single best way to instantly trigger a woman’s attraction, then keep looking when she looks over.

Here are the three quick steps:

Look in her direction until she looks over
Hold the look until she looks away
Walk over and start flirting with her

If you look at the ground because you’re shy your head will naturally point towards the ground. When your head faces downwards your shoulders tend to roll forward creating terrible posture. That’s why simply looking at the ground can repel a woman.

3. Tilt Your Chin Up

While eye contact and posture are your two most important assets to effectively flirt with women, the positioning of your head can add the finishing touches to your confidence. Understand this:

People want to be around people who are BETTER than they are
People want to hang out with people who are COOLER than they are
People want to learn from people with MORE EXPERIENCE than they have
People want to compete against people with MORE SKILLS than they have

And it’s exactly the same for women. A subtle way to fulfill this natural desire within people is to tilt your chin up, but still make eye contact with the woman while flirting.

Women love it when you’re very sure of yourself. While this technique may seem like a display of arrogance, it doesn’t come across that way.

Without going into it too much, women enjoy men who are arrogant in a humbling, sort of non-offensive, way. Notice how popular and rich people tend to project an aura of arrogance without offending?

Others respect these people because they respect themselves. Use this universal body language to subconsciously communicate success and self-respect. Soon others will believe this about you. Bottom line: Don’t be afraid of rejection. Others will comply.

4. Stand Reasonably Still

Nervous body language is your ticket to a night of loneliness. If you come across as nervous when you introduce yourself to a woman, you will make her nervous. Here are some examples of nervous behavior in a woman:

Flitting their eyes around
Scratching their back, neck, hands or face.
Shuffling their feet
Swaying left to right
Talking in an unnatural or rehearsed tone of voice
Speaking in a monotone and quiet voice
Fidgeting with accessories (phones, watches, bracelets or necklaces)

Sometimes less is more. The less you move your body the more attractive and confident you will appear when trying to meet women.

5. Reward Her with Smiles

This may be hard to understand, but don’t smile all the time. Guys often smile because they’re insecure, but this is not the reason you shouldn’t use your smile. When you can make a woman laugh, smile, and enjoy herself without too much facial expression, you increase the level of mystique surrounding yourself.

Think about it. If you tone down your facial expressions (while also eliminating nervous body language, as discussed above) you don’t give the woman any clear indication that you like her.

If she’s 100 percent sure you like her, there is no mystique. But if at the end of the interaction or date the woman still doesn’t know anything about you and your intentions, she’ll want to find out more. She becomes seduced by her own curiosity.

Never Be Alone Again With This 1 Simple Tool! (It’s Not What You Think)

By david

Confidence is a problem for a lot of women. It’s time we all stopped obsessing about our weight. It’s time we start embracing the power of who we are. Face it, ladies: you’re never going to be the perfect wife—ever.

I know ladies that are skinny and wish they were five pounds heavier. I know girls that are chubby and wish they were 30 pounds lighter. I know women that are tall and they want to be shorter. I know some that are short that want to be taller.

But here’s the issue: you’ve got to stop obsessing about your weight because the more you obsess about your weight, the less life you live. There are men all over the world that love girls of all shapes and sizes.

Every Man Likes Something Different

I have a buddy that loves the exact opposite of what I like. I’m a work out person. I’ve been working out my entire life. I like girls that are short and petite—athletic ladies that love to run along the beach or spend hours in a yoga studio.

I like girls that work out. It’s just what I enjoy. These are the kind of women that I find to have the most physical attraction to.

My buddy laughs at me and he says “you’re only dating these wafers”—that what he calls them. He looks at them and says “you know, you’re going to break that woman! I don’t know how you do it, because for me, I need a woman with meat.”

He says, “I like mine big, powerful. I like a little cushion.”

The two of us are proof that men like the opposite sex to have all shapes and sizes. It’s time you started loving yourself, because that’s the important thing. If you love yourself—I mean, really you love who you are—do you know what’s going to happen?

You’re going to find the guy that loves you just as deeply. In fact, once you’re ready, you’re going to meet a man that love’s you in the proportion that you love yourself. Because that’s how it works.

Embrace Your Body

You might have saddlebags; you might have a little extra thickness on your sides; you may be depressed because one breast is slightly larger than the other being the exact same size—whatever.

But who cares? Men are attracted to girls that find themselves sexy and have confidence. Using the right body language is key.

I’ve seen women that are heavy, with all of the above “conditions” that would normally upset another woman. But they accept their bodies and walk around confidently. They’ve got that twinkle in their eyes. They just exude sexual energy.

And I’ve got to tell you something: I’m not even attracted to that type of body style, but I can’t keep my eyes off of her because it’s the way she feels about herself.

Look Around!

Stop wasting time obsessing about your body and start obsessing about all the great men that want to absolutely indulge in everything that you are. They want to embrace your beautiful, round, full-figured body. Trust me, there are plenty of them and you should not be afraid of rejection.

Start practicing abundance and start realizing that full-figured women have a wide range of men to date. Go to a Target. Go to a Walmart. Look at the local women that are built just like you.

Look at the wedding rings on their hands, look at the men that they’re with, and realize that there’s no reason for you to ever be alone. It’s your choice. Embrace your beautiful body now because it’s the only one you’ve got.

How To Escalate To A Sexual Relationship With A Stripper

By deancortez

Seduction requires escalation to a sexual relationship. If you don’t escalate, the conversation will stay in “neutral” (and possibly fizzle out) when you need to be shifting to a higher gear. Escalation is about sexualizing the interaction. You’re basically signaling to her: I’m a man. You’re a woman. And I’m a confident, masculine guy who can give you a great orgasm.

Remember what I said before about the importance of leading women. They love it when a guy they’re attracted to starts leading them down the path towards sex, instead of just pretending to be their “friend.”

Consider a typical interaction between a guy and a girl he meets at a bar. He might have strong “conversation game” and be able to entertain her for a while with funny questions, interesting stories, etc.

Flirt From The Start!

If a guy never starts flirting and taking the interaction in a sexual direction, her attraction to him is not going to grow. In her mind, he’s just another “nice guy” who she may enjoy talking to, but she’s not imagining anything happening beyond that. The guys I know who are super-successful with women are great at being a flirt.

Strippers know they are hot; their entire job revolves around looking as hot as possible in order to make money. So while you don’t want to sit there paying her compliments about how beautiful she is, you should let her know (at the right stage) that you’re into her sexually and this isn’t just a chat between two buddies.

Don’t tell her that she’s beautiful, but do give her signs that you’re into her sexually (once you’re deep into building comfort and attraction). Flirting means doing this in a playful way that isn’t weird or creepy.

Escalation is the bridge that takes you from the conversation/comfort stage to the seduction. When a guy doesn’t escalate and suddenly “puts a move” on a girl (like trying to hold her hand, or inviting her back to his place), it feels awkward and forced.

The classic example is the guy who takes a girl on a date, and keeps his hands to himself all night, just making small talk. Then, when he drops her off at her house at the end of the date, he tries to get a goodnight kiss and she turns her head and offers her cheek.

If he had escalated during the date, the goodnight kiss would have been assured. And maybe a lot more. So, you’ll escalate at the strip club in two ways: physical and verbal. These can happen at the same time.

Establish Body Contact

Physical escalation means establishing (subtle) body contact. It’s important for her to get used to your touch, and for you to show her that you can touch her and still control yourself.

In a strip club, this can take some self-discipline. When you’re sitting with a half-naked stripper with fake breasts nearly popping out of her bra, and she’s perfectly willing to sit on your lap and cuddle with you (in order to sell you dances), it’s easy—and tempting—to let her initiate the contact and go along with it.

Instead, you should playfully deflect her early attempts to touch you. (“Whoa, you’re frisky. Don’t treat me like a prom date, ok—not until I get to know you better, at least.)

You’ll be the one to touch her. And you’ll do it in a subtle “invisible” way that never makes her feel uncomfortable, or makes you seem like a customer who wants to cop a feel. By the way, when it comes to making body contact, the fact that a strip club is loud works to your advantage. It gives you a reason to sit close to her and lean in when you speak.

When you agree with something she is saying, and you want to tell her your thoughts, lean in and touch her lightly on the knee as you talk. Caress her knee very gently, then move your hand away.

As you do a “Cold Read,” lean in and touch her hand. Look straight into your eyes as you do this. This heightens the effect.

If you’re telling her something “personal” or sharing an “inside joke,” lean in and whisper it into her ear. Touch her lightly on the forearm. This is an intimate act that will give her goose bumps if done correctly.

If she says something funny (or something you think is totally cool), give her a high-five and clasp her hand in yours for a moment, then let it go. Build the contact.

Keep Your Touches Brief

When the conversation is real, so is the effect of your physical touches. If you haven’t successfully built comfort with her, then any touching that goes on is just typical stripper-customer behavior. Start subtly making contact with her—at the right time—and you’re injecting sexual energy into the interaction.

The trick is to keep your touches brief. The idea is to make her miss your touches. This is what sexual tension is all about: she’s starting to get that horny, tingling feeling and she wants you to touch and caress her more, but you’re only giving it to her in small doses.

When you do this correctly with a woman, the anticipation of your next touch can drive her wild. She might start grabbing you! (This is when you gently ease her away and play “hard to get.”)

How To Use Your Voice To Attract Any Woman

By loveandsex

Flirting is highly dependent on your voice. Deepening your tone can easily make you more attractive to women. Admire your new, confident, attractive voice.

You don’t need to have an extremely deep voice, but it should be deep enough to communicate that you’re comfortable in the presence of women. If you notice when you talk to women your voice becomes squeaky from nervousness use this technique to compose your voice.

Use Your Voice Volume

Sometimes for fun I ask women what they like about men. While consciously women want their men to be, “nice, caring, romantic, etc”, unconsciously they want men who are masculine. When I ask what they like, these women respond with things like: “I like a man who holds himself well” “I like a man who knows what he wants” “I like a man who’s sure of himself” “I like a man who’s not intimidated by me” “I like a man who’s not nervous.”

While from first glance these qualities may all seem different, they are in fact all the same. Unconsciously women want men with confidence. Part of a confident voice is the volume you project. Confident men flirt with loud, strong and clear voices.

Un-confident men speak with soft, weak and muffled voices that project fear and low self-esteem. If you want to get the attention of women start speaking with a louder voice and be fearless of rejection.

If women intimidate you, chances are your voice is very soft. Boost your voice to a volume that “seems” too loud and you’ll speak at a more normal volume. Because you’re not used to speaking at this volume it will seem very loud; don’t worry, practice makes perfect.

Monitor Your Voice Speed

Public speaking is a real fear for most people. When somebody stands up to speak you can tell exactly how confident they are just by the speed of their vocals.

When we talk to our friends we speak in a cool calm voice and at a reasonably slow pace. If you hear a terrified person make a speech against their will, you’ll hear the fear. People who are not confident speak at an unnaturally fast pace to “get it over and done with.”

They are so uncomfortable at public speaking, and they rattle off their speech so fast, that most people have trouble getting the main points. Just by listening to the pace, women can determine if you’re nervous.

For those of you who are terrified when meeting women, here’s a great tip. Speak at half the speed you think you should be speaking at and you’ll most likely be talking at a natural pace with great body language.

Learn Voice Timing

Comedians are funny because they deliver their jokes with a great sense of timing. Learn to use emphasis, pauses, pace changes and fluctuating vocal tone with your speaking voice.

If you want to know exactly how to talk to women, study some of the most confident public speakers and coaches of our time. Go to seminars and listen to confident people speak on TV, noting the characteristics of the speakers.

A lot of men say they know how to portray a confident voice, but when it comes time to approach a woman and use this confident voice, they freeze up. Just knowing something doesn’t make you an expert. You have to put what you know into practice.

Watch Your Spoken Words

The words you speak have very little impact on your ability to meet women. Having said that, there are words or lines you can say that will repel women so fast it will make your head spin. Lines that define women as sexual objects, creatures of desire or nothing but a shell of physical beauty don’t work.

You can’t flirt with women by being too direct about your intentions. “Hey cutie,” “babe,” and “hot stuff” are terrible lines for first impressions. As mentioned before, women interpret the meaning behind your words, so think about these words from a woman’s perspective. Whenever in doubt always use the formula below designed to transform action into meaning.

Know How To Use More Than Your Words

As we move onto non-verbal flirting remember that flirting is much more about how you use your voice than the words you actually say. This point has been repeated, but with good reason. When a friend talks about the success he’s had he’ll tell his friends the lines he used rather than what he did and how he acted.

These friends then go and try out their newly found pick up lines, only to be harshly rejected. They conclude the lines don’t work and give up. If they realized that flirting is more about the delivery than the lines, everything would make sense to them.