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How To Use Sexual Tension To Get Immediate Results

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Sexual tension is an amazing way to get a girl so turned on, she’s practically ripping your jeans off. If you do it right, you’ll create sexual tension that is so thick, you could cut it with a knife! This is the kind of stuff that will get you INSTANT results! Get laid TONIGHT with these incredible seduction tips.

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How To Create Sexual Tension That Feels Natural

Many guys attempt to create sexual attention when they’re not already sexually aroused – this can actually backfire, because it comes across as completely fake. If you want to create that natural feeling, crazy sexual tension, you need to make sure you’re “in the mood,” so to speak, so that you can convey those feelings to the girl you’re with.

Uncertainty and anticipation is the core of what it’s all about, and if you’re not really experiencing those feelings, the girl you are with isn’t going to either. You really want to be feeling true anticipation that something sexual may happen, and you want to feel that real uncertainty that you may or may not get lucky tonight! The girl you’re with is going to pick up on those feelings, and they will intensify her own.

Getting Into A Controlled Sexual State

So you want to be sexually aroused when you go to create sexual tension, but you don’t want to be so aroused that you’re humping her leg or that you orgasm within just a few minutes if you do actually get to have sex. What you want to do is get yourself into a controlled sexual state – where you are feeling aroused but not too aroused. You can do this a number of ways:

  • Imagine her naked.
  • Think about what you want to do to her.
  • Imagine what she’s going to do to you.
  • Gaze at her lips while licking yours and imagining kissing her.
  • Make soulful eye contact.
  • Touch the back of her neck softly.
  • Don’t be afraid of awkward silences – use them to your advantage!

This will all help you get psyched up and into that mode of creating sizzling sexual tension – just be careful not to take yourself over the edge and get yourself too psyched out.

The Push/Pull Of Sexual Tension

It’s is kind of like a dance, or a game of tennis. There’s a lot of push/pull there that you can’t fake. You’ve got to be into it and she’s got to be into it – and you both have to go in a little and pull back a little to really create those intense feelings. Really great sexual tension will leave a woman feeling just a little confused, because you’re going to be giving a few mixed signals on purpose.

When you start feeling like she’s really into it, you want to back off just a little bit, to give her room to push. She’s not going to be interested in you at all if you don’t give her that room and make her question whether you really like her or not. That’s when she’s going to test you by getting in your space a little and contributing to the push/pull.

Make Her A Little Uncomfortable

Once you get to the point where one or both of you have just passed the feeling of being a little uncomfortable, you know you’re in a great spot and you don’t want to back off right away. Feeling a little uncomfortable (not the creepy kind, the good kind) is what fuels the fires of sexual tension, so once you’re experiencing that, you want to keep the flirting going for a little while before you back off and let her come to you.

Have Fun And Enjoy It!

If you’e afraid of talking to women, or if you aren’t confident enough in yourself, you’re not going to be able to create really great sexual tension. You’ve got to be confident, but you’ve also got to be relaxed enough to know that it’s a really fun game that you can enjoy – but not something you have to take completely seriously. Relax and have fun experimenting with different moves and seeing what reaction you get out of them!

Practice Getting In Touch With Your Feelings

Sexual tension is a feeling – and while most girls are already in touch with their emotions, a lot of guys aren’t. This may make it difficult for men to spot it. Practice by getting in touch with your emotional side by participating in activities or hobbies that require you to use your emotions. This will help you relate to girls more, so it will be easier for you to sense what move to make next.

Flirting Is Key To Sexual Tension

Flirting is a big part of creating sexual tension, so if you don’t know how to flirt, it’s time that you learn! Practice by getting out there and talking to women. Flirt with them and see what kind of reactions you get! Practice your eye contact, body language and conversation skills so that you can really master your game before you ever meet a girl you really like and want to make sure you do everything right with.

Practicing will also help you learn how to keep from overdoing it, because just like with anything else, it’s easy to overdo the sexual tension. You need to learn how to spot when it’s time for you to move on (if she’s just not feeling it) or when it’s time to move things along and get more intimate. When it feels right, you’ll know when to move on to kissing, touching and foreplay! This comes with time and practice!

How To Tell If You Are Really More Than Friends?

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Dating is difficult when you feel like you’re more than friends but just aren’t sure. It’s easy to meet someone and begin a friendship with them, only to start feeling more for them than you originally did as you get to know them. However, taking a friendship to dating can be intimidating, because sometimes you’re not really sure how the other person feels.

If you ask your friend out and they don’t feel the same way as you, you risk ruining the friendship because things will be different after you let them know you have romantic feelings towards them. It’s better to know (for the most part) if you and your friend are actually more than that – so how can you tell if you and your “friend” should start REALLY dating?

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She’s Going To Want To Spend Time With You

If the girl you’re interested in has romantic feelings for you too, she’s going to want to spend as much time with you as possible. She’s going to make excuses to see you and be around you.

She’s Going To Be Okay If The Conversation Turns Sexual

If she’s into you, she’s not going to shy away if the conversation turns towards sex. If she’s not and just wants to be your friend, she’s going to shy away from sexual conversation and stick to topics that are completely platonic. So test her out and bring up a topic that is just a little sexual to see how she reacts – does she shy away from the conversation or does she actively participate in it? If she actively participates in a sexual conversation – and even takes it a little further – it’s a safe bet that she digs you.

You Will Feel It

The energy with friends isn’t the same as the energy you feel when you have an actual connection with someone. If you’ve ever felt that feeling before, you know exactly what it is – there’s no mistaking it. Guys who have never had this connection with someone may not be sure how it feels – but rest assured that you really will know when you do feel it. Pay attention and be looking for that – if you’re not experiencing that real connection, you’re most likely really just friends.

Is She Into The Next Step?

To find out if the girl you like is into taking the next step with you, you have to realize it’s not all about what she says. You have to pay attention to her body language, because she may not be saying anything that lets you know she’s into you at all. Her body language will, however, tell you whether she’s digging you or not. If she is, she’s going to make excuses to get in your space, making eye contact with you and laughing and having a good time with you. Here are some easy ways to tell if she’s ready for you to make the next move.

  • She starts dropping hints for you to make a move
  • When you flirt or are being playful, she reciprocates and shares in the witty banter
  • She opens up and seems to want to talk about more personal topics
  • She’s happy to see you or talk to you
  • She finds excuses to touch you or brush up against you
  • When you touch her, she doesn’t back away – she may even lean closer to you

Don’t Wait Too Long!

If you feel that energy and everything seems to be lining up, don’t wait too long to make a move. Just make it! Ask her out! Don’t wonder whether she’s really into you or not, or second guess yourself. So many guys second guess themselves so much that the girl they like – and who likes them back – thinks that he’s not interested in her! If you feel that romantic connection, go for it! If you wait too long to ask a girl out, you may end up missing the moment entirely.

Relax And Have Fun

If you’re so keyed up and worried about figuring out whether a girl likes you back or not, you may miss key signs that she really does like you. You definitely want to be aware of those signs so you can make the next move if you sense she’s into you too. So take a deep breath and relax! Have confidence that you’ll know when things feel right and that she’ll give you plenty of signs to lead you in the right direction. Have fun and wait for that special connection to happen!

Be A Flirting Expert With These Easy Tips

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Flirting doesn’t have to be hard – in fact, with some practice, it can come as naturally to you as it does to the guys who always seem to be so good with women. Stop choking on your words in front of women and be smooth with these super simple flirting tips!

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Have Fun And Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously

The ultimate key to flirting is to remember to relax, have fun and to not take yourself too seriously. If you’re stressed out and worried about flubbing your ” pick up lines,” you are going to flub up your lines. If you relax, take a deep breath and focus on just creating a great conversation with a girl without “lines,” you might actually have a shot.

Also, you want to adjust your tone of voice and your laughter to appear more fun and approachable. Don’t speak in a monotone voice – instead, be optimistic and let it show through in the way you speak. Also get more comfortable with laughing on demand. It may seem awkward at first when you’re still learning how to be in social situations, but it will eventually become second nature. The thing is, as you relax and learn to have fun naturally in dating situations, these things will come to you with less and less effort.

Remember to keep open body language so you look and feel approachable to women. Your body language speaks volumes about you before you even open your mouth to say a word. If you’re standing over in the corner with your arms crossed, not a single girl is going to approach you to ask if you want to dance, what your name is or anything else. Make sure your body language says that you want to be approached!

Add Gentle Touching

Gentle touching is a great way to take flirting to the next level if the girl you’re talking to is receptive to it, and if you do it right. This is not manhandling – you don’t want to grab her roughly or take her by surprise with your touch in any way. Lightly touching her arm at the right time will send shivers down her spine, and brushing her hair out of her face while she’s laughing will get her making deep eye contact with you.

Think of flirting as a game of tennis – you hit the ball, and then it’s in their court. It’s time for them to hit the ball back. This is how that fun, witty banter escalates, and you definitely want to get that witty banter going. A little teasing, a smile and some light touching gets her interested and gets you in her personal space, which is where you want to be. If she’s comfortable with you in her space, you can take flirting even further.

Get A Phone Number

You often don’t have a lot of time to ask a girl out – you might only have a lull in between songs when the band is taking a break, or her girlfriends may pull her away to dance or go do something else. If you want her phone number, you’re going to have to ask for it and soon. So as soon as you feel that chemistry building, ask for the number! Ask if you can text her (girls are more willing to give their numbers out if they think you’re going to text them before calling) or at the very least, see if you can look her up on Facebook. When that chemistry starts building, you want to lock in that phone number or a way to contact her before you lose your chance.

How To Start The Conversation

Starting a conversation with a girl can be intimidating – it takes a lot of confidence and self esteem to approach someone and start talking to them, especially if you don’t know them very well or at all. Here are some things you can say to get that conversation started:

“Wow! You are so confident! Where does that come from?”

“You seem so passionate! What is it that motivates you?”

You can also introduce yourself and ask her name, but don’t get stuck on it. A lot of girls are very leery about giving their names out up front and honestly, the name doesn’t even really matter unless you’ve got that connection going. Wait until you hit it off to ask her who she is.

Remember That Less Is More

Jumping right into flirting may not be your best bet. Girls are receptive to different things at different times. Depending on how she feels or what is going on around her, she may not be receptive to strong flirting right away. Judging a situation and whether a girl will be receptive to your approach or not will come with time and practice – you may not be able to tell very well when you first start playing the dating game, but as you do it more and more often, you’ll get a knack for feeling it out.

While it’s fun to take risks and play the dating game, you also want to take your time with it. Don’t rush through it. Enjoy the flirting phase and enjoy feeling the chemistry build. If you rush through the process, you may get to kiss her or even more, but you can’t ever go back to that fun flirting phase where everything feels new. So take your time with it, relax and have fun!

How To Talk A Woman Into Bed

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Sex isn’t something you can just jump right into – most of the time, anyway. Girls need a little warm up time before getting in the mood, and they don’t get turned on the same way guys do, just by looking at someone of the opposite sex naked. Girls respond better to sensual, seductive language. Here’s what you can say before sex to get her hot – and ready to jump in bed with you!

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Girls Love Words

Remembering the fundamental difference between men and women is probably going to be your key to success in getting a woman to have sex with you. Men are essentially visual creatures and respond well to visual stimuli such as porn, but girls on the other hand, enjoy words more, such as sexy stories and erotic novels. This is why you will see a woman not really care about a porn, but get completely horny after reading a sensual novel.

Be Aware Of Her Insecurities

Guys love to compliment girls and girls love to be complimented – however, if you’re complimenting the parts of her body that she’s insecure about, it’s going to turn her off. For example, you may think her belly is so cute or hot and she may think her belly is her most flawed body part. Women don’t look at themselves the same way men do – as just being hot from head to toe. A woman will stand in front of a mirror and pick out her “flaws,” even when she looks great.

When talking to her and telling her how amazing she looks, find out what she likes best about herself. It may not even be something sexual – she may think her feet are really cute (especially if she gets pedicures often) or she may love her hair. It doesn’t matter what it is – if you find a way to compliment what she loves about herself, it will get her turned on more than anything else you can say.

Compliment Her With Emotion

When you do find something to compliment or talk about, it’s important that you do it with emotion and sensual words. Telling her that her hair looks “great” or her legs are “hot” isn’t going to get you anywhere with a woman. Instead, make sure that the words you choose to use are full of emotion. Tell her that her legs look “amazing” or “incredible.” Touch her hair and talk about how “soft” and “silky” it is and how you love the feel of it on your skin.

Remember that giving empty sounding compliments can actually do more damage than good. If you and your partner have used the “L” word to tell each other how you feel, don’t be afraid to use it now. Tell your partner how much you love her and care deeply for her – this will get her emotions on fire!

Use Descriptive Language

Because women are such verbal creatures, choosing descriptive language is extremely important. Telling your lover how “horny” you are or saying that she looks “hot” isn’t going to cut it if you’re trying to get her in bed. Instead, try these easy to use, descriptive words next time your talking to a woman:

  • “Soft” as in: “Your skin is so soft and smooth.”
  • “Silky” as in: “Your silky pajamas make my skin tingle.”
  • “Hard” as in: “It has been so hard waiting for you all day.”
  • “Ravish” as in: “I can’t wait to ravish your body.”
  • “Luscious” as in: “Your lips are so luscious, can I kiss them?”
  • “Intoxicate” as in: “The sultry sound of your voice is completely intoxicating.”

Make Sure Your Body Language And Facial Expressions Match Your Emotions

Once you’ve gotten the language down pat, you want to make sure that your body language and your facial expressions not only match your emotions, but also match the descriptive words you’re using. If you’re telling her how luscious her lips are, lick your lips and look deeply into her eyes, switching your gaze from her eyes to her lips until you move in for the kiss.

You don’t want to tell her how soft and silky her hair is if you’re not going to run your fingers through it and pull her in for a deep, sensual kiss. You don’t want to tell her how difficult it was waiting for her all day if you’re not actually showing her how you feel through your facial expressions and your body language. Make sure that you’re not only communicating with your verbal language, but you’re also communicating through your actions and facial expressions as well.

Do Women Show Their Cleavage On Purpose?

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When dating, do all ladies expose their breasts intentionally to get a man’s attention, or is it something that happens unintentionally? Do some girls do it deliberately while others do it by accident? Here’s the truth on why girls might expose their breasts deliberately, such as while dating, but also why it’s probably not intentional every time her breasts show.

Do you think girls frequently expose their breasts on purpose? How often do girls show it intentionally, or is it usually inadvertently?

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It Depends On A Woman’s Mood

Whether a woman shows her breasts or not depends entirely on what mood she’s in. In fact, pretty much everything a woman does depends on what mood she’s in! Perhaps she’s dating around and feeling like flirting a little – she is probably going to be more inclined to show her breasts off in a low cut shirt. If she is not feeling as sexy, she will probably wear a shirt that doesn’t show as much.

However, if a woman’s breasts are showing, don’t assume that it is because she wanted it to.  It could possibly be unintentional as well. She may not have given it any thought at all – certainly not as much thought as many men do. Most ladies are very much into fashion and style – that’s a no brainer. So a woman might wear a shirt that is low cut and shows the tops of a her breasts simply because she likes the shirt, or it might go really well with an outfit or a favorite piece of jewelry.

Men Want To See Breasts

Girls know from experience in the dating field that men respond very well to short shorts and a little boob action. If a woman is trying to get a date, she might wear a lower cut shirt in the hopes that a guy will notice her and come up and introduce himself to her and possibly ask her out. There’s a reason that Victoria’s Secret push up bras are so popular! Chances are, if men responded as well to a long sleeve turtleneck as they did a deep v-neck top, turtlenecks would be the new “in fashion” item!

The same goes for lingerie. Lingerie wasn’t designed because ladies enjoy walking around in garter belts and crotchless panties. It’s almost never something a woman gets for herself if she doesn’t have a man who will get to see it on her. It was designed with men in mind. Men love to see girls’ bodies and lingerie was created to accent and show off certain parts of girls’ bodies that guys find attractive!

It Might Just Be Hot Out

Another reason a woman might be showing her breasts accidentally is if she’s wearing a low cut shirt or tank top because it’s hot out. Just like men take their shirts completely off or wear a tank top or thin shirt sometimes if it’s very warm out, a woman might wear a shirt that has a little less to it for comfort reasons or because she wants to get a little sun.

Also, ladies that have very large breasts get warmer up there more quickly than ladies with smaller breasts. It can get a little damp and sweaty up there if a woman has larger breasts, which can be extremely uncomfortable and even cause rashes or chafing. So it makes sense that wearing a low cut shirt would help keep a woman more cool and comfortable during the warmer months.

Are There Girls That Use Their Breasts To Entice And Manipulate Men?

There are girls out there that will use their bodies to their advantage to attract men and make them start thinking about sex from the get go. Whether they’re wearing itty bitty shorts, a low cut shirt, a backless dress or a miniskirt, they’re doing it because they know it will grab a lot of men’s attention and that’s what they’re after. But that doesn’t mean that all girls who expose their breasts are doing it for this particular reason.

While there are a portion of ladies that do expose their breasts intentionally to manipulate men, this number is far lower than the number of men who notice! Men think about it much more than girls do, so chances are, if you’re noticing a woman’s breasts in a low cut shirt, she probably didn’t do it deliberately. She probably has another reason for letting the girls out – like comfort or fashion.