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What You MUST Know About The Clitoris!

By loveandsex

An orgasm for a woman usually comes via the clitoris – so if you want to give her the big “O”, here’s what you need to know about her most sensitive spot.

Everyone worth his erotic salt knows that it’s all about the clit. It’s that tiny well-spring of pleasure that is so difficult to pinpoint. Every man wants to become the master of the clit. However, conquering that miniscule bulb over a woman’s vagina can be such an impossible task.

The Similarities Between The Penis And The Clitoris

Your penis is very straight forward: you touch it, it gets hard; you touch it more, and you orgasm. The reason it is so easy is that everything you need to work with is right in front of you. That is not so with a woman’s genitalia. The little bulb you see when you’re looking at it straight on is only a small portion of what makes up the clit. Most of it is internal, which is why it is so hard to figure out.

The appearance of the clitoris as a whole is quite similar to the penis; it’s just mostly on the inside. It is reminiscent in shape and function as it has both a shaft and erectile tissue. What most people think of as the clitoris is actually just the head or glans of the clitoris. If you look closely at it, the glans does bear resemblance to the head of a man’s penis, only significantly smaller. Despite its size, the head of the clit houses twice as many nerves as does the penis – which is why her orgasms are much, much better than yours.

How It’s Different

When a woman is not stimulated, the clitoris appears internally like a flaccid penis does externally. Upon arousal, it becomes engorged and erect, actually hardening like a man’s penis. The head pushes against the clitoral hood, which is homologous to a man’s foreskin. The head can be incredibly sensitive, and the clitoral hood protects it from irritation. This is particularly important if a woman is not properly stimulated, as the sebum produced by the body is what protects the clit during intercourse.

However similar in appearance the clitoris is to the penis, it reacts quite differently to stimulation. It’s easy to stimulate a penis to ejaculation. You just need to touch it. However, the clit is not an on/off switch. If you attempt to stimulate the clit before she is adequately aroused, you’re going to end up irritating her more than arousing her. In which case, it’s all over for you, pal.

Filed Under: Orgasm Tagged With: clitoris, female orgasm, orgasm, sex tips

The 3 Phases Of Oral Sex You MUST Know!

By loveandsex

Oral sex isn’t just going down there and getting your lick/suck on however you like. You can’t just head south and expect her to be able to have an orgasm just from you putting your mouth down there and moving it around for awhile. There’s some technique involved and if you REALLY want to rock her world and give her sheet soaking, earth shattering orgasms, you need to learn these three phases of oral sex TONIGHT!

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What Are The Three Phases Of Great Oral Sex?

While a man may think that he can just jump in and give a girl oral sex and get her off just by moving his mouth around down there, it’s just not true. Sure, girls love it, but there’s a certain way to do it if you really want to make it incredible for her. The best way to bring her to a knee weakening orgasm through oral sex is to move through the different phases of it:

Teasing

Teasing is very important to get a woman warmed up. Even though oral sex is considered foreplay, you need to lead up to it too with a little teasing before fully going down on her. Start slowly and softly. Instead of rushing in to lick her clitoris, start by slowly kissing the insides of her thighs. As you get closer and closer to her vagina, breathe softly on it. Brush your lips against her clitoris lightly enough to tickle her.

When she’s fully aroused and ready for you to get down to business, her clitoris is going to be erect. You may also notice her breathing get a little heavier or that she’s bucking her hips against you, begging for more stimulation. When you sense that she is ready, it’s time to move on to the next step.

Variety

The variety phase is an essential component to great oral sex, because women need variety. Even if you’re using a particular technique that she seems to like really well, it can get tiring after a little while and she may become desensitized to it. Doing different things and experimenting with different techniques is important to get her to climb closer and closer to orgasm.

As you try different things, watch her reactions to them. Gauge her body language to see what she really enjoys and responds best too, as well as other techniques that she seems to like okay, but they don’t really push her hot buttons. Here are some great examples of different moves to try to find out which ones she craves:

  • Thrust your tongue inside her vagina.
  • Use different tongue strokes on the clitoris.
  • Suck gently on her clitoris.
  • Insert your finger in her vagina while licking her clitoris.

Orgasm

When her breathing becomes even heavier and it feels like she’s about to lose control, she’s heading into the orgasm phase of oral sex. When you sense that she is getting close, presumably because you found an oral sex technique that she really responds to, the most important thing is to keep doing what you’re doing. This is not the time that you want to switch up and try a new technique to see if she likes it even better – you may actually ruin her orgasm if you do that. Whatever you find that she likes, that’s what you want to do as she goes through the orgasm phase.

You can start going a little faster and a little harder as she gets closer and closer to climax, so long as you continue to do the same thing. Communicate with her though, and make sure she’s liking what you’re doing. She may not want you to go faster or harder – she may like what you’re doing exactly the way you’re doing it. Encourage her to communicate with you and if you do something that she likes and she knows will make her orgasm, have her say, “Don’t stop!”

Ladies, it’s not up to your guy to read your mind. If you like what he’s doing, be sure and tell him not to do anything else! Or you may end up being disappointed if he misreads your signals and tries to use a different technique just as you’re about to climax.

Have Fun With It

One of the most important aspects of oral sex – for a girl or a guy – is enthusiasm. When you go down on someone and you’re not really into it, they can tell – immediately. So above all, have fun with it! Show your partner you enjoy it and you like pleasing them!

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: clitoris, cunnilingus, female orgasm, oral sex, orgasm, sex tips

Women’s Masturbation Secrets – REVEALED!

By loveandsex

I have some shocking news. Girls like to masturbate. Of course they do, masturbation is really fun! They masturbate far more than you give them credit for. In fact, for a shockingly large amount of women, that is the only way they can achieve orgasm. While you’re aimlessly poking around down below, she’s thinking, “Whatever, just fake it so he’ll stop. I can take care of myself later.” This is not because of your inadequacies as a lover, nor is it unfixable. It’s simply a lack of understanding how her body works.

Men and women experience sex in very differently. For men it’s relatively easy: see woman, want to have sex with woman, hopefully penis will touch woman. Obviously that is an oversimplification, but, compared to the woman’s experience, that’s all it is. If you develop a better understanding of how women satisfy themselves, perhaps it would seem less complicated.

She Creates A Mood

In order to achieve orgasm, a woman needs the right atmosphere. She doesn’t light candles and get out the satin sheets every time she masturbates; she just needs to feel comfortable. If not, she can’t concentrate on the task at hand, so to speak. If she is too cold or too exposed or too anything that distracts her pleasure, it’s not going to happen. That sounds daunting, but finding the right ambient balance isn’t too difficult if her mind is calm. Plus, extreme horniness will always overtake any environmental distractions.

She Sets A Pace

Regardless of the method, a woman fingers herself rhythmically. Meaning, there is an even flow of strokes and caresses, allowing her to concentrate on the sensations each touch gives. A choppy technique can be distraction. Whereas a man responds to physical stimulation alone, a woman puts herself into an almost meditative state. Otherwise, no amount of touching will induce orgasm. Again, this sounds quite complicated to men, but a woman does know how to adjust her focus in different situations.

She Has A Specific Technique

All women have that one sure-fire orgasm making technique. This is not to say that a woman has only one way of satisfying herself, but she does have a method that guarantees her orgasm. I know that you are hoping that I’m about to tell you what it is, but I’m not. It is as diverse as ladies themselves. Some women like direct manual stimulation of the head of the clitoris, but some ladies are far too sensitive and require indirect stimulation. There are even girls who can get off just by rubbing their inner thighs. Whatever her technique, find out what it is, and learn to employ it in given situations.

She Uses A Vibrator

Many girls start out using their fingers during masturbation, but it doesn’t take long for them to graduate to sex toys when they get older. Once a woman tries a vibrator, there’s often no going back – simply because a vibrator offers pleasure whenever she wants it and can make her orgasm fast and hard. Girls are busy ladies after all, and they don’t always have time to sit around and finger themselves for an hour until they reach climax. Instead, using a vibrator can help her get things done quickly, with just as much – if not more – pleasure than if she used her hands alone.

She Reads Erotic Novels

Men look at porn when they masturbate, but women don’t respond to visual stimuli the way men do. They prefer to use their imaginations to think about sex and different sexual scenarios that turn them on. Sometimes, women can do this on their own without any help at all, but other times, she may enjoy reading a romantic or erotic novel before she masturbates or while she’s doing it. Girls love using erotic novels for masturbation because it really gets their biggest sexual organ involved – their brain!

She Does It More Than Once

If a girl reaches orgasm through masturbation once, it’s likely that she’ll do it again a few times before she’s thoroughly finished. Many times, girls will experience their first round of multiple orgasms through masturbation, simply because they stop after the first orgasm but realize they don’t feel quite done yet. Unlike men, girls don’t go back down to an unaroused state after their first orgasm. Instead, they go back to the “plateau” phase – which comes after the foreplay phase but before the orgasmic phase. That makes it much easier for her to reach orgasm again after the first time!

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: clitoris, female masturbation, female orgasm, fingering, masturbation, orgasm, Sex Toys, vagina, vibrator

3 Ways To Get To Third Base

By loveandsex

You probably think that your penis is the greatest thing that’s ever happened to women. That’s plain not true. In fact, one of the best tools for sexual stimulation is right in your hands…or, on your hands I should say. That’s right, your fingers. Digital stimulation is one of the most effective ways to send a woman into blissful orgasms. Here’s a few sex tips to get you to third base.

The Importance Of Foreplay

I know that you think fingering her is foreplay, but this is why you keep missing the train to O-town. Women’s physical arousal is very different from a man’s. For men it’s easy: show some cleavage, he’s up. Touch his dong, he ejaculates. A woman needs a more complete process to be turned on, and if you touch her privates before you’ve warmed her up, it is irritating at best.

Fortunately, if she likes you well enough to even consider letting you touch her in her swimsuit place, that’s half the battle. The rest of it involves attention: kissing, fondling, stroking. Whatever it is that helps to build a connection between the two of you is valuable. Soul bearing honesty is unnecessary, just show that you are in the moment with her. She may have no intention on calling you the next day, but if all you do is absent-mindedly stick your penis in her, she’ll mock you to her friends.

Tease Her

Once you have spent some time with the rest of the body, you can move between the legs. Again, one of the best sex tips is to have patience. She may be slightly aroused, but if you go in now you’ll be at it so long your fingers will cramp, and you’ll get bored. If she sees that you’re bored, she’ll never cum. Instead, feel around the lady bits. Cup them with your hand.

Massage her labia gently and slowly, but then move to her inner thighs for a bit. If you rub the fleshy part of the upper inner thigh, you will run into the pudendal nerves, which are the carriers of stimulation to and from the clitoris.

Get Ready For The Orgasm

Now she is ready for you to finish her off. The next source is her vagina. You can slide one or more fingers into the vagina to give them some glide, but do not think that you are going to make her cum that way (unless you’re a g-spot expert, but if everything here is new info, you’re probably not.) If she’s not wet enough yet, make sure you use some lube. Using lube is probably one of the most important sex tips you can take to heart – without it, your movements will be uncomfortable or painful for her.

Apply light, rhythmic strokes to the head of the clitoris. Whether, it’s counterclockwise, clockwise, up and down, or what, just make sure you keep a consistent rhythm to the strokes. You can pull away every now and again if she is not near orgasm. If she is about to cum, you better stay in that exact spot until you finish her off, as she will stop having an orgasm the second you stop touching her. Then, you are going to have one angry lady on your hands.

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: clitoris, foreplay, orgasm, sex tips, vagina

The Best Sex Positions You’ve Never Tried

By isabellastone

Sex positions can get old if you’re using the same ones night after night. Do you wish that you could break out something new from your “bag of tricks” that would feel amazingly good to your lover, whether it’s she’s your long term partner, or a girl you just met?

There’s probably nothing worse than the feeling that comes when you know that your partner is bored with you in bed. While you are thinking about how you can keep things interesting, fun and fresh, you also might be worried that if you try anything too drastically new, that you might scare her off for good.

Well I’ve got good news for you. Some of the most amazing sex positions that I (and most women) ever experience are not much more than slight modifications to some of regular positions that we all know and love. In this article, I’m going to show you how to perform a few of my absolute favorite positions, as well as some tips you can use increase the intensity further still.

Straddle Missionary

Missionary is the original man-on-top position, and the most common one for most people. It also happens to be one of my favorites or clitoral stimulation, and that great feeling of really being stretched out, when we make a slight adjustment.

The next time you are on top, ask her to put her legs together while you spread yours a bit. You should now be straddling her while remaining face-to-face. This will help you to slide against her clitoris with every thrust you take. Since her legs are together, she will also feel tighter for you and also make you feel much wider for her.

To create a feeling of complete surrender, pin her hands down to the bed. You can also sit upright, which will allow you to thrust much faster and harder. Remember to have enough lube on hand, because this position can go from amazingly pleasurable to uncomfortable pretty quickly.

Fork And Spoon

In the spooning position, both partners lie on their sides facing the same direction, while you enter her from behind. You will be doing most of the work of work in this position for both penetration as well as other stimulation including kissing her neck, fondling her breasts, or massaging her clitoris, with either your fingers or a tiny vibrator.

After you’ve been enjoying the spooning position for a few minutes, you can try an amazing variation; where she will move her bottom leg under your top leg, and her top leg on top of yours. This will allow your bodies to become wrapped up in each other’s, which helps to build incredible levels of intimacy while giving her very deep penetration.

For even deeper penetration still, lift her top leg towards the ceiling while you lean your body away from hers. This will give you an angle that allows for much deeper penetration, as well as a great view to look at.

Froggie

The Froggie position is a variation of Cowgirl, where you are laying on your back, and she crouches on top of your penis while still on her feet. This will give her tons of freedom to ride you very vigorously while putting less strain on her knees. However, it does work several muscle groups in her legs and core, so she has to be fit in order to sustain this position.

If you really want to give it to her good, grab her waist or ass and pull her on to your penis. She can place her hands on your stomach, chest or the beds backboard to brace herself. This will also give her a chance to relax while you take over, thrusting upwards from below. And for even MORE stimulation, you can always slip a small vibrator in between her legs and right on to her clitoris.

The point of all of these positions is to help give you a little creative insight in to what it takes to be a truly amazing lover. The next time you have sex, go ahead and give some (or all) of these positions a try, and of course feel free to use your imagination to come up with some new variations of your own.

Filed Under: Best Sex Positions For... Tagged With: clitoris, cowgirl, doggy style, missionary, sex tips

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