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How To REALLY Impress A Guy

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Dating tips for women aren’t something girls automatically “know.” Don’t bomb your next date – check out these tricks to really make an impression!

Knowing how to really impress a guy is one of the most important aspects of being a woman. When you meet a guy that you want, it’s fairly easy to fall into the trap of playing coy or hard to get. While these methods can work on some men, it’s not foul proof. Impressing a guy doesn’t take games or seduction methods. In fact, it’s really not that hard.

There are a several qualities that men find very impressive in all women, no matter what you look like. Here are some of the most desired qualities that will really impress a guy.

1. Have A Great Outlook On Life

Your outlook on life should always be positive. It doesn’t matter if you’re a liberal or a conservative, a positive outlook on life can a very long way with men. Even if you’re not the bubbly type that is always smiling, being content with yourself and where you going over the next 4-5 years can be enough to impress him.

Nobody wants to date a downer. Keep this in mind the next time that you meet a guy that you really like. He wants to be inspired by you and the only he can do that is if you have positivity and know what you would like out of your time on the planet.

2. Look Great (Yes, This Is One Of The Essential Dating Tips!)

No, you don’t have to look like a supermodel to impress a guy. The typical girl goes out of her way to look her best all times. This usually does not work. Guys that see a girl dressed to the 9s every time they step out of the house assume they are high maintenance. While there is a time and a place for getting dressed up, guys generally want a girl that can toss on a pair of jeans and still look great. This may take some shopping.

No girl is going to look sexy in a pair of ragged Wranglers, but you also don’t want to use your $200 jeans for yard work. Find clothing that is not very fancy or expensive, but still accentuates your best attributes. Once this is accomplished he’s going to wonder why you’re the only one that can turn him on by dusting.

3. Be Honest

Have you ever watched a TV show and wondered, “Why didn’t she just tell him that from the start?” Lies have a way of surfacing. No matter how small or how big, there will come a time and place when your honesty is going to be tested. No guy wants to be with a girl that he can’t trust.

Open up to the guy from the moment that you meet him and he will appreciate it. A relationship built on trust and transparency can always be mended. One of the biggest fears of a guy is that the girl he is seeing isn’t being honest with him. Good or bad, always tell the truth and he will be extremely impressed right from the start.

4. Handle Stress Well

There are a lot of women that curl up into the fetal position every time they get stressed out. Guys love a strong woman that is good at problem solving and won’t freak out every time there is a bump in the road. Guys notice how the girls they are with handle stress. Whether you avoid it or tackle it head on, be sure that he’s watching.

He wants to make sure that you’re not going to have a total mental breakdown the next time that a restaurant forgets your reservation. Being easy going is one of the best qualities that you can have when dating. While you don’t want to float through the relationship, you also don’t want to be dram queen.

5. Be Independent

Being independent is a quality that every guy wants from a girl. Yes, traditionally it is the man’s job to bring home the bacon. However, we’re living in revolutionary times. Women are CEO’s, business owners and are even running as the president. We can’t have it both ways. We either want to be taken care of, which releases our power over the relationship or leads to guilt, or we have to be considered an equal. You never want the guy calling all the shots.

If you have plans with your girlfriends, stick to them. Never cancel plans because a guy wants you to. If you would rather hang out with him over your friends, then make that clear, but don’t do it just because he wants you to. Being independent shows that you’re not going to cater to his every whim and allows you to be your own woman.

Top 5 Reasons Pick Up Lines Don’t Work

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Pick up lines aren’t all they’re cracked up to be. Here’s why they almost always will cause you to fail at getting a girl!

Pick up lines are some of the worst methods getting a girl’s attention. When you use a line you show that you’re not only desperate, but also highly unoriginal. They are played out and make you come off as a tool. If you have ever thought about using a line, get it out of your head immediately. Here are the top 5 reasons they just don’t work.

1. They’re Generic

“Come here often?” The line doesn’t work primarily because it’s too generic. The fact that you’re using it on a girl that you don’t know shows that you don’t really care about her or have anything original to say. This shows her that you’re not a guy that separates himself from the pack. When you use an original “Hello” or “How are you” you don’t come off as a guy who bombards women at every bar with the same line. “How are you” and “Hello” are pretty common for every day conversation so this gives you a non-threatening way of approaching women.

2. They’re Needy

There is nothing more pathetic than a guy who is desperate. When you use pick up lines, you come off as a guy who only wants to have sex. This can be problematic for a guy who really does want to get to know a girl. When you use a line like “great dress, but it would look better on my bedroom floor,” you sound like a guy who is desperate for sex. Women want a guy that has options. When you use a line you look like you would just say the line to any girl that walks by. Avoid using pick up lines so you don’t look needy.

3. They’re Unoriginal

You know when you walk into a bar or a club and you see every guy or girl dressed the same? How many times do you think a girl has been given a pick up line and actually followed through on it? Women are hit on by guys every day and most guys stick with pick up lines because they are familiar. So when a girl hears you say something that she has heard a couple of hours before, she’s going to be even more put off by you. Pick up lines have been around forever. Chances are, she’s heard it and it’s not going to make her laugh or feel attracted to you.

4. They’re Creepy

How would you feel if some guy walked up to you and said that one about the angel falling from heaven? I would definitely be creeped out. This is exactly how women feel when some stranger walks up to her and delivers a line. Creeping a girl out is not the way to get a phone number. You want to build comfort and rapport with the girl in order to take a relationship to the next level. When you use a  line, you’re going to creep her out and you will probably see it on her face.

5. They’re Not Funny

The fact of the matter is that pick up lines aren’t that funny. They can even be offensive to a lot of women. Do you think that you’re going to get her phone number after offending her? Probably not. It’s best to use a simple opener when approaching women. A pick up line can leave a bad taste in her mouth and leave you feeling like an idiot. If you think that it’s funny, stop yourself anyway.

Pick up lines are usually seen on TV or in movies, but think about the guy that is saying them. Is he the hero of the film or show? More than likely he’s the creep that nobody wants around. Pick lines are generic and will never come off as appealing to women. They have the ability to ruin a situation that could have become favorable with just a simple opener. Some pick up lines even have the ability to offend the girl and send her on her way after the first sentence is spoken.

Even if you do have a hilarious pick up line, she might not get the joke. This could leave you explaining why it’s funny and explaining a joke effectively creates an awkward situation. It’s best to leave you pick up lines at the door when you’re out approaching women. Use an environmental opener or mention something about her clothing to get a conversation started properly.

10 Things You DIDN’T Know About SEX!

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Sex is pretty cut and dry, right? Wrong! There are tons of things about getting it on that you probably don’t know – are YOU savvy when it comes to sex – or not?

1. You And Your Partner Can Be A “Mismatch”

A penis doesn’t always fit into a vagina perfectly. Yes, they’re generally “made to fit together,” but that doesn’t always happen. Sometimes, a man can be much smaller than a woman, resulting in reduced pleasure for both of them because his penis is too small to stimulate the walls of his partner’s vagina.

Also, a man can be too large for a woman, resulting in pain or discomfort for her. A vagina is made to stretch, but there’s only so much length in there. A vagina will double in length when a woman is aroused (from about 4″ long to about 8″) but there are still some men who are substantially larger than this.

2. A Woman’s Orgasms Can (And Will) Outnumber A Man’s

It’s no secret that women can have multiple orgasms. But did you know that it’s possible for a girl to have a pretty much unlimited number of climaxes? That’s right. Most men have one and they’re extremely lucky to get two, but that’s pretty rare even for the pros.

However, a girl can climax again and again during sex, simply because she never goes all the way back down to square one after she reaches orgasm, unless she stops all pleasure completely and waits for her “oven to cool off,” so to speak. The female orgasm is similar to an oven, where it takes quite some time to warm up and reach temperature, but also a significant amount of time to cool down. While the oven is “hot,” she can climax over and over!

3. Confidence Will Make You Look Sexier

Confidence matters much, much more than what you look like or anything you wear. Both women and men become instantly more attractive when the show a good amount of confidence in themselves, because frankly, a low self esteem isn’t very becoming on anyone.

Forget about donning the lingerie for sex – just go in and strut your stuff. Care less about your cellulite or stray body hairs and care more about awesome foreplay and incredible orgasms. Have confidence in not only your hotness, but also your ability to please your partner and experience pleasure yourself.

4. Regular Sex Will Improve Your Immune System

During sex, our bodies release a antibody called immunoglobulin-A, which can help fight off illnesses like the flu or the common cold. Regular sex can produce quite a bit of this antibody, which can help you stay healthier during cold and flu season. Did you really need another reason to snuggle up when it’s cold outside and get it on?

5. Women Fall Asleep After Sex Too

That is, if the sex was any good. If a woman is really and truly satisfied after sex (after having one or more orgasms), then she’s going to be dog tired too. It’s true that men get the bad rap for falling asleep after sex when the girls just want to talk or cuddle, but if the nookie really was that stellar, both parties are going to be out like a light in minutes.

6. Sex Is Better In Long Term Relationships

While casual sex is fun in and of itself, sex can get REALLY hot in a long term relationship or a marriage. Sure, you’ve heard the opposite, that the desire begins to wane after you’ve been with someone for a significant period of time. This, however, isn’t always the case.

Sex in a long term relationship can be super hot if you make it that way! Monogamy tends to create a feeling of safety and comfort between two people, where new and exciting fantasies can be tried without the fear of judgement or criticism. Basically, you can start doing those things you always fantasized about, but would never tell someone you just met.

7. Orgasms Relieve Menstrual Cramps In Women

Most women don’t want to have sex on their periods, but it can actually be very beneficial if you can get over the “yuck” factor. Just lay a towel down and hop in the shower afterwards. Believe it or not, a good orgasm can produce enough endorphins to help relieve menstrual cramps better than over the counter pain medicine.

Also, during an orgasm, the uterus will contract, helping to shed more of the inner lining at once. Getting the lining out quicker, so to speak, will help your period become shorter and lighter in the coming days.

8. Medications Can Be Responsible For A Lowered Sex Drive

If you have experienced a dip in your sex drive (or your partner has), take a look at what’s inside your medicine cabinet. Anti-depressants and anti-psychotics are notorious for causing both men and women to desire sex less. Other medications for blood pressure, diabetes and more can cause a decreased libido as well. If you’re struggling with your sexual desire and you take any kind of medications, you may want to check with your doctor about a change in meds. Never switch medications or stop them without your doctor’s clearance first.

9. Men Only Ejaculate About A Teaspoon – But Girls Can Ejaculate Much More!

When a man ejaculates, it may seem like a lot of fluid is coming out because it comes out in so many spurts. However, a man really will only ejaculate about a teaspoon of semen, give or take a little. Women can ejaculate also, but they can ejaculate much, much more than just a teaspoon of fluid! It takes some practice and some women are never able to do it, but many girls can ejaculate LOTS of fluid during sex or masturbation. That’s why they call it “squirting!”

10. It’s Normal To Have “Strange” Sex Fantasies

If you think your sex fantasies are weird, or no one else has them and you’re just a freak, think again! There are SO many sexual fantasies out there in almost every flavor you can imagine (and some that would never cross your mind).

Rest assured that odds are, someone else out there likes what you like sexually, regardless of how strange it might seem. It’s also completely normal for odd sexual things to flit across your mind now and then, even if you would never, ever consider doing something like that in real life.

5 Things Women Want In A Penis

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Penis size is something men are often worried about, but girls look for other traits too. When she sees you naked, she’s not necessarily just looking at how big it is. She’s also looking at how well it can give her an orgasm! Here are five traits that work best with her anatomy.

It Doesn’t Have To Be That Big

A woman’s g-spot is actually only about 2 inches into her vagina – therefore, the myth that men have to have a huge penis to give a woman an orgasm is just that – a myth. A penis can be satisfying to a woman and cause g-spot orgasms if it’s over 3″ long, however, the average penis size is about 5 inches. So in reality, most men are able to satisfy a woman with the equipment they’ve got.

A Prominent “Ridge”

Many girls will favor a prominent ridge where the head meets the shaft. If you follow this ridge around to the underside, you will see it curve upwards into an upside down “V.” When the shaft is erect, this ridge can get very swollen and when it is prominent, it will “catch” on the g-spot and stimulate it during sex. The ridge is much more prominent in circumcised men than uncircumcised men, because the foreskin that covers the head has been removed.

A Wide Head

Again, the head is where it’s at for a woman. This is what will stimulate her g-spot during sex and give her incredible orgasms. Although her g-spot isn’t very big, the wider the head of your penis is, the more it will rub up against it and stimulate it.

A Thick Shaft

The outside of the vagina, at the opening, is also a very sensitive area. You may have seen the rabbit style vibrators with the rotating beads – those are designed to massage and stimulate those sensitive nerves at the vaginal opening. If your penis is very thin, you’re not going to be able to rub up against the walls of her vagina very well. However, if you have a thicker shaft, you will automatically be causing friction and stimulating those hot spots.

If your penis is thin, it’s not the end of the world. Your sexual technique can compensate for it. Simply thrust your penis in a circular motion during sex instead of the straight in-and-out. It may take some practice to get this technique down pat, but it is well worth it. When doing using this technique, you’re going to rub up against every side of her vaginal walls, right where those pleasure spots are.

Slight Upward Curve

The g-spot is located on the top wall of the vagina, on the stomach side – not the butt side. So if your penis has a slight upward curve, it’s simply going to hit the g-spot even better. If your penis goes straight out, that’s not bad either. If your penis curves downward, you may want to experiment with different sex positions to find a way to stimulate her g-spot with your penis.

Doggy style is actually an excellent sex position to try if you want to stimulate her g-spot but your penis curves downwards. Some men have a penis that curves slightly to the left or right – this usually does not affect a woman sexually, unless you are long enough to stimulate her AFE Zone, which is much farther back than the g-spot.

Confidence (And Sexual Skill) Makes A Difference

No matter what your penis looks like, a girl isn’t going to get off with a weak, wimpy guy unless she has a dominant personality and that’s really her thing. Most women want to have sex with a guy that is confident in bed, confident about his body and confident that he can please a woman sexually. She doesn’t always want him asking permission to do everything. A girl wants to get down and dirty with an alpha male – no matter what his junk looks like.

Learn to work with what you’ve got. Study the female anatomy and learn where all the hot spots are. Learn different sex positions to use that help your anatomy mesh well with a woman’s. If you just don’t think you have a penis that will please a woman, brush up on your oral sex skills. Learn to give a woman squirting orgasms through oral sex and fingering and it’s almost guaranteed that she’s not going to care about your penis size, shape or color at all.

How To Learn To Flirt Easily

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Learning to flirt can be easy when you look at the examples that other guys who are good at it have set. Here are some great ways to learn to flirt easily!

While it can be great to start off by using pick up lines, you want to eventually develop your own style. Here are some other ways to learn how to talk to women that work.

Irresistible Film Legends

Films can portray false realities that would never happen in real life, but there are some movies where men are doing exactly the right things to attract women. Here’s just a sample of the films you can check out to see men who know how to flirt with women.

The James Bond Series – Pierce Bronson, Sean Connery

Don Juan DeMarco – Johnny Depp

Indian Jones and the Temple of Doom – Harrison Ford

Big Personalities

Often times, telling men to just be normal isn’t enough. To the average shy man the term “normal” can mean staying home and playing video games. To “be normal” or to “be yourself” isn’t the right advice. We want men to develop big personalities.

Women are attracted to spontaneous, unpredictable, mysterious, funny and interesting men. While it’s virtually impossible to list certain qualities and expect men to act accordingly, it is possible to provide some places to help develop these qualities naturally.

Drama Groups

Drama students and actors alike are an interesting bunch. They possess most of the qualities above, including confidence. Joining a drama group that gets together regularly does wonders for a man’s confidence, if he can build up the courage to start.

It may seem silly and strange because it’s not within your comfort zone, but then again neither is talking to women. If you want more self-confidence, sign up for a theatre group today and let the actors’ optimism and quick-wit brush off onto you. Really consider looking up drama classes, it’s the best investment you’ll ever make.

Popular Hosts

Television and radio hosts are paid for their big personalities. Next time you listen to live radio or live TV shows, pay attention to the attitudes, expressions and tone of voice of the host, rather than what they actually say. The reason for listening and watching live broadcasts is because these people need to think on the spot; they naturally have these high social skills.

Watch Real Guys Flirt!

Although the above methods can help, there is nothing better than watching guys in the real world talking to women. While reading information gives you a better understanding, nothing can take the place of real experience. Here are some of the best ways to start observing other experts.

Friends

If any of your friends are great at dating and attracting women, watch them carefully from now on. Watch what they say and how the women react. Go out with them to clubs and bars, parties and social events. If they have girlfriends, watch how they interact together. You’ll notice a lot of their behavior is similar to what you’ve just learned.

Guys In Bars And Clubs

If none of your friends are successful with women, then watch guys in bars and clubs. While it might be difficult to listen in on their conversations, watch the body language these men present while they walk through the clubs. Watch how they interact with women and how the women react. How do you find the most successful men in the club?

Look for men that are already talking to women. Most men never even build up the nerve to approach a single woman the entire night. Men who start conversations effortlessly are the men you want to watch. Also look for self-confident men who have strong posture, direct eye contact and calm movements.