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How To Touch A Girl The RIGHT Way

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Seduction is essential to any situation that could lead to sex. Touching her the right way is going to put you in the driver’s seat. The important thing to remember here is EXECUTION. Do it inappropriately, you lose. Do it right, and you’ll earn the chance to take it to another level. Touch will either relax her or tense her up, depending on how artfully it’s done and how she interprets it.

Utilize Natural Situations

Initiating touch with long-time partners is easy because you’ve been been with them for long. You can be as forward as cupping the breasts while watching the evening news and she’ll probably not bludgeon you. It’s a lot different with new partners – the best move is to look for situations that naturally promote initial touches.

Context and timing are important. It’s more natural for example, to be bumping bodies in a packed club than in a quiet and empty museum.

Acclimatize Her

So your hands straight to the chest is not usually a sane first move. Always start with the safer parts of her anatomy. Smooth guys work best by smoothly transitioning from low impact to high impact areas without the girl being fully conscious or defensive about it.

Start with her fingers, hands, elbows and shoulders. Rushing to erotic regions on a first date is stupid, go too fast and she’ll slam the brakes on you. High impact zones (eg. breasts & inner thighs) will get her worked up, but they work only after a certain level of comfort is achieved.

Dealing with them too early in the game will only reap the negative. So acclimatize low impact zones first before planning an assault on areas where the sun don’t shine.

Your timeline will vary from woman to woman, so calibrate from her reactions and the situation. In time you will know how your wife, girlfriend or date simmers best.

Learn HOW To Touch Them

How you touch them is of prime importance. You want to send the message that you’re a sensual guy comfortable in his own skin. Never stroke a woman and display the, “I’M REALLY NOT SURE ABOUT THIS” look. It will make her uneasy and uncertain about you, she’ll get weirded out.

When touching seems like a big deal for you, it also becomes a big deal for her, because just as you’re calibrating from her reactions, she is also calibrating from your leading! This is Psychology 101.

If you’re already straining to touch her even at low impact areas, how can you seriously be thinking about having sex? If you can’t even confidently land your hands on top of her shoulders, how can you get your body on top of her?

She may like you a lot, but as a lady, she is very unlikely to initiate touching. Even in this age, lots of women would still rather wait. So get over it, break the touch barrier yourself.

She Wants You To Touch Her

Her skin, the largest organ in her body, responds to tactile stimulation – every last centimeter of it. Soulful touching embraces her as a whole, not just a few special areas. Over-attentiveness to special zones only makes the rest of her fade to the background.

Instead, search and stimulate every nerve, every corner, discover uncharted paths and awaken every inch of her being. Being thorough is the name of the game.

The Fastest Way to Attract Women: Dating Success REVEALED!

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Attract women with one of the fastest methods EVER. Attraction can be a confusing concept for a lot of men who do not know what women want. Men tend to think that what they find attractive is what girls find attractive. Learn the fastest way to attract women right now.

4 Traits That Are Essential For Attracting Women

1. Confidence

By teasing women you’re communicating “I can have you if I want,” and if girls are attracted men with confidence, what could possibly be better than that? Overconfidence. The reason women always pick the bad boys and jerks is because they are cocky and sure of themselves. Arrogance isn’t always a negative characteristic. Think about it. Arrogance means that you’re absolutely certain that you’ll succeed.

2. Leadership

By teasing women you’re leading the conversation. You’re doing what is known as “taking control of the frame”. By this I mean you tell the woman the “terms and conditions” of the interaction. As explained earlier, physical attraction is only part of the equation. The leadership in your conversation is going to determine whether or not you get the girl.

3. Socially Superiority

By teasing her you communicate that you’re cooler than her. Girls are constantly interpreting everything you do. When you tease them it conveys to them that you have higher standards because you need more than just a pretty face.

4. Mystery

By teasing a woman you confuse her about your real intentions, and that makes her curious to find out what they are. She’s wondering if you really like her. Sure you asked for her for a first date, but then you called her a dork. What’s she suppose to think of that?

How to Act Around Women

If you haven’t noticed already, this formula of how to meet women and building tension is based on two main attitudes. The best way to act around women so they feel attracted is by projecting arrogance and superiority. Every single person has an instinctive need to climb the social ladder. This isn’t something we decided as a “society”, it’s human behavior that has been around for thousands of years.

Similarly, humans (men and women) have a need to climb the social ladder as well, and if somebody offers them a way to climb that ladder, they’ll take it.

1. People only want to hang out with people who are COOLER than they are.

2. People only want to learn from people that are MORE EXPERIENCED than they are.

3. People only want to compete with people that are MORE SKILLED than they are.

It’s a natural part of life to grow, and part of this growing includes  acquiring higher status. The need for high status is often the unconscious reason people do the things they do.

How to Develop the Right Attitude

The natural seducer projects only powerful positive beliefs. This allows him to approach and succeed with beautiful women everywhere without even thinking about it.

After successfully having enough positive experiences to reinforce your mindset, this is the positive belief system you want to develop. These powerful beliefs are the only things that separate success from failure. You must whole-heartedly believe:

Women love sex
Women love me
I have nothing to lose
If she’s not interested, it’s her loss – not mine
There are plenty more women out there anyway

Imagine This: How would you act if you had 200 million dollars in your bank account, 20 beautiful women chasing you all day and an amazing body that other men would kill for?

Walk through the world with this attitude and see how you come across. Even if you are blue in the balls, you must present a challenge and show that you don’t desperately need any woman in order to actually get her. To be successful in sales a man must always project a sense of success, even if he’s not successful. Similarly, if you follow this principle with women, I guarantee you’ll see results.

How To Survive A Blind Date And Actually Have FUN!

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A blind date can be a stressful and hectic situation that, if not handled properly, can lead to disaster. Most blind dates are set up with good intentions by friends or coworkers. However, the majority of these dates are more stressful than fun and they run the risk of ruining your reputation with the person that set you up.

If you are being set up on a date, there are a few things that you can do to make the process as painless as possible. Blind dates do not have to be excruciating. They can even be fun. Here are a few dating tips to get through the date and enjoy yourself along the way.

Meet Up First

Going on a blind date with somebody that you don’t know can be extremely awkward. Unless you hit it off right from the start, you could be in for a long night with weird silences and bad flirting. One of the easiest ways to go on one of these dates is to not go on one of these dates. Convince your friend to go out to an event with you and have the guy meet you there before you go on a one-on-one date.

This way you can use your friend as a buffer between the two of you to gauge whether or not you would really want to go out with this person via a solo date. You can even make it a double date. Double dates take all of the pressure off of not knowing the person while combining a familiar face.

Keep Things Simple

Blind dates are not meant for extravagance. If you’re going on a date with somebody that you’ve never met before, keep it simple. Meeting up for a drink is one of the best ways to gauge whether or not you actually have chemistry or a connection with this person.

Going out to an extravagant dinner with somebody that you do not even know can set your bank account back while making him feel obligated to pay the expenses. Keeping things simple is a low investment in yourself and in the person. While this might seem a little impersonal, you should understand that there is no obligation to this person and it is a first date.

Be Yourself

There’s no reason to go on a blind date with somebody if you are not going to be yourself. While being yourself is one of the most common dating tips out there, it’s there for a reason. Never lie to a date, especially if they know a friend or coworker.

Lies will eventually get back to your friend and could even get back to the date, making them feel bad about themselves.If you really like the date and feel the need to lie about your credentials, stop yourself.

If somebody doesn’t like you for you then that’s just the way that things are. More than likely they will see you as the fun, open-minded woman that goes on a date with somebody they’ve never met before and they will take notice of your best qualities. No guy will ever want to be with a girl who is putting on a show, so if he says something you don’t like, call him out on it.

Have An Escape Plan

One of the best tactics for singles is to have an escape plan. More than likely the guy is going to contact you asking you to either grab dinner or drink. Before you respond, put an escape plan into place. One of the best escape plans out there is to tell the guy that you are meeting up with friends later but you would like to get together to grab a drink or dinner.

This gives you a built-in time frame for if the date goes sour. This will also give me an excuse to look over at your phone to see what time it is without seeming rude. Tell the guy that you are meeting some friends two hours after the date is planned. For instance if you meet for dinner or a drink at 8 be sure to tell him that you are meeting friends at 10.

This way the date actually only has to last about an hour and a half because you’ll need enough time to go meet your friends. If the date is going really well, you can always tell him that you can be late or that you are having more fun with him than you would be with your friends.

6 Key Elements For Stripper Seduction Success

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A stripper is constantly bombarded with customers. The waitresses in the club are keeping an eye on customers who are sitting with dancers because they want to make sure you always have a fresh drink. In order to continue the conversation, at some point you’re going to need to buy your girl a drink.

I don’t believe that you should try to avoid buying dances and drinks, because you don’t want to give girls  the impression that you’re trying to avoid spending any money at all. I say, skip the lap dances (since this frames you as a “customer”) but do buy her a drink—or several. But here’s the key thing to remember. When you offer to buy her a drink, it’s all about how you phrase it. By phrasing it the right way, you’re communicating SIX important elements.

1. Make Her Earn The Drink

She is earning this drink because I find her interesting and want to know more about her. This is not an offer I would make to most of the dancers here. This is a special circumstance. I’m not a dude who buys drinks for any chick who sits down next to me; this girl has sparked my curiosity. I’m also using the right body language so she knows I’m not like the rest of the customers in the club.

2. Impress Her With Thoughtfulness

In this case, I told her she had a  “deep personality.” Is this really true? Maybe. We’ll see. But every woman likes to think they have a deep personality, and so my comment makes me seem perceptive. It also makes her curious to talk to me further and see what I else I might “know” about her. I’m also making these statements with full confidence so she doesn’t think that I’m faking it.

3. Turn The Tables On Her

By saying “there are some things I want to ask you,” I’m turning the tables. She is the one who is going to have to answer my questions and demonstrate whether or not she is worthy of more of my time and interest. This is a very powerful psychological tactic that you can use when trying to meet women.

Think about most initial conversations between men and women. It’s the guy who feels like he’s “auditioning” and needs to provide all the right answers. The Mack flips it around and makes her feel the need to impress him, and demonstrate that she is on his level.

4. Use A Persuasion Tactic

“There are some things I want to ask you.” I’m giving her a reason why our conversation needs to continue: there are things I need to know before I ask a girl out. (This is also going to spark her curiosity; what exactly do I want to know? I’ll wait for the drinks to come before I tell her.)

By the way, studies conducted by seduction experts have shown that the word “because” is one of the most powerful words in the English language. It is a psychological motivator.

Ask a person to do something, and they might question it, or wonder why it’s necessary. Tell them they need to because there is a reason, and they’ll instinctively want to follow your lead. This is a great tactic to use in a strip club.

5. Buy Time

Buying this drink will buy you time to continue building a connection with her, instead of playing her game and blowing money on lap dances. And, she won’t feel as though you are wasting her time. In fact, she will usually look at this time as a break from the hustle.

You’re going to use this time to make her feel physical attraction towards you, get her to view you as a romantic option instead of a customer, and either make plans to meet her after her shift or get her phone number to set up a future date (which I will explain how to do a bit later).

6. Be Friendly With The Waitress

When your waitress comes over to take your drink order, this is when the “alliance” you’ve created with her is going to pay off. The friendlier your waitress acts towards you, the more comfortable the dancer is going to feel with you.

If the waitress treats you like just another anonymous customer, the dancer will view you as one. But if she gives you a smile and says your name, and you have another short, friendly chat with her, then your  dancer will recognize that you’ve got value in this place.

This happens because of the groundwork you laid earlier; you tipped your waitress the correct way, spent a couple of minutes to build a connection with her, and won her over. She’s on “your team.” This reinforces in the dancer’s mind that you’re a cool, charismatic guy: you know people here, and people know and respect you.

You want her to view you as a person—and as a possible sexual partner—instead of another lonely “chump customer” looking to shell out money for companionship.

How To Become Irresistible To Women Right NOW!

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Dating tips are needed by even the greatest daters at one point or another. Find out how to literally become irresistible to women by honing in on unconscious attraction.

Provide And Protect

Women bear children, men don’t. So while a man’s selection criteria are motivated by the potential health of his future children, a woman’s selection criteria are completely different. Men don’t need to be physically attractive, because women aren’t looking for “health signs.”

A woman is looking for her man’s ability to protect her and provide for her, increasing her chances of raising children that will be protected and provided for after they’re born.

Women are responsible for giving birth to healthy babies. Men are responsible for protecting and providing for their babies and family. Thus, unconscious decisions by both sexes are made to meet these needs when deciding on whether or not to go on a first date. When we think of women’s needs in this context it becomes easier to figure out what they unconsciously want.

Prove Your Masculinity

Think about this. If a man is unable to ask a girl out, show his sexual interest, and prove his masculinity, why would she have the slightest interest in him? The sooner that you realize  the needs of women are completely different from their own, the sooner you’ll be successful in dating them.

What many men fail to realize is that their physical attractiveness is not very important to women. “What?” This is often a hard concept for men to grasp, but it’s true. As people we try to relate to situations using our own personal experiences.

Relate To Women And Understand Their Needs

Because men are primarily attracted to a woman’s physical beauty, they make the mistake of assuming that she is also attracted by physical beauty. To further demonstrate this point, let’s what women thought was most ‘physically’ attractive. To find out these results I asked many women during my travels of becoming more successful when trying to meet women.

Here are the results:

  1. Sexy, small butt
  2. Slimness
  3. Flat Stomach

Of course physical beauty can influence a woman’s decision, but it’s not the deciding factor.

Do Not Misinterpret A Woman’s Desire For Physicality

Men often sit with groups of women and watch them point out great looking guys, giggle, and express desire for these men. Sadly, men misinterpret this as first-hand evidence that women value a man’s appearance above all else.

While witnessing these situations, most guys miss out on a vital piece of information – a man’s physical beauty will get him only so far. When a man introduces himself to a woman, but doesn’t possess the most important qualities a woman is looking for, any interest she may have in his physical beauty becomes irrelevant.

Now do you see why focusing only on your physical “look” is not very productive?

And of course, you may be asking yourself, “But don’t women say they like funny, entertaining and helpful guys?” The main reason most men are confused about what women want is because most women don’t know what they want.

Understand The Two Levels Of The Human Mind

To explain this further, let’s talk about the two levels of the human mind: unconscious and conscious. On a conscious level, women love funny, caring and sweet guys. But on an unconscious and purely instinctive level, they desire men that confidently pursue them without the fear of rejection.

The reason a woman may find it difficult to leave an arrogant and selfish boyfriend is because she’s magnetically attracted to him. This guy may not be “nice” but he’ll greatly benefit her children by passing on his confidence, leadership, and decision-making skills. And her unconscious brain reminds her of that.

Everything comes back to reproduction. If you possess the right masculine qualities (you’ll learn about them very shortly), you can still have the sweet, caring, and romantic, more feminine qualities. In fact, having the perfect blend of the two – masculine and feminine – will help you to keep any woman you want.

Displaying confidence is essential in making a good first impression on a woman, in the same way that physical attractiveness stirs a man’s interest. Confident men take action, control situations and show no fear. Once we finish talking about these fundamentals, you’ll learn how to communicate and flirt with women in a way that naturally attracts them by projecting these qualities.